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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. It's great that you are trying to get support for the difficult situation you are in. We're here to help as best as we can.

    It hurts to have conflict with family, and we're sorry to hear about your depression and self-harm. Sometimes talking things through is a first step towards healing. You know, we are always available if you'd ever like to talk. We are here 24/7, are totally confidential, and never tell anyone what to do. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat with us via our website by visiting the chatroom at www.1800runaway.org. Another great resource in regards self-harm is www.twloha.com. Lots of good advice and support there.

    As toyour question about running away: well, we can't ever tell anyone what to do, but you might want to consider some questions about what running away would like like for you. Questions like where you would live, how running away would affect your schooling and your future, how your parents might react, and so forth. You also mention you would like to go back to living with your sister and have more contact with your mum. One idea might be to simply ask permission from your dad if you can do that. If he agrees, then you wouldn't be considered a runaway. But perhaps there are other options as well. We'd like to help further, but would need some more information from you to see how we can help. So if you give us a call or chat with us that would be really great.

    Whatever you decide, please know that you don't have to face your challenges alone. We are here for you and there are other resources that can help as well. Please stay safe. We hope to hear from you soon!

    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 11-28-2019, 09:35 AM.

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    hi im 15 and ive planned to run away today after school, ive had a massive argument with my parents and sister. i live with my dad and step-mum =, my step-sister was talking about my mum and said shes a stripper and an acoholic, i have had a bad life and been in foster care because my mum had an abusive relationship. im not allowed to hang around with my best friend [name edited] because apparently she causes to much trouble and shes a bad influence but i dont think she is. i have self-harmed before on my arms and legs and i feel so depressed i cannot take it anymore. is good that i want to go back into foster care where my real sister is and live there with her and i will be able to have contact with my mum again or stay at a broken, argumentive house. should i run away?
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 11-28-2019, 09:18 AM. Reason: edited youth's name for privacy

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult situation. You do not deserved to be judged and most people judge because of their own insecurities.
    We want you to know that your life is valuable, and it may not seem like it now but you have a lot to live for. Suicide is a permeant decision for a temporary situation that you may not always have to deal with. You do not have to deal with this alone, there is always someone willing to listen and provide support. If you are ever feeling suicidal please call The National Suicide Prevention Line at: 1800-273-8255. Also you could consider talking with a school counselor about what you are going through. Sometimes having someone that can provide support may be helpful to you.
    We are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws. Because you are a minor if you were to runaway your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home. You could consider emancipation but in most states you would need to be at least 15 years old to start the process. If you would like to know more about the process please give us a call.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there and thank you for reaching out to NRS.

    It can certainly be stressful and overwhelming when the adults in our lives are not supportive like they should be. Your mom has a responsibility to make sure you are safe and cared for until your turn 18, and it is not okay that she disowned you like you mentioned. Contacting someone for help was really responsible and resourceful of you.

    Sometimes having a an adult involved to advocate for you can help conversations with parents stay calm and productive. It sounds like your mom is threatening to send you somewhere and you would prefer to live somewhere else where you feel more comfortable. Perhaps there is a family member or another trusted person you can talk to about the situation with your mom and see if they would be willing to help you speak to her about your needs.

    If you call us at out hotline (1-800-786-2929) or if you chat with using our live chat services at 1800runaway.org we would be happy to search for some youth shelters in your area. Generally, youth shelters are only temporary unless a parent gives you permission to stay longer, but they can be a resource if you need a safe place to go in an emergency.

    We truly want to be a support for you while you navigate this challenging situation. We are available 24/7 by phone or chat to be a listening ear, brainstorm options with you, and connect you to resources like safe places to go. Do not hesitate to reach out again if you would like to talk more in detail about your situation and talk through what you would like your next steps to be.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 14, from what I've seen I think I'm the youngest posting this. I plan on running away, it's more of an emergency run away. I've tried staying with my dad but my mom begged me to come back. A day after I did, my mom and step dad got into a fight and they ended up sending me to The Meadows. A place for troubled youth. I honestly felt better and happier there then I have ever felt at home. My parents are very homophobic, and they always throw around that being gay/bisexual/lesbian is a mental illness. Although sometimes she comes to me and asks if I like girls, and always says she will love me no matter what. I don't believe her, and if I do come out of the closet, I'm afraid my stepfather will treat me different. If been suicidal for a long time, about 3 years. I've only acted on it 4 times. (4 times too many but you know. Things happen.) I've done some pretty stupid stuff in the past 2 months. Picked up smoking, thought about drinking. Took a few sips of liquor when my grandmother sleeps. Stuff like that. Haven't gotten drunk or anything. But I've been searching for something to numb myself. My mom found out I was smoking tonight. Not that I want to run away because I don't want to own up for my mistake, but it's the fact i hate my step dad. He's called my mentally challenged brother a retard. My mother has called me a ********** only a handful of times, doesn't change the fact I dislike her a little more for that. I just feel as if I can't do anything and I'm trapped in my room because if I step out I'm constantly judged for something. If I can't run away, I might as well kill myself- that's my mindset right now. If anyone knows what I can do, that would be great. And if anyone can give me a list of rights for someone my age, that would be lovely. Thank you

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    Hi. I'm 15 years old and have been contemplating running away for a long period of time. Today my mother informally disowned me and insisted I call her by her first name. I have nowhere to stay, as my father made it clear multiple times that he's not in a financially stable situation to take me into his apartment. I don't know what to do; I have friends in many different states but I don't want to get them in trouble, and I feel like I have no options. My mother has threatened to place me into rehab or a mental institution, when I have done nothing to warrant being placed in one. I just know that I can't stay in this house with this family. What should I do?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 15 and pregnant. Can I legally leave my house without consequences?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From your email to us here, we can see that you have very similar questions to a lot of our callers and you’re looking for some answers. It seems like there must be a lot going on in your life, especially at home, if you’re thinking about leaving home. It’s great that you were able to find out some information about our hotline. Hopefully we can help.

    As a minor (under the age of majority), you aren't able to leave home without your parents’ permission. We aren’t legal experts, but what generally what typically happens if a minor runs away, is that your parents would be able to make a runaway. You can’t be arrested for running away. If the police came to your grandparent’s home, they could technically force to you return home.

    We hope this response was helpful! We certainly want to help you. If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you.

    Best, NRS

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    Guest replied

    "if your 15 and you run away to your grandparents house and the police come can the phically take you back home to your parents if they file a report like what if you refuse to go back can they grab you and take you home .

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting NRS and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.

    We are not legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking your guardian can sign over temporary guardianship to another person and give you permission to live with this person. However, if you are a current or former ward of the state, you and your guardian might have to get this new living arrangement approved by a caseworker.

    We want to support you during this transition and talking more in detail about your situation would help us better support you. If you would like to talk more about your situation and discover your possible options, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us anytime. You can contact us 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    For the last year I have suffered from severe depression, I don't want to say that it's their fault but I didn't start to feel like this until they started to emotionally and mentally abusing me. I don't want to live my current place. I want my guardian to sign over her custody rights over to one of my friends parents.Do I have to be put back in the system in order for my friends parents to gain full custody?

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi there,

    We are sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough time at home right now. It feels as if you have quite a burden on your shoulders -- and that seems unfair. You don't deserve to be treated abusively, particularly when your parents say things that are untrue (for instance, telling you you are nothing). That's incredibly hurtful. You deserve to have your feelings validated and your voice heard. We are here to listen, even if we can't promise any quick and easy answers to your dilemma.

    You sound very thoughtful and intelligent to be thinking through what the possible consequences may be if you ran away. Of course, your parents would have the right to file a runaway report if you ran, and anyone you stay with could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. There are other issues to consider: How would you remain safe? How would running affect your schooling and your future plans? What would the consequences be if you ran away and then (as is usually the case) are returned home? It's definitely a complicated matter. We never tell anyone what to do, but those are some things to consider.

    Perhaps there are other options besides leaving home without permission that will improve your situation. Maybe your parents would allow you to live elsewhere. Or maybe there are some ways in which communication can be improved between you and your parents. Or something else.

    We are here to support you as best a we can but would need some more information from you to help you figure out what you'd like to do next. The best way for us to do that is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our main page: www.1800runaway.org. All calls and chats are confidential, and we never judge anyone. We are here to listen and help. We hope to hear from you soon!

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    Hi! I'm 15 years old and go to a private school. My parents have been telling me that they are 'falling apart' and are 'broken' because I am doing not the greatest in school and not the greatest in sports either. I hate the life I live and I want to just leave. My parents pretty much tell me that I am nothing, and I feel that I am. I am wondering if running away will really solve anything. My parents are telling me that they are going to take me out of my private school and put me in a regular school. They also tell me that they will take me out of sports. I don't want that. I'm not going to fit in at a public school, and I really just want to run away. Leaving all my problems behind would be the greatest. The problem is, my parents will be even more broken if I run away and I have nowhere to stay. Plus, I won't be able to carry much for that far if I DO decide to leave. Please help. I need advice. –[name edited]
    Last edited by ccsmod16; 11-18-2019, 06:46 PM. Reason: Edited youth's name to preserve anonymity

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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