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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like home is really hard with your mom doing drugs and it’s hard to when your parent doesn’t support your goals. And your dad’s death from alcohol poisoning is a lot to deal with on top of everything else you’re going through. You deserve the life you’ve envisioned for yourself; you deserve to achieve your goals and feel supported. So really, thank you sincerely for reaching out to us.

    Since we don’t know your age, it’s more difficult to answer your question about emancipation. In general, a judge needs to see that you are financially able to care for yourself. We do have a legal referral for you: Legal Aid of North Carolina, they provide free legal help to low-income North Carolinians in civil (meaning non-criminal) cases involving basic human needs like safety and shelter.

    If you were to call our 24-hour confidential hotline, we can discuss with you the other options you have for your situation. If you call during the business hours of the agency above, we can call with you and be with you as your advocate.

    Our hotline number is 1-800-RUNAWAY; and our live-chat is available 4:30-11:30 pm central time. We hope you will contact us again, and we wish you the best of luck.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I do not want to live with my mother all she does is snort pills and do drugs. Sge dont want the same goals i do in life. I want to get emancipated but i dont know how i dont want to end up like my mother and i cant live with my dad because he died of alcohol poisoning i dont know what to do.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, Thank you for using NRS forum. It sounds like you are in need to transportation assistance. We do offer a Home Free program, which reunites qualifying young people 12-21 with their families. If you are between the ages of 12-21, we encourage you to give us a call to start the Home Free process. At this time, Home Free is only available over the phone. When you call, explain you are interested in returning home and we will talk to you about your situation.
    We hope that you are able to get a hold of us to start the process.
    Best wishes,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Can somebody help me get to North Carolina by this Friday I’m in Texarkana Texas and I will have money I’m trying to bounce ASAP pls anyone

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there, thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS, we’re happy to help. Though it varies by state and municipality, in most communities, the age of majority, or when you’d be considered a legal adult, is 18. Prior to this point, your mom would still be considered your legal guardian and is responsible for your care.

    If your mother chose to call the police and file a runaway report, you would most likely be returned to your home. Running away is a status offense, so you wouldn’t get in trouble legally. However, most areas have laws regarding harboring a runaway and/or contributing to the delinquency of a minor. This could put those you’re staying with at risk legally, even if they’re okay with you being there, or if they think they’re doing the right thing.

    Though you didn’t say anything about it in your bulletin, it’s worth mentioning that your safety is important. If staying at home feels unsafe or dangerous, there are people you can talk to about it. Our hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you have any other questions, need some resources, or would just like to talk about what’s going on at home. Good luck!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 16 years old and I had run away from my house and my mom knows where I am and I think she wants to call the police can the police make me go back home if I don’t want to

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  • ccsmod6
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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a tough time, but we are here to support you and help you in any way we can. That sounds really stressful and hurtful to feel alienated from you daughter.
    We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal for a youth to leave home, but her mom could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring her home if they know where she is. Her mother could also charge you for harboring her as a runaway, but if you have legal custody, that may change the situation. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in North Carolina or New York.
    There are also many resources that could help you work through conflict with your daughter’s mom, help you get legal advice, or help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.
    Again, thank you or contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Our 15 year old daughter lives with her biological mom in north carolin and we live in New York. Her mother has begun to alienate her from us making visits almost impossible (we havent seen her in a year) and phone calls very limited and monitored. We dont have an updated custody agreement since I had to move to NY and now she has moved also and wont tell us her address or even what school she goes to. We have joint legal custody but she has physical custody. My question is, if my daughter were to choose to come live with me without her mothers permission, at what age would it be acceptable and not seen as kidnapping on my part? Is the only way through court (again I dont even know her address so filing a petition would be difficult), or can my daughter at a certain age make that decision on her own and not be forced by the police to be returned to her mothers home?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi Riley,

    We’re so sorry to hear that you’re facing abuse at home. No one deserves to be abused or made to feel unsafe, so thank you for recognizing the importance of your own health and well-being and reaching out to us for help.

    It sounds like you are struggling with finding a way out of a dangerous situation where you’re forced to work in your home under threat of physical violence while your physical and mental health are neglected. Reporting this abuse to Child Protective Services is always an option. If you want to pursue that or discuss what reporting may mean, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), or Child Help at 1-800-422-4453, and we can help you with that process. Your life and safety is important, and if you’re in immediate danger remember that you can also call 9-1-1. We can best help you think through your options if you call us, but we recognize that it may be hard or put you in danger to call while at home. If that is the case, you can use our chat at https://www.1800runaway.org/ when it is open or the 24/7 Crisis Textline at https://www.crisistextline.org/how-it-works/ (texting HOME to 741741). If you need a safe place to go, you can find somewhere through National Safe Place’s TXT4HELP program (http://www.nationalsafeplace.org/txt-4-help) by texting “safe” plus your current location (city/state/zip) to 69866 to be given the nearest Safe Place site and the opportunity to text with a counselor. If you call us or use our chat, we can also help you find possible shelters or other safe places in your area.

    You said that you’re considering running away and going to your girlfriend’s family, if you can find a way to get there. If you did run away your parents would have the right to file a runaway report, and your girlfriend’s family might be liable to be charged with harbouring a runaway. However, since abuse is involved police response might change, and it is possible they would not attempt to return you home right away and would instead pursue CPS reporting. If you call us or use our chat, we can look for legal aid resources for you or call out to police to find out what they would do in this situation. Other options may be to talk to your girlfriend’s family, your other friends and their families, or your school (though anyone at your school would be a mandated abuse reporter) about what’s going on and how you are unsafe at home. They may be able to provide you support and brainstorm more options.

    You also mentioned past struggles with suicidal thoughts and mental health issues. Your life is valuable, and you deserve to be listened to and supported through these struggles. If you ever feel in danger of self-harm or suicide again, please know you can call 9-1-1 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 to get immediate help.

    Thanks again for reaching out to us and prioritizing your own safety even through this difficult situation.

    We wish you the best of luck,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi my name is Riley and I'm 16 year old and I live in Boston North Carolina . I live with my birth mom and step dad and I want to run away from home. I have mental disabilities none that can put me in danger but need treatment and my parents have denied me of that. Ever since I was little I never knew my real dad. When I was four my mom married my stupid step dad. Ever since that day things have been different to the point where it's free to say my mom hates me. He would force her to abuse me so I have been a victim of abuse since I was 4. It doesn't happen to me lately but it happens to my sister. In a abuse article I read a few days ago it stated thati am treated worse that the slaves of 1816. I am forced to work around the house. I am on punishment to clean for 2 months and I'm supposed to not have to clean anymorie on the 14 which is in two days but that won't happen given I just got in trouble. In 2016 he beat me brutally in the head so now I have been diagnosed with brain swelling and the doctors do not know why because I have not told them yet I made a few lies but my mother shut them down as not possible not realizing she was exposing her husband. The other day he beat my little sister who is 10. She loves her life so I don't want to take her with me. I have tried suicide a few times but I either couldn't go through or someone stopped me. I'm not allowed outside, to my friends houses or with family members. I have an older sister who lives in South Carolina she loves me and when I was younger he would force her to stop I don't know what his deal is. When she would leave he would abuse me and beat me. Till this day she is trying to find a way to break up my "parents". He uses the law and our religion to force me to labor. If I refuse I will get beaten to a pulp. My step brother ran away when he was younger than me. I have family friend who is just about around the corner from my house and she and my parents do not speak. I have a girlfriend in Philadelphia who offered to pick me up but she is under the age so she can't drive without an adult and all adults are out of town for her. Please help me I am really scared and searching for an answer. I can not stay here for another second. I don't mean to pressure you.

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  • ccsmod7
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot. We’re glad you contacted us for help. We are here to listen and help the best way we can.

    We aren’t legal experts, but we can give you some general information based on what you told us. Typically when you’re in foster care and turn 18, you become emancipated. In most cases, you might be eligible for transitional living programs and possibly grants for college after you turn 18. However, if you run away before turning 18, you most likely will lose these benefits of transitional housing and college grant money. If you have questions about your specific situation, you could ask your case manager for more information. You could also call us to discuss other options that may be available.

    We want to make sure that you are safe in whatever decision you make. We are here 24/7, and our line is confidential and anonymous at 1800runaway. We also have a chat option available from 4:30pm to 11:30pm CST through our website at 1800runaway.org. Please call or chat us if you would like to talk further or if we can provide you any local resources. We are here to listen and here to help.

    Good luck and stay safe,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    if i am In foster care and run away at 17 and will turn 18 in 4 weeks what will happen to me..especially if I'm with my legal age birth siblings

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi, thanks for reaching out today! It sounds like you are frustrated with the foster care system and are wanting to run away. We are sorry to hear things are so difficult right now.
    We are not legal experts, but in most states the legal age you can leave foster care is 18. If you leave before that, your case worker could file you as a runaway with the police. Some police stations do not accept runaway reports for 17 year olds if they are close to 18, but that really does depend on the local police department. While it is not a criminal offense to run away, anyone over the age of 18 that you stay with does run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway, which is a criminal offense.
    You may consider talking to your case worker, someone in your home, or even someone at school about what is going on that is making you feel like you want to leave. We also offer conference calling if you would like to have a third party in the conversation with your case worker. We would serve as an advocate for you on the phone; sometimes having a neutral person can lessen tension.
    We are here 24/7 by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY and also by live chat beginning at 4:30 CT if you want to talk about your situation further or pursue a conference call. Thank you for reaching out and best of luck!
    Last edited by ccsmod16; 09-29-2017, 11:29 AM.

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi im 17 and ok im foster Care and I want to runaway cause of all the stress and it's not the home it's the system and I want to leave what will the do

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello there,
    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It takes a lot of courage to seek help when you need it. We are glad that you have trusted us enough to contact us. We are very sorry for the difficult situation that you are in. We cannot imagine what you must be feeling right now.
    Again, we are very sorry to hear that you are in this difficult situation. You were doing your friends a favor by giving this girl a ride and now fear that you may be in trouble with the police because she was actually a runaway. We know that is very scary to think about and it is completely normal to be scared and nervous about it. We are not legal experts here at NRS, but to our limited knowledge, we can give you some options that may be helpful. We suggest that you continue to be honest and open with the police and the investigators. As far as we know, you did not house her or help her avoid the police in any way, all you did was give her a ride. You were not aware of the situation that she was in and you did not know she was a runaway. You were just told that she needed to be picked up. We think (again, not legal experts) that you should be okay as long as you continue to be honest and open with the police and anyone conducting the investigation. It seems like you did not do anything illegal.
    Thank you again for reaching out to NRS. We hope that the options that we offered you are helpful. We hope that your situation works out soon. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or start a live chat with us online. We wish you the very best of luck and we hope that everything works out. We are here to listen, we are here to help.
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