Want to live with my mom but dad won't let me

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re: want to live with my mom but dad won't let me

Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are going through a tough time with how your dad treats you. It must be really difficult for you to have to go through verbal abuse from your dad, having him yelling, saying harsh things to you. It sounds like you’re dealing with a stressful situation. Is there anyone that you can talk to about what is happening, or anywhere that you feel safe to be? For example, are you involved in any activities, or hobbies that allow you to spend time away from home for a while? If not, you can contact Child Help USA on their hotline or website, to speak with someone about abuse and ways you can stay safe. Their number is 1-800-422-4453.

You can always contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Lastly, please note that we offer a live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST.

Take care and stay safe,
NRS

[Anonymous]

Hate my dad. But am forced to live with him.

Hi. I'm a 14 year old boy. My dad is a good person but he is also a butt hole. I know he probably doesn't mean to be, but he is. And over and over again he is making an ass of himself and I just can't take it. He is above all hypocritical and it drives me bat poop crazy. I can't stand being around him because he finds every excuse to be mad at me. Even for the smallest things. I used to live with him before my parents got a full divorce. He was always the same. He would get TICKED off at me for forgetting to do things like take out the trash or washing the dishes even though I would do them every night anyways. What made me the most angry with him is when I would play a game, my favorite game. He would come over and say "Shut that stupid ******** off and do something else" and then go watch TV or use his phone. And another thing he does to prove his hypocrisy is he always tells my brother and I not to ever cheat on a girl. Yet every time he is with our mom he is always slapping her butt and she always tells him to stop but he just slaps her butt and kisses her and she starts crying because he has a wife. But after the divorce I finally persuaded him to let me live with my mom. Well, that went on for a year. And eventually my dad flew in. And said to me. Pack your ********. Since your not 16 and I have sole custody you are coming back with me. And I had made so many friends that were for the first time in my life real friends. Since I was little I was always moving so I never really made friends. Anyways. My brother got to stay with my mom and I had to leave. My mom was at work when he took me so I didn't get to do anything about it. My mom claims to have 50 50 custody but my dad says different. I want to ask him to show me but he's done so much for me at the same time as being a complete dick. He is just an overall jerk and I can't stand living with him. If you meet him he puts up this front like he's this amazing and perfectly harmless guy. But if you live with him for over a week you see how much that changes and how big of an jerk he is. Please reply. I don't want to live with him anymore.

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RE: Hate my dad. But am forced to live with him.

Hello,

Thanks for reaching out. We are sorry to hear about all the conflicts you are having with your dad. It can be very difficult to deal with living with a parent that you find hypocritical, and it is understandable that you would want to live with your mom and be around your friends. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can. It sounds like there is some confusion about the custody arrangements between your parents. One option could be to see if your mother might consider speaking with a lawyer and challenging your father’s physical custody. If you run away without permission, there is a chance your dad could file a runaway report with the police, who could pick you up and make you go back. However, with joint custody things can be more complex. We are not legal experts, so we can only give general information, however we can provide legal aid referrals that could help you figure out your next steps. You can call us any time 24/7 if you want to talk, or chat with us online. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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Re: Want to live with my mom but dad won't let me

I am 13 I want to be with my mom so bad... and my dad yells at me every time I say that and I get in trouble and right now he has physical custody and is keeping me from my mom without a court order saying I cant be with my mom and I haven't seen her in a month and my mom wants custody of me and my dad is taking her to court to try and get supervised visitation and he recently sent me to a mental hospital from my depression and the only reason I was depressed is cause I cant see my mom. what do I do?

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Re: Want to live with my mom but dad won't let me

Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your dad is really trying hard to keep you from your mother. It must be really difficult to live with him when he won’t even let your mention that you want to be with her. You mentioned that your dad is going to go to court to adjust your mother visitation rights. We know this all must be confusing and hard to deal with but unfortunately there is not much that can be done immediately. One thing that could happen is if your mother gets legal representation and fights whatever your father is trying to have happen. If you would like we can provide you with the contact information to some local legal aid. Just give us a call and one of our trained liners will be happy to assist you. 1-800-RUNAWAY

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I want to live with mom but dad says I can't

I am in a similar situation and I am 16 turning 17 in may and my dad will not let me move in with my mom last year he got physical with me then left me stranded in green island I went through depression and suicide counseling and he had no support for me was always putting me down but do I have to take him to coart to live with my mom or can I just stay with her and not go back home to him I don't want to go back there I am getting back to my depression state and I want to get out before it's to late .HELP ME PLEASE

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Re: Want to live with my mom but dad won't let me

Hello,
Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you've been going through a very difficult time lately. While we are not legal experts here at NRS, court is typically required in order to change who has custody over a minor. Since your safety is our number one priority, we could help you make an abuse report if you wanted to call us at 1(800)-RUNAWAY. You could also give us a call if you would like us to find you resources for legal aid in your area that may provide you with more accurate information about your legal rights in this situation. You also mentioned that you've been experiencing some very intense feelings lately. Since your emotional wellbeing is very important, one thing you could do is contact the National Suicide Hotline (1-800-273-TALK) if you ever need someone to support you through this tough time.
Once again, thank you for reaching out to us at NRS. We wish you good luck and hope to hear from you soon!

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I am 16 about to be 17 and i live with my mom. I'm uncomfortable living with her because she doesn't have a job or car and my dad pays child support but she doesn't use that money to take care of me. I don't even have my own room at my moms. She puts me down and doesn't let me do things I want to do. I want to live with my dad but he has a warrent. But he has a job and car and takes care of me more than she does. I have a room at my dads and we bond more than me and my mom. Idk what to do.

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re trying to figure out a solution that works best for you.

It sounds like you would prefer to live with your dad but he has a criminal background. You may want to consider talking to a legal aid organization. They could give you a better understanding of what his legal rights are as a parent. If you would like to talk more in detail about those types of resources please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I don't want to live with my mom but she refuses and I want my sister's to come live with me and I want to go with my dad

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Hey,

Thanks for reaching out. It can be hard to figure out how to deal with your home life if it makes you want to leave. If you would like to talk more about your situation, please call or chat with us.

NRS

[Guest]

Yes I'm Nevaeh ************** and I live in Tennessee I got taken away from my mom when I was 2 years old bc she went to prison and my got custody of me and every since then my life has been a living hell and I want to live back with my mom and he want let me my dad chocked me slapped pulls my hair kicks me and everything I get beat over little thing and he doesn't care and we have court Wednesday bc He signed an unruly petition on me bc I was so called bad but I don't want to get sent away I just want to live a better life and live with my mom what do I do???

[Guest]

Hello im 15 turning 16 in september. i lived with my mom for a while. they sent me to my uncle to "straighten out" to there word. im with my dad and they dont know. i want to stay here with him. its better here. can she make me come back by law when she finds out or am i safe? Please help me!

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Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to NRS for help! We're not legal advocates, but we do know base line information. It's sounds like you're living with your dad but no one knows you are. Custody is probably a big part of the picture. If your mom is the one who has custody of you, your dad could possibly get in trouble. NRS has legal aid resources and if you call/chat us, we would be more than happy to look up the appropriate resources for you area. Our safeline is open 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY. Stay safe

[Guest]

Im 13 . 5 days before my 11birthday my parents got divorced . My dad won custody first i was allowed to talk her . Then my father changed my number and deleted all my contats i lost my moms number . And im not allowed to even have it. I only see her in school in lunch break which lasts 10minutes rarely . My father finds out and gets really mad . In my birthday 17 april 13 years old my mom gave me 10 dollars i didnt tell my dad . Somehow he found out . He called and he said did anyone gave u money i was like no then he went like dont you dare lie to me and ill see you when i get home . I havent slept with my mom since 2014 and i really miss her hugging me at rainy nights . And when i had nightmares. Im waiting for my father to come home . I have 2 bigger brothers going thru this . And a stepmother and a grandma that talk ******** bout my mom

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Hi,

Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us. It sounds like you’re in a really difficult situation right now. We are sorry that your dad isn’t letting you see your mom even though you want to, that sounds like it is really isolating.

We know you mentioned you only get to see your mom at your lunch break at school for about 10 minutes. It’s great you get to see her then, even if it is for so little time. Something that you could consider doing is talking to her about going to court to see if she could get joint custody or even full custody of you. If your parents have joint custody you should be getting to see your mother, so maybe contacting Child Protective Services could also be a good resource.

Again, we are so sorry that you are going through this right now. It sounds really stressful and unfair. If you want to talk more about your situation please don’t hesitate to reach out to us again. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we are opened 24/7 so someone will always be here to listen to you and see what else we can do for you.

[Guest]

Hi I'm 14 and half and i want to live with my mom. when i am with my dad he doesn't understand me. my mom gets me and knows what i like. I fell left out a lot and i want to move please help

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Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us. We’re so sorry to hear that living with your dad hasn’t been going well. It sounds like you really feel a connection to your mom. We’re not legal experts, but from what we understand, if you’d like to make changes to your living arrangement, you may need to speak with your mom about petitioning a court to make changes to the custody agreement currently in place. It’s important to note that this may take some time, so it may help to try to approach your dad to find out if he’s open to making some changes at home that might help you feel more included.

Beyond those two things, you always have the option of reaching out to us if you feel that you need someone to talk to. We’re available 24/7 at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929), everyday via chat from 4:30pm – 11:30pm CST. Your situation sounds really tough and you’ve taken a really responsible step in reaching out for help. We can’t tell you what to do, but we will share as much information as we can to help you stay as safe as possible. We wish you the best of luck. Stay safe!

[Guest]

My step-dad yells at me for the things that are crazy.I close my door but it sounds like it slams since my Windows are open and he says he is gonna be at my ass if I don't stop.Please help in only 11 and I feel like I live in a hell hole.PLEASE HELP

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Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re being threatened at home. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you have a teacher or school counselor that you’re close with, talking to them could provide you with more support.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS