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  • Two questions: first one is regarding me- i am 15 & contemplating running away, but after further research im not entirely sure what could happen if it didn't go according to plan. & 2.) my boyfriend lives in an abusive household and he hasnt talked due to the fear of what will happen to his siblings (as he is the only one in harms way atm) and his abusive father has taken him out of the school he went to that i went to with him, and doesn't allow him to have a phone (i recently talked to him after he stole his brothers phone, and he had to break things off because we have no way of contact) and i don't know what to do to ensure his safety, he has ran away before but it backfired and i want to help him out but idk what all i can do that wont cause more issues.

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      Hello there –

      Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline and posting on our public forum. By helping you during your crisis, hopefully there are other youth that are in similar situations can read this for help as well. Reading your post, we can see that you have very similar questions to a lot of our callers and you’re looking for some answers. Hopefully we can help.

      As you have probably read throughout out our threads here, that we aren’t legal experts and that the age of majority does vary from state to state. So we aren’t going to go through that with you as you can find it easily. We want to make sure that you are safe doing whatever you decided to do, it's certainly a jump step to make. Having a solid plan about what you are planning on doing it might be a good idea so that you can think about what is reasonably possible for you to do and want isn’t. Factoring in these kinds of thoughts into your overall plan, again can possibly help you in your choice.

      It’s really unfortunate that your ex-boyfriend is dealing with abuse at home to the point where he is thinking about leaving home. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. As he has the right to protect himself for any abusive behavior, it sounds like he doesn’t really want to tell anyone because he is worried about his siblings. That’s really brave and considerate of him. Just know that he always has the right to report any abuse (physical, mental, sexual, or neglect/abandonment) to child protective service in the state if he chooses to do so in the end.

      One thing that may be helpful for him is to possibly note when the fighting/yelling is happening or any triggers of the fighting/yelling (some examples would be like after his abuser comes from work or after dinner and/or right when he gets home) and to try to find things that can keep himself away from home during those times (after school programs, sports program, study group at a friend’s house, getting involved in your volunteering, etc).

      If you or your ex-boyfriend want to talk more about running away from home or even what is going on at home, feel free to reach out to us via our 24-hour hotline or online chat.

  • Hi i’ve been planning on come out for a while now. But if i do i feel like i’ll have to leave home because they won’t accept me. They’ve basically made it to me that they dislike the LBGTQ community. So i was planning on leaving home, but i just don’t know where and what i’ll do.If i were to stay with them they would probably get violent or neglect me. I’m 14 and live in MD

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now, and we want you to know that we are here to help.
      It can be really difficult to come out to your family, especially if they have expressed a dislike for the LGBTQ community. They may be more open minded because you are their child and they may support you in whatever choice you make. Obviously we know that this is not always the case and they may not accept you. We know these conversations can be difficult that is why at NRS we offer conference calling. Conference calling works by you calling us and we can call out to your parents and help you have a conversation. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there for support. A good resource for you may be The LGBT National Hotline: 888-843-4564.
      We are not legal experts but we do have some basic information. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home. You mentioned possibly getting beaten, if this happens or before it happens you can contact the police. You can also report abuse by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • I’m 15 and I’m wanting to runaway. I can’t live in the environment I’m in my grandma who has guardianship, is crazy and really really mean. I have 2 places to go one my friends and my mom, but I don’t know if I will get in trouble. If I go get find by her or by police will I have to go back home if, I say what has been happening with my grandma. I don’t really know what to do to get away from her without her knowing.

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      Thanks for reaching out to NRS,
      It seems like home at your grandma’s is rough right now and she’s been treating you unfairly. It’s understandable that you would want to leave and find a safer pace to call home.
      It seems like your grandma has guardianship as such if you were to leave to your friends or mom’s house she could file a runaway report. In this case as a runaway the police could try to find you and make you go home. The police are supposed to listen to your reasons why you left, and if there is claims of abuse they are supposed to investigate those claims before forcing you back home. You won’t necessarily get in trouble but those you stay with may be at risk of harboring a runaway charges.
      Hopefully this information helps to clear thing sup. If you have more questions or just need someone to talk with you can always call our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

  • I don’t know what to write here but my parents and I got into a huge fight and I’m thinking about running away what should I do

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We hope to hear from you soon.

  • im 15 i turn 16 july 22, i really need to get away from my family, all my life my dad has been an asshole and put me through mental abuse, my grandma shows favoritism towards my sister everyday and treats me like ********, for a very long time i have been planing on running away since i was 6 i am very impatient and i want to leave now, but i don't have a car and i don't know where im going to go and i wanted to know if i run away now and the police look for me, when i turn 18 will it matter where im at? and i don't know what to do about school.

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      Hi there,
      Thanks for reaching out to us and explaining a bit about your situation. We are open 24/7, always here to listen and help in any way we can.

      We are so sorry that your family have been mistreating you at home. It sounds like you’re in a lot of pain there and that it’s becoming too stressful. It makes sense that you feel like you need to get out of that environment. Your life matters and your safety is very important to us. If you feel like getting out of the house is your best option, we are here for you. It’s not something you can be arrested for but if the police find you then they would most likely return you home. If you stay a runaway until you turn 18, then the runaway report will go away. If you do decide to go with that option, please give us a call or chat with us so we can make sure you stay safe. It’s understandable that school is something that’s concerning for you. There are laws in place that protect the educational rights of runaway and homeless youth. Please call or chat with us we can also can look to see if there’s any runaway shelters in your area.

      We are also able to do conference calls with youth and CPS, if you wanted to report any abuse.

      Again, thanks for reaching out to us. Please give us a call or chat with us on our website. We are open 24/7 and always here for you.

      Stay safe, NRS

  • Im a 14 kid from California, but I'm soon going to 15. My home life is horrible, my stepdad is horrible and my mom always sides with him. I want to runaway or go to a youth group home or shelter. I don't want to press charges against anyone, because I don't want my brother to be taken away from them. I'm an LGBT youth and im not sure who to contact or what to do, except leave my house for a while.

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      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).
      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need a safe place to stay.

      You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 44357. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I’ve been wanting to leave my home for longer than I can remember. My stepdad would hit me and my mom would turn a blind eye and when I would report it I had no way to prove that he did hit me. My mom is two different people, she takes my stepdads side every time and when he’s gone she complains about him being mean. I hate being called racist names and emotionally abused and put down. I wanna run away and I will do everything I can to make that happen, my house isn’t the safest place for me right now.

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for posting on our bulletin and sharing a bit about your situation with us. It sounds like your mom and step-dad have been making home feel dangerous and you feel as though leaving is your safest option.Making the decision to leave is not always easy, but we want you to know that we are here as a support for you.

      If you do not feel safe at home, we encourage you to take necessary steps to keep yourself safe. A helpful start would be to reach out to friends or family members you can stay with. A safe place to stay and a support system are very important during difficult situations. Perhaps someone you reach out to might also be able to advocate on your behalf and help to convince your mom to give her permission for you to stay somewhere else.

      You always have the option to make another report to child protective services or police. It is incredibly disappointing and disheartening they have not intervened to help previously, but hopefully they will step up now if you decide to make another report.

      We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      Stay strong and stay safe,
      NRS

  • Hello, I’m 15 and I life in an environment where I feel unsafe and neglected. I have plans to stay with a friend until the situation de-escalates. I’ll be safer than in my current living space. Do I have a right to stay away for a few days or can they force me to come back?

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. It was very brave of you to share a bit about your situation and to ask for help. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel cared for. If you are not feeling safe at home, we do encourage you to take whatever steps necessary to feel safe again.

      If you leave home without permission, your parents or guardians can report you as a runaway to the police. This is not illegal, so while you would not get into any legal trouble your parents can ask the police to return you home.

      You always have the option to tell the police that you left home because you did not feel safe. You can also make a report directly to child protective services. If you would like to learn more about this process and how to make a report, you can contact an advocate at Child help, 1-800-422-4453 childhelp.org.

      We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • hey, am a 15 year old girl i've been planing to run away a long time ago, but i feel its a bad idea. My mother is treating me like another human being. I usually cry almost every single day.please i need help

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      Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. We understand you are going
      through a really rough situation and we appreciate you reaching out to us. From
      what we understand you mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents permission. We understand
      that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative,
      or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you.
      Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • if you refuse to go home once found can your parents still take u home.

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      Thanks for your question. It's hard to say exactly what would happen in that situation, but our understanding is that if your parents demand that you return home, you are required to do that. But there may be extenuating circumstances in some situations.

      We'd like to help out further but need a little more information from you to see how to assist. The best way to do that would be if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. Please be safe. We hope to hear from you soon!

  • i have been planning to runaway but it's to dangerous.

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. It was very brave of you to share a bit about your situation and to ask for help. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel cared for. If you are not feeling safe at home, we do encourage you to take whatever steps necessary to feel safe again.

      If you leave home without permission, your parents or guardians can report you as a runaway to the police. This is not illegal, so while you would not get into any legal trouble your parents can ask the police to return you home.

      We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • Hi, I live in Kentucky and I want to run away and never come back if I run away for the fifth time what will happen to me if they find me? This would be my fifth time running away

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents (or whoever your legal guardian is) can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. Generally speaking, there is no kind of charge or formal legal repercussion for running away. If you are currently on parole or probation then there may be more serious consequences. If this is the case you may want to speak with your PO directly.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • I'm getting taken away from my foster family to go back to living with my parents and I decided I am not going to after years of mental neglect that the court couldn't see. I am 14 and I am planing on fleeing to another country once I have all my costs planned out and funded, I plan to stay there till 18 I am just concerned about what charges will I have once I am 18? Located in Australia

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      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country. Best of luck!
      Last edited by ccsmod3; 05-11-2020, 07:07 AM.

  • I've been wanting to run away for 3 years now and I know I have places to stay but I don't know if I should do it

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

      Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • I’m 15, I ran away about a week ago... my dad passed away when I was in 6th grade. Leaving my mom with full custody of me and my younger sister. She was dating an abusive man constantly putting his hands on her in front of us. Making his own drugs and selling them, he as well as my mom got addicted to drinking, smoking weed and now she does heroine. Her mood and attitude has been so bad, we’ve had multiple physical encounters and many altercations due to her not being sober. Shes “threatened” to call me in as a run away now, and has even said she wants to hurt me when I return home, which I know she will do. I’m just so mentally hurt and it’s got to the point where she doesn’t care for what I have to say.. so I just left, and idk what the next step should be for me.. should I be scared if she does call me in as a run away? I’m safe with family, but cps has gotten involved multiple times and still haven’t taken us out of her care. I want to get emancipated but I know she will not give me her permission.. I just want to know what a next step should be?..

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      Hello There,
      Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.
      Wow it seems like you have gone through a lot in your life, and we want you to know that you are not alone. It sounds like you have been living in a pretty scary situation, having drugs around and physical altercations does not seem very safe. We know that you have mentioned having CPS involved, maybe if you did another report talking about the drugs they would do another investigation. Also for you it may help to have some support. They have support groups for kids who have a parent or family member who is an addict/ alcoholic. They are called Alateen, to find a support group in your area you can call 888-425-2666. Sometimes it helps to talk to people and here stories similar to yours. Also another good resource for you may be SAMHSA (substance abuse and mental health services association). They can be reached by calling: 1800-662-4357.
      Also we are not legal experts but if your mother did file a runaway report it is a possibility that you can be brought back home. But if you mention what you have mentioned here the police may do an investigation. Also for emancipation you may not need your parents permission if you are living in an unsafe household. You can find out more about emancipation by calling your local court house.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore your options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. Best of luck!
      NRS
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