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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I Want to live with my aunt in Arizona or I want emancipate I don’t have money for a lawyer but I can get money to fly to Arizona I don’t want to in Virginia my family turned on me and I got my dad but I don’t want to live alone because I don’t feel like I can be myself around him

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can.

    Now we aren't legal experts here and you might have already read on this forum thread about what could happen if you were to leave home before the age of majority. So we won’t get into that since you can find it fairly easily. They might not spend too much resources and time trying to locate you in order to bring you back home. We haven't heard of anyone being dragged away by the police. From what we hear is that they have a conversation with you to figure out what is going on, but like we said we can't say for sure that is how even officer is going to respond.

    If you have a specific question that you can't find the answer to on any of these threads or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now, you can always call us. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. We can also talk to you about the possibility to report any abuse that you might be facing at home.

    Best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    im 16 gonna be 17 in four months i don't wanna live with my parents anymore my sister moved out a long time ago and she doesn't want me to live with her both my parents are emotionally abusive i hate them both i sometimes love them i honestly think they would be happier with me not in there lives

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us at home. It sounds like you have been feeling uncared for and not safe at home because of the way your parents have been treating you. It seems you have been under immense stress and pain at home and not able to get the support that you deserve. It is understandable you would want to explore some options for leaving.

    The easiest way to leave home as a minor is with your parents' permission. We know that this can be very challenging, so maybe there is a family member, counselor, or other trusted adult who can advocate for your needs. You already mentioned that you would not qualify for emancipation since you are not able to financially support yourself. The other option would be to go through child protective services especially if you feel your safety is a concern. Child Help is an organization that provides support to youth in dangerous or unhealthy living situations. You can speak with a counselor to learn more about the reporting process and how CPS might be able to intervene in your situation, 1-800-422-4453; childhelp.org.

    We want you to know that we are here to listen and help as much as possible as you navigate this challenging situation. If you would like to talk more and explore your possible option, you can reach out anytime by phone or through live chat. 1-800-RUNAWAY; 1800runaway.org.

    Stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    how can i get out at 16? i cannot affort to support myself or qualify for emancipation. my mom is an alcholic and my dad is physically abusive to me and my brother who is 17. my mom goes days ignoring us and when she does talk to us its just to put us down and point out everything wrong with us. she's to desparate for attention to kick my dad out leaving us in a toxic emotionally abusive. how do we get out?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us about what you are going through and sharing some of your story. It is obvious you are in a very tough position and that there are a lot of different factors making you feel stuck right now. We want to walk through a few of these with you, and to encourage you to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or our chat service at www.1800runaway.org if you want to talk more about any of these issues.

    You specifically asked about whether parents are allowed to verbally degrade you, hurt you, and laugh at you. From your description, this sounds like emotional and verbal abuse. While this is wrong and you do not deserve to be treated this way (by anyone, especially your parents), this type of abuse is difficult to prove to others because it doesn’t leave any visible “proof.” Physical abuse is more likely to receive a response from CPS and the police because it is able to be documented. From what you shared, it seems like you have also experienced physical abuse from your parents as well. Again, we are incredibly sorry to hear that you have been dealing with that for so many years, and it is not ok that you have received that treatment from those who are supposed to protect and care for you.

    The situation you are in regarding reporting your experiences to CPS seems like it became complicated, and felt even more confusing and frustrating for you. An important thing to remember is that talking about what you are going through at home is not wrong, and that sharing your experiences with safe, trusted adults is a very good strategy to obtain help. While involvement from others can seem threatening or scary to some (perhaps your sister feels this way?), it is unlikely that your situation at home will change unless you are able to involve others. Talking about what you are going through is a very important part of this.

    You stated that you might kill yourself if your situation does not change. This is understandable that you would feel this way, but please consider reaching out for help if you continue to consider suicide as an option for escaping your situation. The National Suicide Hotline might be a good option, and you can call them at 800-273-8255. There is still hope, although it can feel very difficult sometimes.

    We appreciate you reaching out, and wish you the very best of luck in your situation.

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    So I'm 16 and have some perantal issues and questions 1. Are parent's allowed to verbialy deggrded u in anyway they like or pls.
    2. Can parent's hurt u and laugh at u for crying
    3. Can parterns Really do what ever they want with u?
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    SO.. I've been having some issues in my house for a very long time since I was eather 10 or 11 my mother would bring different men in to are home frequently because she didn't want to be lonely or at least that's what I think she never really payed much attention to me or my siblings growing up , being yunger my mother would get a bit drunk and that wold result to her beating me and my sister she tells me I'm stupid and crazy an that I mack up story's in my head and that it never happened, I've always tried to say Happy and positive I would tell my self it's ok it will pass and it did but it wold just happens aging like a loops just in different times in different ways , and each time I tried to see the better. It's was ok when my mom settled down with her new bf aka my step dad he has been with us for 7 years now in the bigging everything was ok but my mom and dad started to fight with each other very childishly and in front of my yunger siblings Wich made me upset and I would get in it and tell them both to shut up or stop my set dad has punched me in the face and told me he did that so if anyone even hits me I won't go down ( Wich I think is messed up but idk )this happened on and off for a while the Fighting was so bad it effected me in a way I can't explain, we would have cps frequently but I always felt cumpaled by my mother to say the truth
    but yesterday I gathered my curuge and spoke to a Social worker at school. I was afford but relieved
    I came home and talk to my sister about what I did. She was very mad at me and started telling me things like wtf is wrong with u are u stupid? All I hade to say was I just want things to be batter.. I want to have a life of pece and enjoyment all she hade to say was your selfish and u just want to do what u want .. it hurts hearing that.. cuz that's not true.. not even a little. She won't to go tell my mother everything my mother told me I was no longer going to school I told her she cants do that , she say oh yes the ******** I can watch and.. that's exactly what she did.. I called the cops last night and they sent 2 officers over hear to speak to us but it wasn't much help.. my mother lied to the cops.. she's liked to the cops Frequently about the things that go on in the house. She laughs at me in my face and tells me I'm a pendeha and the cops won't believe me cuz I'm a kid.. Wich is true.. the cops looked very dessponded in me.. hearing what my mother had seid.. I wanted to screm and say that not true..but I tough to my self .. if I do it won't do anything but mack more problems.. my mother got her way in the end.. I'm very desspret and I really need help.. I feel like I might kill my self if this keeps going on like this..

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out; we are glad that you did. We are very sorry to hear that you have been mentally and emotionally abused for years and that your dad and step mom won't take you to court.
    We are not legal experts, but it is your mom who would have to start court proceedings. She would have to request a change in custody, then the judge should listed to your preference.
    We would like to talk with you about what you are going through and give you the support you deserve. We hope that you will reach out to us via live chat through this website, or by calling our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). We truly hope to hear from you soon.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 15 and will be 16 in october, I have been constantly mentally and emotionally abused for years. I have told my stepmom and dad that I dont want to live here and that I want to go live with my mom but they refuse to take me to court and decide. I am old enough to decide but I dont know who to get in contact with to make this happen.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Services! We know that it can be tough to reach out for support sometimes, and we're glad that you did. It sounds like things are pretty challenging at home for you right now, but it's great that you've been able to find some support within your girlfriend. While it does seem like her support has been pretty helpful to you, it also sounds like you're hoping for a little more. Recognizing that need within yourself is important, and we commend you for doing so.

    National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is a great resource that can help provide you with support services and treatment options that might help. You can check them out at nami.org or by calling their hotline at 1-800-950-6264. You can also text NAMI to 741741. Another great resource that could be useful is the National Suicide Prevention Line. Their website is www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, and they also have a 24/7 chat. Their phone number is 1-800-273-8255.

    While we can't tell you if you should runaway or not, there are absolutely safe places that you can go to. If you'd like more resources specific to your general area, please feel free to reach out to us, anytime. We're available by phone (1-800-RUNAWAY) or chat through our website (1800runaway.org), 24/7. We're here to listen if that's what you need at the moment, but we're also here to connect you with whatever resources you might need.

    Hang in there.

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I want to leave where I'm living. I'm 16 and will be 17 in Jan. What do I do or what can I do if want to leave. I have a girlfriend but the people I'm living with have guardianship over me. There not my real parents and they never felt like it. For a very long long time I thought I didn't have a voice so instead of speaking up I acted like I was happy so everyone else could be happy and don't have to worry about me and because of that I lost my emotions and didn't tell anyone how I felt until freshmen of highschool when I meant my girlfriend, where she told me its okay and with her I got my emotions back and she gave me a voice. I don't want to live here because of how they treat me, I never felt they care about me and the favoritism here is crazy. I don't know if my sister feel the same way but i know some time back my sister cut herself and I did so as well but I don't know her reason but mine was to have some controlled over me life since I felt like these people that are my guardian have soooooo much power. For a long time I wanted to kill myself and I know people say I have so much to live for but I don't care for that I want to be free and that's the easy way to get it. I still want to kill myself but for some reason I believe so can help me so that's why I'm writing this because no one around can help me even though my girlfriend will try. Is there anything I could do to GET OUTOF HERE.... should I run away... if I do what happens is there a safe place I could go to

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 and I want to live somewhere else other than here I'm just miserable and stressed I can't get my work done and I'm having no fun or happiness again. All because of my father who won't allow me to be happy every single time I do something wrong that he really doesn't like. Never wants to talk to me or listen to me and never takes in to consideration and understanding me I hate it and I want to play online with my friends again and in this pandemic those are the only people I have right now so please can I have some help.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. your nan's action definitely sounds risky and it makes sense that you wouldn't want to live with someone who may be exposed to (or even infected) COVID-19. If you are interested you can go to the CDC's website here https://www.cdc.gov/publichealthgate...partments.html to locate your state's Department of Health Services. From there, you can reach out to see where testing is available.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your legal guardian(s) can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. If your parents are your legal guardians and they give you the OK to live elsewhere/on your own then you should be ok.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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