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    My girlfriend was recently kicked out of her mothers house for personal reasons. At first her mom called her a runaway but she was kicked out. Her father was in jail at the time so I picked her up and took her back to my house. She is 17 years old and is about to turn 18 in 2 weeks. I live in North Carolina and I have called the local police station. Her dad is very abusive and not in any type of condition to be taking care of her. She doesn't feel safe at all at his house. He is threatening to call the police to try to force her to come back. My question is, could he press charges? Even though she is 17 she is very close to being 18. She does not feel safe with at her dads house as he is a very angry and abusive person. He is in and out of jail and hospital also.

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    Hi there,
    Thanks for reaching out to us at NRS. We’re sorry to hear that you are going through such a frustrating situation. That must be tough to deal with a mother who is emotionally abusive. It’s great that you seem to have a good relationship with your father.
    It’s possible that your father might be able to get the terms of the custody agreement revised. Since you are close to being an adult, a judge might be very interested in hearing what you have to say about your concerns about your mother. Have you and your father considered getting legal advice about this issue? We’d be happy to put you in touch with some legal experts in your area.
    As for the police, each department words differently. When a runaway report is filed, they will usually attempt to find the youth and return them home. The only way to know for sure what your local police department will do in this situation is to contact them and ask. You can call the non-emergency number for your local department and ask about their policies on 17 year old runaways.
    Also, have you tried communicating your feelings to your mom? Perhaps it is possible that the two of you can find a way to work through some of these issues. We’d be happy to do a conference call with both of you.
    It sounds like you are a very mature and responsible person. It’s great that you’re trying to figure out the impact before taking any actions. We’d be happy to talk through some options with you. Please give us a call at 1800Runaway. We’re here to listen 24/7.
    Take care,
    NRS

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    Re: My Runaway Rights in North Carolina

    I am 16 years old turning 17 this summer. My parents divorced 3 years ago and I was court ordered to live with my father and follow a visitation schedule. My mother lives in Georgia while me and my Father live in North Carolina. I dont want to go to her house because she is neglectful and verbally abusive which is part of the reason why the courts declared her an unfit mother and had us move in with our father. Me and my father have been trying to figure out ways in which i wont have to go, but since its court ordered he can not out right say I dont have to go, or it would be contempt of court. He says he can let me spend time at my boyfriends for the weekend before and that I can refuse to come home,and he could put in a runaway report, he doesnt believe the police will force me to come home, but i really dont want to go to my moms and I also dont want to get him or his parents in trouble for "harboring a runaway". What should I do, and who could I ask?

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    Hello,

    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like there’s a lot going on at home. We want to commend you for having the courage to reach out to us today. That can be very hard to do. It shows how mature you really are for sticking up for yourself.

    First of all, since you mentioned abuse, we want to tell you that abuse of any kind is NOT ok and is NEVER your fault. You have the right to call the police any time you feel unsafe in your home. If you want to report any abuse at any time, you can certainly call in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can walk you through it, or you can visit www.childhelp.org for more information.

    You mentioned that you might feel like running away. It’s great that you have such supportive friends that would let you come and stay with them in this time of crisis. We should warn you that although running away is not a crime, your father has the right to file a runaway report with the police if you don’t come home when you’re supposed to. The police would then be able to bring you back home to him. Sometimes whoever you’re saying with can be charged with “Harboring a Runaway”, which is generally a fine but can be more severe depending on the situation. This might be good to keep in mind since you said your father lives close to the friend you’d want to stay with.

    Since there is so much going on, it might be helpful to call us here to discuss this situation in more detail. We just want to make sure you’re safe and have a plan for any course of action you end up taking. If you’re unable to call in, you could try our Live Chat on this website.

    Best of luck in this difficult time,

    NRS

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    In tired of my family,hi I'm 12 years old and live in North Carolina I recently moved in with my dad about 9 months ago.at the beginning of me moving in he was chill and I could hang out with friends and things but recently he has been going off the hook he would be getting drunk every night and he smokes pot.one night I got really mad at him and went outside in the cold rain cause I was and he told me to come inside and I refused he started chasing me but I was to fast and he fell and tripped over a puddle when I was running I was scared half to death cause I did not know what was going to happen when he caught me. My parents split up about 2 years ago and when they were together my dad used to beat me and give me welts and he choked my mom once. But the reason I moved out of my moms house is because she got mad at me for no reason called her boyfriend in there he grabbed me by my ankles and threw me to the ground, my mom say on top of me and held my arms down yelling in my face who do u think u are!?!?. I used all of my strength to push her off and I was yelling at her to get off cause I couldn't breath! I finally got her off and ran out side but while all This was happening my brother was sitting there laughing at me and telling me to chill like I will not chill when I can't breath!. But recently at my dads house I got into trouble for almost fighting and my grades suck so he grounded me and I have a funeral to go to and he told me to bad for u! That reall peed me off! So now I'm thinking about running away I have a place to stay at my friends house with food and water, but she lives down the road from my dad....so how would that work but if u have advice on what I can do plz help me. But the reason I don't wanna go back to my mom cause like rn me and her are on good terms but I just don't want to go back to the environment cause her boyfriend also smokes pot. But I don't understand why my mom is still with him cause the first night I stayed there with him my sister who is 17 was with a fiend and my brother who is 16 was with a friend btw my mom treats my brother like gold. But anyways the first night I stayed there he pushed her to the ground and stood there looking at her.. And I really hate violence because when I was little my mom used to get beat by my dad every night and slapped and things (don't know why my mom stayed with him till 2 years ago) but if someone could help me figure this out that would be greAt.thx

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello Ginger King –

    Thanks you taking the time to reach out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to help and here to listen. From what you have told us about your situation it sounds like you’re going there a very difficult time right now. No one deserves to be treated that way that, you should definitely be able to be comfortable in the house you are living in. To better help you, let’s break things down a little about your current situation.

    Unfortunately, here at the NRS we cannot tell you in definite terms on what would happen for someone at the age of 17 years old to run away. Laws on that specific subject vary from state to state, so our advice would be call your local non-emergency police number to get more information on that. What typically happens though; your father has the right as your legal guardian, is able to make a runaway report in the event that you do run away, since in most states the age of majority is 18 years and over. Since it’s only considered a statues offense the only thing that would happen is that the police will pick you up and bring you back home or hold you until certain arrangements can be made to come pick you up. Again this does depend on your specific state laws and police policy. There are some cases how are of the local police not taking run away reports for youth that are 17 years old because they see them as adults already. Especially if they are close to turning 18 soon.

    It sounds like you have given a lot of thought in to what you want to do in your situation though. If you were to run away, what kinds of things do you think that your father would do? What is your overall plan (i.e. housing, transportation, financial stability, school options etc)? We know that you have stated that you were thinking about moving into a low income house apartment near your school. It might be a great idea to do a little research about moving into a low income place because sometimes for those places there is a waiting list of people that have applied months or years before hand to get placed. And to rent an apartment in general sometimes require you to have good credit to be able to sign the lease to move in and have enough money to pay the application fee, down payment, and the first and last month’s rent right then and there. So these are some things to keep in mind when you’re thinking about places to stay when you leave.

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    My Runaway Rights in North Carolina

    I'm 17 and live in North Carolina. Due to certain events I had to move in with my dad approx. 8 years ago. Over the years things have been okay, but some things I have gotten tired of. My dad never lets me go out and hang out with friends, do sports at school, or even work. He has let up recently,but just as quick he has tightened up. I got a few bad grades in one of my classes and he went off the deep end. Not only because of that, but because was irritated by events between him and my mom along time ago. It's an extremely long story, but I'm sick of the, for lack of a better word, bull-********. He has taken all of my valued possessions and won't let me have them back until I move out and are supporting myself. He won't let me participate in extra curricular activities at school. Also, he is now forcing me to do bad in my other classes by not allowing me to participate in MANDATORY events for a grade using the excuse that "You didn't care about doing bad in History, I mean all it is is reading and comprehension." Like he freak'n knows. He didn't even finish high school ( he's 53 BTW). He continues to treat me like dirt. There have been a number of other things that have happened, but I don't feel like typing it all out. He won't let me complete my Driver's Education. After talking at school to my friends, they have suggested running away, so that's why I'm here. I don't want to just opt and leave, I want to take a civilized and organized approach to the situation. I plan to move in with either a friend or move into a low income apartment near my school. I also plan to have a job close-by. I want to know what I can and can't do, not the usual bs telling me not to run away or giving me a lot of phone numbers to call. I want answers. Please help me.
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