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  • ccsmod3
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    It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation and it’s brave of you to reach out. You deserve to be safe where you live.
    If you feel you’ve been verbally abused, you may want to consider filing an abuse report. You can contact Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 to do that or contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. An abuse report on file can help your case if you decide to run away.
    To answer your question, we are not legal experts, but we can offer some options to the best of our knowledge. Typically, running away is not considered a crime, but a “status offense.” This means if law enforcement were to find you, they’d return you to your home. If you aren’t safe at home, they would contact Child Protective Services to help you find a safe living arrangement. This is where that abuse report could be helpful if you choose to do that.
    Something to consider is your custody situation with your dad. It is possible that your dad could get in trouble for holding you if he does not have custody. From a legal standpoint, it’s best for you if he has custody. However, that can take time and the courts may not award him custody if they don’t feel he is the best caretaker for you.
    Another option to consider is living with a family friend or relative that your mom trusts. If your mom was willing to give you permission to stay there, and they were willing to take you in, that would be considered a legal arrangement.
    If you do decide to run away, it sounds like you’d still have a lot of safety considerations with your mom. It might be helpful to make a strong safety plan. If that’s something you think you’ll want to do, please contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat online with us at 1800runaway.org. We’d be happy to help you make a plan, find resources, or even just to listen if you wanted to talk. We are here 24/7 and we wish you the best as you make these difficult decisions.

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    I'm 16 and I want to move out of my legal mothers house because she is always making me feel bad and I hate it every day I wake up she yells at me this has been going on for 3 years and I'm scared that she might hurt me if I try to leave to go live with my dad and stepmom. What should I do? should I just move out with out her consent or tell her I'm moving out and risk my life someone help me plz

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  • ccsmod11
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. It sounds like things at home have been difficult for you and possible abusive. One option would be to report your mother for trying to run you over to the police, or child protective services at Child Help 1-800-422-4453. You can also reach out to someone at your school like a trusted teacher our counselor about what you’re going through.

    You also mentioned you are looking for a safe place to go. You can visit https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/ and see if there is a youth shelter in your area. You also mentioned being worried about your job. Job Corps is a program designed to help people in your situation. You can visit their website at https://www.jobcorps.gov/ and apply for jobs through them.

    Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we can’t tell you what you should or shouldn’t do. We can however help you go over options and figure out what is best for you in your situation. Please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) where we would be able to talk to you about your plan. Good luck and stay safe.

    Best, NRS

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    I’m 16 I live in a one bed on a cot in the living room of my dads one bed 5 days of the week 2 I’m at my mom where she gets drunk screams at me and threatens me. After she chased me down the street in her car iv decided I’m don’t with ALL of it and I need to move out. Iv been icolated and I don’t have to many close friends to run to and I’m about to lose my job. Any words of advice

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I am 16 and I am tired of the emotional neglect I receive everyday from my parents because I am a lesbian. I am a women who likes to dress in men clothes and my parents look at it as disgusting. I get name called, mentally abused, picked on every day, and forced to wear things I don’t feel comfortable wearing.. I want to know if I can live somewhere else if they kick me out the houses I’ve been depressed for 5 years ever since it started happening... ever since I came out my life went downhill I don’t want to be in this house anymore... it’s so sad here

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your parents. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Be safe, NRS

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    im 15 1/2 , i’ll be 16 late october . i’ve been wanting to not live with my parents since i was 11 . every since i could remember i’ve had issues with my parents . i’ve watched my parents yell at each other & fist fight with each other multiple times . ever since i was little i had went back & forth from 6 different schools , i had to live with my grandparents because they didn’t want me & my brothers around my parents for 4 years . we were once homeless because they can’t keep up with bills , were always barley living . i’ve always felt for so long because of my parents that no matter what i do i do everything wrong , everything i do always seems to be an issue for them . i try so hard to keep my head strong , i used to be depressed because of them , i was so self conscious of myself until recently in my life . i try so hard to cope with everything but i serious want to move out . my boyfriends mom already had told me she’d love for me to come live with them & honestly i’d really love to . i feel so much more positive living there , i dont hate my parents at all i just want a way better environment for me to live in . i want to be able to visit whenever i want but live with my boyfriend & in which i can feel happier every single day , i can learn more , continue with my school instead of constantly moving , work on myself learning more life skills for when i’m older , & just say out of an environment that i feel that im not cared or cared about as a person . i feel less than an animal in their eyes & i completely hate it , i don’t want my brothers to get sent to a foster care so i’m not taking it to court . i wish my parents would just let me go so i can go do what i want happily . i just wish i was 16 already .

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry to hear that you are struggling at home, sounds like a frustrating situation. We are not legal experts but we do have general knowledge of the laws. Because you are a minor in most states if you left without your parents’ permission you could be considered as a runaway. If the police found you they would most likely bring you back home. We cannot give out shelter information over forums, but if you call or chat with us we can give you shelter resources. Another option could be to talk with your school counselor about what is going on, sometimes talking to a professional can help us feel better. Also you could consider doing hobbies that you enjoy, sometimes that will distract us from what is making us feel upset.
    We hope this information was helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to talk more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i am struggling at home . i am 16 years old . i need anouther option. please help me

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent's permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I am 15 about to turn 16 in a couple of months, my parents are split and i live with my dad in florida, i recently visited my uncle in key west and i want to go live with him instead of living with my dad. I don't feel safe when my dad gets angry about the stupid ********, he has hit me in the past and i dont want that to happen again. What do i need to do to go live with my uncle and aunt, they said that they would let me live with them and would take me in. So what do i need to do in order for this to happen?

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public form at National Runaway Safeline. Hopefully by helping you out in your situation, there are others reading through this thread that are going through a similar situation can get help.

    So as you have probably read in other post or other threads here, you aren’t able to make discussion on your own if you are still under the age of 18. Once you reach the age of majority you are able to move, rent your own place, and go to whatever school you want to go to. Since it sounds like your grandmother is your legal guardian and has say to where you live and go to school. Being 15 going on 16 years old, doesn’t give you any rights to leave without permission.

    It sounds like football is a really big part of your life and you want to explore that option more. It might be helpful to look into different football focused scholarships, out of state programs/training, neighborhood youth teams, or even clubs that you can join around to build up your skills and talents. That way you can show your grandmother or anyone in your life that this is something you are serious about pursuing long term. That way you might not have to “runaway” from home.

    We hope that this response was helpful! Feel free to call us and any time if you have further questions.

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    Guest replied
    I am 15 i will be 16 in a few months i live in iowa i want to go back to texas for football and better education and better home but my grandma wont let me when i turn 16 will she have a say in if i can go or not

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: I’m 14 and I don’t wanna live with my parents

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. We understand that not having communication with your parent’s has become frustrating.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It might be helpful if we learned a little more about your situation. We are here to listen and here to help. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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