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  • I'm 14 and want to move with my grandparents

    I'm not sure if my mom can make me stay with her by law or not and I'm in north Carolina so I'm not sure

  • #2
    Hi,

    Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us tonight. Sorry to hear that you're not totally happy where you're living right now. Unfortunately when you're 14 years old you do have to have parental permission in order to leave your parents' house if they are your guardian. If you left your house without your mom's permission your mom could file a runaway report for you and the police would have to bring you back home if they found you. You could always talk to your grandparents about maybe taking custody of you, or even asking our mom if you can stay over at their place for an extended amount of time.

    We wish you the best of luck with everything!
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
    [email protected] (Crisis Email)
    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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    • #3
      I’m 14 and I want to live with my mom full time but my dad still has partial custody of me but I hate being there what do I do?

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      • ccsmod5
        ccsmod5 commented
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        Hi, there,
        Thank you so much for reaching out. It must be frustrating to be somewhere you don’t want to be. One option you might consider is talking to your mom about how you’ve been feeling. Your mom may be able to get in contact with a lawyer or work out a new agreement with your dad. Feel free to reach out by phone if you want to speak more specifically about what’s been going on. We’re also able to help you talk to your dad or mom about what’s been going on if you need help with that.
        Sincerely,
        NRS

    • #4
      I don't want to live with my grandparents because my parents won't ever listen to me and I just want them to listen well I want someone to

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      • #5
        Hello There,
        Thank you so much for reaching out to NRS, we know that it takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad you did. It sounds like you are going through a really frustrating time, and we are here to listen and help you with your situation. You should be able to feel that people are listening to you and its difficult when you feel your voice is not being heard. At NRS we offer conference calling where we would be able to help you have difficult conversations with your parents. If you would like we could help you be heard and listened to by your parents. If you would like to give us a call we can explain more about our conference calling option. Also if you were to runaway to live with your grandparents if you are under the legal age to leave home which in most states is 18, the police could bring you back to your parents. Also whoever you would be staying with could potentially be charged with harboring a runaway. If you would like to discuss more or have any other questions, please feel free to call us at any time we are available 24/7. We wish you the best of luck with your situation, stay strong!
        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #6
          I'm living wish my parents they hate my cousins and there alcoholics I want to live with my grandparents

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          • ccsmod9
            ccsmod9 commented
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            Hi there,

            You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your guardian’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your guardians. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

            Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

            Be safe,

            NRS

        • #7
          my mom is verbally abusive and physically fights her boyfriend in the household in front of us. she is always threatening to break everything of mine and she takes my mom... me only being 14 how do i file and leave to get to my grandparents? i can’t take living with her anymore and she just cares less and less each day....

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          • ccsmod9
            ccsmod9 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #8
          I'm 17, and I want to leave my moms house and move to my grandparents house, but my mom will not approve, is it legal for me to do it? How would I be able to do it legally?

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          • ccsmod9
            ccsmod9 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
            While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. The only possible loophole you might have is to check in with more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. Sometimes when you within 6 months of being 18 the police might not report a runaway report since you are close to being an adult.
            We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #9
          hi i wanna move to my grandparents? they live in california and i live in europe. Is there anyway i can live with them if i had premision from my parents

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          • ccsmod13
            ccsmod13 commented
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            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out to NRS. Generally from what we know of laws in the United States, you can live somewhere else if you have permission from your parents. Perhaps your grandparents can help you talk to your parents about making this move and advocate for you. Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

            We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country. Perhaps your grandparents can help you talk to your parents about making this move and advocate for you.

            Good Luck,
            NRS

        • #10
          I want to sray with my geandparents when I turn 14 . How do I dothat

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          • ccsmod7
            ccsmod7 commented
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            Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

            The easiest way you can stay with your grandparents at 14 is with your guardian's permission. If you haven't already, you might try to tell your grandparents how you are feeling. If they agree to you living with them, maybe they can help you advocate for you moving to your guardians. If you leave home without your guardian's permission, that is when they can list you as a runaway with local police.

            Depending on the details of your situation, you might have other options for moving. Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk through your situation with us. We can provide support and try to brainstorm additional options with you. 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway

            Best of luck,

            NRS

        • #11
          My mom is verbally and sometimes physically abusive and has already given me consent to live with my grandparents out of anger. I want to tell her I want to move out but I'm scared she'll get upset. What do I do? I still love her

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #12
          I’m 14 and I want to move with my grandparents because I don’t like how my step dad treats me??i don’t want to leave my mom but I feel like if i stay I might get into an argument and it lead to a fight.

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
            Editing a comment
            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. The easiest way to live you’re your grandparents would be with permission from your parents.
            We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe, NRS

        • #13
          I want to leave and live with my Grandparents in New Mexico, (I live in Virginia) because of how unhappy I am at my parent's house. I'm 16 years old and my real father died about 8 years ago and I live with my step-father and my Mum. I want to leave because I know my parents are tired of me because II get in trouble a lot and I don't really feel any love or affection for them as well. What can I do in my scenario to live with my Grandparents and be happier? Much appreciated!

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
            Editing a comment
            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on laws in order to stay with your grandparents.
            While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
            We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
            Be safe,
            NRS
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