My mom has full custody but I want to live with my dad

[tasha_danielle6]

I’m a month away from turning 17 and I am severely unhappy in my mom’s house.
My mom is lesbian and she has a girlfriend. All three of us are fighting constantly.
My mom takes my paychecks, takes my phone, (which I pay for), and threatens
to make my quit my job over every little thing. She told me I am never leaving this house
until she tells me I can. She is very dictate and manipulative.
My dad is talking to a lawyer but is there any way to speed up the process?
And can I just leave and go to his house or could my mom
call it in as kidnapping or running away?

[ccsmod4]

My mom has full custody but I want to live with my dad

Hello,

Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.
We are not legal experts so we cannot comment on the expeditions of court procedures.
You might considered consulting with your father and his lawyer about your legal concerns on leaving home before anything happens in the court room.
It sounds like you are feeling very frustrated by the situation at hand. We understand.

We also understand that you cannot control another’s person’s behavior.
What can you do on your end to try and minimize the arguments and fighting between the three of you?
Learning to walk away from a potential argument might help in coping with what already sounds like a stressful situation.

Sometimes it might help if you have someone you can talk with. Someone that is supportive and empathetic to your situation. Do you have anyone like that?

You are welcome to call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or visit www.1800Runaway.org to express your feelings about what’s going on. It might be a way to look for some other options for coping with your situation. Does that make sense?

We are sorry that things are not going well for you now but we hope that things improve soon.
Good job reaching out tonight we hoped it helped to vent your frustrations.
Take Care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi i was just wondering on what i should do i don't want to live with my mom anymore but she says i cant leave because she has like 90% custody of and my dad with 10% and so i want to live with my dad but my mom wont let me i dont know if i can call the police if i want to go live with my dad or not and the police wont let me go because of the cutody agreement or can i go and be able to go and be able to stay with my dad and the reason i dont want to live with my mom is because she if emotionally abusive

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It’s not right that your mother emotionally abuses you; you don’t deserve that, everyone deserves to be treated with respect.

It sounds like you’re in a bit of a tough situation due to the custody issues at play between your parents – this factors into who you are legally supposed to be staying with. It might be a good idea to talk to your dad about your desire to live with him and about the emotional abuse that’s going on. From there you and your dad will most likely need to talk to a lawyer and/or go to court to settle any custody disputes.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS