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  • #16
    I'm 17 and I plan to move into my friend's house can my friend's parent's get charged for kidnapping if I want to be there?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-09-2019, 12:13 AM.

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    • #17
      I'm 17 and I plan to move

      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police.
      Also, those that a reported runaway stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Anyone found to be assisting or aiding someone to run away may also find themselves at risk legally. For more specifics on the law, you might consider contacting the local non-emergency number for the police. You might also look for a legal aid center in the area. They may be able to answer any legal questions on the subject.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,
      NRS



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      • #18
        I was recently adopted by my grandmother after being in foster care for three years. I only had her adopt me because if she didn't my case worker was threatening to put me in residential placement, and we have a hate hate relationship to the point of not being able to stand being in that house. I turn 18 in February and I had recently told her I was moving out. Her response was that she was calling the cops, reporting me as a runaway, and then having them send me to lockup until I turn 18. Is there any way that she can actually do that, or any loop holes to getting around that? Need a response ASAP as I want to speed this up if im able to do it.

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        • ccsmod8
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          Hello –

          Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hopefully you have taken the opportunity to explore the responses on this thread to see if they can help you. It is our thought by helping you during your crisis, that there are others out there going through the same situation can look at this thread and find the answers that they need as well. Of course if you need additional support you are more than welcome to reach out to us via our online chat or our 24/7 hotline.

          As you have probably read from our other replies on this page, is that we aren’t legal experts nor can we tell you want you should or should not do. So from what we know about running away from home before the age of majority, is that a parent or legal guardian always has the right to file a runaway/missing person's report with the local law enforcement. The act of running away isn't considered a crime, it's more of a status offense so something like getting a parking ticket or traffic violation. So it's to our understanding that a parent can't "press charges" against their child or “lock them up” for running away just because they want to. You would have to be involved in something that would be illegal or crime to be taken into custody by the police.

          If you are worried about it, you might be able to call your local non-emergency police number to get more information on that and be for sure.

          Best of luck!

      • #19
        I just turned 18 in March and want to move in with my friend. MY mom has always been really strict and never let me go anywhere i feel like i missed out on my most of my teenage years due to her being so strict. I love my mom but all we do now is argue i feel like we lost our bond and don't know what to do. I feel like me leaving and living with a friend for a little would give us a chance to have space from one another

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        • ccsmod13
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          Hi there,

          Thank you for taking the time to reach out to the National Runaway Safeline. Constant arguing can certainly become overwhelming. It sounds like you do care about your relationship with your mom, but things have become to tense at home to have a healthy relationship. You are the expert on your situation and you what the best choice is for you. We want you to know that we are here as a support to help you navigate this challenging decision as you take your next steps.

          The good news is that the age of majority is 18 in most states, meaning you are a legal adult and have the freedom to choose where you live. Having a solid plan about what you are planning on doing might be a good idea so that you can think about what will and will not be possible and work for you. Considering certain factors and aspects for your plan might help you make your decisions about your next steps: where are you going to be living, what's your role in the house, are you going to be working/going to school, will you be paying your share of the bills/rent, a back-up plan in case your living arrangement does not work out and you need to leave. Taking this step toward independence can be a huge step to take and we want you to be as safe as possible when making your decision.

          If you do decide to leave and you feel that you are willing to and ready to begin rebuilding a relationship with your mom, it may be helpful to have some support with this. Perhaps you could speak with a therapist, a family member or another adult that you and your mom feel comfortable with to help you mediate the beginning steps of communication. This might also be something to give a try before taking the step to leave.

          We truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time. You can reach out anytime by phone 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org to talk more in depth about your situation and explore possible options. We are here 24/7 to listen and help.

          Stay safe and good luck,
          NRS

      • #20
        Hi, I'm 16 years old and I'm trying to move in with my boyfriend and his family. Both of my parents kicked me out and I went to stay with him for a week and his family was extremely welcoming to me. After I had stayed at his house for a week, my mom forced me to come back to her house and threatened to call the police on them if I didn't. She claims that since she is responsible for me, I cannot chose where I want to live. She wants me to get emancipated, however, I don't want to wait several months until I can move out. If his parents allow me to stay at his house, would the police make me return home if she reported me as a runaway? I try talking to my mom about staying with him, but she is very stubborn on me not being able to stay there. I have thought about long term plans and what I want to do, but she only tells me how stupid it would be to move in with my boyfriend at sixteen. I understand this though, I have a job and I plan to get an apartment once I am financially stable as well as finish senior year taking courses online. At this point I don't know what to do, is there anyway for my boyfriend's parents to get legal custody of me so that she doesn't have to be responsible for me?

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        • ccsmod6
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          Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that things between you and your parents have gotten so tense and it makes sense for you to want to leave an environment that is so hostile towards you. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. Your mom as your guardian is responsible for you having a place to live and being taken care of. However, if she gives permission, you can live wherever she decides. She could allow you to live with your boyfriend’s family if she wanted to. She could also transfer guardianship of you over to your boyfriend’s parents if she would be open to that as an alternative to waiting for an emancipation. All of this requires her to be willing to let you live with your boyfriend, which it sounds like she may not. You sound very sensible and thoughtful and if you would like to talk more specifically about what is going on and what options you have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

          Take care,
          NRS

      • #21
        Hello, I am 5 months away from turning 18. There have been many issues at home and i’m currently staying with my boyfriend. In California, could his family be charged if my mom decided to report him?

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        • ccsmod0
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          Hey there,

          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. This may be the case if your mom reports you as a runaway. Laws vary from state to state, but it is something to keep in mind. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

          Be safe,
          NRS

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      • #22
        when i turn 18 can i move in with a friend with there parents permission even if my gardian says no?

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hi there,

          Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at NRS. It seems like you could be dealing with a big decision and not having your parents support could be very hard. We recognize that reaching out and asking for help takes a lot of courage, and we are here to help in any way that we can.

          We are not legal experts by any means, however we generally know that running away for youth who are under 18 is not illegal. If they come into custody of the police, they are generally returned home. Youth who are 18 or above are technically considered to be adults in the eyes of the police. Your parents may file a missing person's report, but police will most likely perform a wellness check to make sure you are safe and okay. To be sure this is the case, you can always reach out to your non-emergency police line to see how they would handle your particular situation. We would be happy to help you reach out to your local police department with you or for you. You can explore this option further by giving us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website. We hope this information helps as you navigate this trying time in your life. Best of luck and stay safe!

          Best,
          NRS
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