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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things at home has you thinking about running away. We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. The people you’re staying with could potentially get in trouble for “harboring a minor” if your parents file a report and if your girlfriend’s family doesn’t cooperate with the police. Some police departments don’t accept runaway reports for 17 year olds, but the policies may vary by each department. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state.

    If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

    One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your family why you want to go live with your girlfriend. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

    Wish you the best
    -NRS.

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    so im 17 and live in oklahoma and i dont get along with my parents me and my girlfriend are planning on moving in with her mom in joplin. what would happen there

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Hello, I am 17 I turn 18

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like there has been some big differences between you and your mother over what sounds like her abusive behavior. We understand the difficulty of your situation and how frustrating it has become for you.
    You don’t deserve to be treated badly and it is certainly not your fault that this is happening. Sometimes things become overwhelming and due to the stress it might become difficult to cope or know where to turn for help. Things may feel bleak right now but you did well reaching out today. It sounds like you have been very responsible in your school work to which you should feel proud of. Let us know how we might help.

    NRS is here to listen and here to help. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. If you would like to speak more about your situation and explore options, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

    You did a good job reaching out today. We hope that things change for the better.

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Hello, I am 17 I turn 18 on July 2nd recently my mom has been stealing money from me, calling me names, verbally abusing me, and threatening to kick me out I am good student in school having a 4.0 I am a class officer and her actions are starting to bring down my school work I want to leave so bad to brighten my future I have several homes that are opened to me, but am unaware of my rights only being 17 I am told numerous times throughout the day that I am a worthless ********** because I will not give my mom money, I am tired of feeling like such a letdown and crying myself to sleep for thinking no one wants me I have open arms everywhere and places to stay. I am however afraid that my mother will report me and I will be sent back home and the verbal abuse will become physical I have never left my house without permission not even to go to the store or get gas I don’t know what to do and I need help... I want out it’s tearing me down and with High school being so close to an end I don’t want my school to suffer because of my mother My parents are also divorced, I don’t want to live with my dad, but honestly anything is better than the way I am treated at home.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 05-11-2019, 03:57 AM.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you so much for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline, we are always here to listen and to help. You’re taking a great first step by reaching out for help with your situation. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of stress, between being bullied at school and your father’s strictness, it makes sense why you would be feeling the way you are. It must be very frustrating to feel like you cannot communicate properly with your dad or set sensible expectations, and being teased at school over things you cannot control is unfair treatment you do not deserve. It sounds like it might help to have someone to chat with on a more regular basis about the stressors you’re facing and how to cope with them. It’s great that you have your mother and little brother for support, but it sounds like additional support might be beneficial. Perhaps reaching out to your school counselor would be helpful? Or perhaps a trusted teacher or adult that you could confide in, or a good friend. If none of those ideas sound like options, it might be worth looking into seeing a counselor. Unfortunately we are not able to provide resources through forum posts, but if you call us or chat with us via messenger through our website, we can help explore additional options for you. Our website is www.1800runaway.org, and our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Please chat or call us at any time, we are here to help!

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    Hi, I am a 17-year-old girl and I will be turning 18 in 7 months but I am still a high school student but I am only a sophomore. The other day and my family got into a really big argument because I got in the car with my boyfriend and apparently that was a known rule but they didn't say that until after the fact. my sister was in the car with us. That night I got in trouble for getting into his car . That night I got in trouble, I talked to my teacher the next day and she had to talk to my counselor who then talks to DHS then DHS showed up to my house 2 weeks later and said that they could not remove me from my house because they did not see it as abusive or anything like that have had multiple conversations with my dad and him saying that he does not care anymore and that I could move out if I really wanted to but my mom per se would not like that but she's not my actual mom would she still have authority over me? I have a biological mother that I have never met I have read stories about her know that I have two younger siblings that live with her. Would there be a possibility that I could go live with herI'm also thinking about running away from my home? I don't know what to do so I'm reaching out to you guys.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We cannot imagine how hard it must be for you to live in a house where you don’t feel loved. We want you to know that your mother kicking you out is considered neglect, which is reportable to Child Protective Services. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline. That number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. We understand that making an abuse report can be intimidating so if you like we can call together to provide support.
    You are so courageous for telling your mother how you have been feeling- that couldn’t have been easy. We know that you mentioned that you do not think that you will be able to survive in that house until you are 18. It could be a good idea to try and get involved in activities that would keep you out of the house like an after school club or getting a part time job. On top of keeping you out of your toxic household having healthy activities can take your mind off of the troubles at home and help you in the future.
    We understand that this must be a difficult situation for you and if you would like to talk more about what is going on at home please know that we are available to talk 24/7
    1-800-786-2929

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    my mom has kicked me out multiple times again and again. she makes me feel unwanted and not loved at all. i've told her this and she doesn't evem try to fix it. I tell her how im unstable in the house and around my family. and how i NEED to leave. t's all so draining. I am 17 years old and i dont think i can make it till 18 without hating her. and i don't want to do that at all. I just think it's safe to not be around her until we fix the issue. But she has no intention on fixing the issues. I was planning on walking out with my stuff two days after she told me to leave and not come back,, but i stayed because i knew she'd regret it. but i don't care at this point anymore. i need to leave. so i had my duffle bags packed and was about to leave but when I came home from school she took them and told me i wasnt leaviing. so we sat that and argued and i continued to tell her how i feel but she didnt care. She even called her cop friend and he said that i LEGALLY cant leave with out her permision. So i feel like if i did leave she would call him and i'd have no choice but to come back. So what do I do then.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It must be hard to live in a home where your parents do not spend any time with you. Spending family time together is really import to help build the bonds within the family. You mentioned that you and your little brother have been thinking about going to live with your dad. This could be easily done if you can get your mother and father to agree to these terms. If not then you might have to go to family court to get negotiate the living arrangement.
    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    So my mom never spends anytime with me amd my brother. Were both wanting to live with our dad. Im 17 and he is 15. All she does is go to work. Comes home and locks herself in her room. She always yells at us and says we never do anything right. She always looks at the bad in things and never looks in the good in things. We want to move out in may. Can we do that?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: My girlfriend is 16

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are sorry to hear that your friend is being abused by her family. She does not deserve this to be happening. It is not her fault. She is fortunate to have support from you and your family.
    18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian.
    We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. Since she is under 18 a parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police.
    What actions the police take once the report is filed can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in her case.
    Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in the case there may be abuse, child protective services is an option for safety. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows a runaway to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the law is to call your local police non -emergency number and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth. To report child abuse contact Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453
    This is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Take care,
    NRS


    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Guest replied
    My girlfriend is 16. Her mom has multiple dhs cases filed against her for child endangerment and verbal and physical child abuse. She has had enough and wants to know if she can live with me and my family. My parents have said they will take care of her. Pay for her education and get her a job. She lives with her grandma and her grandma is verbally mentally abusive and she has had enough. We can prove to be a good household for her. A better one. She doesn’t even live with her parental and legal guardian like I said. She has proved to provide on her own. Overall this is a better place for her. In her honest opinion. Will I get in trouble for taking her away? If he grandma reports a run away. But her mom is the legal parent guardian? Will she be forced to go back home. Even though I’ll be taking he to Colorado. Since she lives in Oklahoma (we recently moved).
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 03-14-2019, 04:17 AM.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a frustrating time and we will do our best to help you through this difficult time. We are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws. Because you are a minor if you were to leave home without permission you could be considered as a runaway. If the police found you they would most likely bring you back home. Unfortunately with the emancipation process a lot of times it requires parent’s approval or the court stating you can be emancipated. The emancipation process can take 6 months or a year so it may take longer if you turn 18 in the next year. One option for you could be to call out to your local non-emergency police department and ask them how they would handle a situation similar to yours.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck in your situation, stay strong you are not alone.
    NRS

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    I’m 17 years old and I live in Oklahoma. I currently have an almost 3 year old. I live with my parents but I pay for everything. I want to move out. I just don’t want my parents to fight for custody or file me as a runaway, the only way I can get emancipated is if I go through court legalizing saying that I can live apart from my parents and provide for me and and my daughter but how am I suppose to do that if the law says a minor under 18 is classified as a runaway if they leave home even though I have a child myself.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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