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    We are the married, educated, financially secure parents of a 15-year old in the state of Indiana. We are the legal parents, and have provided a safe, secure, structured, loving environmenf for our children with everything they NEED as well as most of what they WANT, within reason, throughout their lives. Our 15-year old is struggling with oppositional defiance, anger, depression, and addiction, and refuses to abide by any rules, including school work, limiting foul language, no illicit or illegal substances, no marijuana, pills, alcohol, vape, etc. He has been suspended and expelled from school, has been a runaway twice, physically damaged our home, violent outbursts, etc., and has been arrested for runaway and battery against my husband. We fought to have the charges dropped. We are partnering with a social service agency, have forced him into therapy. He cannot live within our boundaries & wants out. The friends to whom he will run are not positive influences and we do not approve, as they include very young permissive parents who themselves deal drugs, call their own daughter a “hoe”, etc.

    WHAT ARE OUR LIABILITIES/RESPONSIBILITIES if this child runs and lives elsewhere? The last time he fled, the mother of one of his friends called DCS and we were visited by their case workers, who found absolutely no evidence of any abuse or inappropriate activity and would not even open a case. We need to protect our home & our livelihood/career, and have never had any legal trouble...what can we do? Are we breaking the law if he flees?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems like you are thinking about leaving home.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. Running away from home can be hard in many cases and it may be helpful to think about where you might go and how you might pay for food and other living expenses.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    If i ran away to live with my aunt how would tht situation work out?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your relationship with your Mom at home has been really difficult lately, so it’s understandable that you’d want to stay with your girlfriend who makes you happy. Sometimes it’s hard to communicate about personal challenges and hard times, especially with parents who are prying. Your Mom probably really cares about your day, but she may not notice when you’d just prefer to have your own space- it makes sense that this misunderstanding would test your patience. This is all to say that you’re right to feel the way you do and your interest in leaving home totally makes sense. Because you are 15, leaving home will take more than just your parent’s permission, even if they are agreeable. Legally speaking, you are the responsibility of your parents. This could change through emancipation, which does require the court stuff you’ve mentioned. Laws regarding emancipation differ by state, but those that allow it typically require youths to provide evidence that they are able to fully support themselves financially and independently. If you are interested in pursuing emancipation, we encourage you to give us a call! We can help you sort out details, find legal representation, or provide different options and ideas. In the meantime, refreshing your relationship with your Mom at home could be very beneficial. That may mean establishing some distance by spending more time with your own activities outside of the home (with your girlfriend perhaps..), or by embracing your recent differences and conversing about how difficult life at home has been for you. While that option may sound difficult, we’d also be happy to talk to you about it before, after, or even during, by mediating a call between you both. It may be difficult to witness all of the possibilities ahead of you, but we want you to know you do have many options. We’re here for you and will help you consider and explore them all. Give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY any time, 24/7.

    Best, NRS

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    I am 15 years old and I want to run away to my girlfriend's house. I cant stand living with my family anymore because I get in trouble for everything I do. Just the other day I got my phone taken away probably forever just because I said I had a very bad day at school. My mom kept pestering me about why my day was bad and I kept refusing because I know if I said something about it, she would just change the subject and I get in huge trouble. I eventually gave in and told her about my day and guess what? She changed the subject and I got my phone taken away and since my girlfriend goes to another school, taking my phone away wont allow me to talk to her anymore. I really dont want that and i'm tired of living this life. My girlfriend is the only person that makes me truly happy. Its only her and her dad in their house and I was thinking of convincing him if I could stay till I can legally rent an apartment. Does it require court and stuff if he decides to take me in with my parent's consent?

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We appreciate you taking the time to seek help and get some resources. From what we gather about your story, it seems like your parents are no longer wanting you to stay with them. While it seems like all would be well with you moving out and staying with you girlfriend the more serious issue is the legal part of your story. A good idea is perhaps to discuss it with your parents who want you out. Since they kind of want to kick you out it would be in their best interest to help out with the legal stuff. Maybe even talking with a lawyer might help as well. We hope that you can find a quick solution to your current issue. If you have any concerns or questions please feel free to contact us at (1-800-786-2929) or online through our chat option at (www.1800runaway.org).
    Best Wishes- NRS

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    Hi. I’m 16 almost 17 in two months. My mom threatened me by saying “well do you have anywhere else to stay?” My girlfriend and her parents offered to let me live with them in Tennessee (I live in Arkansas right now). I am also on probation until I am 18 years old. What would happen if I quietly packed, got picked up by them, and just disappeared? Since I’m on probation would I get in a ton of legal trouble?? Helpp

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello –

    Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about the way you have been treated. It sounds horrible to receive mistreatment from someone that should be caring for you. It sounds like the verbal abuse at home is becoming difficult to deal with. It seems that you do not receive the support that you probably should at home. I am also very sorry to hear about your mother, especially over the holidays last year.

    The most important thing is for you to feel safe and supported. Since you are not receiving that at home there are resources out there that can help you. Depending on where you live, there are various youth living assistance programs that can provide the care you need in order to live a happier life. If you would like to learn about these specific programs I would advise you to call into our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-29290).


    Another resource for you could be the National Child Abuse Hotline. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. You can call them anonymously to learn about the abuse reporting process, or directly report abuse to this line. They are a good resource for talking through your options if there is verbal/mental abuse going on at home. It will also ensure that if you do decide to runaway that you will not be returned home to an unsafe environment.

    Additionally, another option could be the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 if you feel life has become overbearing. Just know that there are people out there who are willing and able to help you regardless of the difficult situation you are having to deal with at such a young age.

    We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct. We can also be reached via live chat between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST.

    Best Wishes

    ~NRS

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    hey my dad is a drunk and he keeps on telling me i killed my mom shes passed on Christmas of a stroke...he tells me im the devil..and he wishes i die or kill myself..i really cant take this life anymore..its either i kill myself or run away..what can i do to get away from him??.

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  • ccsmod11
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    If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.Best, NRS

  • ccsmod11
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    Hi, thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage To reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if made to go live with your mom and her husband. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Support can also be found within the transgender community – like these agencies:
    • The Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 (www.thetrevorproject.org)
    • Trans Lifeline at 1-877-565-8860 (www.translifeline.org)
    • LGBT National Hotline at 1-888-843-4564 (www.glbthotline.org)
    • LGBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743

    You mentioned your friend told you that you would get into a lot of trouble if you ran away. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home – but not detained or locked up or anything. Options on ways to not live with your mom would be with her permission (which doesn’t sound like she is giving). The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Best, NRS

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    Hey, I'm 15 and transgender mtf I'm wanting to run away because my mom wants me to move to Tulsa with her I live with my grandparents currently and don't want to live with her and her husband I want to kill myself or runaway but have no where to go I've told a friend about it and they told me not to because I could get in a lot of trouble. I told them I didnt care that I don't want to live with my mom and her husband because her husband is mean and mentally abuses me. And I would rather die then live with them

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    Hi I'm 15 and thinking about running away because my mom wants me to move to where she is I live at my grandparents currently she wants me to move there during Christmas break and I don't want to live with her because I hate her husband and if I move in with them I will runaway or kill myself I have no where to go so if I run away I will be on the streets. Any tips

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply:I ran away at 15 and I wanted to know...


    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    I ran away at 15 and I wanted to know if I was to turn myself in would there be bad consequences?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-24-2018, 01:58 AM.

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