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  • Im going to runaway because I do not feel safe at home anymore my friends mom is gonna let me stay with them or I have to go to a foster home and I don't wanna go there and I understand the consequences but I have to LEAVE or else im gonna die my mom's a drunk and I don't have a dad so I'm leaving

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      Hello,

      You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

      If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I have a friend that really wants to leave home. Her family is messed up and they treat her like she is living in a jail. They don’t give her any privacy they body shame her they don’t let be friends with anyone she can’t even talk to her own family.. now me and her have been making a plan for her to run away from her house and stay in mine.. is there any way that she can live in my house legally?

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them as they mentioned wanting to to run away. It’s great that your friend has support and concern from you especially since this time is quite difficult for them.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.
      Take care,
      NRS

  • i'm 15 and living in a homophobic house hold were i have told my grandparents that i'm a lesbian but they keep telling me no you aren't but i'm pretty sure i am and i can't live with my Dad cause he said he'd disown me and i've been planning to run away for a while . I don't want to go to jail so i want to know now if i do go through with my plan to runaway what charges will i be facing

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      Hello,
      Thanks for reaching out to us. We are so sorry that your grandparents and your dad are not welcoming to you. It sounds like you are considering running away and you want some information on possible consequences. We are not legal experts, but we can share some general information.

      While it is technically not illegal to run away, it is considered a status offense in some states. If you leave without consent, your parent or legal guardian can file a runaway report with your local police department. Typically, if the local police find you, they return you to your legal guardian or have your legal guardian pick you up. How local police handle runaway reports can vary depending on your local police department, so one option you have to get answers to your specific situation is to reach out to them at their non-emergency number. If you do not know how to reach them, we can help you find their contact information. You do not have to share your personal information to ask questions. If you have any more questions, please do not hesitate to reach out to us.

      Whatever you decide, know that we are here to support you. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will do our best to help you stay safe regardless of what you decide. If you would like, we can talk to you about your situation, your options if you choose to leave, call police on your behalf, or facilitate a conference call so that you can speak with them directly. You can reach us 24/7 via phone by calling 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or via chat by visiting our website www.1800runaway.org . We are here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

      -NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod15; 11-10-2020, 10:58 PM.

  • I’m 15 and live with my mother who gaslights me and occasionally will hit me and I no longer want to live with her and wish to run away, my dad can’t file for custody since he doesn’t have a bedroom for me, and I have tried all other options of getting away from my mom but this was the only option where I can be free from her, I need advice

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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through some intense stuff and we want to support you. Whether or not you feel like you need to run away is up to you and whether or not you feel safe where you are. We would be happy to help you in whatever way we can. We can provide referrals to mental health resources, shelters, legal advocacy, among other things. We can also just talk you through whatever your situation is and help you figure out what your options are. We aim to empower youths and we prioritize your safety and your well-being. If you are interested in anything that we have to offer, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,

      NRS

  • hello if you are the age of 15 and run away and live in south Carolina and your court date was delayed for a year and you’re 16 now would you go to juvy ?

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. \
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. Since we are not legal experts and do not know the circumstances of your case, we cannot comment on whether or not you may go to a juvenile facility. You would need to request that information from a lawyer or police officer.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Hey, I'm 15 and I want to run away from my mom's ex house but I've been with him for 12 years now and my real dad has given up custody of me and I haven't seen my mom in 3 years so I really wanna see her again. I also want to see my Girlfriend but my "parents" don't know that I am talking with her or that I have any social media since they don't want me exposed to the outside world because they think it's "dangerous". Anyways I need help figuring out what to do since I am torn between these two families and I really don't want to go to jail. Is it legal for someone in Vermont to runaway without excuse?

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • Hello I’m planning on running away , my parents hate me , I will still do school and stuff i just need a break from them. I used to get hit , what happens if I go to my boyfriend house?.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • I'm 14 and planning on running away from home. If i do what will happen to my parents and I? Will there be consequences. I'm considering not running away just in case something happens to my parents.

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      Hello –

      Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. It sounds like you are going through some intense stuff and we want to support you. Whether or not you feel like you need to run away is up to you and whether or not you feel safe where you are. We would be happy to help you in whatever way we can. We can provide referrals to mental health resources, shelters, legal advocacy, among other things. We can also just talk you through whatever your situation is and help you figure out what your options are. We aim to empower youths and we prioritize your safety and your well-being. If you are interested in anything that we have to offer, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Having a place to stay to ensure that you are safe is very important. While we are not legal experts, running away is not considered illegal. However, since you are a minor, your guardians have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home unless you express to them that you live in an unsafe environment. If you left home and decided to stay with a friend, they could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. To learn more about the process of running away and being able to enroll in school without your legal guardian’s permission, you can also call the National Center of Homeless Education Hotline at 1-800-308-2145.

      We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct.

      Best Wishes
      ~NRS

  • I am 15 years old and I live in Virginia, I used to sneak out and go hang with friends and when my parents found out they told me and they told me they hated me they did not apologize for saying it and even though I have apologized to them they say that my apologies are not real and that I am lying. they took many tests on me that I did not want to take and they tell me they are disappointed and that they care but all they have been doing is yelling at me and telling me how much pain I have caused and not asking me why I was doing it or why I feel the way I feel. I love my parents but I think the best thing is for me to run away. I have been wanting to run away but I am terrified of my parents or what they might do if they find me. I don´t want to be here anymore in this house I just think this is the best option for me but I am scared if I leave they will hate me even more if I come back

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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like ever since you used to sneak out to hang out with friends things have been really hard between you and your parents, and that everyone is having a lot of feelings about this issue, and maybe others too.
      Since they are not asking you how you feel and why you did it, maybe writing it down in a letter would help you communicate your feelings. You can take your time with the letter and write a few drafts until you are satisfied. You can even ask them to reply in writing.
      It is understandable that you feel like running away, but the hard part is thinking of a safe place to go. We can talk about all of this in a conversation through our live chat service via www.1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 to listen and help. We hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerrely,
      NRS

  • im 15 i have a place to go to. what if the cops find me and im on the run. what will happen will i be a fellen?

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home, whoever your legal guardian is can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

      It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • I have been going through a lot for a long time verbal and physical abuse. I don't know who to turn to. I'm broken. No matter who I tell or try to get help from my parents and siblings get covered up. I can't take it my brother beats the crap out of me and my mom makes fun of me calls me names says I'm not good enough, makes fun of the way I dress, says I smell so does my father and brother, and my sister just takes the side that doesn't involve her having problems. No matter what I did to get help it never worked so I had to deal with it for almost 15 years. My mom and dad take almost everything away from me half of the time for no reason. My mother sometimes breaks my stuff and whenever my brother beats the crap out of me she says it's my fault and my brother didn't do anything. Recently I tried taking my dresser down stairs because it broke and take it outside and my brother was standing in the hallway and I asked him to move twice and he started coming after me and hitting me and slapping me and pushing me. No matter if I defend myself or not I still get in trouble and get treated like crap only of I defend myself I get in more trouble and my mom called the cops on me and said I beat my brother for no reason. So I go to court Tuesday and tbh I don't care if I go to prison or wherever it is I get sent because I rather rot in a cell and give away my freedom and life than have to wake up everyday knowing I'm going to abused everyday verbally and physically and know my friends only care bout me. But if I don't get arrested I want to run away. I'm not great at school studying and I'm no scholar but I can pick up on certain things easily for stuff that interests me and I feel I could survive on my own. I also used to be made fun of in school and treated poorly and never had friends up until I left my old school in 6th grade and when I got into 9th grade at a new school and I actually made friends I started slowly realize that I never had friends or a life because of my family. I only made friends because when I could I made my owned path and all my success and everything was me relying on me not my parents not my siblings. It became even more clear to me when I returned to my old school and the people that made fun of me actually are now my friends because I'm not that same person I was when I used to go there. I evolved after changing my environment but not completely because there was something holding me preventing me from being more doing more my family. It gets worse and worse every day. My parents don't even let me do anything outside of school. I always wanted to join the Air Force since I was in 5th grade never really knew the reason why but I now know it's because I'm willing to risk my life to help others and prevent more people innocent people from dying, because my life is nothing and I have nothing to lose. I joined my fire company because I want to save people. I don't want to see people suffer the way I do or worse. I'd be willing to trade my life to someone else if that was possible because I don't enjoy anything in my life at all. I can't even talk to girls I don't know how the only place my parents allow me to go is the firehouse. They don't buy me anything only essential stuff, they have money, but anything I want like xbox computer tv they expect me to buy and I don't even have a job. I work for a couple of my dad's friends when they need help. But never will have the money I need to buy stuff. I still need to buy a new computer and tv and guitar but I have no money. Only 40 bucks. I don't know how much more I can take. And I'm done asking for help from anyone because I can't be saved I must be cursed or something. Putting this on here probably won't help me anyways just like everyone else or service I seemed before my parents only cover it up anyways. I don't feel like eating tonight I don't know if I could sleep and I texted my friends that after Tuesday I might never talk to them a again because I'll most likely be arrested. Of course defending myself from my brother is a crime in my house I should have let beat the crap out of me I wouldn't have gotten charged and got the cops called on me. My parents will lie to the judge and I'll get arrested. My mom makes everyone believe I'm an animal a monster a ungrateful person that doesn't deserve anything. I'm far from normal and maybe I am an animal because my family makes me that way. They can keep believing thir the righteous gods while I rot in a cell. I don't care anymore I'm adopted so I'm not biologically connected to them only connected by a pieces of paper saying I'm their son so it doesn't matter to me.

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      Thank you so very much for reaching out to us and telling us what you are going through. It sounds awful. We believe you. You don’t deserve to be treated this way. You deserve to be cared for and valued for the brave survivor that you are. You are clearly an intelligent person, warm and worthy.
      Your situation is complex, and it’s hard for us to give you the assistance you are deserving of via this public forum, so we hope that you will reach out to us either through our phone hotline or live chat service through www.1800runaway.org
      When you come to the chat, we can talk it all through, especially the fact that court is on Tuesday. We can help you work on a way to communicate with your lawyer to let them know how your brother has been beating you. He doesn’t have the right to physically abuse you, and your parents are supposed to protect you from his harm. They are neglectful in that duty.
      The judge will like that you are on the Fire Service team. Asking some of them to come to court with you will help the judge believe you, not your family. If they can come, tell your lawyer that they are there to vouch for you.
      You are very brave to have contacted us to talk about things that hurt. That takes courage. The best way for us to help you is in a way that we can have a conversation, which we can do by phone or chat. We truly hope you will reach out to us so that we can help you make a plan for Tuesday.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • My plan is to run away and or have my sister get custody of me and we leave either way but I’ll be outta indy so they can’t take me home right plus I could call anyone on them so that i dont have to go home

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Im 16 years old about to be 17 and I heard police won't waste their time looking for 17 year olds since they are almost an adult. Is this true? what would happen if i ran away and got caught?

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to listen and here to provide support. We are not legal experts but we do have some information.
      So because you are a minor if you were to run away your legal guardian does have a right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home. In some cases, the police may not take a runaway report on a 17 year old but it depends on the police department. Usually they wouldn’t take a runaway report if the 17-year-old was only a month or two away from being 18.
      If you were caught running away, because it is a status offence you would not be arrested. Instead you would most likely be returned home.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS
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