I'm 14 and I want to move out

[Guest]

I just want to move out

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Hi,
Thank you for your message. It sounds like you’re wanting to move out. We are happy to help you think through your options and find resources for you. Please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929; we are here 24/7. Hoping to hear from you soon,
Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey I'm only 14 and I'm really stressed......and depressed....... because of my family my father had died couple years back and my mom has been acting strange....she often beats me shout at me which I don't feel good and also I have a stepfather which do care for me but my mom just always shout at him and they both never stop fighting with the result I have to suffer whenever they fight I don't have to talk to stepfather and if I do anything wrong my mom just keep shouting at me wether it would be a festival or occasion ....they don't care and because of that reason I too can't celebrate or enjoy my life now my stepfather is also moving on just cause of the fight my mom and dad had last night.........and now I know .........only thing I can do is die...... cause my mom will not let me leave I want to die my life is worthless

[ccsmod11]

Hi,

We are so sorry to hear about what you are going through right now. No one deserves to be treated that way, you deserve better. It is extremely brave of you to ask for help and we want to thank you for reaching out. You sound very mature and strong. It seems like you are trying very hard for your relationship with your mother to work out but she is constantly yelling at you. It must be very frustrating to feel like you are not being herd.

One option that you may have is to report your Mom to Child Protective Services. There is an organization called Child Help USA. The hotline offers crisis intervention, information, literature, and referrals to thousands of emergency, social service, and support resources. All calls are confidential and they can be reached at 1-800-422-4453. If you feel that reporting your mother is an option that would help keep you safe, it might be a good idea to take pictures of any bruises or marks for proof. If you feel like you are immediate danger, please call 911.

You also mentioned feeling depressed and that the only thing you can do is die. It sounds like you’re going through an incredibly hard situation and it was brave of you to reach out to someone. When feeling suicidal, you can always call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. It’s a great resource with operators who are trained counselors who can talk you through some of your feelings. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve dignity. No one ever deserves to be abused and you are not responsible for the abuse. Know that there are resources available to you and you’re not alone. Another agency that you may find useful is NAMI the National Alliance on Mental Illness at 800-950-6264 or https://www.nami.org/.

You’re going through a lot right now, and taking this step to start talking to someone was so strong. You can call us any time at 1-800-Runaway if you ever have any other questions, need more resources, or just need to talk about what you’re going through. We’re available 24/7 and we’re here to listen.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

Hi I am 14 and i wanna run away to my boyfriends house who is 15. I tried telling my parents about how me and my boyfriend have been dating and I wanted them to know each other but ever since i tried telling them, my mom has beaten me up and she calls me names. She also isolated me, she doesnt let me go to school, she took my phone away and all gadgets and I can't contact anyone. Im stuck in my house and I plan on getting a job and run away to my bf soon.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. You do not deserve to be beaten up that is not acceptable. That is a form of physical abuse, and if you would like to make a report you can call The Child Helpline at: 1800-422-4453. We know that sometimes making an abuse report can be scary if you would like our help with making a report please give us a call.
You also mentioned wanting to run away, we are not legal experts but we do have general knowledge of the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they would most likely bring you home. Also your boyfriend’s family could get charged with harboring a runaway. If you do decide to runaway we hope that you are somewhere safe, your safety is our top concern.
We hope that this information will help you in your situation. If you have any other questions please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Hey am 14 year old girl livening with my with my mum and my little sister recently more like 1 year ago my mum got a new boyfriend but I don't like him because when my mum first got with him he beat her he is always trying to cause arguments between me nans my mum I am not happy an no longer want to look ge in my loan what I have lived there for 14 years an I feel unco

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It is understandable that you would want to leave a place where there is such violence and chaos. You deserve to live in a place that is safe and loving. We understand that at time things may seem overwhelming and like thing will never change but we do not want you to give up hope. Since it is near impossible to change what is going on with your mother and her boyfriend, maybe you can shape your experience living there. It could be a good idea to find activates that can keep you out of the house, such as joining an after school group or getting a part-time job. Not only will these things keep you out of the house they will also help you in the future when it comes time to apply for college or get jobs.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey I am 15 an I legally live with my father and step mother with a step brother an a step sister I have also a half brother an sister my dad is always yelling at me and telling something I do is wrong I never get to hang out with friends and his wife doesn't like me she always trying to get my dad to send me away and when he does after she feels I am doing good for myself somewhere else's she wants me to come back an my dad has physically touched me before an every time it doesn't matter what I do it's wrong an I had recently got sick the same Time as one of my step sisters had and I was made to stay in my room I couldn't even come out to make my own food like I was a diease and she was more sick then me and got to lay in the living room and make her own food I just feel unsafe loved and un wanted and wanna get out as soon as possible

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Hi, thanks for contacting National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear about what you are going through at home with your father and step-mother. This all must be so hard on you. You definitely do not deserve to be being treated the way you are by your father and step-mother. You definitely do not deserve to be being touched in a physical way by anyone at all. You seem to be dealing with a lot and you are very strong to have made it through it this far. Just so that you are aware, some of the things you mentioned here could be considered abuse and you do have the right to report abuse to child protective services. We would be more than happy to speak with you further about what that may look like and how you can go about that process with some assistance. You can also contact an agency called Child Help for more information about that. Their website is childhelp.org and their number is 1800-422-4453. With all that you are going through it may also be beneficial if you speak with someone. If you happen to know someone you trust such as another family member, friend, or school counselor, it may be beneficial to speak with them about what is going on. They may surely be willing to be a support for you. We would like to be able to continue to support you as well and speak with you further if you’d like. Please, feel free to give us a call at our 24/7 hotline 1800-RUNAWAY or you can chat with us live by visiting our website at 1800runaway.org. We wish you the very best.

[Guest]

i wanna leave home. im almost fifteen and im a boy that can look after myself. i had a job but mum and dad kept yelling at me till i quit, i earnt a little over two thousand dollars but my parents spent about $1500. i have a girlfriend but mum and dad yelled at me about it, threw my phone down the hallway and forbid me to see her. i called the police for help to get out but mum lied to them and the police made me stay here. im alive but not living i have severe deppression and i need to get away. i dont want to live anymore. i dont know what to do

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Hello,

It can be difficult to ask for help and we glad you messaged us today. You do not deserve to be treated this way. Your life is worth living and we are here to help. If you are ever in immediate danger from yourself or others, reaching out to 911 is always an option again.

It sounds like you have been through a lot and are considering your next options. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255 or suicidepreventionlifeline.org) can be a helpful resource. In addition to being available by bulletin, we operated a 24/7 hotline and are always here to provide additional support and resources (1-800-786-2929).

Its sounds like you feel the need to get away. We are not legal experts and consequences for leaving home can vary from city to city. Reaching out to a non-emergency police number is always an option. Reaching out to someone at school for support and resources is another option.

You do not deserve to be going through this alone and we are here to help.

Good luck,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm a 14-year-old female with ADHD and depression. I struggle with impulsive decisions and lying to my parents. Recently, I got in trouble for lying to my mother about having a phone. It is my friend's old phone that I had for about a month and it has Snapchat on it (which I'm not allowed to have). I'm really scared of my dad and I feel like he is going to hit me whenever he yells at me. I told my mom "why don't you kick me out?" to which her response is asking where I am going to go. I really need some help. I'm sick and tired of all this BS and I want out. I'm considering trying running away again and I want to make it this time, but I know that I'll probably get caught again. Please help me!!

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Hi there, thanks so much for reaching out to us here at NRS. It is a great first step and takes a lot of strength to talk to someone about what has been going on. We are going to brainstorm a few things here that may be options and if you can reach out again by calling us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us at 1800runaway.org, we would love to hear from you to talk further about them or other options as well.

It sounds like you are in a frustrating situation at home as you said you are scared of your dad hitting you. If you feel in danger it is okay to call the police/911 and you have the right to do so. Have you talked to anyone about what has been going on? Someone like a teacher/school counselor or adult you trust could help if you want to talk about how you are feeling or report what has been going on if you feel his behavior is abusive. They could help you with the process of reporting and what that could look like, and if you do talk about being abused to a teacher/school counselor they are mandated reporters meaning they would have to pass along what they know to Child Protective Services. Another option could be to reach out to Child Help (1-800-422-4453) to talk about what reporting is like and if you want to report they can help you do so. (if not, just do not share identifying factors like your name, address, your dad’s names, ect). We are always here for you as well if you want to explore reporting too or just talk what has been going on too or explore other options.

It sounds like from what you’ve shared that your decisions that can be impulsive and lying to your parents has created some friction as you have gotten in trouble with your parents. Something you can think about is coping mechanisms that can help. Some things that you can think about are activities like journaling when you are feeling upset to help gather your thoughts. Keeping a record like a journal can help organize how you are feeling as well and think through your decision making process to see how you make decisions and how the outcomes are as well. Furthermore, some resources can be helpful too to help cope with ADHD and depression if you wanted to look into some options. NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) is a really great resource that can offer many options like supportive services of counseling, social support, treatment options, etc. They can be reached at 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text NAMI to 741741.
We are also always here to talk and listen. We are non-judgmental and confidential if you want to brainstorm ideas and options you think will best help your situation. Don’t hesitate to call or chat us at any time as we are 24/7. We hope to hear from you soon!

Best,

NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 14 years old and I want to move out my parents home I’m tired of them controlling my life and I’m tired of them not letting me go out with my own sister like it’s not fair. My dad is controlling and wants me to do everything for him and I’m not his maid I’ve been thinking of moving out for 2 years and i don’t know what to do because all they do is talk down on me and never support me or help me out. This same situation has been happening with all of my siblings and I’m not trying to go through the same thing too

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Thank you for reaching out to NRS! It sounds like home has been a really frustrating and stressful place for you. Having people control you and tell you what you can and cannot do is really difficult to deal with every day. Home is supposed to feel safe and supportive and you do not deserve to be talked down to. Acknowledging what is best for you and your well-being is really thoughtful and responsible of you.
We are not legal experts by any means but we can give you some general information. If you were to leave without your parent’s permission, they have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not illegal, but it means that you would be returned home if police were to locate you.
You would be able to live somewhere else if your parents gave you permission. We encourage you to reach out to people you trust for support. This could be friends, other family members, or a teacher who might be able to help you talk to your parents about how you have been feeling. Sometimes having a third person involved in the situation can communication stay calm and productive. Family counseling is useful for having a supportive space to have difficult conversations. If this is something you were interested in trying, you can contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration to find a resource near you. We can also help you have difficult conversations with your parents with our conference call service. If you call our hotline we can talk to your parents together and make sure your voice and feelings are heard. Please do not hesitate to reach out by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or chat at 1800runaway.org if you want to explore options further or just need to talk. We are here 24/7 to listen.

[Guest]

I'm 12 and I want to move out. I'm planning on leaving in 1-2 years and my friends live nearby that can take me in. My parents always yell at me and make fun of me for no reason. Its makes me upset but when i cry in front of them my dad tells at me and says that I'm just a crybaby. My brothers are always making me look bad. They embarras me and lie about me to my parents and get me in trouble for no reason. My mom and dad think they're always innocent and they never get in trouble. My parents blame everything on me and they never beleive a single word I say.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 and I don't want to live in my house anymore because my dad has a girlfriend that I really don't like and she has two young boys (6 & that are so rude and they are not disciplined at all and they make me so god damn angry. My mum is a really bad alcoholic and she sometime gets abusive when she is drunk but luckily I don't live with her anymore but that doesn't stop her from harassing me over texts and calls. I don't have anyone to talk to because everyone thinks that I'm over reacting. I have a place to live and it makes me so happy when I'm there but I have to convince my dad to let me live there but he won't let me, I have to convince him because I can't live her anymore.

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Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. It's not right of your mom to harass you like that and it sounds like living with your dad's girlfriend's kids is really hard. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community-based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis-related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Guest]

Me and my family have been fighting for 5 years-ever since my sister became a drug addict and tore our family apart. I am sick of being yelled at and made out to be less than I am. I know I deserve better than this torture. I need at least a week to be by myself. I would like to move out but I assume I am too young to be able to legally do this. (I am 14 going on 15). The only thing that has been stopping me from doing this in the past is my family. Don't get me wrong, I love them deeply. But the big problem is my mother. I know it sounds terrible, but I absolutely hate her. She makes me terribly uncomfortable and I can't stand living with her. I am very afraid of what my father might do if I leave. He has suffered with anxiety and depression is whole life and I don't want him to do something drastic such as killing himself. I just need somewhere to go for a little while. I know it sounds bad, but I truly believe I need to get some serious help- such as the mental ward. But I don't know if that will ruin my life. I am currently in Junior Highschool and am worried that If I go into the mental ward I won't be permitted to go to a good high school. Is this true?

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. To answer your question, any health-related activities (such as in-patient treatment for physical or mental health) should not affect your ability to continue on to high school. It may be beneficial to talk to your school counselor/social worker about what's going on at home and about your mental health and educational concerns.

You brought up that you feel like you need some serious help. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-877-726-4727 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi im 14 years old and i have a friend who is 15 years old. he is willing to help me out as i want to move out of my house as my mom always beats me. my mom and i talked about this she said it was fine and that i can move out. but the problem is that he lives in another country what should i do

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. You do not deserve to be beat that sounds like you are describing abuse. You can always call The Child Helpline at: 1800-422-4453 and make an abuse report. If you ever feel unsafe you do have the right to call the police.
You mentioned that your mom has given you permission to stay with a friend but they live in a different country. This can be tricky if you were to go stay with your friend you would need a passport. You would also need to figure out how you would get there, and if you would be able to live there. You could always contact the US embassy and see how this process would work.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

hi I’m 14 and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore I attempted suicide about 2 weeks ago and I got out of hospital like a week ago and I told my parents it’s because of school but it’s actually because of them. They’re so strict and horrible to me and I think if ever do something wrong they will hit me I’m in tears right now because I just want to leave or die

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Woe it seems like you are going through a difficult time. We want you to know that you are valuable and there are people out there that care about you. If you are ever feeling suicidal you can always call the suicide prevention lifeline at: 1800-273-8255. It must be hard not being able to tell your parents the reason you tried to commit suicide. We do offer conference calling at NRS where if you call us we can call out to your parents and help you have a conference call. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the conversation and provide support.
You mentioned wanting to run away or die, there are many options to think about besides running away or dying. One option you could consider is talking with a school counselor or therapist about what is going on. Sometimes talking to a professional can help you feel better. Another option to consider is to see if you can stay with a family member or a friend even for a few days may help you feel better. Also sometimes having coping skills may be a good option. Some coping skills may be to write your feelings in a journal, go on walks, talk to friends, and take deep breaths.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We want you to know you are not alone please stay strong!
NRS

[Guest]

So I'm having trouble at home, I've been going through a lot of stress for a 14 year old. An all honesty I'm sick of it I'm sick of life but... I have someone in life who makes everything bearable who makes me so happy. Although my parents don't seem to approve or let me see them which, breaks me so ********ing much. I just want to live with them and not have to deal with my mom always mentioning that I don't listen, clean enough or just don't do what she thinks best in her opinion. And yes I have looked this up and supposedly I can move out if I have a court order saying I will have my own room, clothes, food and a roof over my head but I'm not quite sure if its foreal? But I'm hoping it is and I'm also hoping you guys could give me some advice!!
sincerely. Your broken teen

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Hey there your broken teen,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds like your mom isn't taking your thoughts and feelings into consideration which must be really frustrating. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. We’re not legal experts here at NRS, so we can’t give you any legal advice. What you are talking about sounds like emancipation. Emancipation is an option in some states but there are certain rules and qualifications about who can and cannot be emancipated. It can often be a lengthy and expensive process. It is often times helpful to reach out to a local legal aid agency for clarification on the qualifications of emancipation or assistance starting the process.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 14 and I feel like im trapped in a prison at home. I’m not allowed to go for a walk out of the house and when I ask why she screams, “because i said so!“, I try to stay in a calm quiet voice and tell her that is not an answer but she usually gives me the silent treatment or screams and tells me to go to my room. One time when she was taking my phone because it was 7:00pm and she doesn’t let me on my phone past 7, I said, “can I please shut it off?” In a quiet voice. as i took my phone out of her hand she slapped me. She knows that I have ptsd and anxiety about getting slapped by her so I started to have a panic attack and I couldn’t breathe, she just went into her room and left me on the couch not being able to breathe. It lasted an hour and a half and it finally stopped Bc i fainted due to low oxygen. And when I woke up it was 12pm. I have thought about running away a few times but never actually gone through with it. I would have a place i could go. I could go to a friends house and her mom already said she would be a place to stay if I was to run away. I would be safe there and happy. Unlike how I am here.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now. It must be difficult to have PTSD and panic attacks due to your mother slapping you, this seems like it happens often. If you feel you are being abused you could always make an abuse report by calling The Child Help Line at: 1800-422-4453. We know that sometimes making an abuse report can be scary, if you would like our help advocating for you please give us a call. Also if you ever feel like you are in immediate danger please call 911 ASAP.
You mentioned wanting to runaway, we are not legal experts but we do have general knowledge of the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your parents do have the right to file a runaway report. If the police found you and found it safe for you to go back home, they most likely would make you go home.
There are some options out there for you. One option you could consider is talking to a school counselor, sometimes talking to a professional can help you feel better. Another option could be to try and do hobbies you enjoy to take your mind off things. Also sometimes writing in a journal may help you feel better.
We hope this information will help you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck in your situation.
NRS