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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

    Sounds like your dad really hurt you, and it's understandable that you are wanting to live with your mom. No one deserves to be treated like that. That has to be frustrating that police did not intervene after they knew you were harmed. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

    It seems like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at your dad's right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You have the right to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or transferring custody to your mom.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org if you are unable to call in at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    im 14 an i live with my daddy an he mistreats me i was on the phone with my mother an he came in the room an grabbed my jacket an slung me into the wall my mama came to get me an he wouldnt let me go he called the police an they said that they cant make that kind of chose so im trying to see can i leave from school and go with my mama

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    im 15 i just want to run away my mom caught me with one cigerette and started yelling and tld my brother not to talk to me .. whats the legal trouble if i runaway

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. We’re so sorry to hear you’ve been having suicidal thoughts. No one deserves to have to deal with something so painful. It sounds like you’ve been dealing with a tough environment for a while and are looking for a way out, which is understandable.

    Have you told anyone about the thoughts you’ve been having? If you ever feel like you might act on those suicidal thoughts, please call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. Telling a counselor at school or a therapist can also be helpful – sometimes it makes a big difference just being able to get heavy feelings off your chest. We at NRS can also help you find mental health resources in your area if you give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.

    Although we’re not legal experts, in Illinois, you generally need to be 18 to leave home without a parent or guardian’s permission. If you were to run away to your grandma’s house and your guardian or parent reported you as a runaway to police, all that means is the police could bring you home, since running away is a status offense and not a crime. If your parents gave you permission to go stay with your grandma, that would be legal.

    Without knowing more about what’s going on at home, if your parents are guardians are harming you physically (hitting, kicking, etc.) or emotionally (cruel words, put-downs, threats, etc.) that could be considered child abuse and you have the right to report it at any time. A great resource is Child Help, a 24/7 confidential hotline like NRS that is focused on child abuse and can answer your questions about reporting and what might happen. Their number is 1-800-422-4453.

    It takes a lot of courage to ask for help, and it shows a lot of maturity that you’re doing your research and exploring all your options before leaving home. We’re here for you any time, and wish you the best of luck.

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    I’m 15 I just want to run away my mom caught me with one cigarette and started yelling and told my brother not to talk to me .. What’s the legal trouble if I runaway. What would happen if I ran away to my grandma's house?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 01-30-2019, 12:51 AM.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, unfortunately we are not legal experts and can only speak generally to runaway laws in the USA. We do not have knowledge of international law or how to get to California from Europe as a minor. You might reach out to your local childline to see if they have any helpful information for you: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    Best,

    NRS

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    im in europe and i want to get to california and i dont know if i can do it under the age of 18 or how can i do it without having to pay 300 dollar for a plane ticket?

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    Originally posted by ccsmod1 View Post
    Hi there,

    We are not legal experts, but we can tell you that because you are a minor, if you leave home and your parents file a runaway report, you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a run away. If you want a liner to help you walk through other options like us mediating a conference call between you and your parents, thinking through possible adults that you could turn to or could advocate for you, or things like emancipation and legal aid numbers, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    NRS
    hi im planing on runing away to new york but im in foster care

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Hi, I live in Lafayette In.

    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help work out the situation with your dad.
    NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
    Right now it sounds like you are not back living with your dad and would like to know if you have to return home. We are not legal experts and only can give some general information about the law in this regard.
    18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case.
    Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.
    It sounds like you are doing well living apart from your dad. You might consider coming up with a plan or strategy that might help to negotiate you staying in your present situation. NRS is here to listen and here to help. Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you during this tough time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.


    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Hi, I live in Lafayette In. And I am staying with a friend. My dad was recently in the hospital. And I had to come. Now he’s home and he’s got help. For about 2 years (I am 16 now) I have had to deal with him calling me names. I once tried to talk to him about my anxiety and depression and he told me that i have no reason to be unhappy because he had a worse child hood. With the place I am at now I get my school work done, and I’m so much happier. I came to see him after he came home. I was met with nasty treatment. I do a lot for him. I clean the house. Do his laundry. And I cook for his girlfriend. All while trying to balance my school work and job. He keeps threading R Do I have to go home?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thanks for contacting us. It’s brave of you to reach out and share your situation.
    First of all, abuse is never okay and you deserve to live somewhere where you are safe. You may want to consider contacting the National Child Abuse Hotline and filing an abuse report. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org. Given how bad the abuse is and that you still have marks, this report could be a very important step for you to get to a safe place.
    We are not legal experts but we can give some advice about how running away is typically handled in the states. Typically running away isn’t a crime in and of itself, but your parents could file a runaway report that would alert local law enforcement that you’ve run away from home. If you were to be picked up by the local police, they usually return you to your parents’ home unless there was abuse in the home. This is where that abuse report could be very helpful. If there is abuse they typically will contact child services and try to relocate you somewhere safe.
    This could all depend on how the police want to handle your situation. You may want to consider calling your local police department for more information about how they handle runaway youth.
    Germany is possibly bit more difficult. The first thing you’d want to do is check with the airline to see what their rules are about minors traveling internationally without parental permission. If you were able to travel there, you’ll want to know about Germany’s immigration so you can take advantage of their services. If you speak and write German, you can possibly find out some information online.
    It sounds like you’re dealing with a very difficult situation where you are not safe. Whatever you decide to do, please know that we are here to help 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

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    Hey , I'm 15 and I'm turning 16 this year, my parents have been abusing me and harming me for about 4 years now , and I got a lot of problems at school too , I've got severe depression but when I try talking to my mother she shows less/no interest in what i have to say .....I've been thinking about leaving my house and run away to Germany somehow as I've heard that Germany helps with everything from schools and homes to money and expenses .......I don't know the actual consequences that I might face after getting caught and returned to my parents , they might kill me as the have tried it before as well , I've been badly injured and I still do have the marks to prove my words ........ But I surely do wanna run away as I'm turning 16 now ......pls help me with ur advice

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi, it sounds like you’re going through a really tough situation right now and it was really brave of you to reach out. Everyone deserves to feel safe in their home, so it’s understandable that you’re feeling this way, but please know that there are resources available to you. It’s great that you’re in counseling, and you can definitely try and talk to your counselor about what you think could make it more effective, or look for a new one if you think that could help. Also, if you’re feeling like you may be suicidal, you can definitely talk to your counselor about these feelings to come up with some coping strategies, and you can always call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They have trained counselors that can talk to you about these feelings. Even if you’re not feeling suicidal, they have a lot of resources and you can always reach out there for help coping.
    As for running away, we’re not legal experts, but we can speak to what we see in general. If you’re under 18, your parents or guardians could file a runway report. Running away is considered a status offense. What that means is, your name would be put into a national database, and if the police were to find you for some reason, then they would likely bring you back home. As for if you were to go to Japan, we definitely don’t have as much information about international law, but we do know that as a minor, you can buy an international ticket, but you won’t be able to get onto the plane without guardian consent. There’s a lot to consider when you’re thinking about running away, especially when it comes to your safety. If you do decide to leave and need help working through your plan, you can always reach out to us. We’re available 24/7 at 1-800-Runaway and we can help you think through things like where you’ll go, who you’ll stay with, how you’ll support/feed yourself, and how long you’ll stay there. You can also reach out to us if you ever need to talk more, or if you need more resources.

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    My family is literal hell on earth their all fake I hate them all I get counseling doesn't work I get yelled at for the smallest things get treated like I'm six get physically mentally and emotionally destroyed I have literary planned for every possible outcome I have five different places to run to an airplane ticket to Japan on hold I know about the legal maybes and mights but I can't take the bull******** and damage anymore its either I runaway or I actually die

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live into a home with so much tension. Everyone deserves to live in a safe environment and be respected. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS
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