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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. If you leave with your mom and brother then your dad would not be able to report you as a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,

    NRS

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    my dad is verbally abusive to me, my mom, and little brother. he screams and throws things and talks about me being suicidal as a joke and is using my mom just to cook and clean for him and then yells at me and my brother that we are selfish and need to help . he is constantly snapping at me and makes my mom yell at me and my brother. every interaction with him is so bad and i just want to get my mom and brother away from him. i’m only 14 but i want to move out or have a friends parents or a family member take me in but i don’t know how to get my mom and brother away too. i just never feel safe here for myself and my mom and brother. i feel like my mom dosent want to accept that my dad is just using her and he’s a really bad person. my dad is also very controlling and scary. he will get in your face and scream and grab you and say very, very hurtful things to you in full confidence. he controls everything in this house including the internet. i’m not sure if this post will get out or not because he will see that i’m on my ipod (i’m not allowed to have a phone the only reason i have an ipod is because my extended family felt bad for me and got me an ipod) and he will shut the internet off. i’m normally ********s off at 8pm and turns on at 8am if he even puts it on at all. most of the time he just leaves it off. i just don’t know what to do, please help me.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting NRS and taking the time to share a bit about your situation. It sounds like your mom has been making you feel like you want to leave. It is unfair of her to treat your sister so differently than she treats you and to over react. That must make being at home quite frustrating and overwhelming for you. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel wanted and supported. You were really brave for reaching out to ask for help.

    We want to be a support for you and a listening ear. If we talk more in detail about your situation it will help us better support you and brainstorm some options together. You can reach out anytime by phone (1-800-786-2929) or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org if you want to talk more about what's going on.

    We look forward to hearing from you soon,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I don’t want to be home I can’t stand to even be in the same room as my mom anymore she flips out over everything and is very controlling she over reacts over literally anything and everything I do. My sister is treated like an angel and I’m treated like a mistake. The only time I’m happy and I enjoy myself is when I’m with my friends but I can’t do that cuz my mom doesn’t let me out of the house I’m basically on house arrest. If I were to leave she’d report me as a runaway. I don’t know what to do but I need to get away from her it doesn’t feel like home it feels like a prison.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 14 years old and I really want to leave my home. My parents forced me to homeschool at the beginning of last semester and I feel like I’m not getting anything done. I had to find my own homeschool things. My parents don’t even know the name of what I use. I’m depressed because I can’t see friends or do much of anything. I get yelled at everyday for not doing enough chores and am constantly interrupted to do chores when I’m doing school work. I can only work 7 am to 12 pm and that’s with interruptions to do chores. I was forced to homeschool because I told them I didn’t agree with their religion so their pastor said they had to homeschool me. I can’t do extracurricular activities either. I’m not allowed to take ballet because it’s “inappropriate.” I can’t play on a basketball team or any sports team because it’s “of the devil.” I’m not even allowed to wear pants because it isn’t “ladylike.” I can only wear long skirts with no slits and they have to be loose. I can’t show my collar bones. And I can only wear long sleeves, which is very annoying in the summer. I’m not allowed to cut my hair or dye it etc. I can’t wear makeup either or wear jewelry. I can only text people that are a part of their religion. I recently was allowed to get a therapist (they didn’t allow it before), but it feels useless because what’s the point in talking to someone once a week for an hour when it’s not going to change anything. I’m still going to have to live my stupid life. I was a straight A student and very smart before. I guess I still am but I don’t feel confident anymore. My mom calls me ugly, fat, and other things all the time. I starve myself and cut myself when it gets bad. My mom says she would give me up for adoption as long as my dad agrees. My dad is very controlling though and can’t be spoken to or else I’ll get screamed at, get my phone taken away, and hit. My mom is always on the phone with a guy friend and always ignores me and just says, “I’m going out, clean the house and/or take care of the kids.” If I don’t get out of this house soon, I’m going to kill myself because I can’t handle being controlled anymore. Even if it does mean, “I’m going to hell.” Which is what they scream at me all the time. I know I can’t run away because I’ll just ruin my record, so suicide is my only ticket out.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are going through a lot. It's good that you have your father who seems like a big support for you. You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe!

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    Guest replied
    hiya i'm 14 and want to move out. My whole family got mad at my mother because her new boyfriend is an alcoholic and we were scared he'd hurt her but now we honestly don't care. She blames my dad for me and my brothers resentfulness to my mom. So she tried to kick him out of my life and made a bunch of things up about him and made him seem evil . i didn't believe them. one day i was talking to my dad on the phone about how i felt and she over heard and when i came out of my room she was standing by the door and took the home phone out my hand(she took my other one a few days before this due to her wanting to look through all of my text messages ) and she told me to stand by the front door and to touch nothing in the house she then proceeded to punch me by the front door so i went out of the front door and when i tried to go back she locked it. i called my dad from a kind lady who gave me herds and she calls THE POLICE SAYING I"D RUN AWAY . the police told me to go to my dads for a while until the whole thing calms down. And she asked how many options does she have to get rid of me and he gave her some. i went to my dad's and she "wanted" me back and my dad and me didn't want me back in that toxic house but the police were involved and said my dad could be charged for kidnapping (he's not my biological father so he has no legal rights) so i had to come back. As we go home she proceed to tell me how i'm not to come out my room unless i have to use the bathroom or clean the kitchen and then tells me to go to my room immediately. After she looked through my bag and to find the house phone i forgot i hid from her. and now i'm stuck with her for the next few years and idk what to do

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18 if your mom kicks you out. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent's permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your Mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 14 and I feel like my mother wants to kick me out the house because I be in the streets a lot and she thinks if I can’t abide by her rule set in the house I should leave but its so hard to deal with it...what should I do?

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. There is also the legal consequences of being with someone above the age of 18 while you are under the age of 18.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 14 I don't feel safe in my home my dad's girlfriend is always mad and my mom lives across country and I'm gay I've been seeing an older guy he's 39 we met a couple of times and I really want to live with him but I'm not sure how or if I can I'm tempted to run away to his place.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello,

    We’re glad you reached out to us. You should never be made to feel worthless, especially in your own home. The way your father speaks to you isn’t right. You deserve to be made to feel respected and supported.

    It’s understandable that you’d want to get away from an environment where you don’t feel supported. And it’s very understandable that you’re having a stressful time at school. Coming home to an environment that isn’t safe and supportive only makes other things, like schoolwork, more difficult.

    We invite you to call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. While your parents are legally responsible for you until you’re 18, there are things we can discuss that can make living with them easier until you’re legally an adult.

    We’re sorry you’re going through this and are ready to listen and help whenever you are, 24/7.

    All our best!
    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    i dont want to live in my house anymore. im constantly having arguments with my dad and he makes me feel like im worthless. i told him today that he should just kick me out if he doesnt want me here and he said "its fine i told your mother that as soon as you turn 16, you;re out of the house" i live in a house with my mum, dad, and 2 brother. one of which is disabled. im having a stressful time at school as well and i dont want to come home afterschool most days. i seriously am just thinking about running away and not coming back here,

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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