I'm 12 years old, I want to runaway with my sibling.

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As it states, I'm 12 years old this year and I want runaway with my sibling who is turning 14 years old. We both want to runaway since our parents always forces us to things that leads us to anxiety and suicidal thoughts. This ain't healthy for our health, later on I might really kill myself to end this crap. The problem is, I don't want to leave my other siblings to a pack of jerks(parents)! I know just by typing this will be a huge evidence of us running away 'cause of the IP address and all of those crap. Well, at least they will know what the ******** they are doing to us.

Anyhow, that's not only my problem, I don't know where to go because of those stupid visas and we don't have a passport. I tried explaining to my so called "mother" about my problems but she still didn't f****** listened. That's why I really really wanna get the hell outta here. So tell me how. How to get to the airport and such, that's it. Don't even try to stop me from running away or saying bull crap because I have ENOUGH of that bull!

Thank you.

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RE: I'm 12 years old, I want to runaway with my sibling.

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing with us some of your story. We are so sorry to hear that your parents are leading you and your siblings to become anxious and have thoughts of hurting yourself. No one deserves to be put in that type of situation and we are really glad that you have contacted us in trying to figure out what the next steps are to becoming safe. We are not legal experts, but we can speak in general terms on what could happen if you were to leave home.

We are unsure of the tracking of the IP address, but it sounds like you want someone to know what is being done to you. If you feel that you are being mistreated then you as a minor, have the right to file a Child Abuse Report with your state Child Protective Services. You can file this report with Child Help at 1800-422-4453 or you can call our hotline and we can make the report for you or with you.

We are not here to tell you what to do, but we do want to make sure that you are safe in what you decide. You are the only ones that can make the decision that is best for you. Again, we are not legal experts, but we can peak in general terms. Generally, you are an adult when you turn 18. If you were to leave before then, your mom would have the option of filing a runaway report with the police. Running away is not a criminal offense, it is a status offense. This means that you cannot do it because of your age. If your mom files a runaway report, then anyone that you decide to stay with, could be charged with harboring a runaway and the severity of that varies from state to state.

You had mentioned that you are wanting to leave home and leave the states all together. It sounds like you are really putting some thought into what is best for you. Again we are not here to tell you what to do, but we want to make sure that you have some information so that you can make the decision hat is best for you. We are not experts, but general if you were to leave the US then you would need visas and passports. You had mentioned that you don’t have those, which is something that you would need parental approval to get unfortunately. Another thing to be aware of is that when you cross into another country, or are leaving the US, you have to go through something that is called customs. That is where airport security talks with you and asks questions such as what is purpose for leaving the US and other questions like that. If they see that you, being 12 and your sibling being 14, are trying to leave the US without parents or an airport escort, which most minors need in order to fly, then they can stop you and then contact your mom for more information. They will most likely return you home at this point. This is just something to think about when coming up with a plan to leave.

Some things to think about before you leave is

-Is where you are going safer then home?
-What would you do for food? Money? Shelter? Transportation?
-Who can you depend on if you want to leave home?
-Is this person willing to take the risk of harboring a runaway?
-What is your plan B in case your first plan does not work out?

Lastly, are sorry to hear that you are thinking that if things don’t get better that you may hurt yourself or kill yourself in order to end what is going on at home. It sounds like you are in a lot of pain and that you are looking for anyway to have a happier and better life. That is something that everyone deserves. We would like to offer you the National Suicide Hotline at 1800-273-TALK or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org . These are places you can turn to if you are feeling like you can not do it anymore. They are there to listen and support you in what ways they can, as are we.

We hoped this helped and if you would like to discuss your situation in greater detail then you can always give our hotline a call or you can chat with us on our website. We hoped this helped and we look forward to hearing from you.

NRS

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I'm 12 years old and I want to runaway with my little brother who is only 8 and has threaten to kill himself in front of my mom and her fiancé. He also hurts himself in front of my mom and her fiancé, but they never do anything. I can't see that clearly he doesn't want to be here so I tried to talk to him and he says that he want to runaway and kill him self. I have a bad reputation with my family, teachers, and friends. After I moved here and started school I was alrady ditching classes, and doing things to agitate people. After my mom started noticing this 'change' she thought I should go to therapy. At first I refused but eventually went with it. Either way I hardly have anything here. No friends and no one who cares. Every one says that true friends will always be there for you but for me they aren't and always expect the opposite from me. I have begged and begged to go live with my grandma but no one pays attention to me unless I do something bad. But i hate my moms fiancé and he hates me. He got with
my mom for my mom. He hates my brothers. He hasn't had kids before so he just hates them. I've never ran away before but I really want to. I just really want to start over somewhere new.

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Reply:I'm 12 years old and I want to runaway

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We appreciate you having the courage to reach out and talk about your situation.
It sounds like you are trying to look out for your brother in the midst of your own feelings about everything. Good for you.
There is help available for anyone having suicidal thoughts.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline can be reached at: 1-800-273-8255 (24hrs).

It sounds like you have been going to see a therapist. That’s good.
We hope it gives you a place to vent and discuss ways to cope with your situation.

It’s not always easy accepting someone into your family circle. It does not help if that person is not as accepting of the full situation as well. Running away is a big step and a big change.
There are things to consider like how you will survive and would you be going from one difficult situation into one much harder? Your safety is important.
Your feelings and the feelings of your brother matter. Situations can be complicated as well as frustrating. You did a good job reaching out to express how you feel.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
If you would like to talk more about your situation and maybe explore some options contact us at: 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

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I am 12 and I want to runway with my brother he´s 10

My step-dad is always being nevative and saying he doesn´t care. Mom tells him stop but sometimes he doesnt listen. Sometimes he says we will be the death of our little sister. I know it isn´t harm. But i am sick of it. I love my brother very much. Please help me.
Thank you

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Hello There,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
We are sorry that your step dad is always being negative, you do not deserve that. If you feel like he is emotionally abusing you, you do have the right to file a report. You can do this by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. You can also give us a call or chat with us and we can help with filing an abuse report.
We would like to discuss your situation further to best help you. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Hi! I am 12 years old and I want to go run away with my 10 year old brother, my mom and I fight a lot because of my school,it is usually very boring for me and whenever I bring that up she usually yells or hits me. My brother is very scared because of this,I love my brother very much and don't want him to be alone or feel sad if I run away.Please tell me what I can do.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

im 12 and i want to runaway from home my mother just got done hitting me with a broom stick and belt i have a few light black and blues slashes on my arm bumps on my leg this is because my grades in school i try to help her and be there for her but all she does is hit me and abuses me mentally and verbally i had CPS called on her 3 times but they still didnt do anything everyone in my family now about my mom hitting me and abusing me verbally, im scared to even tell her im bisexual i have a friend that wants to help she calls be the b word and dumb a!! cuz of my grades i do not have any motivation to do anything at times i feel like i want to die and cry in my bed. once she hit me for crying in my bed at 5am she told me she wish she never had me and made threats to me like ¨if you touch your phone again i will cut off your fingers¨ i have a younger sibling but i dont want to leave her with ¨the devil¨ i beg my older cousin who is 20 to take me away from her and it never happens im scared of my mom and i dont want my sister going threw the same thing with my mom she is horrible and has a horrible boyfriend i do not want to be here anymore i just want die already so i dont know if anything will be done with the letter but whatever happens im quite scared of running away and getting CPS again i do not want to live with my mom anymore but i dont want to be away from my sister i just want to be with my aunt, and my 20 yr old cousin along with her brother because those are the only people who care about me and my feelings but they are too scared of my mom to do anything. my mom is going on a trip soon and when she does i will be with my cousin and aunt so ill tell them what happened to me and come out to them and only them my grandma WAS a person who i could talk to but she tells my mom everything so thats why i only trust the three GOOD people i mentioned in this letter. all im looking for is someone to talk to and feel safe when im at home. my mom is crazy so please please help me.

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Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to NRS through our forum-it takes a lot of courage to do so, especially in the most difficult of times. First and foremost, you should not have to endure this kind of verbal and physical abuse in your home. Your home should be a place where you feel safe and emotionally supported by your family. You should not have to live in fear every day for your own safety as well as the safety of your sibling. It is completely understandable that you want to leave your home, and the situation that you are currently in since it is making you feel vulnerable and less hopeful for your life ahead. It was very brave of you to reach out to CPS and report your mother to them. In some cases, however, it can be rather difficult for investigative surfaces to objectively prove signs of abuse in the home (especially if they come by the house and everything appears “normal”, which could be staged by your mother). Since the abuse is escalating and you mentioned that you have bruises, you can make another report to CPS. In the report you are able to tell them you currently have bruises/marks which can serve as evidence.

We encourage you to reach out to any trusted adults like friend's parents, family members, a teacher or a counselor at school. They can help you report the abuse and let CPS know that they have seen bruises from your mother's abuse and believe that you might not be safe at home. You can also contact www.childhelp.org for more support with the reporting process. Child Help is an organization that advocates for youth who are in unsafe situations at home.

Your plan to talk to your cousin and aunt is a really smart idea. We are here 24/7 if you need to talk more about your situation and your options. 1-800-786-2929; 1800runaway.org

Stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I am 12 years old and I want to runaway

my mom is really mad at me and she has been for a really long time and she would say things like "f*ck you" and she wont let me walk around without being really mean to me so i want to run away but i love her and i dont want her to die because she has high blood pressure. she put her hands on me and punched me and bruised my lip but that was because i accidentally lied and i said i was sorry but she keeps cursing at me and yelling at me and i feel like running away with my computer and food

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Hi there,

We are glad you reached out to us. It is very upsetting when your parent is so mad and even more so when it has been going on for a long time. It makes sense that you want to run away. You don’t deserve to be hit or physically abused for any reason.

We would like to talk with you about options that could make your situation at home better, give you on going support and help you cope with everything that has been going on. We would like to talk with you about those resources and options. You can chat with us through our website or call our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7 and are completely confidential.

We can also talk about your plan to run away and help you make sure it is a safe plan and that you know all the resources in your area for help. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

[Guest]

Um hello I'm 12 and I want to get away from my older brother he is always calling me names and I even has thoughts that if I hurt myself every thing will be fine should I run away?

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Hi there,

Thanks for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We appreciate you reaching out and sharing a little about what’s been going on. Please know that we’re here to support you however we can at this difficult time.

One option to consider if you haven’t already is sharing what’s been happening with your brother with a trusted adult. This might be a parent, guardian, relative, family friend, teacher, or school counselor. If there’s someone you’d feel comfortable opening up to, that might help you feel better and start addressing the situation with your brother.

Another option to consider is talking about your situation more in depth with us here at NRS. We’re available 24/7 via phone or chat, and could help you think through options and offer additional resources that might help. You can reach us by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or online at www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

You mentioned thinking about hurting yourself sometimes. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Another great resources is The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can contact them by phone at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or online at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

You mentioned thinking about running away. While we’re not legal experts, we can share that in most states, if you’re under 18 and leave home without permission from your parent/guardian, they may file a runaway report with the police. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, an adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway.

Again, we’re here 24/7 to talk about this in more depth if you like. We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS