I'm 14 and I want to move out

[Guest]

Hello im 15 and want to move out. i dont want to live with my mom anymore. when she tells me to do something i do it. i stay in my room so i wont be in her way. i stay quiet and the only time you will hear me is if im on the phone and im laughing. but nothing i do is good enough for her. she wants me gone but have no where to go. she acts like im not even her daughter. and anyone i try to go to they will just send me back. can you please help me understand what im doing wrong? of if im doing anything wrong?

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,

You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I want to move in with my best friend so it’s not necessarily running away. They’re okay with it but the reasons I want to move out are my parents aren’t here for me on an emotional level they think I should be happy because I have a place to stay which I am don’t get me wrong but i don’t get the emotional help i need. Another reason is the only time we ever talk is arguing because i want to go to someone else’s house where i can get my emotions through and have a genuine smile and laugh.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. It can be hard to feel like your parents are not meeting your emotional needs. At NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your parents and have a conference call. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the conversation and provide support. Another option you could consider is to talk to a school counselor about what is going on, they may be able to provide you with additional resources and help.
You mentioned staying with your friend, if your parents give you permission then we assume that would be okay. If you leave without permission your parents have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 and I want to live with my sister she cares about me more than my mom does and she cares unlike my mom what do I do

[ccsmod10]

That sounds like a very difficult situation you are in. I’m sorry to hear you’re dealing with this issue, thank you for contacting us.

It’s good to hear that your sister cares about you and supports you. If you do run away, your mom does have the right to report the runaway which can end in being sent back home by the police. However, with parental permission you may legally live with your sister or wait till you turn the age of majority. If you do not feel safe, you can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

We’re really glad you reached out to us. It can be really hard realizing that you want situation to change. I wish you the best of luck and if you want to talk to someone through chat or on the phone, do not hesitate to do so at 1-800-RUNAWAY

[Guest]

I’ve had enough of my family, school and everyone in general I don’t know what to do anymore my life is like a rollercoaster that goes up and down but then gets stuck on the down side for a long period of time. I’ve been wanting to leave and go for a Long time now I don’t care where I go but my life would get better if I wasn’t surrounded by the people who make it ********. No matter how hard I try I seem to come worse of my half brother seems to think he’s the farther figure in the house and try’s to control my life , he’s abusive and just dam right nasty . I just don’t wanna be here no more If I’ve gotta put up with all the ******** I get on a daily basis.

[ccsmod15]

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you have a lot of hard things to deal with. The ups and downs of life feeling like a rollercoaster sounds really stressful, and it doesn’t sound like you have a lot of support. Your half-brother being abusive and nasty, as well as trying to control your life is really tough. It is understandable that you feel like moving out.

The issue is that at 14, we would have to hear more about your situation to help you discover your options. We are here for you, and we can talk about ways to help things be better at home, or see if there’s a way to help you be safe from your half-brother. You do not deserve to be treated badly and abused. You found us, and now you know tht you are not alone in this.

You can reach out to us again either by our phone hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929), or our live chat service through this website, 1800runaway.org We hope to hear from you. We are here 24/7 to listen and help.

Sincerely, NRS

[Guest]

I’m ready to move out. My mother works in the day and at night she works at a club. She gets mad at for no reason most of the times. She says I’m a disgrace and slaps me in the face sometimes. I have a scar on my eyebrow from her slapping me and cutting me with her braclet. Her boyfriend does nothing to help. I’m ready to move out. I hung out with my friends and we Almost forget to clean up trash and the building emails her and she grounds me for months. Can’t take this anymore

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website if you are unable to call in. You can also reach us 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929.
In addition to helping report abuse and talking about your situation at home, we can talk about options for you to leave: plan to leave, how to take care of yourself, shelters and places to stay, etc.

We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

My parents make me do everything in the house cooking, cleaning and taking care of my little brother and when they come home they still aren’t happy. I talked to me auntie she said she would take me in and send me to my grandmother in a different country where I grew up until I was the age of starting school. Could my parents do anything about that? I’m only 14 and tired of everything

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I want to move out. So freaking bad. I’m so tired of being so damn dirt poor all the time, I live with my mom and her boyfriend. They don’t have any jobs, can just barely afford to tend to our (me, my sister and younger special needs brother and baby sister) needs. I hate how everything is so improper in this household. Where our living room used to be, my mom, her boyfriend and baby sister have turned it into their bedroom, and our aunt lives in the basement. Our house is never clean, our front door is broken, we have no air conditioner, not even a fridge light. No car, always have to take the bus. Our house is basically rotting, and I’m ashamed of it. I hate my house so bad, I look at Facebook ads of houses and daydream of moving there and having both my mom and stepdad working jobs and having a proper lifestyle, and it’s draining because I know that’s not going to happen, at least for a while and I can’t move in with my dad, because he himself is just barely making it and he’s not even living in the city. And I always avoid bringing friends over, and my mom seems to have not a care in the world. It breaks me emotionally because all I want is properness in a house where it’s non existent. I want to call this Neglect but it’s just below the line

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and I really want to live with my sisters in California, when I’m not with them it feels like something inside of me is missing. I really love my parents and family though. I play hockey and take it very seriously but if I were to somehow live with my sisters I don’t think I would be able to play the sport I love. I just don’t know and am frustrated. What do I do? Please.

[Guest]

I’m 14 and I absolutely hate where I am. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I blame it on my parents. they act like I’m a nothing, treat me so horrible and listen to nothing I have to say. my dad drinks all the time and he takes my phone so I have nobody to talk too. this has been going on for almost 4 years and to say the least I’m SICK of it. I’ve tried to commit suicide 2 times cause of how much I hate it. any advice?

[ccsmod2]

Thanks so much for reaching out! It sounds like your relationship with your parents is really taking a toll on you and it was really brave of you to reach out to get help. We want to do what we can to help.
If you are looking move out you could ask any surrounding family or friends about staying with them or look on the Nation Safe Place at nationalsafeplace.org for a shelter near you. If you want more support with your anxiety and depression, SAMHSA (877-726-4727 or at samsha.gov) or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800-273-8255 or at suicidepreventionlifeline.org) are great resources. If you need any other help please reach back out by either emailing us, calling at 800-786-2929 or chatting us on our website www.1800runaway.org . We are 24/7. Best of luck!

[Guest]

I'm 14. I have very high ambitious parents they want only good grades and nothing else. They insult everything I like from my music taste, my clothing, my friends etc. They care 0 percent of my mental health. They don't let me go out with my friends ever. Then they blame me for not having any "good friends." I also get abused a lot. I really want to move out but I have nowhere to go.

[ccsmod1]

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. You may want to try calling out to https://kidshelpphone.ca/, a Canadian agency.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

Hello, I'm 14 and i was debating on running away, i know it's illegal for minors but I had an argument with my father today and got very angry and sad. I feel like he loves me but other times i don't. I just want to be able to do what i want with my hair and he won't let me. When he has an answer down his mind is set on it and I need some help because tomorrow I'm going back home around 1 or 2 and i really don't want to deal with this..

[Guest]

I'm 14 and have great parents it's just they decided we would move and right after I had a boyfriend for a year and they think I can just ditch my whole life because they said so I just wish they'd let me stay especially since I have family members in the area who I could stay with but no the just have to force me to move to a whole other contanent with them. And I don't know what to do.

[ccsmod6]

Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It is unfair for your parents to force you to move and uproot your entire life. It is also unfair that they are not considering your reasonable solutions to the problem at hand. Unfortunately, as your guardians, they do have the right to decide where you live. Being forced to move sucks. There’s no denying that, but it might be unavoidable. It could be a good idea to see if you could negotiate with your parents about something that they could do for you when you do move. Chances are they know that the position they are putting you in is miserable and they might be willing to make it right in a way that is realistic and possible. If you would like to brainstorm or talk more about what other options there might be, we would be happy to chat with you. Please don’t hesitate to give us a call on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or reach out online at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I've tried they just won't listen to me.

[ccsmod7]

Hi there, thanks for reaching back out.

That must be pretty hurtful that your parents are not listening to you. You should be heard. Here at NRS, we have a conference call service if you ever want to have a mediated conversation with your parents. It can be a safe space for both parties to be heard and to brainstorm compromises. Please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for that service. You might also try writing them a heartfelt letter about how you are feeling, so you can really get everything you want to say to them out.

We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Best of luck,

NRS

[Guest]

I feel so lonely in my house my parents don’t pay attention to be and i’ve been thinking about hurting myself, I have no friends and I just dont know what to do

[ccsmod15]

Hello, thanks for posting today. It sounds like things are really stressful and taking quite the toll on you. We are glad you reached out! Your safety is our #1 priority and you mentioned feeling like you want to hurt yourself. Having thoughts of suicide is not uncommon, especially when things are so hard and unfair at home. If you are ever in immediate danger of taking your own life, you can call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room for immediate help. Calling 911, someone will be sent to check on you. We are also 24/7 by call (1-800-786-2929) and live chat here on our website and are always open to talking to youth struggling with things like problems with their parents, custody, and mental health. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is also 24/7 both on the phone and online and they are another resource for when you feel unsafe: 1-800-273-8255, suicidepreventionlifeline.org. There is also a website called To Write Love on Her Arms (twloha.com) that discusses self-injury, suicide, as well as other topics from people who have been there. They have resources for local support, blog posts by people on different topics, etc. Many youth find it helpful!

You may also consider finding a local support group or therapist to talk to. Someone else to speak with so you do not feel as lonely. We have resources here at NRS so feel free to call or chat anytime and we can find some local resources near you. You can also find local support groups and therapists by your location at samhsa.gov. There is also the Crisis Text Line: 741-741 that is also available 24/7 to talk about how you are feeling and what is going on!

We are here 24/7. It takes a lot of courage to reach out! Thanks for posting and call or chat soon!

[Guest]

I’m 15 and had a crappy life I want to move out of my parents house to live with my boyfriend but how can I do that

[ccsmod8]

Hello there,

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. Hopefully there are other's that are reading through this thread in a similar situation to yours and can get help as well. We are mainly here for support and help find some guidance to local resources that might be able to help a youth through their particular situation and we aren’t here to tell you what to do because you know your situation a lot better than we do.

Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. If you’d feel more comfortable with doing that, just know that it’s always available. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from or to maybe build on your relationship and make it better. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

Only you know yourself when it’s time to leave home due to it being an unsafe situation and it sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We don’t ask for any identifying information, unless you want to report any abuse. We certainly want to help you.

Hope to hear from you soon!