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  • #16
    I want to runaway for many reasons but have nowhere to go. What to do I’m only 15

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      Hi there, thanks for reaching out.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Sounds like you are wanting to leave but you have no were to go. If you haven't already you might see if supportive friends or extended family could house you. If you call or chat us, we can look to see if there are any emergency runaway and homeless youth shelters in your area as well.

      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #17
    im 14 and also im indonesian. r running away from home illegal for me?

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    • ccsmod15
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      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.
      Best
      NRS
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  • #18
    Hey. I’m 15. I live with my pap and his new girlfriend and his new girlfriends son. They have drug past. They sell pills on the house and everything. Now his son has an ex girlfriend that I met and she has 3 kids and a healthy safe home. I want to run away to her house. Can I do that without getting in trouble or getting forced to go back

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      Hi

      Thanks so much for reaching out! It sounds like living at home is pretty tough right now. In situations like these it can be helpful to talk with someone you trust like a relative or neighbor. It can help to have extra support and someone to talk over options with.
      Your safety is always our first concern. You have the option to file an abuse report against your father and his girlfriend as they are potentially putting you in danger by engaging in illegal activities. If you want to pursue that option we can help you file an abuse report, you can give us a call 800-786-2929 or reach out via chat to do that. It would make it more likely that Child Protective Services would remove you from the home. Your dad and his girlfriend may also face charges.

      If you were to leave home without your dad’s permission they could file a runaway report with the police, which they may or may not do considering that they are participating in illegal activities. Also, if you were to stay with the ex-girlfriend and she is over 18 years-old, your dad could press charges against her for harboring a runaway, if he was willing to reach out to the police.

      Thank you again for getting in touch, it was a very brave thing to do. We are available 24/7, so please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any other questions or need to talk. Best of luck to you.

      -NRS

  • #19
    Im 15 and my birthday is in a month. I was planning on leaving when I turn 16 but I can’t take my family anymore. I have a few places I could stay. What would happen if I were to leave now even tho my birthday is in a month?

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    • ccsmod7
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      Hi, thank you so much for reaching out. This can be a really hard thing to consider, and we’re here to help. We’re not legal experts, but we can speak in generalities. In most states, the age of majority is 18, and even at 16 you would be considered a minor. If you left home as a minor that would typically be considered a status offense. What this means is that if your parents filed a runaway report, and the police found you, they would likely bring you back home. If, for some reason, your home isn’t a safe place for you to be and you told the police that, they should open an investigation and bring you to a safe place instead.

      You said you have some places to stay, so it’s great that you’ve already started thinking about how to stay safe. If you do decide to leave, there’s a lot to consider when it comes to your safety, including what you’ll bring, how you’ll support yourself and have enough money for basic needs like food, and how long you can stay with the person you’re going to stay with. If you ever want help thinking through how you can stay safe, or how you could cope with being in your home, we’re available 24/7. Feel free to reach out to our hotline any time at 1-800-Runaway.

  • #20
    I am 15 in Lancaster Ohio I want to leave my dad makes me feel horrible all the time and always lies on me to please my stepmom he treats me bad when no one is around but when I try to tell someone's he tells them that's I am lying or that it is my fault he is nice to everyone else except for me and I know it seems like a lot of teens says that but even my family member states have said that too if I my boyfriend and his mom pick me up and let me stay with them then what would happen?
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    • #21
      Reply: I am 15 in Lancaste, Ohio

      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. You don’t deserve to be put in a position to feel bad you father.
      It sounds like it has been frustrating for you and you have good reason to be upset.
      As of right now you’re feeling like leaving to go stay with a friend in their home and would like to know what might happen if they pick you up?


      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway.
      It’s good that you have someone to listen and be supportive, if you do not stay with your boyfriend perhaps there is a family member willing to step in and be supportive.
      We understand what a difficult time this must be for you and we want you to know that we are here to listen and here to help. If you would like to talk more about your situation, please give NRS a call or live chat. You can reach us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.ore (Live chat).
      We hope that things change for the better.

      Take care,
      NRS

      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
      info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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      • #22
        Hey. I'm 15 my mom makes me so mad n I want to Kill myself sometime n my dad doesn't want me. I'm planning on leavin wif a friend n runnin away. Is it 100% dat they will find me ?

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          Hi there, it sounds like you’re going through a really difficult time right now. We’re sorry to hear your father doesn’t want you and your mother and you are fighting. You have the right to feel safe and wanted at home! You mentioned that you are planning on running away with a friend.
          Just to let you know, we are not legal experts. Technically it’s not against the law for you to run away from home, in most places it’s considered a ‘status offense’. However, anyone you are caught running away with could possibly be charged with ‘harboring a runaway’ should your parent or legal guardian decide to call the police and report you missing. It might be a good idea to talk to your friend about this risk. Nothing is 100% guaranteed, if you wanted to call and talk to us we can help you come up with some options. The National Safe Place at https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/ is another great resource if you need a safe place to stay in an emergency.
          You also mentioned killing yourself. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 is also here for you if you wanted to talk to them about what you are going through. Please give us a call so we can help you make a safe plan for what to do next.
          Please remember that we are here 24/7 and are always here to support you any way we can.

      • #23
        So I'm 16 and wanna leave home.. I hate my mom's boyfriend we live with, my sister's live with their dad already because they don't like him either. He tries to disilpne me and not his own kids he turns my mom against me and they just emotionally abuse me so much to the point I can't even be in the same room as them. I have a job make my own money and pay for my own phone. My girlfriend and her mom both said it was fine for me to move in with them so I wanna take the offer and leave and when me and my mom got into a big fight she told me I can. So what would happen if I did? Could the police force me home because if they did I'm scared of what would happen.

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          Hello there thanks so much for reaching out today. Sounds like living with your mom's boyfriend is taking a major toll on you and you are wanting to move out at 16. You seem very responsible and it makes sense that you want to live in a supportive environment. We are not legal experts but we can speak generally about runaway laws, and we truly want to inform you and be there for you during this difficult time.

          You mentioned that your mom has told you that you can go. The easiest way you can leave home at 16 is with your parent's permission. However, permission is not legally binding so if your mom told you that you can leave during a big fight once but now does not want you to go, she can go back on that permission. You might try to include a trusted adult in on that difficult conversation with your mom such as your dad or your girlfriend's mom or someone who can get through to your mom. If you have a good relationship with your dad and he has any custody rights over you, you might reach out to him to see how he can help.

          18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. If you leave home without permission, your mom may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. So it is possible that your girlfriend or her mom could be at risk of harboring. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

          You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

          We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.

          Be safe,

          NRS

      • #24
        im 15 and i want to runaway. my father hasn’t been there for me at all and my mother was recently arrested . my mother knows my situation with my father & grandparents but she still wants me to go over there . ive been mentally, physically & emotionally abused to the point where i dont think i can take much more. it is so uncomfortable being with my father & grandparents.. i have a friend who’s house i could go to & be well taken care of , her house is right by our school as well. if i runaway & my grandparents file a runaway report on me what would happen ? how do i get out of this situation.. how do i get to the point where i can live with the friend & provide for myself ? what happens if i am caught ? what happens if im not ?

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        • ccsmod15
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          Hi, thanks for posting today. It sounds like you are in a really rough situation and may even be unsafe at home with your dad and grandparents.
          We are here to help the best we can!
          We are not legal experts, but generally, if you leave home before age 18 in most states, your parents can file you as a runaway. This is not a crime but if the police do find you, they may try to return you back home. However, you did mention being abused. If you tell the police that, they would likely involve child protection services to make sure you are safe. We can also help you make an abuse report if that is something you are interested in: 1-800-786-2929.
          Additionally, Child Help can help better define abuse, provide info, and be the first step in filing a report if you want more info: 1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org.

          We are here 24/7 so please reach out if there is anything else we can help with or if you want to talk more about your situation.
          You have shown a lot of strength in posting today.

          Best of luck!

      • #25
        hey well i'm not sure what to do and i need advice. It's that i'm moving and i wanted to ask my parents if i could have permission to live with my girlfriend. My girlfriends parents said it was ok if i lived with them but only if i got permission from my parents. and i don't know what to do i need some advice

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        • ccsmod7
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          Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

          Sounds like you are looking for ways to approach your parents to ask for permission to live with your girlfriend. It is really smart of you to reach out with that question. You know your parents best, so you might think about what ways to approach them that they would best respond to. If there is a trusted adult you know that they listen to, you might include them in on the conversation so they can help advocate for your needs. Sometimes it helps for parents to hear things from trusted adults when they are not hearing you.

          Here at NRS, we have a conference call service if you would like to have a mediated conversation over the phone with your parent(s). It can be a safe place for all parties to talk through how they are feeling and to mediate conflicts. If that is a service you are interested in please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also call us if you want to practice what you are going to say to your parents with someone.

          Please do not hesitate to reach out if you ever need. Good luck talking to your parents!

          Best,

          NRS

      • #26
        Hi, im 15 and I have been planning on running away for a while. I live in new mexico and would my uncle and aunt be charged with harboring a runaway if I stayed with them? I just don't really feel safe here anymore.

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          Hey there,

          Thanks for reaching out to us. We're sorry to hear you're in a situation where you feel like you need to run away.

          It would be good to check if a runaway report has been filed for you. You can do this by calling your local police station and asking them if there is a report for you. If not, you would not technically be considered a runaway, and it would probably be okay if you went to stay with your uncle and aunt (however, we are not legal experts and cannot guarantee this). If there is a report for you, your legal guardians could potentially charge your uncle and aunt with harboring a runaway. They would need to take your uncle and aunt to court and provide proof that you were staying with them, so this does not happen very often, but it is a possibility to be aware of.

          You mentioned feeling unsafe in your current situation. Depending on the situation, you could possibly file an abuse report. If there are any trusted adults in your life, it could be helpful to reach out to them and talk through what's going on. Perhaps your uncle and aunt would be a good place to start. You could also try talking to a school counselor or trusted teacher. If you'd like to learn more about this or any other options available to you, we encourage you to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. We are available 24/7 and are anonymous and toll-free.

          We hope to hear from you soon, and best of luck to you in everything.

          NRS

      • #27
        I am always depressed and I feel alone I want to run away and go to California or kill myself im 15 almost 16 in oct I looked up how old you have to be to run away in Michigan and it's 17 I just can't wait till then. im adopted and I live with my foster mom and my adopted brother my foster mom im a good kid I don't do much I might not get good grades or clean my room or the kitchen al the time or the right way but that is no reason to get wiped out of your sleep with a jump rope or punched in the chest my foster mom makes me feel like her disappoint my adopted brother gets good grades "cleans the kitchen" "does what he's asked " but he is disrespectful and rude and mean and my foster mom doesn't say anything about that but if I say something under my breath I get threatened I just want to leave, to be honest, I don't care where I go as long as it not here in Michigan

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          Hello there,

          Thank you for reaching out to NRS and having the strength to share your story with us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and what you’ve been dealing with. Ideally, home would be a place where people feel safe, loved, and valued, and you do not deserve to be treated that way. You’ve been very courageous to reach out for help and try your best despite the circumstances.

          You mentioned feeling depressed. We understand that living in a tough situation and feeling alone is very difficult. We would encourage you to reach out to those with whom you feel most comfortable, whether it is friends, school counselors, or others around you. Your life is valuable and you matter. If you ever feel in serious danger of harming yourself or ending your life, The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available by phone at 1-800-273-8255, or online at suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

          Although NRS is not a legal agency, we can try to give a general idea of possible outcomes if you were to run away. If you are considered a minor in your state, you are still under your mother’s guardianship, therefore at any point when you are gone, she is legally within their rights to file a runaway report. Being a runaway is a status offense, and while you would not be charged with a crime, if police came across you, they would probably return you home. They could also potentially press charges against people who took you into their care for “harboring a runaway;” these charges would be misdemeanors, but still criminal offenses.
          In regards to your plan of going to California, we would encourage you to consider guardianship, school enrollment, how you would take care of your needs (eating, sleeping, healthcare), and how you would care for your safety if something were to happen. If you were interested, we also offer conference-calling as an option, where we would mediate a constructive conversation between your guardian and yourself in order to reach an understanding.

          If you would like to talk about other resources and support, feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat.
          We hope this information was helpful and take care.
          National Runaway Safeline
          info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

      • #28
        Hi, I am a 15 year old female in the state of Missouri. Things have always been kinda rough at home but these past three or so years have been extremely hard on me. Ever since my parents divorced I have suffered from major depression and anxiety. It doesn't help that im bullied at school. I cant live with my father because not only is he in another state but he also is in a john 3:16 currently. Not only that but he has had bad issues with drugs and other sorts of things like sexual abuse and physical/mental abuse. My mom on the other hand im not so sure about. Im really worried about her in a way too though. Her current boyfriend is very abusive and has some really bad issues. With all of this stuff happening I have attempted suicide several times been in a mental hospital and suffered with ptsd too. Anyways, my question is, if i were to run away and stay with a friend what could the police do about it, and what may happen?

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          Hello, and thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are living under extremely distressing and harmful circumstances and we will do our best to help you find some options. It takes a lot of strength and willpower to reach out for help when things are this hard. It also shows a great deal of compassion and thoughtfulness to be able to recognize not only your own sadness, but also that of your mother. With regards to your question, we are not legal experts, but generally running away is not illegal but it is considered a status offense. This means that if you run away and your mother files a runaway report, if the police find you they will not arrest you. Instead, they will notify your mother and take you home. However, it is illegal to house a runaway, so if your mother felt like it, she could press charges against whoever was sheltering you for harboring a runaway. You could, however stay there if you had permission from your mother if that is a possibility. You talked a little about living in an abusive environment. If you feel like you are in immediate danger, please contact 911. Additionally, you can reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org. They will be able to give a more concrete picture of what the abuse reporting process looks like and how it may result. If you are not currently in counseling or therapy, a good resource for finding tools like that is NAMI (The National Alliance on Mental Illness). They are reachable at 1 800 950 NAMI or at nami.org. Finally, if you have any more questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1 800 RUNAWAY or on our chat service at 1800runaway.org.

      • #29
        Ok I have a huge question. What would happen if you already have run away for about a day you got back home and you are in your house but your parents have already spoken to the cops I am 15 and need some help kinda fast

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          Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have some questions regarding leaving home before the age of majority. We want you to know that we are not legal experts nor are we affiliated with the police so we can only speak generally about what could happen if a youth leaves home without the consent of a guardian. Leaving home without parental consent (running away) is not a crime, so the police will not arrest you. If you do leave home without permission your guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not a crime it is a status offence (something that only a minor can get in trouble for: truancy, buying cigarettes, etc.) this means that if you have any interaction with the police they will simply return you home. On the other hand the people that you are found to be staying with could face legal consequences that vary depending on your state. You can find out more about how runaway’s reports are carried out by contacting your local police department. If you would like we could contact your local non-emergency number for you or with you. Just give us a call and one of our trained liners would be happy to assist you. 1-800-786-2929
          Again, thank you for reaching out.
          Best wishes,
          NRS

      • #30
        Im planning to run away soon im failing all my classes and im a sophomore I also have depression and I have had all my means of coping taken away my medication ran out I have no phone so I cant talk to my friends or groups online I cant listen to any of my music other than radio bull******** when im in the car and since my grades are so low im really contemplating other things as well as running away (running away being most likely) I have a very clear plan is just to stay running until im 18 and then maybe talking to one of my parents my gpa is a 2.0 and I cant handle anything atall except maybe leaving when I leave im planning to steal some money and use about 1/4 of it on weed from one of my friends and ditching town then buying a new and/or a burner phone and just find odd jobs online or sell things over the internet to make money when I need it im pretty sure this is a foolproof plan so im most likely going to go through with it but it seems like you guys may be able to help me out and change my mind because I know what im doing is wrong but I feel like that's the only way I could live happier because moments of happiness living with my parents is rare im only really truly happy when im away from them with my close friends

        also uh im bi and another reason I want to leave is that my dad is so very against that to the point where im in actual fear of him giving me a whooping/beating or whatever for telling him I have a boyfriend

        uwu

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          Hi, thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you're going through a lot right now, but you aren't alone in this. You mentioned having depression and that all of your coping mechanisms have been taken away, but that may not be true. You can reach out to a counselor at school or a therapist to help you work through what is going on. And we are always available to talk at 1800RUNAWAY.

          It sounds like running away is a way for you to ignore and avoid all of your problems. And its ok to feel stressed out by school, feeling isolated, etc...but running away could just create more problems. If you leave without your parents' permission, they would have the right to file a runaway report with the police. You aren't doing anything illegal, but it is a status offense. If you were found you would be returned to your parents' care. Also, stealing is a crime and you could be arrested for that. Something to consider.

          Also, not having a steady income and choosing to spend a good chunk of whatever money you do have on weed may not be the wisest choice. You would be on your own and that would mean paying for your own food, clothes, and other living expenses. You mentioned buying a phone, and not having a phone seems to be a big stressor right now. Instead of running, you could save up money for a phone and use it to talk to friends and play the music that you like. That could make things more bearable for the time being.

          It can be really hard to think long-term when struggling with depression, but it is still important to do. If you do run away, you won't finish high school. How will this affect your future? How would graduating change things? How will running away affect you relationship with your parents? Do you think that running will mean you're no longer depressed, or are you just looking for a way to escape? How would running affect your friends? You mentioned feeling happy when you were with them; how would running away affect your ability to spend time with them?

          There's a lot to think about. To discuss your options feel free to call or chat us at any time. Thank you again for reaching out and we're available to talk 24/7 over the phone at 1800RUNAWAY.
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