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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us here on our public forum. We are always here to listen and help in any way that we possibly can. It must be pretty frustrating not knowing what your next step is going to be from this point on. After reading through your post is sounds like you are having a lot of issues with your parents isolating you from the things that you enjoy based on their religious views. That must be really hard to deal with, especially as a teenager that wants to explore their world views a little. You also mentioned that your father will made threats or even beat you. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. Just know that you always have the right to report any abuse (physical, mental, sexual, or neglect/abandonment) to child protective service in your state. You have rights too. If you are unsure of what that might look like or have questions about it, please feel free to reach out to us here or even “Child Help (National Child Abuse Hotline)” (800.799.7233).

    Only you know when you need to leave due to your home being unsafe. Unfortunately no one but you can make that decision for you, not even here. It sounds like you might need a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We don’t ask for any identifying information, unless you want to report any abuse. We certainly want to help you. We encourage you to reach out to us to get more support.

    Best of luck and hope to hear from you!

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    Iam14 and my I am missreable at my house living with my parents because they won't let me hang out with any of my friends because their not in my religion. And also because of my parents and religion I can't have as many privileges in school like school sports and learning some things in science class like evolution and stuff.And every time I bring up playing sports or even talking about my friends at school my dad threatens to beat me and some times does beat me and I have many friends and their parents that want to bring me in if I can't live with my parents any more .

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  • ccsmod4
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    My parents are homophobic and I’m bisexual

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. You don’t deserve to be talked down to or judged by anyone. You are very brave for standing up for who you are.
    It sounds like you are trying to find a way to move out of your home legally.
    In some states there are emancipation laws that can be one way of trying to gain your independence. . We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18.

    Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. It also helps to be in good standing at school. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. It’s best to check your local court house to gain more information on this process.

    Take care,
    NRS

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  • ccsmod4
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    I’m 14 and my parents

    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. Your bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1-888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

    You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Another option that you thought about is a friend that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to run away, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY we can try to find some youth shelters that may be in your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-16-2019, 12:30 AM.

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    My parents are homophobic and I’m bisexual. They call me names and treat me like trash. I tell my friends but they don’t believe me. I don’t have permission to leave home but I’m wondering if there is another legal way to do it.

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    I’m 14 and my parents are not okay with the fact that I’m a girl who likes girls. They treat me differently than my siblings and tell me that I’m wrong and call me names. They want me to go to a straightening counselor. I have an adult I trust and I want to leave and live with her. I can’t take it anymore. They treat me like ********. I resorted to cutting myself and I just recently stopped. I have tried talking to them about it but they won’t change their opinion of bisexuals. I regret coming out of the closet.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like there is a lot stuff going on in your household. It must be frustrating to not be heard by your mom when you are trying to express how you feel. It’s good that you have your brother and father who support you and hear you out. It’s understandable that you would want to leave your moms house especially with the way you feel. Maybe since it seems easier for you to have a conversation with your father you can try to talk with him about your concerns. Maybe your dad can find a way to have the conversation with your mom about the way you are feeling. Sometimes it helps to have someone there to support you. We do offer a service were we could contact your parents and help you start the conversation with them about how you are feeling. You mentioned something about not wanting to live anymore and it sounds like your father and brother are a motivation for you to not harm yourself. It’s considerate of you to think of how that decision could affect the people you love. It’s understandable with everything that you are going through that you have times when you are feeling down. If you ever have thoughts of harming yourself or anyone else you can contact National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. If you want to talk more about your situation and what options you have you can give us a call at 1800-RUNAWAY. We are 24/7, confidential and here to help. Best of luck!

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    My mom doesnt listen. That's it, I just wanna talk to her about stuff and she doesnt listen, I told her not to sign me up for a school visit that we are too broke to even afford, but she didnt listen and signed me up anyway. After telling her that I could be doing much better in school if I had more time, she started yelling at me. One way i could have more time is by staying home and missing out on the school visit which i dont wanna go to. I feel like i dont wanna live anymore but i know that i cant kill myself or my dad would be devastated. I dont care how my mom would feel. My dad cheated on my mom a while ago, so they divorced and now my mom is getting screwed by some guy. It would destroy my dad and brother if I killed myself so that is oit of the question, I would like to move into my dads house but all of my stuff is at my moms house including my $1300 gaming pc that i bought and built with my dad. My dad actually listens to me and so does my brother but my mom, not so much. I dont think my brother feels the same way because well, he can drive and he gets treated better by my mom and, well, I just feel lost. I also have a dog at my moms place and my mom has the nicer house but i feel like that shouldnt be like that.my dad is a good guy who made a mistake and my mom just blames everything wrong in her life on him. She screwed the guy in our car and there were butt prints on the seat afterward. She doesnt care about me it feels like. She says she loves me but I dont believe that. Pls help me

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hello. I'm 14 and I wanna move out of my house. my brother is the main problem. I thinking about moving out to a friends house and taking the essential things I need. I always feel like I disappoint my family and I always feel ashamed. I recently called my brother a spoiled brat and I damn ready to get out of that house. But I do need some advice? Where do I live when I move out?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello , i am 14 and i am considering moving of home. There is four of us live together and i am coming to age that i am tired of get assault and doing everything (everything my mother yells at me to do ). i have a sister that is 12 with ADHD , so if i do any thing wrong , i would be punished but if she broke a glass ball they wound't do anything , i am tired of living like it's always my fault

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline over our online forum. It takes a lot to ask for help, especially when you are going through a tough time. Your situation at home sounds really difficult and it is not fair that your aunt experiences a lot of mood swings. You do not deserve to be in trouble for staying out for a few minutes over your curfew, especially when other members of the household are not held to the same consequences. So, it is understandable that you are frustrated and want to move out of this situation to be on your own and not have to live by her rules any longer. It might be beneficial to reach out to other trusted adults or close friends outside of your household that you could talk to in order to vent to them about what you are going through. This way, your support group is aware of what you are experiencing at home and can be there for you when you feel most alone. Additionally, you can most definitely reach out to us here at NRS directly at the following phone number: 1-800-786-2929. This way, we can talk more about your situation in depth and possibly even conduct a conference call between you and your aunt in order to re-evaluate your home life and how it can improve. If you decide against this, we can still talk more and even talk about your options for moving out and finding a more stable home environment. Again, thank you for reaching out to us and we are here 24/7 to listen.

    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    im 14 and live with my aunt for about 8 years now, shes constantly having mood swings being sweet then her being in a bad mood. today i got home late from my friend that i live 5 minutes away from. I was 7 minutes late and she said because of that i cant go to my friends house for 7 days. Never has she done this to her son who is my exact age, never. Hes been 20-25 minutes late before but has never punished him.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello,

    It sounds like you are thinking about harming yourself or ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.
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