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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Services! We know that it can be tough to reach out for support sometimes, and we're glad that you did. It sounds like things are pretty challenging at home for you right now, but it's great that you've been able to find some support within your girlfriend. While it does seem like her support has been pretty helpful to you, it also sounds like you're hoping for a little more. Recognizing that need within yourself is important, and we commend you for doing so.

    National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is a great resource that can help provide you with support services and treatment options that might help. You can check them out at nami.org or by calling their hotline at 1-800-950-6264. You can also text NAMI to 741741. Another great resource that could be useful is the National Suicide Prevention Line. Their website is www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, and they also have a 24/7 chat. Their phone number is 1-800-273-8255.

    While we can't tell you if you should runaway or not, there are absolutely safe places that you can go to. If you'd like more resources specific to your general area, please feel free to reach out to us, anytime. We're available by phone (1-800-RUNAWAY) or chat through our website (1800runaway.org), 24/7. We're here to listen if that's what you need at the moment, but we're also here to connect you with whatever resources you might need.

    Hang in there.

    NRS

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    I want to leave where I'm living. I'm 16 and will be 17 in Jan. What do I do or what can I do if want to leave. I have a girlfriend but the people I'm living with have guardianship over me. There not my real parents and they never felt like it. For a very long long time I thought I didn't have a voice so instead of speaking up I acted like I was happy so everyone else could be happy and don't have to worry about me and because of that I lost my emotions and didn't tell anyone how I felt until freshmen of highschool when I meant my girlfriend, where she told me its okay and with her I got my emotions back and she gave me a voice. I don't want to live here because of how they treat me, I never felt they care about me and the favoritism here is crazy. I don't know if my sister feel the same way but i know some time back my sister cut herself and I did so as well but I don't know her reason but mine was to have some controlled over me life since I felt like these people that are my guardian have soooooo much power. For a long time I wanted to kill myself and I know people say I have so much to live for but I don't care for that I want to be free and that's the easy way to get it. I still want to kill myself but for some reason I believe so can help me so that's why I'm writing this because no one around can help me even though my girlfriend will try. Is there anything I could do to GET OUTOF HERE.... should I run away... if I do what happens is there a safe place I could go to

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 and I want to live somewhere else other than here I'm just miserable and stressed I can't get my work done and I'm having no fun or happiness again. All because of my father who won't allow me to be happy every single time I do something wrong that he really doesn't like. Never wants to talk to me or listen to me and never takes in to consideration and understanding me I hate it and I want to play online with my friends again and in this pandemic those are the only people I have right now so please can I have some help.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. your nan's action definitely sounds risky and it makes sense that you wouldn't want to live with someone who may be exposed to (or even infected) COVID-19. If you are interested you can go to the CDC's website here https://www.cdc.gov/publichealthgate...partments.html to locate your state's Department of Health Services. From there, you can reach out to see where testing is available.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your legal guardian(s) can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. If your parents are your legal guardians and they give you the OK to live elsewhere/on your own then you should be ok.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hello I’m 17 I am currently living with my nan( grandmother) my parents gave their permission for it. But I don’t know how much longer I can live with her, she’s diving me crazy with the things she does. Recently she went and met with some guy at a hotel (during the Covid-19 lockdown) and he possibly gave her Covid-19 and I feel like she has put my life at risk for her own selfish needs. I can’t really stay with my parents, my dad is emotionally and mentally abusive to me and my mom. I don’t know if it’s legal for me to live on my own if I got my parents permission for it, I do work a full time job (I dropped out of school last year 2019)?

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  • ccsmod9
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    It sounds like you are interested in emancipation. We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18. The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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    I am 16 years old and I really do think I am capable of living on my own. I have tried to live with my mom but all we do is argue and argue and it’s not healthy. She refuses to let me see my father witch I am supposed to legally see him , I have not seen my father in 2 years. I do have to a plan I was planning on moving in with my older brother. When I move in with him I was planning on getting a job , getting a car and finishing highschool in a stable home. My mom has been in and out with guys and my step father has now left because of (emotional abusive).My mother has lied to me and my life has never been stable from in and out of school to different states.It has been really hard . And I just want to know if I can get emancipated.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us we understand how difficult it can be to openly talk about things that have been going on. It sounds like the situation your in can be frustrating, especially after having talked to so many others and not gotten much help, we want to be able to support you in the best way we can. It’s important that you know that you do not deserve to be treated this way for any reason. You mentioned abuse going on at home, including physical abuse, Child Help could be a something you may be interested in. Child Help is the National Child Abuse Hotline, you may feel comfortable talking to them about filing a report or talking about what’s going on if you don’t feel comfortable making a report yet, you can reach them at 1-800-422-4453 or through a live chat at www.childhelp.org. We know it can be uncomfortable talking about abuse, so you may only disclose what you’re comfortable with. In regards to leaving your home, you do have a few options if you decided you could no longer stay there. We are not here to tell you what to do or force anything upon you, although we would not advise towards going to your boyfriends house if this will be the first time you meet him. It may be safer to meet him once you have a stable place to stay so that you don’t leave far from friends and family if anything doesn’t go according to plan. You should also know that running away is not a crime, you will not get into legal trouble because of running away although if you do stay with friends they could potentially get charged for harboring a runaway. Although this is not common we feel it is something you should be aware of. If you decide to try out a shelter instead (or a transitional living program possibly once your 16) please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. That way we can find things specifically close to your city and state. Again, we recognize the difficulty of reaching out and thank you for choosing to contact us. We wish you the best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    im 15 (16 next month) and i really want to move out of my house with my boyfriend (we are in a long distance relationship) or a friend because my parents are kind of abusive like they hit me sometimes if i do something wrong or not their way and they are always pinning things on me even though it wasn’t me and they know it and my mum just like makes me feel like I’m not a part of the family, like I think around three times my mum said to me that she wishes she never had me and that i am a disappointment to the family and that if im going to be living with them i will need to pay the pills or they will kick me out and I’ll be homeless and she wouldn’t care or anything. I have also talked to some of my other family about this but they don’t believe me or they wont want to do anything because they will get into trouble with my parents, so like I don’t know what to do anymore because I have talked to many people and nothing no one cares or they don’t believe me so yeah I don’t know what to do like there is so much more stuff that has happened and its just so hard for me to deal with?

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Safe Place. It sounds like you are having difficult time at home and would like to change your living situation. Know that you deserve to feel safe and loved where you live.

    You mentioned wanting to live with your grandpa instead of your mom. Because you are a minor, leaving home without your guardian’s permission could result in you getting sent back home and your grandpa potentially getting charged with harboring a runaway. However, we are not legal experts and rules vary depending on the situation and location. One way to gauge your rights is to reach out to the local, non-emergency police line with hypothetical and anonymous questions. Another option we offer is a conference call. To hold a conference call, you would reach out to us and we would call your mom and hold a three-way discussion between you and your mom. We would moderate the call to make sure it would be productive and respectful. Additionally, anything you tell us without your mom on the line is kept confidential.

    We are here 24/7 to talk if you would like to reach out to us. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and it is toll-free and confidential. We are here to listen and on a call, we would be able to explore more options specific to you and your family.

    Stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 16 and I wanna Live my grandpa but my mom won’t let me leave she took my bedroom door and I’ve lived with my grandpa the last 6 years and I want to leave bc she never listens and when I defend myself at school I get grounded

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. You asked a really great question. In general, your parents get to decide where you live until you turn the age of majority (18 in most states). If you were to leave without permission, they could report you as a runaway. Running away is not illegal and you would not be arrested, but police would likely return you home. You know your situation best and when leaving is going to be the right move for you. We are here 24/7 to be a support for you while you navigate this situation.

    Please reach out anytime by phone (800-786-2929) or use our online chat services if you would like to talk more about your situation.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So I'm 16 and want to move in with my 17 year old boyfriend who will so be 18 and in his own apartment near my work and school I want to know if it's possible for me to move out even if my parents don't like it

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit of your story with us. It seems like you are going through a really difficult time right now.
    We are not legal experts but because you are a minor even at 16 if you were to leave home your parents do have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely will bring you back home. Also whoever you stay with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway which usually consists of a fine or a misdemeanor
    There are some options you could consider. One option you could try would be to speak to a school counselor about what is going on sometimes they would be able to provide you with resources. Another option to consider is emancipation. Emancipation would grant you adult rights before turning 18. To find out more about emancipation you could call your local court house or give us a call for free legal aid numbers.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to help. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS
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