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  • Im 16 and would like to move.

    My parents are emotionally abusive and manipulative. Im not sure if they realize it, as they did the same thing to my older sister. Im constantly getting yelled and screamed at. They put my younger sister's first... Give them things that they'll refuse to give me, such as certain freedoms, (hanging out with friends, driving, leaving the house, walking around the neighborhood, etc) Well, I have anxiety. I have had it all of my life, and all of my life ive been treated fairly badly. When I was 12, my parents would work me up. (Im also now diagnosed with bipolar), and would refuse to let me do my coping skills to calm back down. I would get so worked up, that I would break something (bad on me, but I couldn't do anything else to release my anger and feelings), if I were to have even thrown something on the couch, they would break something of mine. I was being dragged around by my hair, etc. That happened until I was 14. The whole time I was in therapy with someone that said i was in the wrong, and basically would defend my parents. When I was 14, I was manipulated and lied to by a sexual predator online. When the cops got involved, my parents basically treated me like I was a disgrace. They didn't believe that I didn't know he was a predator at first, and then pressured and forced to do things. They took my phone, Xbox, gameboy, TV, friends. Basically every single one of my privileges. I wasnt allowed to do anything but read.
    A lot of this is still going on. I have tried talking to them, my grandmother tried talking to them, a lot of people have, but it just makes them angry and matters worse. (Im also "homeschooled" but not receiving education. My parents left that part up to me to figured out)
    now my question is, could I move out and stay with a safe, responsible adult, if I have them alert the police department, or would I be forced to come home? My parents wont even let me stay with my grandparents for 2 nights and I really want to move away. Its making me very depressed but my parents tell me to suck it up or go to the hospital. Im not sure of what to do here. I also don't want charges pressed against them or anything. I just want to be able to move away without getting myself, or anyone else into trouble. Thank you.

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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We appreciate the courage and telling us a bit about what’s been going on at home. We hope to help in any way we’re able to,

    It sounds like you said that you’re being emotionally and physically abused at home, which isn’t okay. You shouldn’t be going through any kind of abuse. It also sounds like your parents are interfering with your mental health treatment, which could be considered neglect. You have the right to report that abuse. NRS is able to help you report the abuse, if you call in. There’s also Child Help, which is the national child abuse hotline, their number is (800) 422-4453. You mentioned that you don’t want your parents in trouble with the law, which is understandable. Parents are not always arrested during abuse investigations, sometimes they just make families go to counseling. They also help youth find ways to help youth get their custody transferred to safe adults or family members (like your grandparents). It's great that you have some support from your grandmother, she sounds like she's trying to look out for you. Your grandparents can also make a child abuse report too.

    If you do decide to leave, without your parents’ permission, you can’t be arrested for running away. If you leave and your parents call the police, they can make a runaway report. If police find you, they will just take you back home.

    You’re definitely not alone in this. We’re here to help and support you in any way we can. Our safeline is open 24/7, so we’re always a call away. We also have a chatting service via our website, however, it does have restrictive hours. If you want to explore the options we talked about, don’t hesitate to call out to us.

    Be safe, NRS
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