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  • #16
    My parents want me to move out next year. I have a little money, and I need a roommate. What shall I do?

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS. Its sounds like you are in a tough spot and needing to come up with a plan to live independently.

      Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway.  As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live.  We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

      We are available 24/7 by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through live chat at 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk more about your plans or you are interested in any resources.

      NRS

  • #17
    I’m a 20 year old soon to be father and a victim of emotional abuse and gaslighting. It had always been bad with my family and I was always made to believe it was my fault and that I was a terrible person it wasn’t until I told them about the pregnancy that I saw their true colors. I want to be there for the baby and my girlfriends family is supportive of me being there yet my parents are threatening to get legal guardianship to prevent me from seeing the child. I tried to fly once before and they took my passport and I missed my flight. I have another flight booked and I plan to leave tonight. I want to change my name and seek legal help and stay far away from my family. I plan to inform the local police that I am not missing and that I am running away. What should I do to avoid this legal guardianship?

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out, it sounds like things have been pretty tough at home lately. We hope to help as best we can. Since you are over 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful, if your girlfriend’s family is willing to help, that’s a great step in the right direction! Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses.
      Also, if you are traveling within the United States, you should be able to board to the plane with just a state ID but it’s safer to have your passport. It might be a good idea to call the airline your traveling with to confirm just in case. In regards, to the guardianship of your baby, your parents have no legal rights over the baby and could not simply request guardianship because they want to. The only reason why you or your girlfriend would lose guardianship over the child is if there is abuse going on or neglect. Being there for your baby is all you need to do!
      We are here to listen and help however we can. If you would like to discuss any of these topics further, please don’t hesitate to reach out!

      Stay strong,
      NRS

  • #18
    I'm 27 3/4s and I've had it up to here with my so-called control freak Neat freak mother. She doesn't let me do what i want or get what I want and though I'm over 18, she treats me like a baby but I don't act like it. She ruined my dreams of being famous. She doesn't understand me anymore. All she cares is my meds since I'm autistic. She doesn't accept me for being different and being Me. She is too overprotective she breaks promises, I've had it!!!!!

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are frustrated with how your mother has been treating you and that she doesn’t seem to accept you for who you are, which you deserve to be exactly who you are. Since you are over 18, legally you are allowed to leave and stay elsewhere if you want to. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please contact our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #19
    I am 19 years old ,as a kid ive lived in a toxic household .But now that i am 19 my parents have turned worse they do not care of my wellbeing all they care is how proud they are they raised a kid while being strict. The thing about them is that they are not strict i am not allowed to talk to any male not even have a boyfriend, i have an app tracker in my phone to track every damn move i make, If i have an appointment at school they think im going out and getting pregnant or not even attending school. Right now i am about to graduate from medical assistant programm and all those months i spent in school they belived i was just missin and not even attending. i wished i was able to be a regular teenager ive never had friends thanks to this . ill probably end up running away soon

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi,

      We are glad you reached out to us for help. It sounds like you have been enduring a lot of parental stress and still managing to achieve goals for yourself like graduating from a medical assistant program.

      In most states the age of majority (when you are considered an adult) is 18 years old. If you are living in one of those states (which is very likely since it is typical) being 19 you are an adult. As an adult your parents no longer have any legal authority over you. You can leave whenever you want. Live wherever you want. And go about your life however you think is best.

      It is totally understandable that you may choose to stay in your current situation with your parents until you have a plan and resources to support yourself.

      We would like you to contact us to discuss your state’s age of majority, to help you with your plan to independent living and to support you dealing with your overly strict parents. You can contact us anytime for a chat through our website or on our phone crisis hotline at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7 and both are completely confidential.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      NRS
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