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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, we’re glad you reached out for support today. It’s resourceful and brave of you to ask for support. It sounds like you don’t want to live with or see your mother and dad. You don’t mention what’s going on at home, but if you’d like to share that you can call us anytime. You can call us 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929. We’re confidential so our conversation doesn’t get shared with anyone else, unless there’s abuse at home and you ask us to file a report on your behalf.
    We’re not legal experts and laws differ state by state and county by county. We can, however, provide legal resources and help you explore what’s going on at home, your feelings about it, and what your options might be.
    Again, it sounds like home feels stressful. Some things you may consider… Talking to a trusted adult about what’s going on at home, like a school counselor or teacher. Calling the National Runaway Safeline for a one-on-one conversation. We also have a conference call service so if you want help sharing your story with your parents, we can set-up a three way telephone conversation. We’ll stay on the line and make sure your voice is heard in a calm way. We can help you and your parent understand each other by guiding the call. This is a way to open lines of communication.
    You mentioned staying at a friend’s parent’s home. Consider if you will feel safe there or if you could consider asking your parents if you can stay at your friend’s for a night or two for a break from home. You could also consider if you be able to go to school while you stay at your friend’s home.
    We’re here 24/7 so don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929. We’re here to listen and here to support you.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I want to leave my house really bad. I just cant put up with living here anymore. i am 12 years of age and i want to run away but i dont want to see my dad or mother anylonger, like if the cops and stuff do get involved,which im pretty sure they will if i run away, i dont want to see them. i have friends parents who would let me stay and move in for as long as i wanted and im thinking about doing that really soon. any thoughts? im just writting down whats a little bit on my mine this second, i know it isnt the best "story" or even the best writting and i dont know what response im supposed to get out of this but here you go.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you have endured so much living with your grandparents including physical violence and threats of getting kicked out. That sounds so tough to have do deal with. You deserve to be safe and respected in your own home, and here at NRS we truly want to help.

    We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed and can help talk to you about your options. If you would like assistance calling out to your local abuse hotline, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    You might also let your mom and dad know how you are feeling. They might be able to go to court to try and regain some custody. If you call or chat us we can look for local legal aid resources if they are in need of legal representation. Sounds like your mom has gone through a long healing process and is doing better; which is awesome!

    You mentioned that your grandparents threatened to lock you up if you leave. Just so you know if you do leave, they could file a runaway report for you with local police and if you are found you would typically be returned home. Running away is a status offense (meaning something you cannot do because you are a minor) rather than being illegal. If you are found really far from home you could be detained while police work to get you home, but you would not be arrested or locked up.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk through your situation or if you would like assistance calling out to CPS or other local agencies. We are here 24/7 by phone and truly want to help.

    Best,

    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 16 years old and live in North Carolina. I used to live with my mom and dad but they were unfit parents at the time. Since then everything was perfectly fine until my grandpa got hurt on the job. It turned the both of them very hostile and they started arguing about everyday. They argue with us kids too. Mostly me. My little brother (13) is like an angel to them and they never even pay attention to my younger sister (15). So all of their hatred and hostility comes back to me. It's like anytime I try to talk to them they try to argue with me. I don't understand what I do/did to them. All I do is go to work, school, church, and home. They never let me out with friends and I'm turning 17 this December and I still have never been on a date or had a boy over. They tell me I can't have certain friends just because of their last names or where they live at. I have cried for days straight, been thrown on the ground and hit and threatened. They always tell me "pack your sh**". I have been talking to my real mother more and she has actually changed and gotten a job. She's cleaner and has her mind straight. I want to go live with her but my grandparents wouldn't let me. At first they told me they didn't care and to just go but when I grabbed my things they told me if I walked out of the door they would lock me up. So I just don't know what I can and can't do. I've been trying to research it but I can't find much. My mother already has visitation rights and she can come and see us but it's apparently illegal for me to leave. Please help because I really need to get out of this house. It's so unhealthy and it goes way beyond normal arguments with your grandparents. I can't stay there anymore.

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  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear that your parents plan on moving out of state again. It seems like you parents move quite often, that must be very frustrating and difficult to adjust. It sounds like you would like to stay in North Carolina with your friends instead of moving to Idaho with your family. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with your friends. Another option that you have is looking into emancipation laws for the state of North Carolina since you already have a job. Since you are a minor, if you decide to stay with your friends without your parent's consent, they could get charged with harboring a runaway. We hope that this information helps, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat if you have any questions or just want to talk.



    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

    Tell us what you think about your experience!
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    -NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello, I’m 16 my parents moved me to North Carolina at age 12 from Colorado because of my dads job, had to make new friends, and make a life at our new home. We’ve had a struggle and moved twice while living here. We’ve been here for 4 years. I’m now 16 and have steady friendships. My parents now want to move to Idaho but I don’t. I want to refuse and have already planned out a place to live (with my two friends and her mom) and I have a minimum wage job at sonic. Could I refuse to go with my parents even though they want me to and live with my friends and their parent?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation.

    It sounds like your parents have put you in a tough situation. It must be really scary to be pregnant and knowing how your mom will react. We offer a conference calling service, between youth and their parents. If you ever wanted our help talking to your mom about moving in with your boyfriend and that you’re pregnant, we're always here to make that call with you.

    Only your legal guardian, can give you permission to move out or to report you as a runaway. If your mom does have legal guardianship of you and doesn’t give you permission to live with your boyfriend or his sister, then she can report you as a runaway. If you feel like getting out of the house is the best option and you decide to run away, we can explain what usually happens. We’re not legal experts, but from our general knowledge, running away is not illegal. If you runaway, your mom can make a runaway report. The police don't always actively look for you, if they come across you, then they usually bring you home. If you explain to them that home isn't a safe place to be, they don't always return you right away. They're supposed to investigate it first. We offer to call out to youth’s local police, with youth, to find out their protocols. You mentioned that you have a boyfriend who’s offering to take you in, we’re so glad to hear that you have someone who is supportive. Regarding him getting into trouble, there is a misdemeanor charge called “harboring a runaway”. It’s really not common and it costs money for parents to take those people to court. We rarely hear about people getting into trouble for letting a runaway stay with them.

    We also have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out of your house. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

    We hope our response is helpful. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center if you'd like to talk more about your situation.

    Be safe, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i am 16 years old and i am pregnant i would like to know what i can do or cant do for example, can i move without my mom’s permission because she is bot letting me and i would like to know what are the things i can do and cant do. I live in North Carolina and the baby’s dad lives in Pennsylvania i will turn 17 in november

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have some questions regarding if you can leave home while on probation. We want you to know that we are not legal experts so we cannot comment on what you are and are not allowed to do. The best bet would be to talk to your probation officer.
    Best wishes,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 18 years old in live in the state of North Carolina. My mother and I do not get along at all and she just threatens me and screams at me all the time for no reason and will take my car that isn't even in her name. I want to leave right now while she's gone to a doctors appointment in Virginia. However I am still a senior in high school and I'm on adult probation but I have someone to stay and they have an address, would I get in any trouble by the law or with probation? Could they make me return home? Do I have to go with my mom if she finds me?

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  • ccsmod16
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello, thanks so much for posting today. You certainly have endured a lot of abuse. You do not deserve any of the abuse and neglect you experienced. You are very strong for moving on and looking for resources to help yourself.

    If you have not done so already, you certainly have the right to file an abuse report against your father. That could lead to you being removed and placed with another family member once an investigation is opened. We can conference call and help you make that report. If you would like to pursue that, call us anytime at 1-800-786-2929. Child Help is the national child abuse hotline and they can provide your local abuse reporting hotline and provide information on getting custody transferred too: 1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org.

    Even if you are not considered a legal adult (18 in most states), sometime police departments no longer accept runaway reports for 17 year olds close to 18. You can call your local non-emergency number and ask anonymously if they take runaway reports on 17 year olds. We can also conference call out with you to local police and find out how they handle situations like you being 6 months from adulthood. Even if you did leave without permission and your dad called the police and they did happen to find you, disclosing the abuse to police would open up a child protection case and you may be able to stay with another family member while that occurs.

    In regards to school, the McKinney Vento Act is to ensure all young people get an education, regardless of whether or not they live with their parents or have their consent: The National Center For Homeless Educational Helpline: 1-800-308-2145.

    We are here 24/7 by phone (1-800-RUNAWAY) and through live chat on our website as well. You are very strong for asking for help. That is really hard to do! We are here to listen and to help. Best of luck! Stay safe!









    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: We care what you think https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
    Last edited by ccsmod16; 04-20-2018, 01:26 PM.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I am a 17 year old who was abused by my father in several ways for the 6 1/2 years that I lived with him. I need to know how to continue on with my life outside of his house and make something better for myself. It got so bad that my father would not let me go to school or work on school assignments at home, I started failing all of my classes, and he gave fake "emergency" excuses to my high school to excuse my absences as he would pull me out of school for weeks. I am not one of those teenagers who goes through a phase of thinking that nothing is fair and getting fed up with my father's rules. This has been a very serious matter and I have to do what is best for my future. I am well aware that the way my father treated me was a severe case of child abuse, as he would take away my privilege to eat or go to school, for infractions such as talking to my peers about the abuse that I was experiencing in his house. Now, I would like to legally go to a new school, get a job, and continue on with my high school life without the bound of my father's abuse. Emancipation, from my legal research and consultations with professionals, is an extremely difficult path and I do not have the necessary resources to file for it. I am seeking an option for continuing on with my life without having to wait until I am 18 in 6 months. How much authority does my father have over me as a 17 1/2 year old? Would he be able to take me away from starting a new school, job, etc. and taking control of my own life? I understand that I am not a legal adult, but I have credible family members that would provide a safe place for me to live and be a part of their home. I just want my life back, my father has taken enough of it away. My mother is not so credible in the court system, so her rights were taken away and my father has placement custody. How can I move on before I turn 18? Money is not a problem, safety is not a problem. Talking to him like a human and trying to reason is not an option, as I have tried on numerous occasions. Please help with any legal information that I could use to declare my freedom as soon as possible.

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  • ccsmod10
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline’s forums. It sounds like you are in an incredibly difficult situation and would like to runaway from home. We just want you to know that your feelings are incredibly difficult to deal with during this frustrating time.

    If you feel the need to end your life we strongly encourage you to reach out to us directly at 1800-Runaway or to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1800-273-8255. We can help you work through your feelings and help you (or direct you to someone who can) develop healthy coping mechanisms to deal with your feelings. We do not wish for you to end your life!

    As you likely know running away is incredibly dangerous. If you do decide to runaway, your parents could file a runaway report with the police, which means that if you are picked up by the police then you will likely be returned home to your parents, which might make your situation even worse. Additionally, if someone decides to help you runaway or let you stay with them, they can be defiantly be charged with a crime.

    One thing that might help you in your situation is to talk with someone you trust, outside of your immediate family, such as a school counselor, teacher or grandparent. These individuals know you and your needs better, so they might be able to help you. Similarly as writing this forum post, preparing and executing such a conversation is not easy. It might help to rehearse the things you want to talk about beforehand. Another resource people have tried is family/individual counseling.

    It is important to note that professional resources are often times not free and require parental permission.

    We wish you the best as you seek to resolve your situation. We will be here for you along the way. Please feel free to reach out to us by phone at 1800-runaway or through our online chat platform.

    Best wishes,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Bird Having to Leave the nest Early

    I'm currently 15 years old(in North Carolina), i wish to runaway. I am fully aware of the consciences and able to take care of myself. I want to run away because i no longer feel comfortable in my house, my mother doesn't trust me and always invades any privacy i have, my father and i were never close to begin with. The older i get the more i feel like a burden, i feel hated in the house i live in. I worry that if i stay in this house any longer , i might kill myself. I wouldn't do it to spite my parents, but to free myself from a life i no longer wish to live

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi,
    Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out us. It sounds like due to the advance school that you are going to you cannot seem to keep up with the work and would like to go to a more basic school. It is great that you are concerned about your education and have thought of alternative ways that you can succeed. We know that you mentioned that the classes are too advance and you are getting bad grades. Since changing schools might be an arduous task for your mother, it might be easier if you ask for her to get you a tutor. Sometimes schools already have study groups and programs. You can talk to your academic advisor about your options.
    It sounds like your depressive and anxious symptoms are starting to come back and your mother is not giving you much support. However, it sounds like going to counseling did help you until you decided to stop due to no longer having negative thoughts. Since it sounds like you were able to get some use out of counseling before, it could be worth looking into again, especially if your family can not provide you with the same support.
    You questioned what would happen if you ran away to live with a friend. We need you to know that we are not legal experts nor are we affiliated with the police so we can only speak generally about what could happen if a youth leaves home without the consent of a guardian. Leaving home without parental consent (running away) is not a crime, so the police will not arrest you. If you do leave home without permission your guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not a crime it is a status offence (something that only a minor can get in trouble for: truancy, buying cigarettes, etc.) this means that if you have any interaction with the police they will simply return you home. On the other hand the people that you are found to be staying with could face legal consequences that vary depending on your state. You can find out more about how runaway’s reports are carried out by contacting your local police department. If you would like we could contact your local non-emergency number for you or with you. Just give us a call and one of our trained liners would be happy to assist you. 1-800-786-2929
    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: We care what you think
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