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    Hi! I'm 15 years old and go to a private school. My parents have been telling me that they are 'falling apart' and are 'broken' because I am doing not the greatest in school and not the greatest in sports either. I hate the life I live and I want to just leave. My parents pretty much tell me that I am nothing, and I feel that I am. I am wondering if running away will really solve anything. My parents are telling me that they are going to take me out of my private school and put me in a regular school. They also tell me that they will take me out of sports. I don't want that. I'm not going to fit in at a public school, and I really just want to run away. Leaving all my problems behind would be the greatest. The problem is, my parents will be even more broken if I run away and I have nowhere to stay. Plus, I won't be able to carry much for that far if I DO decide to leave. Please help. I need advice. –[name edited]
    Last edited by ccsmod16; 11-18-2019, 05:46 PM. Reason: Edited youth's name to preserve anonymity

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Is it legal for me to run away from home and get to Slovakia? I am 10 years old and I live in England. If so, how would I be able to?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hey there, thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you've been coping with a very frustrating situation at home with your mom. We are always here to listen and brainstorm ideas with you. We want to ensure whatever you may decide, that you are safe and have options.
    While we aren’t legal experts, 18 is generally the age of adulthood in most states. If you do decide to leave home before turning that age, your parent/guardian may file something called a runaway report. Generally, running away isn’t illegal per say, it is something called a status offense. Similar to curfew, you would not be arrested or charged (unless other circumstances exist like being on probation, running away habitually, etc.). In most cases the police will take a report to help try to find the youth and bring them back to their parents/guardians. We know this can be a lot and we are always here to brainstorm and talk about what this means to you and help create a plan with this information in mind.
    It may be something you have tried, but we want to mention that an option could be to try to talk to your mom about how she is treating you and how that makes you feel. This could be a way to explore talking about more freedom and seeing if a discussion can bring a compromise to this topic. You do not have to do this alone, you can always think about bringing in a third party like a friend, trusted adult, teacher, etc. to bring in a different perspective. Sometimes having help from someone outside of the family can bring attention to the issue and offer safe ways to bring about change in the home. If you do not feel that is the safest option, we can always brainstorm other ideas that you feel may work and talk about them if you can reach out to us again.

    If you can reach out to us again, we would love to hear more about what is going on if you are comfortable. It takes a lot of bravery to reach out to us and talk about what has been going on. We do truly care about you. If you want to talk further, we are always here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we also have a chat system at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon!

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    i really want to run away because my mom yells at me making feel like i cant do anything right and she controls my life most of the time, i just want my freedom

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello, thank you so much for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and it is completely understandable that you are considering running away. You are looking for help and thinking about your options which is really good to see.

    It is reasonable that you are afraid to get yelled at for making a mistake, yet we all make mistakes and it is part of being human. In view of your mention of depression, we would like to offer you the number of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, which is 1-800-273-8255. This hotline is available for free and can offer support for thoughts not only on suicide but also on depression. To answer your question about what the consequences of running away would be, although we are not legal experts here at NRS I can assure you that running away itself is not necessarily a crime. That being said, the people who harbor a runaway could potentially get in trouble.

    Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are so brave for considering your options. If you would like to talk further about our situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We’re available 24-7 and can offer more resources as well as guidance and support. We’re here to listen, here to help.

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    Hi I’m 15 and I’m just scared because I lost a large some of money my parents used and I’m scared that even though I’m not a bad kid that I’m just going to be yelled at and screamed at and my depression makes it worse because I feel like I can’t do anything right that’s why I want to run away

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hey there,
    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline, we know it is hard to reach out and you show a lot of courage doing so. You do not deserve to be treated so unfairly by your parents especially with everything you have gone through. You are a really strong person and smart for knowing the outcomes of running away, and we are here to help.
    It is not appropriate for your parents to treat you this way. You do have right to report and we know it can be scary. You can always send us a chat at www.1800runaway.org and we can help you file a report anonymously. You can also contact Child Help, which is a national child abuse hotline, and you can give them a call at 1-800-422-4453 or go on their website to chat as well at www.childhelp.org. They can answer any questions you have about reporting and what can happen if you do decide to report. If you do ever feel like you are in an unsafe situation you can also text 44357 the word SAFE and the location you are in and they will provide a safe location near you that you can go to.
    You are not alone and your life is worthy. It can be hard to reach out to people about your mental health, especially if they are not understanding of the situations you have been put through. NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness, you can call them at 1-800-950-6264, or if you still feel uncomfortable making the call you can text them at 741741. You can talk to them about everything you are feeling and what you have been going through. You can always send us a chat as well if you just want to talk about whatever situation you are in or just to talk about how you are feeling. We are completely confidential. If you are interested you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, their number is 1-800-273-8255 or send them a chat at suicidepreventionlifeline.org, and they are 24/7 and support and provide resources you may be interested in.
    Again, thank you for reaching out, you are truly a strong and courageous individual for seeking help. If you ever want to talk more in depth, we are here for you. Do not hesitate to call use at 1-800-786-2929 or send us a chat at www

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    i’m 15 and live in a super unsupportive house and worry for my safety a lot. my parents are super hard to talk to and are religious and tend to take their anger out on me over little things i do. i’ve attempted suicide a fee times before and went to a mental hospital for a while but it didn’t work and left a bad impression and slight ptsd effects—which is why i’m terrified to try and go back to one. my dad yells at me and damages things of mine (knocking my door off its bottom hinge twice and punching my mirror) and my mom borders the line of emotional/verbal abuse half the time (as well as my dad but it’s worse when he’s angry or upset) and i feel so scared at my house and worried for my mental health on a constant basis. i lost trust in my parents with stuff like talking to them or telling them i need help in times of emergency and i’ve been told by my previous and current therapist that my household situation and relationship with my parents is causing me a lot of emotional/mental/physical (self-harm) harm—which was why i went to a mental hospital in the first place. i want to get away before i end up finally killing myself but i don’t turn 16 until late december. my parents wouldn’t agree to let me spend a few nights with my grandparents who live a one minute walk from us and i can’t stay anywhere without them. i’m terrified to think about having to tell a cop that i’m in a bad situation and somehow my parents convince them it’s fine at home when it’s not and then dealing with the consequences once i’m forced back. i’ve been thinking about running away for a year and a half but my anxiety and depression make me question everything. i’d love to call you guys but i’m terrified of making phone calls ir being in them and i don’t know what to do anymore. i just want to get away from here but i don’t know how. i know it’s not illegal and that i can be forced home if found and can get someone else in trouble by staying with them but i can’t stay home much longer. i’m so scared for my mental health and i’m scared to talk to people about it. without being behind an anonymous mask anyway.

    sorry this was so long i’m mid breakdown from my dad yelling at me again and i’m trying to stay calm.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parent. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 15 and i just hate living with my dad. He took my best friend away from me and i want to live with my mom but she only has a 2 bedroom apartment and 4 people (including herself) already living there, is there anyway i can stay with a friend until i can live with my mom

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out!

    We want you to know that you’re really brave for seeking help, and you are not alone. If you at any time feel unsafe, you can text the word safe and your location to 44357. The national safe place will text you a location to go to, and a case worker may come out to assists you. In the same way, if you’re experiencing any time of abuse at home, you can reach out to the national child abuse hotline at 1800) 422-4453, and they may be able to advise you if it’s necessary to get child protective services involved.
    Unfortunately we aren’t legal experts, but if you decide to run away without your guardian’s approval, your guardian can contact the authorities, and file a runaway report. Whoever you end up staying with, may face some consequences. If you want to know more about runaway laws in your city and state, you may contact your local non-emergency number at 205) 328-9311.

    Again, thank you so much for reaching out. We know you’re in a very hard situation, and we’re so proud that you are wanting to seek help. Please feel to reach out to us anytime on chat, or by phone at 1800) 786-2929, and we can call out anywhere on your behalf as well. Best of luck!

  • ccsmod15
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    Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you’re going through a lot right now, and we are here to help.

    Unfortunately we aren’t legal experts, but if you decide to run away without your guardian’s approval, your guardian can contact the authorities, and file a runaway report. Whoever you end up staying with, may face some consequences. If you want to know more about runaway laws in your city and state, you may contact your local non-emergency number, and let them know the situation you are in. If you at any time feel unsafe, you can text the word safe and your location to 44357. The national safe place will text you a location to go to, and a case worker might come out to assists you.

    Again, thank you so much for reaching out. We know you’re in a very hard situation, and we’re so proud that you are wanting to seek help. Please feel to reach out to us anytime on chat, or by phone at 1800) 786-2929, and we can call out anywhere on your behalf as well. Best of luck!

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    how would the police handle you if you do decide to run away? what if your family does hurt you and you intend to run away, what actions would be made if you do run away and you told the police a reasonable answer?

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    hey i’m 15 and i just want to leave my house for maybe 3-2 days but i don’t have a place to go. i’m just scared if when i come back there’s gonna be a chance i get arrested or get fined. like if my parents filed a police report and i come back what would happen to me?

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