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    ccsmod2
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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now, and we want you to know that we are here to help.
    It can be really difficult to come out to your family, especially if they have expressed a dislike for the LGBTQ community. They may be more open minded because you are their child and they may support you in whatever choice you make. Obviously we know that this is not always the case and they may not accept you. We know these conversations can be difficult that is why at NRS we offer conference calling. Conference calling works by you calling us and we can call out to your parents and help you have a conversation. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there for support. A good resource for you may be The LGBT National Hotline: 888-843-4564.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some basic information. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home. You mentioned possibly getting beaten, if this happens or before it happens you can contact the police. You can also report abuse by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS
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    Hi i’ve been planning on come out for a while now. But if i do i feel like i’ll have to leave home because they won’t accept me. They’ve basically made it to me that they dislike the LBGTQ community. So i was planning on leaving home, but i just don’t know where and what i’ll do.If i were to stay with them they would probably get violent or neglect me. I’m 14 and live in MD

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline and posting on our public forum. By helping you during your crisis, hopefully there are other youth that are in similar situations can read this for help as well. Reading your post, we can see that you have very similar questions to a lot of our callers and you’re looking for some answers. Hopefully we can help.

    As you have probably read throughout out our threads here, that we aren’t legal experts and that the age of majority does vary from state to state. So we aren’t going to go through that with you as you can find it easily. We want to make sure that you are safe doing whatever you decided to do, it's certainly a jump step to make. Having a solid plan about what you are planning on doing it might be a good idea so that you can think about what is reasonably possible for you to do and want isn’t. Factoring in these kinds of thoughts into your overall plan, again can possibly help you in your choice.

    It’s really unfortunate that your ex-boyfriend is dealing with abuse at home to the point where he is thinking about leaving home. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. As he has the right to protect himself for any abusive behavior, it sounds like he doesn’t really want to tell anyone because he is worried about his siblings. That’s really brave and considerate of him. Just know that he always has the right to report any abuse (physical, mental, sexual, or neglect/abandonment) to child protective service in the state if he chooses to do so in the end.

    One thing that may be helpful for him is to possibly note when the fighting/yelling is happening or any triggers of the fighting/yelling (some examples would be like after his abuser comes from work or after dinner and/or right when he gets home) and to try to find things that can keep himself away from home during those times (after school programs, sports program, study group at a friend’s house, getting involved in your volunteering, etc).

    If you or your ex-boyfriend want to talk more about running away from home or even what is going on at home, feel free to reach out to us via our 24-hour hotline or online chat.
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    Two questions: first one is regarding me- i am 15 & contemplating running away, but after further research im not entirely sure what could happen if it didn't go according to plan. & 2.) my boyfriend lives in an abusive household and he hasnt talked due to the fear of what will happen to his siblings (as he is the only one in harms way atm) and his abusive father has taken him out of the school he went to that i went to with him, and doesn't allow him to have a phone (i recently talked to him after he stole his brothers phone, and he had to break things off because we have no way of contact) and i don't know what to do to ensure his safety, he has ran away before but it backfired and i want to help him out but idk what all i can do that wont cause more issues.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your mom and the person she's dating. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    So my mom has been doing drugs since she had my brother 11 years ago, shes dating someone who is bipolar but refuses to do anything about it. I've tried telling my mom that I'm hurt but she wont do anything. I would call cps but I'm afraid theyll put me into foster care, I dont have any family that could take me in, which might turn out worse. I have a friend that's willing to let me stay with him but I dont want him to get in trouble. I really dont know what to do.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it seems like you are unhappy at home and feel like leaving is an option. First of all your safety is our top concern. If you were to run away without a place to go you might end up sleeping somewhere on the streets exposed to the elements, making a plan of where to go may be a good first step in being safe if you do decide to leave. There are shelters, or friends/family might take you in for a while too.
    At 15 your parents/guardians could file a runaway report on you. This is a status offence not a criminal one so you won’t be in trouble with the law but police would make you go back home. Punishment from your parents would be up to them.
    Hopefully that information is helpful, if you have more questions or just need to talk you can reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online.
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    What if I runaway with no where to go because I’m not happy at home? I’m 15 and will I get into trouble?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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    If I’m 15 in South Carolina. what charges will I face when I act upon running away? I would just like to know the consequences, either way I’m going to leave my home without tipping people off.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello, and thank you for taking the time to share a post on our Bulletin.

    While we are not legal experts by any means, we can speak generally on this issues you brought up.

    Generally speaking your parents or legal guardians can decide where you live until you reach the age of majority (18 in most states). If you leave home without permission, your parents do have the right to report you as a runaway to the police. You are right that running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. A status offense is something you cannot do because of your age. This means that your parents can ask that police return you home. Your mom and step dad would not necessarily get into trouble if you ran away. Your parents are obligated to ensure you have a safe place to live until you turn 18. If they do not do this then they they could get into legal trouble for neglect. If your parents notify police that you have left without permission and might not be safe then this would likely prevent them from getting into legal trouble for you running away. Depending on the laws in your area, anyone that you stay with or who helps you to runaway could get into legal trouble for harboring a runaway or contributing to the delinquency of a minor. The best way to know the laws in your area is to call the non-emergency number for the local police department to ask about their runaway and harboring protocols.

    We hope this information was able to answer all of your questions. If you would like to talk more about this or your situation, please do not hesitate to reach out again anytime by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.
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    im 15 and i live in california and i looked it up and it is not a crime to run away in california and i have a plan also i have someone i could stay with that can take care of me and they don't mind if i lived with them my mom only said no because she wants me to go to school here but i don't want to stay here anymore is that going to effect me in anyway saying its not a crime to run away? Also the only legal truble someone would get into is my mom and step dad now what would you say about this??? ps. just wondering not really going to run away but i wanted to know if i could if i wanted to? is this true or not to be able to or not?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. It must be very hard to come to grips with. Sometimes it helps to look for support in times such as this.

    We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. What you have been experiencing sounds very sad and very, very unfair. You do not deserve to be treated this way by your mother. It’s not your fault that she behave's this way. It sounds emotionally abusive. Your feelings are important and they matter.
    You are deserving as anyone that wants to be happy.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS
    ccsmod4
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    Last edited by ccsmod4; 04-02-2020, 04:15 AM.
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    Hi I’m 14 and I want to run away. I have nowhere to go. My dad died three months ago and my mom took me from my step family. They were more family than she’s ever been. She used to be abusive. She’s still at least mentally abusive. I feel lonely and unloved. I need to leave. Advice?
    ccsmod4
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    Last edited by ccsmod4; 04-02-2020, 04:46 AM.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Getting into a fight with your mom sounds pretty intense and it makes sense that you want some space. If you left home without your parents permission, they could call the police and file a runaway report. It’s not illegal to run away and you won’t get arrested or go to jail, but if the police know where you are, they can notify your parents and then bring you back home. If you were just leaving for a night, it would be pretty unlikely that your friend’s parents would get into trouble, but there is a risk of something called “harboring a runaway” if they shelter you many times and if your parents want to try and press charges.

    If you want to talk more about what is going on and what options you have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org

    Take care,
    NRS
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