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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out with this question.

    We are not legal experts but we can speak generally. Legally, you do have the right to give your son permission to live with his friend or in a safe place. Generally, you are still legally responsible for him until he turns 18. If there is a legal adult in his friend's house, you can give that adult temporary guardianship of him until he is 18 if he needs assistance enrolling in school or gaining things like healthcare.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you have more questions or need support. We are here to listen, here to help.

    Best,

    NRS

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    My son is almost 17 he is wanting to move in with a friend. Am I still legally responsible for him until he is 18?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out out today.

    Unfortunately, 18 is the general age youth can leave home without the permission of their guardian, but it does depend on state laws and local police protocol. The easiest way she can move in is with permission from her legal guardian. To be more certain of 17 year old runaway protocol in your area, you might reach out to your local police department's non-emergency number and ask hypothetical questions about how they would respond to a 17 year old pregnant youth leaving home.

    We hope this information is helpful. Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you have additional questions or need resources. You might also try to give your son's girlfriend our number if she is in need of any support or resources. We are here 24/7 to listen and help.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Can my 18 year olds sons girlfriend move in if she's 17 and pregnant

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear that you are being abused at home. Abuse is never okay, and you don't deserve to be treated that way. If you feel as though you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to contact 911. You have the right to report the abuse. You could contact CPS and let them know how your mom has been treating you and how your living conditions are at home. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource to explore your options and get information on how to transfer custody. It sounds like you are thinking about living with your boyfriend. Since you are a minor, if you leave home without your mom's consent she has the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they may return you home. Running away isn't against the law but if you were to stay with your boyfriend, he could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. You could try asking your mom if she would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. Another option that you may want to consider is looking into emancipation laws for your state. We hope that this information helps, if you have any questions please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

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    Hi, I am a 16 year old girl who lives in Texas. I am trying to find a way to leave my house. My mother is a hispanic single mother with barely any job and i'm the only one in the house for the whole day. I barely survive on 1 meal a day because she can’t afford food, but that’s not the problem... The problem is that when we run out of food and she has money, she just yells at me and says to go starve. I've been getting verbally,mentally, and physically abused and I can't take it anymore. I suffer with severe anxiety and depression, and it makes everything much worse. I also have a medical condition called Hinman syndrome which means I can’t tell when I have to go to the bathroom, but my mom won’t let me go to the bathroom at all. She yells at me because I have to go to the bathroom and says it’ll be a waste of time. I’ve managed my syndrome in school and it’s all under control. My mom won’t let me get a job because she thinks I can’t manage one and my condition will get in the way, even though it could help with our financial problems. I have a boyfriend and we‘ve know each other for a really long time. He is deciding to let me live with his family. I just don't want it to be considered a run away. I just want to leave home for a better place. I want to have 3 meals a day and have a job somewhere. I want to graduate high school, go to college, and live a prosperous life where I won’t get yelled at for everything I do.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: I’m 16 I turn 17 in January

    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
    We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what’s been going on and how it is making you feel.
    You are very brave for doing so. Good for you. Sometimes communication breaks down as it sounds like it has between your mother and yourself.
    When this happens it might be helpful to consider seeking outside help from a counselor or mediator.
    That being said. NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.

    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Take care,
    NRS
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    Hi,
    I’m 16 I turn 17 in January but I live with my mom and she’s always putting me for blame for things that I don’t do and she’s always making herself the victim when she says hurtful things to me and I tell her to stop she always makes me feel bad when I’m not in the room with her she says things like I don’t want to be around her that I don’t love her and anytime I try to talk to her she ignores me so I stopped trying to talk to her about things then she tries to throw that I don’t take to her enough in my face.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 06-22-2018, 03:20 AM.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us today. It sounds like you're in a really tough and stressful situation, and we'll do our best to help.

    First, your mom would need to file a runaway report for anything to happen if you left home. Otherwise, if your mom did not file a report, you would be able to live away from home without the police looking for you.

    To answer your question, you technically are not legally allowed to leave home without your guardian's permission, since you are not yet 18. Assuming your mom is your only legal guardian, you would need to get her permission to leave home. We are not legal experts, but from what we know, running away is not illegal.
    If your mom could filed a runaway report for you and the police found you, you would just be returned home or held until someone came to take you. That being said, some police departments don't take runaway reports for 17 year olds. This varies from department to department, so you would need to call your local police department to find out what their policy is. You can ask hypothetically, e.g. "I heard some police departments don't take runaway reports for 17 year olds and just wanted to check if you guys did."

    You mentioned that your mom might be emotionally abusive. That can take a huge toll on your mental health. Have you ever talked to a counselor about it? They might be able to help you cope with the stress of emotional abuse. You could start by talking to your school counselor. We can also help with looking up free/low-cost counseling resources near you. Just give us a call anytime at 1-800-786-2929 if you'd like to explore this.

    You also mentioned your 13 year old sister. One thing to consider is what she would be provided for if you were to leave. You could try reaching out to relatives or other family friends to see if they might be able to help out by housing you guys with your mom's permission or supporting you guys in other ways.

    If you feel that your mom is unable to take care of you and your sister, you might think about whether you want to file a child abuse report. You mentioned that your mom has a drug addiction and generally does not take care of you guys. If you'd like to talk more about this option, please give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. You can also call Child Help, a national child abuse hotline, at 1-800-422-4453. Their website is childhelp.org.

    Hopefully this helps. Please don't hesitate to give us a call if you'd like to discuss any of these options further or would just like to talk some more. If you have a minute, we would appreciate your honest feedback of our forum services at the following link: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Hi, I was wondering what the law in Oklahoma is for 17 year old runaways. My mom and I have never had a good relationship and I believe she is emotionally abusive. She is addicted to pills and lives off of unemployment and food stamps and I have had to pick up her role as a mother to my 13 year old sister because she is either always sleeping or sick. My boyfriend is 18 and I was wondering if he had his own place if I would be able to live there without getting involved with the police. There are many other reasons that I want to move out, one being that my dad is in jail and my mom is wanting to move us in with her boyfriends family which has been my dads best friend for over 40 years. She has repeatedly told me to leave her house on occasion and sometimes sends me to my aunts and will not let me come home. I can get a job and I will be able to continue school because I take online classes. Is there anyway you can find out what the law for 17 year old runaways is in Oklahoma. Thanks!
    Last edited by ccsmod5; 03-29-2018, 08:30 PM.

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  • ccsmod11
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    Hello,

    It seems as if you just reached out to us using a different digital platform and we are already responding to you there. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    If I’m 17 and pregnant can I move out?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time right now at home. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out us.
    It is not ok for anyone to cuss at you. We are sorry to hear that you have to go through this. It is not your fault and you don’t have to feel worthless. If you ever have thoughts of hurting yourself again you can call 911 or contact the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or live chat with them at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/ . You are not alone and your life matters. While we are not legal experts, just speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents’ permission and a police report is filed the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway. Family counseling can be helpful in many situations. You could contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration at 1-800-662-HELP. Also we do offer a conference call service where we can have a 3 way call with your parents and you and can act as advocates for you.
    All of this can be overwhelming and we are here to help you through this hard time. If it might be an option for you, you could call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) and we would be happy to listen to you and explore your options and provide an resources. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.
    We hope this response was helpful!  We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum.  Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey:  https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
    Best,
    NRS

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    15 and want to move out.
    Hi, I'm a 15-year-old girl, 16 in July, I live in Edmond, Oklahoma and go to high school. I don't want to live with my mom and dad anymore because of them putting a whole lot of pressure on me.they also compare me to my little brother saying he "more responsible" when he doesn't even have as many chores to do as me. sometimes my dad even cusses at me when I do something "wrong" and every time he cusses at me it causes me to break down in tears and makes me feel like I'm worthless. I've tried to kill me because of the pressure and the yelling. I've already asked my best friend that I have know since I was 3 if she and her mom would let me live with them if I move out of my parents home and she said yes. I just don't want to live with my parents if all there is going to be is yelling and screaming. please ASAP

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us. This sounds like it could be a tricky situation. Hopefully we can provide you with some information to help you out.

    If the person you are referring to if living with their current guardian, they are required to stay with their current parent or legal guardian until they turn 18. The person can go live with a parent that signed over their rights a long time ago if they receive permission from their current guardian. If the person leaves home without permission, they can be reported as a runaway by their guardian. This just means that if they are picked up by the police, they will be taken back home.

    You also ask if the person got taken away from one parent and were put in their grandparent’s care, could this person choose to live with another parent. This also depends on who the legal guardian of the youth is. Only the legal guardian can decide where the youth can live, even if this is with another parent.

    Knowing who has custody of you or another person can be confusing if someone is taken out of their home. You can call your local family or juvenile court to find out the status of your custody, to see who has say over where you live. We are not legal experts here, but can also refer you to free or low cost legal aid that may also be able to answer any specific questions. Just give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) to talk to someone about a legal referral.

    Thank you again for contacting us. We wish you the best of luck.
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