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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    It seems like you aren’t feeling supported by your family, partly because of your pansexual identity. You deserve a supportive, safe home where you feel comfortable being yourself. You may want to explore alternative coping mechanisms since you have mentioned some good reasons to be concerned about being on your own without parent support. A few good resources are https://itgetsbetter.org/ and https://nami.org/Home to learn about some ways to manage your own mental health even if you don’t feel supported by your parents.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    We are sorry that you do not like your parents or your living situation, and is unfortunate that your parent’s did not understand when you told them you were pansexual.
    One option to consider would be to talk with a school counselor about what you are going through at home. They may be able to provide support and tips on ways to talk with your parents.

    We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what would happen if you left home. Because you are a minor your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. You are right with it getting cold outside, it is possible staying on the streets could be dangerous. It may be best to see if you have any friends you could stay with. We can also help you look for shelters.

    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    So... this might sound stupid because I’m not being abused or anything but...I’m 13 and I really just want to leave. I hate my mother she never understands me and when she’s mad at me she’ll yell and sometimes swear. I don’t like talking to her about anything and neither my dad because he gets angry easy and he also just doesn’t talk to me much. When I told my parents I thought I was pansexual they kinda just said like ‘well you’re to young to really know that’(I’m 13). So I want to run away but I don’t know how and I’m scared. I’m homeschooled and I don’t have any friends to stay with, I don’t like any of my other family members and even if I did they all live to far away... another problem is it’s nearly winter and it’s already really cold where I live and I’m worried I’d freeze. I also have no money saved up and I’m to young to get a job. I know this isn’t as serious as other people but please help me.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in an incredibly tough spot. Although it can be scary sometimes, reaching out for help is a great first step.

    Have you tried speaking to a school support counselor or another trusted adult about how you are feeling and what you are experiencing? It can be hard to experience these sorts of things when you are feeling alone but speaking with someone you trust who has your best interest in mind can really help. You should also not be treated this way, and you also have the ability to call the local police and file an abuse report if that is something you are comfortable with doing.

    Another option could be to call into the National Runaway Safeline call service and speak with someone about your options. Through that service, we can provide you with resources, talk with you through how you are feeling, and can even assist with filing a police report if that is what you choose to do. The number is 1-800-786-2929, and you can call 24/7 and someone will be available to speak with you.

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    Uh..Hi I’m 13 years old and I’m thinking to runaway from my parents.
    I’ve been depressed for close to 2 years now, When I go to school I have a lot of friends but I feel like i’m all by my self.
    When I came back from school my dad is at work (Fact about my dad: He swear, yell, throw things, and he even hits me with stuff he have in he’s hands he even broke my phone just because I was texting my boyfriend*ex*) And my mom is a busy woman she have to take care of my 8month brother. They doesn’t let me text or have a phone, I got sexual abused by my dad, (he’s my step dad) He saw my private places and always winks at me and he doesn’t even wear clothes he only wears underwear it’s really uncomfortable to me. My mom is very scary to be honest, she usually yells in front of my brother and she even hits me with Filial son. It really hurts a lot then you’ll ever know. I even got bruise on my arms and my legs. If my parents and I start to fight I always get Abused.
    I told my mother that I’m depressed and she said it’s just my imagination and she said I’m crazy she just won’t listen to me either, I told her that I’m thinking to die or cut my arm, she said just die. It hurts so much I feel like she hates me so much, My mother got married at 21 or 22, she was pregnant at 24. My step dad still asks me to touch my body and look at my private place it’s really horrifying and scary....I packed my stuffs and ready to live but i don’t have phone or anything, I’m writing this on my School Ipad...I’m so worried.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with you and your mom. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. That's something to keep in mind if your girlfriend's parents will be in the house you are staying at.For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hey I'm 12 and I wanna run away to my girlfriends house because me and my mum are always fighting and i cant take it anymore. should I run away

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out, we know it takes a lot of courage to open up to others and you should feel proud of yourself. You said that you don't feel like being alive anymore and want to kill yourself. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

    It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 13 I want to kms I don’t feel like being alive anymore I’m not happy at all I’m a loser I don’t do anything and I’m stupid but before I kms I wanna runaway to see if that will help I have 1 thousand dollars and my bags packed

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Home is usually a safe place and we are sorry to hear that home does not feel safe for you.
    Abuse is never okay and it is frustrating that you and your siblings are going through that. You always have the right to file an abuse report, and there are a few ways you can do that. One option to consider is calling Child Help, they can be reached at 1800-422-4453. Another option would be to talk with your school counselor because they are mandated reporters they are required to make a report. If you are ever in immediate danger please call your local police.
    You also mentioned running away, we are not legal experts but we can explain what could happen if you were to leave home without permission. Your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely will bring you back home. You know your life the best so we believe that only you can make the decision if you want to run away or not.
    We hope this may help with your situation and help with a decision. If you want to talk more or see what other options are available please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am currently 13 years old , and I feel unsafe in my home. Both of my parents have extreme anger issues , and constantly lash out on my siblings and I. My dad has started to become more abusive as the days pass. Today my mom screamed at me , and told me to "Get out of my face!". I've been thinking about running away for a while now , but I don't know if I'm mentally and physically prepared for what's ahead. I know that life out there would be better than in here.. What do I do?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported. Abuse of any kind is never okay and not your fault.

    It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is always available if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Reaching out to a school counselor or another adult that you trust could also be a good outlet for you as well.

    You also have the option to report the abuse going on at home. There is an organization called Child Help that advocates for young people to keep them our of harm's way. You can get help with making a report in order to have a social worker intervene to make sure you have somewhere safe to live. You can reach out to them at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelphotline.org to find support.

    Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you decide that you need to leave home it is important that you have a safe place to go. The National Safe place can help you by texting "safe" and your current location to 44357 for the nearest safe place. You can call our hotline anytime at 1-800-786-2929 or use our livechat at www.1800runaway.org to talk more about your situation and further explore your options. We are here to listen and help.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I’m thirteen and I’ve ran away multiple times.....I’ve been sexually abused and I get yelled at constantly. I’ve tried to commit suicide a couple of times and I’ve been to a facility once. I feel like I want to run away again what should I do

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.


    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi. I'm 13 years old and I am planning on running away. I haven't been abused or anything, but my mom gets irrationally angry and will scream at me for no reason. My younger sister is constantly rude to me and neither of them seem to care about me at all. I feel like my only options are suicide or running away. Every day there's so much pressure on me and I'm scared about what she'll say next. I've done lots of research and already packed my bags but I don't know if I should go.

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