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  • #91
    Hi I am 14 years old and live in North Carolina will be 15 in August but I was wondering if I would get in any trouble if I ran away from home because I ran away in the past and went live with my sister for a while after living with my mom because my step mom was hitting on me and left a mark on my face and I called the law now I decided to come back and try to give them another chance to show me that they really do care about me but it’s like they won’t let me go anywhere and they don’t trust me and they’re always accusing me of something might not abuse me physically know but now it’s like she’s 24 seven mentally abusing me so would I get in any trouble

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a situation at home that is unhealthy and unsafe, and this must be really hard. We are so glad you have contacted us for help.
      It is important you know that no one deserves to be abused, physically or mentally. If you are ever in a situation at home that is threatening your safety, you can always call Child Help, the National Child Abuse Hotline. They are there to support you and can even help you report the incident, just like you have done in the past. It must feel very frustrating to not get to go anywhere, to not be trusted, and to be accused of things. It sounds like you are not being respected by your family. Now you want to run away, but you are concerned about whether or not you will get in trouble. We are not legal experts here, but it is our general knowledge that if you run away in any state as a minor, you parent or legal guardian can report you as a runaway and the police can try to find you and bring you back home. This is something to consider as you contemplate running away. If you have more concerns or questions about running away, you are welcome to call us and we can help. We are here 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929.
      We hope that you find this helpful. You are very brave to have reached out to us. Your situation must feel lonely and hard at times, but you are taking big, important steps already. Good luck to you!

      Sincerely,
      National Runaway Safeline

  • #92
    I have learning disabled. My mom is not spending time with me. I get a check and child support. I don't get nothing out of it. I am tired
    ​​​​ of being used so many years. I am turning 16 in January 17 2020. I am planning to stay with my Dad. All my mom do is spending money on her self


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    • ccsmod10
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      Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It takes a strong person to tell others what has happened to them. We know how important being supported by the ones you love is. We are sorry to hear that your mom is not spending time with you and is spending your money on herself. Hopefully things will be different when you go and stay with your dad. One service we can offer until then is to conference call with your mom. This way you could have a conversation with your mom but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your mom how she makes you feel when she does not spend time with you or why you want to go live with your dad. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

      Wish you the best

      -NRS

  • #93
    Hi. I have a friend who is 13. She is having a really rough time with her family right now. It’s been going on for a while. There is no physical abuse. But I guess you could consider it verbal abuse. They get on her for every little thing. Even when she has done nothing wrong. Is it possible for her to live with me? Or would my family get charged with harboring a runaway. She is just not happy in her home right now. And I really want to help her

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello,
      Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline! First of all, it is very brave and kind of you to reach out on behalf of your friend and we think it is extremely admirable that you want to help your friend. It sounds like your friend is in a very frustrating situation. Everyone should feel safe at home and feel loved and respected.
      If your friend doesn’t feel comfortable talking with her parents and explaining to them how she does not deserve this kind of verbal abuse, she can also look into group therapy with her parents. If there is anyone at school that she trusts like a teacher or a guidance counselor, to sit down all together and talk through what is going on at home. Or if there is another member of her family that wouldn’t mind mediating that conversation. If not, we at the National Runaway Safeline are also always here and would be more than happy to facilitate a conference call with your friend and her parents. We would talk with your friend first about what they’re going through and then once she is ready, we would go ahead and conference in her parents and mediate the conversation to ensure that there is no verbal abuse and try to make sure each party understands each point of view.
      What you mentioned is correct, if your friend leaves her home without her parents’ permission, they could file a runaway report with the police. What this would mean is that if the police found out where she was, they may be able to pick her up and then could charge you and your family with harboring a runaway.
      If you or your friend have any questions or simply would like to talk things through, we are always here. We are available 24/7 toll free and you can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We wish you and your friend the best of luck with everything!

  • #94
    My whole life I’ve had problems with my family but it’s gotten worse. I’m 15 and from North Carolina and thinking about emancipation or running away. My mom and dad yell at me constantly about anything I do even if I don’t do anything wrong and my siblings both hate me and want nothing to do with me. 2 weeks ago I got in a big fight with my family and after I came home from summer camp yesterday I immediately was attacked verbally by my family and they told me they were happier before I came home. I don’t know what to do but I’m so broken and borderline suicidal and don’t want to live in my house anymore I can’t stay here till I’m 18

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there thanks for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear that living at home with your parents has been challenging and sounds stressful. As you mentioned, fighting with your family sounds extremely frustrating. We think it is great you are reaching out and we are here to support you and brainstorm with you about some options that you think may best fit your situation.

      It sounds like living in your home is difficult with the fighting and you sometimes feel suicidal. We do want to mention the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255/suicidepreventionlifeline.org) are a great resource that are always there to listen if you do feel suicidal. Although you do not have to be suicidal to call, they are 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you. They are always there to listen if you want to talk to someone. If you are ever in immediate danger of taking your own life, you can call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room for immediate help. Calling 911, someone will be sent to check on you. We are also 24/7 by call (1-800-786-2929) and live chat here on our website and are always open to talking to youth struggling with things like problems with their parents, custody, and mental health.

      It is not okay to be verbally attacked by your family and treated in a way that makes you feel broken. It sounds hard being at home in an environment that makes you feel less than others in your family. We do want to mention if you feel what is according is abusive from your family, you always have the right to report. Child Help (1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org) is another organization that has crisis counselors on staff 24/7 who can give you more information on abuse situations, what is considered abuse, and how to report if you do want to explore that as well. We can also help you explore abuse reporting as well as reporting with you if you do want to pursue that option. We are mandated reporters meaning if you share any personal info (like your name, address, you parents’ names, etc) we would have to pass along what we know to Child Protective Services, but if you do not share that info we can continue to talk confidentially as we are now. We can also brainstorm other options like emancipation and if you do decide to leave home we can always talk about that as well as your safety is our top priority.


      Thanks again for reaching out! It shows a lot of strength, as you are certainly going through a lot and that can be hard to talk about.
      We are 24/7 and feel free to reach out to us any time by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Best, NRS
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