I'm 14 and I want to move out

[Guest]

My mom makes me feel like I’m a disappointment an when I was little she kind of neglected me so I always hated to be in that house an the only I feel loved is by my older brother who’s been there for me over all the stupid freak out my mom had, she blames all her life problems on me, an screams at me for stuff I didn’t do an I’m sick of getting treated that way and I want to move out but I’m only 14 turning 15 in a couple days tho, but I am wondering if there’s anyway I could move out an I know they won’t want me to move out but I would fight to be able to move out of that house

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it's not OK for your mom to blame you for her life problems. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned that your mom is neglectful. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm, abuse, or neglect is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

Ok so I'm 14 I live with my mo and dad I want to move out because my dad isn't good for me I can't count how many times he called me a ******** up honestly my mom steps in sometimes ig when she feels like it but today I couldn't handle it he was calling me a ******** and I can't do one thing right he saw a guy text me today said if I ever see a guy text u again I'm going to smack the ******** out of u he hits and yells and me for the smallest thing he says it because he care when and if I am allow friends over he make me feel like ******** about and calls them name behind there back my sister moved out when she was 16 with my grandma now she is like 25 but she lives far I don't feel comfortable talk to any even the cops because I don't want to make them mad what do I do

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 just my dad has hit me to the point it' doesn't even hurt when he does now he calls me a f up can't to anything right more times then I can count I don't want to talk to the cops because he will get mad at me today I just had it I just got out of dating someone they did know tho I just wanted to be alone but he make me feel like I'm not enough I even thinking of killing myself my sister moved out when she was like 16 now she is like 25 but she lives far I really feel un fixable like no one care idk what to do

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. It also sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and I want to move In with my aunt my parents and I are constantly fighting and arguing and I’m just tired of it. I don’t want to live with them anymore and I think my aunt would let me move in but I don’t know how to ask I’ve thought about running away before but have always been to scared to. I would just like help on how to ask her and if she says yes what should I say to my parents I feel like if I tell I want to they’ll just get mad and shut me down. What should I do?

[ccsmod6]

Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your home life has gotten to the point where you feel like you have to move out. Living in a house with constant fighting and arguing must be immensely stressful and difficult. It is great that you have what sounds like a good relationship with your aunt. In terms of introducing the idea of moving in with her, it may be a good idea to just be as honest as you can. It does not sound unreasonable for you to tell her that you are unhappy at home because of the fighting and that you would like for her to seriously consider if you could live with her. You can start by just asking her if she has time to talk to you about something. From there, if she is open to the idea of you moving in, you two can strategize for how you might introduce the idea to your parents. Of course, we would be happy to talk to you in greater depth about what is going on. If you are interested, please don't hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 14 and I don’t wanna live with my mother anymore she doesn’t wanna listen to what I have to say and she yells at me over the smallest things like if i try to tell I don’t like something she calls me names and say I’ll force you to do it like I know she is my mother but I feel like if she keeps doing this I’ll end up hurting her or running away

[ccsmod4]

Reply: Hi I’m 14 and I don’t wanna live with my mother

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. Sometimes communication breaks down and it can seem like you are not being heard and your feelings are not being taken seriously.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello I’m 14 and I want to move out. I don’t wanna live with my grandparents for the moment, those are my guardians , I just feel like ********, everyday it’s struggle
I worry about all the bills it seems like I’m the only one who cares, this is to much to put on a kid, I feel like ******** because my uncles always treat me differently and I’ve had enough I don’t wanna be struggling and worrying, I don’t want to be doing illegal things to get money, what can I do?

[ccsmod4]

Reply: Hello I’m 14 and I want to move out.


Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I'm 17 and my sister is 14 she won't to move in with me she is constantly running away I said she can is she aloud

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for writing in to the National Runaway Safeline. Depending on which state you are in, your sister is still considered a minor for a few years. We are not legal experts, but if she left to stay with you and her guardian chose to file a runaway report, you could potentially be charged with harboring a runaway. If you are turning 18 soon, you could possibly come to an agreement with her guardian on an ‘alternative living situation’ in which she stays with you. This type of agreement typically involves legal involvement, however, so it’s best to consult your local authority for more information.

Please give us a call at 1800 RUNAWAY (786 2929) for additional support and resources. Take care.

[Guest]

I want to run away. I’ve been thinking this for about 2-3 years now. My mom is an absolute hot mess. She makes me feel like I’m the worst daughter in the world, and didn’t even believe me when I was sexually assault by my science teacher. My father is an absolute monster. He verbally abuses me and called me a “slut” a “whore” and “fat” when I’m not any of those things. My parents really should get a divorce, but I don’t think they would ever get a divorce, even though their relationship is so toxic. My dad is super selfish and never pays attention to me, and my mom cusses me out when I say I want to speak to a councilor. I hate my life, and I’ve thought about just ending my life, but I just need to get away from my toxic family. I can guarantee that I will not be able to survive in this family for much longer. Please help me

[ccsmod2]

We are glad you reached out to us. It takes a lot of courage to get help. It sounds like you have a lot of difficult things going on in your life and with your family. You don’t deserve to be treated so abusively. It is tremendously challenging dealing with sexual assault when your parents are not supportive and don’t believe you. We would recommend that you call us directly at (800) 786 2929. We are staffed 24/7 and want to help you find the right resources you need to deal with your family issues and your stress. There are numerous options we can look at to try and find the right help for you. We know it is not easy to get help and reach out and we are glad you started that process.

[Guest]

i’m 14 and my dad drinks a lot and i always worry about when he’ll come home, and when he does if he’ll hit me or my mom. i don’t know how long i can stay here like this.

[ccsmod9]

Hello,

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 I want to move out and I have my grandma who will take me in I get yelled at by my mom and dad and I have mental breakdowns every day please help me

[ccsmod2]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS)! It sounds like your parents’ constant yelling is causing you mental and emotional distress. You do not deserve to be mistreated this way! Your life is important and you matter – if you ever feel unsafe, please reach out to emergency services by phone (9-1-1, National Alliance on Mental Illness by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or text 741741) or in person.

It’s great that you have your grandmother in your life that you trust and feel comfortable living with. You may want to consider contacting your local authorities and legal advisors regarding the implications of moving in with your grandma without your parents’ consent. You can also consider speaking with a school counselor or another trusted adult about your home life. Sometimes having help from someone outside of the family can bring attention to the issue and other safe ways to bring about change in a safe space.

As a reminder, we are here to help sort through things with you and identify a plan that is safest and best for you.

We hope you reach out by phone (1-800-RUNAWAY or 1-800-786-2929) or chat (https://www.1800runaway.org/) soon.

Take care and good luck,

NRS

[Guest]

Is there any way I can live with my friend if I’m under age ? They want to take me in but I don’t want them getting in trouble with the cops

[ccsmod7]

Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

Generally speaking the easiest way to stay with a friend as a minor is with your guardian's permission. If you leave home without permission, that is when you could be reported as a runaway to local police by your guardians. If you are found, you could be returned home and the legal adult who is housing you could be at risk of being charged with harboring a runaway if your parents attempt to press those charges.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

-NRS

[Guest]

Hi My name is Tya and I'm fourteen, I want to runaway and move in with my grandmother and grandfather. My mom curses at me 24/7. I've already started packing my stuff and all. But I was also wondering if my grandparents could get custody of me!!!!!!! Please help me!!!! I don't feel very safe I'm house in savannah!!!!

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. In your case you may be able to run away to your grandparent’s house but you will need to have evidence that you have been emotionally abused or physically. Signs of this are bruises, text, pictures, videos anything that can show you are not safe to go home For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I need your help over here Im 14 years old and I can't stand living in my house my mom would force me to do lots of thing like cleaning the whole house and if I don't she would scream at me and sometimes she take everything I have by the way she is my step mother even tho my real dad does not understands me much he would be screaming at me for not doing well in school and he gives me extra work so is there a way to solve this problem

[ccsmod9]

Hello,

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS