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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult to manage situations like this and you don’t have to do it alone. No one deserves to be told that they are not loved and be verbally abused. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.

    Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. The people you’re staying with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a minor, depending on your age. Policies may vary by each department. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state.

    If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

    One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your mom how you are feeling about the things your dad says to you. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

    Wish you the best
    -NRS.

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    I feel like everything I do is wrong. I am the oldest child of 4 and my stepdad favors all of them I am always stuck in my room alone I can never hang out with my family and I get in trouble if I try talking to my mom. I just am tired of being told by him that no one loves me and everyone wants me gone. I just wanna run away but the thing is is that I don't ever wanna come home. I hate the verbal abuse and having to go into school pretending everything is ok when its not. I dont know what to do anymore and I am to afraid to tell anyone the things he says to me because I dont want my mom to hate me. I wanna run away but I dont know how.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents/guardians can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents/guardians.

    It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. This can all influence your decision to leave.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    What happens when a 12 year old runs away and what are the consequences?

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  • ccsmod2
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    We very much appreciate you reaching out for help and contacting us. It sounds as if being at home is a very big struggle at the moment. We also would like to thank you for trusting us enough to tell us about the self harm and health issues you are dealing with. Bodies come in all kinds, and just because people say mean things doesn’t mean you aren’t perfect as you are. The National Institute on Mental Illness (name.org) and National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (suicidepreventionlifeline.org) have great people to talk to if you are interested and can be done over chat.
    If you would like to talk to us more, you can chat with us online or give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We could listen to you, help you connect with a therapist or legal resources, and come up with a plan. Please don’t hesitate to reach out, we would love to hear from you!

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    Hey, I'm 15 years old and I've been thinking about running away. I'm aware that running away doesn't mean that I'll escape all my problems and I can just live on my own and do what ever I want, but I don't want to be home anymore. I have 2 sisters and I'm the middle child, I'm usually the forgotten one. The disappointment. December 2018 I had brought my bf into my house without permission and we had sex. My parents found out and I got into a lot of trouble. I know it was really bad what I did and I shouldn't be expecting to be treated like an angel but ever since then my whole family's been making me feel like garbage. Like I'm worthless. To me it feels like emotional abuse. I never like to cry in front of anyone so I go in my room and I let it all out. Since my family never sees me cry they think I just don't care and I just don't have feelings. But their words hurt. I have hyperthyroidism so i lose weight fast, meaning I eat like a normal girl but my body burns my fat very quick. Thus, I'm very skinny. My mom judges my body when I wear something tight. She says really mean things and although I laugh and brush it off like a joke.. it actually really hurts. I have anxiety and in my head every little thing is a BIG deal. I hate the way I am, I think I'm so ugly. My parents took me out of public school so now I have school online. They took me from all my friends, and they take my phone all the time so I have no one to talk to. My older sister judges me and my younger sister doesn't understand. I went through depression before and i used to hurt myself. I stopped hurting myself because I know it's not safe and I know it won't fix anything. But still, sometimes i do wanna hurt myself. When I used to hurt myself I did it as a way to distract me from my current emotional pain. So i could lose focus of the pain in my heart and focus on the pain in my wrists. I really really want to run away and be happy because I'm not happy at home. I'm not happy at all. I told my mom I wanted to go to therapy but she said no. What do I do?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. No one should have to deal having to decide between running away or harming themselves. If you feel you are at risk of hurting yourself, we strongly urge you to call us on the phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. We can help talk you through options or just discuss your situation. We are open 24/7 year round and are confidential.

    Regarding running away at 17 in Washington, the age of majority is 18. This means that if you leave without their knowledge, your guardians will probably file a missing persons report. If they fail to do so, they may be charged with negligence. If you run away to a friend's house and the authorities find out, the friend may be charged with harboring you as a runaway. With that said, if you do not feel safe at home, leaving may be the safest option.

    There are a few other options worth considering. It seems like you may benefit from having someone to talk to and hear you out without judgment. We have many sliding scale counselors in our database and could refer you to one. If your parents are open to it, we could also help you find a family therapist that could help make you feel heard in your relationship with your parents. Another option to consider is a conference call through the National Runaway Safeline. If you are interested, we could conference call with you and your parents in order to referee and try to make sure everyone feels heard in the conversation.

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    Hello I’m am of 17 years old and am planning on running away before I kill myself, but I don’t know if they can file a report still

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Running away has been on and off my mind.

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are frustrated with the relationship between you and your sister. Sometimes the conflict may become so upsetting you just want a time out. You did as good job reaching out today.
    We can assist you with trying to first locate a youth crisis shelter in your area and then contacting them with you via conference call to get more information about their services.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    We look forward to hearing from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Running away has been on and off my mind. I don't live in a bad place or anything, but the arguments between my sister and I get so bad that I want to leave. Knowing that running away where I live is a status offense, but I was owonderin if I went to a shelter it would be okay.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi,
    It takes a lot of strength to share your story and ask for help, so we’re so glad you reached out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    We’re sorry to hear that you don’t feel safe at home. No one should have to feel that way. If you feel comfortable you could discuss your mom’s behavior with a trusted adult, like a teacher, family member, or friend. Furthermore, you could also file an abuse report, which could decrease the probability of you being forced to go back home if the police found you (though we are not legal experts). Fore more information, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. If you were to runaway, your mom could file a runaway report, so the police would have to bring you back home if they found you. However, they do not typically actively look for runaway youth. Furthermore, running away is only a status offence. In terms of places you could go, other family members and friends are certainly options, but they could get in trouble for harboring a runaway if the police found out. However, once again the police will probably not be actively looking for you. Shelters are also options, which we can help you find if you would like to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also text SAFE and your zip code to 44357 to find safe places to stay in your area.

    Thanks again for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Feel free to chat or call us any time. We are always here to listen and help.

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    hello im 15 turning 16 and my mom has been mean to me the last 3 years she says im gonna grow up like my dad when I do something wrong which he is in prison for my raping my sister so ever science I was younger I felt like she hasn't been as fair to me rather than my other siblings and she wants to send me away even after I get better about talking back to her and not doing things im not supposed too. the first time I do something wrong she says she still wants to send me to JVC or Boystown and she is always drinking and even comes after me and trys to hit me so I figure that if I just wait till im 18 to go to collage and move out but its to hard I barley feel safe at my house so if I was to run away because I don't feel safe here were could I go and not be chased because I refuse to go back home when i leave if she yells at me anymore. and is it illegal to run away from my mother at 15.

    So I live in Iowa and I am 15 and if I was run away for a week or so because I don't feel safe at home if I was to stay at a friends for awhile what would happen and if I just say I was in the woods how would they now your was at a friends house.?
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  • ccsmod6
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. It’s not always easy to ask for help, and we’re glad you did.
    You definitely deserve to feel safe in your own home, and you deserve to not fear being hurt. If you are ever in immediate danger, please call 911 to keep yourself safe.
    There are people out there who can help you, if you are being abused or are afraid of being abused. The National Child Abuse Hotline is one such organization; you can call them 24 hours a day at 1-800-422-4453, or you can find their website at childhelp.org. You can also always call us any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY, or chat with us at www.1800runaway.org.
    If you are feeling depressed and you need someone to talk with, you might want to try talking with your school counselor. You can also call the National Alliance on Mental Illness; they can be reached at 1-800-950-NAMI, or by texting NAMI to 741741.
    If you want to talk in greater depth about your situation, please don’t hesitate to call or chat us. We are available 24/7, and can help you work through your situation, or to discuss available options and resources. Thank you for reaching out, and best of luck.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    im 15 and im scared to go home because i feel like im going to get beat if i don't do things perfectly so i just really want to run away and im always depressed when im there can u help m

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi there. Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline and sharing part of your story with us. It must be really challenging having to come home to a place that makes you feel as if you are suffering. It’s understandable why you would want to live with your friend especially if you consider it to be a much safer environment. It might be helpful to talk with someone like a counselor or a therapist about how you feel when you’re at home. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (1800-950-NAMI) may be able to help and may be able to provide some good coping strategies when you’re feeling stressed. However, if you do decide to leave without permission it may just be important to keep in mind that your parents do have the right to file a runaway report. If a runaway report is filed and you make contact with police you may be required to return back home. However, you do have the right to let authorities know that you don’t feel safe at home. It may also be important to know that your friend and their parents could also be charged with harboring a runaway if you are caught staying with them. We hope this information was helpful. If you would like to discuss your situation further please feel free to reach out to us via phone at 1800-runaway or come chat at 1800runaway.org
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