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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts, but we can tell you that because you are a minor, if you leave home and your parents file a runaway report, you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for your boyfriend and his mom or whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a runaway. Other options would be to look into emancipation or you could report the neglect. You could reach out to Child help at 1-800-422-4453 to ask about reporting neglect and inquire about your rights as a minor within your situation. You also could call into us 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 to get general information about emancipation and possible legal aid services.

    A liner could also help you walk through other options you may have or to identify possible adults that could advocate for you and support you. Let us know how we can best help.

    NRS

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    I'm 16 and I want to move out of my house because alot of times we don't have alot of food and are lights are not at the moment and when they do get back on there not on for long we haven't had lights for 2 weeks and I can take pics to proof and my bf mom said I can live here if I wanted to I have lights and lots of food here and I can also take pics and proof that plz help me I just want to know how do i move out at 16 and live with my bf mom because the problem I'm in right now

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out. It sounds like your mom is really making things hard for you, and with your depression you feel really bad at home. Nobody deserves to be verbally attacked by their parents or anyone else, and we’re very happy that you decided to reach out for help.

    It’s true that while you’re legally a minor (until you’re 18 in most states, in Alabama and Nebraska it’s 19 and in Mississippi it’s 21) you can’t leave and stay somewhere else without her permission. But that doesn’t mean there’s nothing you can do to make your situation better. A lot of times it can help to talk to people – is there anyone in your life that you can go to for support, like a friend or teacher or school counselor?

    We’d really appreciate the opportunity to talk with you more and help you with this. If you go to our website’s homepage you’ll find a link to chat with us, and you can also call us at 1-800-786-2929. You can do either of those things at any time, 24/7. You’ve taken a great first step by reaching out!

    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    So I'm 16 and my mom keeps verbally attacking me she made me quit my job and sending me to a bad school for punishment of me so called being a hoe she does this multiple times and I can't take it anymore but I know I am forced to live with her since I am under 18 years of age but it so hard I am diagnosed with major depression so this is toture I don't even know how I'mma keep putting up with this cry every single night

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello thank you for contacting the NRS. We are sorry to hear that your parents were deported and that you are now unhappy with your aunt and uncle. We are also sorry to hear about your brother going away.
    Your situation is really tough and we are not legal experts so unfortunately there is not going to be much in formation we can provide you with. However, possibly looking into finding a legal aid resource to ask questions about your situation and whether or not you are obligated to stay with your aunt and uncle may be helpful. We can attempt to help you find this resource in your area if you call into our hotline at 1800-786-2929.
    We are open 24/7, confidential, and toll free. We hope this information was helpful. Take care.
    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi.
    I’m 17 years old leaving with my uncle and aunt since I was 15, I can’t live here anymore, my parents are immigrants and we’re deported when I was a little girl, my dad when I was 6 and my mom when I was 7, I had to go with her since I was a minor and I came back to USA at 15 living with my uncle and aunt, wanting a better life and opportunities, but it seems like my aunt doesn’t want me here anymore and she’s telling me that she’ll send me back to mexico, I don’t want to go back, and I don’t know what to do, my brother will be in jail for 3 months and he’s the only family I have, they’re not my legal guardians there’s no paper that proves it.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to us at NRS.
    We are so sorry to hear about all of those terrible events that happened in one year. It’s understandable that you are suffering, and it sounds like you feel like being in Illinois would make you feel happier. Have you talked to anyone about all of this? If there was a family member in Illinois who would be willing to let you stay with them, and your dad gave permission for this, it would be possible to do that without any negative consequences. NRS does offer a conference call service where you can have this conversation with one of your parents and the support of a NRS liner. To learn more, you can always call us at (800) RUNAWAY. It might be good to also consider what you would be doing about school, however, if you are planning to stay through the fall.
    Please know that we have a completely confidential 24/7 hotline, if you ever want to talk about everything you are going through and explore your options further: (800) 786-2929. If you are interested in talking to a counselor outside of your school about everything you have been going through, you can go to samhsa.gov or call (877) 726-4727 to see what is in your area.
    Best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I´m 15, I will turn 16 in less that a month, and I live with my dad, who has full custody of me. My mom lives roughly 30 minutes away, she has no custody,but she does have custody of my 3 younger brothers.Here at my dad´s house, I have 2 twin sisters who are 8, and my step mom who is 12 years older than me, and then there is my dad. I am an athlete. If i move that gets taken away,but if i dont i will continue to suffer everyday, and i cry myself to sleep most nights. Reasons for my suffering is when I was 14 I lost a teammate in a freak car accident, then i lost my great grandmother, and an uncle a week ago. I almost got kicked out of my dads house last thursday for vaping. I want to move to Illinois, where my mom´s side of the family is, because i am truly happy there. What should I do?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It seems like there must be a lot going on in your life, especially at home, if you’re thinking about running away again. It’s great that you were able to find out some information about our hotline. Hopefully we can help.

    Legally you are a minor and under your guardian’s supervision until you are 18 or are emancipated by a court of law. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out of your house. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website. However, the chatting service is not open 24/7. So the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our hotline and talk to one of our trained liners.

    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    im 15 and i want to leave this house i cant live here anymore but everytime i runaway my parents call the police and i cant put up with them anymore

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear you’re having such a tough time at home right now. It sounds like you would like more personal freedom and not be excessively punished. That’s understandable. We never tell anyone what to do, but we can offer some possible suggestions that might help you better decide what you’d like to do going forward.

    One thing might be to have a heart-to-heart talk with your guardians and try to explain how you feel. Perhaps you could even write them a letter. One service we provide here at NRS is conference calling in which we could act as a mediator to help you have a productive conversation with your guardians, explaining what you’d like and figuring out what they might allow. You would just have to give us a call to do that. And, of course, you can call us anytime to talk about what’s going on or see how we can help. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. We hope to hear from you soon!

    Tale care and be safe!

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey,
    I'm 16 and my mom passed away 2 years ago. I moved in with my cousin and her husband. They take good care of me and I truly believe they care for me. At the same time they are overly strict and put me on punishment starting at 1 month most of the time. This whole school year i've been on punishment for various stupid reasons like leaving dust on the tv or a piece of food on the table. I do well in school and I try to be responsible but with them I always seem to fall short. It's like i'm not enough. I will admit that sometimes I do things. But I'm currently been on a punishment since my birthday March 18 for something I honestly admit I did wrong but not worth a 6 month punishment. I can't have my phone, work, do extra activities, or take a run off my own street. I feel like a prisoner for my whole teenage life. They never cook home cooked meals. there is things I am can cook on my own but i guess I was something every once in a while coming from a home of getting it. I want to live with my god mom but she won't let me go! WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear that you are being emotionally abused at home. Abuse is never okay and you don't deserve to be treated that way. Although verbal abuse is harder to prove, you have the right to report it. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource to explore your options and get information on how to transfer custody. In the state of Iowa, a person has to be 18 before they can leave home without your parents permission. You could ask your family if they would allow you to stay with family members or another close friend. Another option that you have is contacting Child Protective Services if you feel unsafe at home. One final option that you may want to consider is looking into emancipation laws for your state. We hope that this information helps, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929),email, or live chat if you have any questions or just want to talk.

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    Guest replied
    Hi So I am currently 14 (15 in 1 1/2 months). I've been having family troubles. I'm not abused physically but they're taking a HUGE toll on my mental health. Just today I came home to my brother calling me a retarded bit*h and a lil a*shole. All I did was ask him to do his chores. My mom laughed and yelled at me when I had a complete breakdown after I got home from work. I was crying but hysterically laughing because that's how I get people to not worry as much... I have been to the ward 2 times for anxiety and severe depression... My boyfriend has started to notice how the family has been treating me.. He offered for me to move in with him when I turn 16, but I wanted to know if I would be legal. I am not physically harmed but mentally drained and feel targeted from my family a LOT. In Iowa, U.S. would it be legal for me to leave at age 16? Thanks.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a tough time, but we are here to support you and help you in any way we can. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that. But it sounds like you have some supportive friends in your life.

    Just so you’re aware, if your legal guardian has abandoned you, that may be considered neglect since they have a legal obligation to take care of you. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse or neglect reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or you could call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

    We’re not legal experts, but generally there are three ways to leave home before being an adult: with guardian permission, if there is abuse, or through emancipation (a legal process that can sometimes be long and expensive where youth become a legal adult before 18. We have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state or if you want to learn more about emancipation.

    If you haven’t already, you could consider reaching out to a trusted adult, relative, worker/teacher/counselor at your school for help and support. You could also consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling. Just so you’re aware, we have a conference calling service here where we could help mediate a conversation between you and your parents.

    There are also many resources that could help you find a safe place if you’re in need or help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

    Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.
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