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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So my friend is 16 but she has a well let’s just say ruff home life and she needs to move in with me but her parents are just to controlling and crazy what can I do No ones helping and I need to figure out how to get her out there cuz she’s giving up

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that your boyfriend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them as they mentioned wanting to run away. It’s great that your friend has support and concern from you especially since this time is quite difficult for them. Runaway laws in Connecticut would apply to him. Crossing state lines could have larger consequences, especially if he stays with your family. His parents could choose to press harboring a runaway charges, as it can be a crime for a runaway youth to stay with anyone over the age of 18.

    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.

    Take care,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So my boyfriend wants to run away and live with my family. His mother is a big problem and freaks out and screams at him over absolutely nothing (like forgetting to turn on the dishwasher) to the point that he’s in tears. If he goes from where he lives in Connecticut to Nebraska with me, which laws apply to him? What would go down? And would my parents get in trouble for keeping him here if it did happen?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you're in a difficult situation and we are glad you are reaching out for support.

    We are not legal experts, but we do have some general knowledge on runaway laws. Generally, having harboring a runaway charges pressed against adults who house runaways is a possibility. However, there could also be other factors at play, so it is impossible for us to say exactly what would happen. Runaway reports are made to the police and they generally get to decide how they handle the cases or if they are worth investigating. In some states, 17 year olds can move out freely and sometimes a cop may just decide to not pursue the runaway case because the young person is so close to being 18. It is also possible that you are returned home and charges are pressed. A good way to find out what your local police would do or what the laws are is to directly reach out to your non-emergency police line or reach out to a free legal aid resource in your state. We would be happy to connect you with either of these resources if you call us at 1-800RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website, www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 to help in anyway we can. We hope to hear from you soon. Best of luck!

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So I'm 17 years old I'm going to be 18 in 4 months. But my situation is that I want to move out/run away to a friend, however I do not have parents concent to leave. The only problem is that there grandparents are worried that they could get in trouble for harboring a minor. How am I suppose to make this work without anyone getting in trouble? Or is that even possible?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It’s a difficult situation to navigate when you’ve lost your only parent. You’ve already taken a good first step in reaching out and identifying an option.

    We’re not legal experts, but in general, you’re considered a minor and would need a legal guardian until you become an adult. Most states classify adults as people age 18 and older. Once you’re an adult, you may choose to live where and with whom you’d like. It would be helpful to learn more about your situation, so we can help explore all your options and resources.

    We’re available 24/7 and can be reached by chat at 1800runaway.org or by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We hope to hear from you soon and wish you the best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    I'm 17 and Ive been wanting to move in with my friends because of a family issue idk what to do..my friends parents already said i could but my only parent i had has passed...

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS. It sounds like you are considering leaving home and want to know more about possible legal consequences. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this. 18 is usually the age you are able to leave home without permission from your parent/legal guardian. Until then, your parent could report you as a runaway to the police for leaving home. Running away is not illegal but it is a status offense. You would not get into any legal trouble, but your parent can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. Whoever you stay with could be at risk of being charged with harboring charges; however, from what we know this is unlikely. Police are usually more concerned with bringing you home than pursuing charges against someone for simply providing a safe place for you to stay. Police protocol can vary by state and even county. Your local police department would have the most specific information regarding how they handle runaway reports for someone your age. You can anonymously call the non-emergency line to ask questions about this. You are not obligated to give any personal information like your name or address in order to keep the call anonymous.

    We hope this information is helpful. You can call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use lie chat services at 1800runaway.org 24/7 if you would like to talk more.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey if I have 17 1/2, turning 18 in may could I leave? Would my friends parents be charged if I stay at their house? And how can I figure out if my county would take my parents report? What if I am afraid to call the non emergency hotline for my county or how can I do it anonymously ? Thank you!

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom's permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 17 years old and my birthday is in July of next year, I want to move in with my 19 year old boyfriend who lives at his buddy’s house down the road from my mother’s home (that I am currently living at and want to move out of). My mom tried to yell at me once and I told her I was going to move out and she said that I could take only one garbage bag, so I had only one garbage bag. Does this count as her consenting to me moving out even though she told me that I couldn’t after getting my stuff packed? She then called the cops on my boyfriend (whom I was with along with my packed goods) and they brought me back home. How can I move out of this home as soon as I can? What are the legalities of this? What can I do to move out legally? Should I marry my 19 year old boyfriend to have him be my legal guardian? If so, how do I do that without parental consent? Should I run away? What should I do in order to get out of this house?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it seems like you are frustrated by things at home and the mental abuse that it involves. It is totally understandable to want the situation to change or improve and feel like running away. You don’t deserve to be gaslight and put into a negative mindset just by being home.
    It seems like you are worried about getting your friend in trouble if you were to runaway to their house to escape your home situation. There is a chance that if you were to do so that they could be charged with harboring a runaway. We aren’t legal experts but generally that risk goes down if they are keeping you safe, and don’t try to hide you from police if they are looking for you. Your parents would likely file a runaway report and have police bring you back home. It’s a status offence to be a runway not a criminal one so police would only be looking to bring you home, not to arrest you.
    You mention wanting a permanent solution to be able to live on your own, or at least with a friend instead. Emancipation might be an option worth pursuing. Each state is different and not all have that option so it will take more research to see if its right for you. The general requirements are to have personal income unrelated to government support, a good reason to be emancipated, and a plan for supporting yourself.
    The last option might be finding more support for your mental health or family health. There are family and personal counseling options on a sliding scale we might be able to help find in your area. Sometimes having someone exclusively on your side can be a big help when those who are supposed to emotionally support you are instead breaking you down.
    Hopefully these options help clear up some of the situation for you. NRS is here to fully support and listen to you through this tough time and if you have more questions or just need someone to vent with we are here 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and online at 1800runaway.org.

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    Guest replied
    I just turned 17 and having a hard time with my parents I have been told multiple times to leave or not feel wanted I have tried to runaway before but they picked me up. I want to make this a permanent change I don’t want to go home I don’t suffer from a abusive house hold but more mental abuse time to time and I had enough. I want to stay at a friends house but I don’t want her getting in trouble in case my parents call the cops I want to do this for myself. I don’t want to stay here more than I want and I just want to leave

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at NRS. It seems like you could be dealing with a big decision and not having your parents support could be very hard. We recognize that reaching out and asking for help takes a lot of courage, and we are here to help in any way that we can.

    We are not legal experts by any means, however we generally know that running away for youth who are under 18 is not illegal. If they come into custody of the police, they are generally returned home. Youth who are 18 or above are technically considered to be adults in the eyes of the police. Your parents may file a missing person's report, but police will most likely perform a wellness check to make sure you are safe and okay. To be sure this is the case, you can always reach out to your non-emergency police line to see how they would handle your particular situation. We would be happy to help you reach out to your local police department with you or for you. You can explore this option further by giving us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website. We hope this information helps as you navigate this trying time in your life. Best of luck and stay safe!

    Best,
    NRS
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