I'm 14 and want to live with a friend. My mom is emotionally abusive at times, rarely physically abusive, but also really nice and supportive sometimes.
She's a lot nicer around other people, or when on calls, but over time she becomes more and more like herself around them, eventually they say she's telling and how she's mean, she starts a fight (usually she's yelling and not letting the other person talk, always stating the other person is wrong.) and then she ends the friendship. I have no relation with my dad, one of my siblings live with us, the others don't. I'm used to people coming and going due to all the people being kicked out of our life.
I'm homeschooled, and haven't been doing any school since July because she wants us to do house work instead. The house work never ends, really. It's cluttered and everything gets moved from one spot to another, then more cleaning happens. I don't have phone service, and only one Irl friend I frequently talk to because they're related to mom's friend.
I want to live with my friend and her mom, she has a good houses a nice family and we call each other sister. We get along well, and I told her a small percent of what happens in the house and she said it's called verbal abuse multiple times. I've been aware, and we've been under numerous cps investigations (One ending currently) but he always acts so different when they're here. The cps workers say there's nothing wrong with the household, and then she goes around saying how they red nothing wrong when really cos doesn't know the whole story.
I'm scared if telling anyone due to how she might react if she knows I've told anyone, she'd find a way o get through it and my life with her would be worse.
I rarely get time to myself, I usually focus on cleaning the house. I have symptoms of adhd (badly) and I get yelled at when I show them. She says I learned them from stupid people and to stop, when I can't. This causes her to tell at me and say I'm not trying, or I can do it I'm just not doing it, or that I need to stop 'acting like the dumbasses'. She's really supportive and nice sometimes, but it changes so fast. One minute she could be happy, the next minute she could be yelling at you and be pissed off the rest of the day because you asked her which tea she wanted and how 'you should already know'. Or because you repeated something.
She lies. She lies about what I know and what I do. She yelled at me earlier because I reported something, but later told her friend and even ME that I repeated many times while laughing about it when t wasn't a funny thing, which I didn't do. She says she told me to do things, and later yells at me for not doing it, when she never told me to. Or, she tells me to do things drags me away from it to do another thing, and yells at me when I don't finish the thing she dragged me away from. Sometimes he even says she told me nicely multiple times to do a thing and I didn't do it until she yelled at me, which isn't true because usually she says to do the thing and I do it that one. Or she just straight up yells about it without nicely asking.
She tells people she only yells at me when I zone out because she 'has' to. Which isn't true. She hates t when I cry, and I feel scared to cry. I never talk back I only repond with 'yes', 'no', or a nod/ head shake. I can't ever disagree with her even if she's wrong. I can't correct her. She rarely physically hurts me bt sometimes she threatens to. In September she slapped me and threw me to the ground after flaking me names, I was scared and ran away for the first time. She called me a coward. She rarely says thins like "you're an idiot." Instead she says "you're ACTING like an idiot, I know you aren't one." When the thing I did was something I really did and I didn't purposefully do it to 'act like I don't know how to do something.' So it really feels like she is calling me one. Although in September when she got me, etc, she did call me a retard, an idiot, and threatened me multiple times. Today she threatened to beat me if I sat an object in the wrong spot.
She acts like I know more than I do, when she doesn't even give me time to learn what he thinks I know. He says I'm great at coding to the point organizations have tried to take my stuff, when I haven't even been able to write an entire script due to not being given enough time to learn it. Then, she expects me to meet her expectations of what she thinks I am and tells when I'm unable to. She says nothing's wrong with me, when in reality, I have bad symptoms of Adhd, ocd, anxiety, depression, etc. I've never had a therapist, or a chance to be diagnosed with anything.
She wants us to live in a trailer and travel around, which is scary because we'll be around less people and in the middle of nowhere more. Which gives more chances for emotional abuse (and a little of physical). She knows I'm not good with change, and the areas she wants to be in make me feel terrible.
She yells about how she'd be better off alone and how she hates people.
I don't know what to do. I'm scared to talk to her about it, because I know it'd end up in her yelling and nothing better. I've witnessed it a lot. Again, I can't do anything but agree with her.
I really want to live with my friend and her mom, I told them about mom's idea of a trailer and how I didn't like it. They asked if I had anyone to stay with while moms in a trailer. I don't have any family I can go to, unlike my other siblings that did. Either way, mom would most likely have me stay with her.
I'm almost certain my friend and her mom would be okay with me being with them, they have extra rooms and my friend is an only child, but has said it'd be nice having me around all the time. They even mentioned the chance of me staying with them while mom in the trailer (although again, mom would probably not let me.).
They're nice people, and I kind of count them as family too. I know I'd have a better live if I we're with them, and my friend would probably be much happier too. She said it's better with me around because she has someone to be with. Except I don't see that ever happening. They live 25-45 minutes away in car though. Luckily mom's allowed one sleepover every now and then, which is how we see each other
Butt mom's gotten worse lately with the emotional abuse. What do I do?
She's a lot nicer around other people, or when on calls, but over time she becomes more and more like herself around them, eventually they say she's telling and how she's mean, she starts a fight (usually she's yelling and not letting the other person talk, always stating the other person is wrong.) and then she ends the friendship. I have no relation with my dad, one of my siblings live with us, the others don't. I'm used to people coming and going due to all the people being kicked out of our life.
I'm homeschooled, and haven't been doing any school since July because she wants us to do house work instead. The house work never ends, really. It's cluttered and everything gets moved from one spot to another, then more cleaning happens. I don't have phone service, and only one Irl friend I frequently talk to because they're related to mom's friend.
I want to live with my friend and her mom, she has a good houses a nice family and we call each other sister. We get along well, and I told her a small percent of what happens in the house and she said it's called verbal abuse multiple times. I've been aware, and we've been under numerous cps investigations (One ending currently) but he always acts so different when they're here. The cps workers say there's nothing wrong with the household, and then she goes around saying how they red nothing wrong when really cos doesn't know the whole story.
I'm scared if telling anyone due to how she might react if she knows I've told anyone, she'd find a way o get through it and my life with her would be worse.
I rarely get time to myself, I usually focus on cleaning the house. I have symptoms of adhd (badly) and I get yelled at when I show them. She says I learned them from stupid people and to stop, when I can't. This causes her to tell at me and say I'm not trying, or I can do it I'm just not doing it, or that I need to stop 'acting like the dumbasses'. She's really supportive and nice sometimes, but it changes so fast. One minute she could be happy, the next minute she could be yelling at you and be pissed off the rest of the day because you asked her which tea she wanted and how 'you should already know'. Or because you repeated something.
She lies. She lies about what I know and what I do. She yelled at me earlier because I reported something, but later told her friend and even ME that I repeated many times while laughing about it when t wasn't a funny thing, which I didn't do. She says she told me to do things, and later yells at me for not doing it, when she never told me to. Or, she tells me to do things drags me away from it to do another thing, and yells at me when I don't finish the thing she dragged me away from. Sometimes he even says she told me nicely multiple times to do a thing and I didn't do it until she yelled at me, which isn't true because usually she says to do the thing and I do it that one. Or she just straight up yells about it without nicely asking.
She tells people she only yells at me when I zone out because she 'has' to. Which isn't true. She hates t when I cry, and I feel scared to cry. I never talk back I only repond with 'yes', 'no', or a nod/ head shake. I can't ever disagree with her even if she's wrong. I can't correct her. She rarely physically hurts me bt sometimes she threatens to. In September she slapped me and threw me to the ground after flaking me names, I was scared and ran away for the first time. She called me a coward. She rarely says thins like "you're an idiot." Instead she says "you're ACTING like an idiot, I know you aren't one." When the thing I did was something I really did and I didn't purposefully do it to 'act like I don't know how to do something.' So it really feels like she is calling me one. Although in September when she got me, etc, she did call me a retard, an idiot, and threatened me multiple times. Today she threatened to beat me if I sat an object in the wrong spot.
She acts like I know more than I do, when she doesn't even give me time to learn what he thinks I know. He says I'm great at coding to the point organizations have tried to take my stuff, when I haven't even been able to write an entire script due to not being given enough time to learn it. Then, she expects me to meet her expectations of what she thinks I am and tells when I'm unable to. She says nothing's wrong with me, when in reality, I have bad symptoms of Adhd, ocd, anxiety, depression, etc. I've never had a therapist, or a chance to be diagnosed with anything.
She wants us to live in a trailer and travel around, which is scary because we'll be around less people and in the middle of nowhere more. Which gives more chances for emotional abuse (and a little of physical). She knows I'm not good with change, and the areas she wants to be in make me feel terrible.
She yells about how she'd be better off alone and how she hates people.
I don't know what to do. I'm scared to talk to her about it, because I know it'd end up in her yelling and nothing better. I've witnessed it a lot. Again, I can't do anything but agree with her.
I really want to live with my friend and her mom, I told them about mom's idea of a trailer and how I didn't like it. They asked if I had anyone to stay with while moms in a trailer. I don't have any family I can go to, unlike my other siblings that did. Either way, mom would most likely have me stay with her.
I'm almost certain my friend and her mom would be okay with me being with them, they have extra rooms and my friend is an only child, but has said it'd be nice having me around all the time. They even mentioned the chance of me staying with them while mom in the trailer (although again, mom would probably not let me.).
They're nice people, and I kind of count them as family too. I know I'd have a better live if I we're with them, and my friend would probably be much happier too. She said it's better with me around because she has someone to be with. Except I don't see that ever happening. They live 25-45 minutes away in car though. Luckily mom's allowed one sleepover every now and then, which is how we see each other
Butt mom's gotten worse lately with the emotional abuse. What do I do?
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