I'm 14 and I want to move out

[Guest]

Hello there,
Im 14 about to be 15 I have been wanting to leave my house for the longest time I just dont know when the perfect time is, A lot of the times I feel like if my parent dont love Im the only one who is ALWAYS getting yelled at and I take it I dont like to show my emotion in front of anyone and sometimes i just feel like bawling my eyes out, my mom is usually always getting mad at me for the most simplest thing and i honestly do feel like if she enjoys calling me names to just make herself feel better.Whenever my mom get mad at me for getting my attitude she usually dosent talk to me for three weeks but yet when my sibling do something worse she does get mad but she talks to them the next day and that always hurts my feeling because i fell like me being born was just an accident and she really didnt want me and thats the reason she loves taking everything out on me.Most of the time i do have my attitude toward my parents because of the way they treat me but they dont have the time or they just dont care for them just to ask how I feel and whats the reason to. I usually get so tired of waking up everyday not wanting to be in this house because everyday its always the same thing over and over and my parents always expect me to do everything around the house to the point were i cant even to stuff myself and my still calls me lazy ungrateful and many more thing and its sad because i would never think my mom would treat me the way she does and its very hurtful
I would really apprectiate if you would answer back


-Thank you

[ccsmod15]

It seems like you posted on another thread as well but to make things easier here is our reply to that one here as well: Hey there,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a lot right now and it is understandable to be upset and feel frustrated by how you are being treated differently from your other siblings. You don’t deserve to have everything taken away for small things while your siblings get a slap on the wrist and an apology instead. It seems like your mom is holding you to different standards than your other siblings and it might be worth thinking about the reasons for this to find out what you might be able to do to lessen the load on yourself. It seems like you have other stress as well and you deserve to have support through this instead of extra pressure and confusion.
You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello.
I am 13 almost 14, and I really want to move out/start over. I love my parents very much, but they have been very over controlling to a point which I now want to restart my life. I have never gone to school, and I am now doing college work online in my house. I am half way through my associates degree, and it has all been online. My father doesn't really want me to be "exopsed" to the outside world, so basically I'm not really allowed contact with "outside" people. If he finds out that I'm posting this (he reviews my URL's and internet activity occasionally) I don't know what will happen. When I was younger, I was caught self harming and my mother got pissed at me and my dad threatened to take away any privacy I had. There was not a trace of concern. After my first "suicide" attempt, which at the time was just me naively drinking a bottle of hand sanitizer, my brother immediately reported it to his girlfriend and then told me to go to my mother (who at the time was dead asleep), who later said that it was stupid. Ever since suicidal thoughts have been a daily for me, and my parent see that I'm upset and say that they can talk about whatever is going on. They don't realize that I am just dealing with the outcome of a sexuall abuse incident not being taken care of properly and being sheltered for my whole life. I feel like I am being kept form making my own healthy mistakes, and at this point I don't have a single friend, I'm not allowed to do anything online with human contact, and I spend my time doing college work in my house (which I rarely ever leave). I know that they think they are doing what is right, but they don't realize that I would rather be dead than live like this. I want to run away and restart, but I don't actually have anywhere to go and I don't want to hurt them in the end.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension, it sounds rough to be so isolated from other people! Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned that there was a previous "suicide" attempt and that you have been having suicidal thoughts and self-harming and it raises concern for your well being. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. There is also an organization called To Write Love on Her Arms which is dedicated to supporting people who use self-harm as a coping mechanism, with their journey of self-realization and recovery. You can check them out by going to https://twloha.com/.

You mentioned that there was some sexual abuse that you think might be affecting how you've been feeling. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and we believe and support you. You are a survivor and you are incredibly strong and resilient. It can be really hard to deal with this alone and sometimes it’s helpful to reach out to additional agencies for support. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

I am 13 and turning 14 in January 2021 and I really don't want to stay at home anymore. The other day, I got into an argument with my neighbors that they started which led to a fight and when the parents asked the neighbors about it and they lied straight to everyone's face and when I told the correct story, my parents didn't believe me. Later that night, I was playing with some bb guns with my friend and my friend accidentally shot his brother and apparently the other kid (neighbor) got shot too and my parents immediately blamed it all on me, of course. Just like that, they always get mad and scream at me for the smallest of things like whenever I am only trying to help get things done like cleaning, by telling my little siblings what to do in order to be a little more controlled, quiet, and get things done. Also, not doing the massive amount of chores and jobs, and even though I do them, they refuse to pay me even a little bit. They also just recently said I wasn't allowed to go outside and hang out with my best friend who lives in my neighborhood just because of those things. My parents take everything away from me and hardly ever give things to me. They took away my computer that I paid in full for so I am currently typing this on a school issued laptop in study hall because I am not allowed to do anything on my computer or phone (that I payed for). They have threatened multiple times to not allow me to use a school computer, but now with the virus I use a computer in every class for every assignment, so I told them that I needed to use it for school and they threatened to pull me out of school and do everything on paper with someone with no teaching experience. I get grounded very often and am not able to talk to my friends because of this. I had a girlfriend that moved away and I really enjoyed having her to talk to, and she helped me keep motivation to keep pushing through this and my parents found out, they were mad at me so they demanded that I break up with her and that I am not allowed to date until I'm 16. For the smallest things, I get screamed at, cursed out and called a retard on the regular. I want to move in with my friend, Andrew so badly but I am too afraid to ask my parents because I feel like they would scream at me and scare me and call me stupid like usual. My friend's parents are nice, and I feel like living with them would be a MUCH safer environment to live in and keep my business going to I can pay them back for letting me stay with them.

I really need help, so if you have any suggestions, let me know .

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Me and my mom have a very unhealthy relationship. I want to change that but I don't know how. I have two little sisters (2 and that get all the attention. I understand they're a lot but I don't remember the last time told me she loved me. I haven't felt love from her or my dad in years. I have places I could go but I'm only 15. Also my sisters both have their own rooms but my parents make me sleep on the couch. They also all have dressers and beds and nice shoes while I live out of a suitcase. Plz tell me I need to stay, or I don't know.

[ccsmod4]

Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what has been going on and how it has made you feel.
You are very brave for doing so. Good for you.
NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.



NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.
Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 and I wanna move out. I'm done with my older brother's smart ass remarks and the way he changes in the blink of an eye, he'll be nice but all of a sudden be a total dick out of nowhere. My Dad went to jail because he burnt my mom when I was like 3 and is now working as a roofer, my mom works 2 jobs one 9-5 and the other is respite work for older folks. The main person I absolutely despise is my mom's boyfriend, a surviving cancer patient smoking pretty much 3 packs of cigarettes a day, he smokes whenever he gets a chance, he drinks way too much coffee so his breath smells like ass all the time, and is 15 years older than my mom. Like wtf dude.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

We're sorry you are going through such a rough time at home and that your older brother and mom's boyfriend are so difficult to deal with. It sounds pretty stressful and we understand that living somewhere else sounds appealing right now. Perhaps your mom would give you permission to live somewhere else that is safe and nurturing for you? Maybe that's another relative you trust. Or perhaps there are even other options. Of course, if you left home without permission your mom could file a runaway report and anyone you stay with could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a crime. So coming up with some arrangement and having your mom give you permission would be the best thing.

We'd like to discuss your situation more with you to see how else we can help. The best way forward for us to do that is if you either call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our website: www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 and are confidential. We are here for you even if you want to just talk things through.

Good luck and stay safe!

NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 14 and I’ve been going through a tough time I’ve lived with my grandma since I was 5 and I truly hate it. I have considered suicide. I can’t take it here where I’m at. I live in a house with junk piled to the ceiling, get glass in my foot every day mostly, and she always tear me down. I can’t handle it no more what should I do?

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I just turned 14 on the 19th i want to go live with my friends family. I have 8 siblings my parents are always fighting my older sister hits me she is a really abusive sister she stole my computer that someone gave me while i was going to ballet school so i could do school and didnt give it back for almost 3 weeks and my parents didnt do anything that whole time during that time my dad turned off our phones so she was mad we were all trying to find it, my momtold me to put the clothes away i was trying to but her jeans away she freaked out on me and said i was going through her stuff she grabed me by hair and throwed me into a heavy bucket filled with rabbit food nearley missing my spine after that she poured glue over everything i owend. last year my mom and dad moved my family onto a farm in rural fl because kytrina (my older abusive sister) wanted to live on a farm they took me out of school in first grade because her friend told her about it and for years we didnt do anything for school they give trina extra treatment more time on her phone ext they turn my phone off because i didnt clean up after my slob family kytrina dosent even have any chores exept doing her animals that she makes us do. she almost never does school, i live in a tiny 3 bedroom house i share a room with my 2 sisters. i lost my scholorship months ago because i had to stay home with 3 of my younger brothers that day (the day before the meeting to renue my scholorship) my 7 year old brother was choking on a chery seed i called 911 the house was a mess because my family doesnt know how to pick up after themselves the dcf lady was coming the next day so we all had to stay up all night to clean then my mom kept talking to the lady after it was time to go she said "We will go when i think its time to go." we got there 30 min late so i lost my scholorship, then i was trying to go to another ballet school then my whole family started cracking down on me saying i was the reason they never had any money even though they spend hundreds of money on horses they dont ride and other animals im either cleaning or babysitting i almost never have time to do school i tryed to get enroled in school over here but my mom keeps changing her mind i never get to talk to my friends in orlando because my phone gets turned off i hate my life i told my mom that i think i have ansiety she said no you dont. i am depresed when things get bad i have to hide in the woods across the street i just wish somehow dcf would come and i could go live with my friends in orlando so i woulnt be meantaly abused my my parents and sister or beat up by my sister HELP

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time, and we want you to know you are not alone.
It is unfair that your siblings get treated better than you, you could consider pointing this out to your parents and letting them know how this affects you. Also sometimes talking to a trusted adult such as a school counselor may help you feel better. They can also help you explore your options and find resources for you.
You do not deserve to be abused and we are sorry you are having to deal with that. You could consider making another report and you can do this by calling Child Help. They can be reached by calling 1800-422-4453. Sometimes they may be more urgent with multiple reports. Also we know you mentioned missing out on a scholarship, you could talk to your school about other possibilities. Or you can try and research more information online.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore your options please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I am 14 they have been the worst 14 years of my life. I can't stand to be here anymore. I can not deal with the things they put me through. I'm not trying to get into detail because it's embarrassing and no child should have to go through it. I'm just asking if anyone could help me please to get out of this terrible foundation. I can't stand to live to hear anymore. It hurts so badly to wake up every morning and know that family doesn't care about your well-being are anything else you do. No matter how hard you try they just find more reasons to put you done farther than you were. I can't deal my heart is so damaged.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to child protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You also mentioned that you are thinking about leaving. A helpful start could be to reach out to any friends, family members, or trusted adults such as a teacher or a counselor.

Our email and Bulletin services are different in that we can only respond twice. If you would like to talk more in detail about your situation and receive immediate help, we encourage you to reach out to us through our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button on our website homepage).

We look forward to hearing from you soon so that we can support you,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey. I'm 13 and I've been wanting to move out for a year and a half. Living under my parent's roof feels like tying a noose around my own neck; sometimes my parents give me something to stand on, sometimes they leave me to choke. I'm not really sure what's wrong with me, I know something is. Before when my parents yelled at me, I would be sad. Then at ages 7-9, I would get mad at my parents for making me feel sad. Ages 10-11, I had this huge changing time and I realized how much of a disgusting person I am. At the moment, I truly hate myself- I'm not even ashamed to admit it. Now when my parents yell at me, I think about what they're saying thoroughly and decide for myself how I feel about it. Then afterward, I'm not sure why, but I'll just breakdown. I'll cry and curse them and curse myself. I'll cry and wish I wasn't crying because it makes my eyes puffy. I'll cry and think about how beautiful the world could be without people contaminating it. I'll think about you beautiful I could be without my parents contaminating my head. I hate myself. I sit on my roof and just wish I were dead.

Before, when I was sad/mad I would think of killing myself, but then afterward when I'd ask myself again if I really wanted to die, I would realize the answer is no. Now though, when I'm upset, I think of dying- not killing myself. In my dreams, people keep shooting me in the head. From the back, from the front, through my ear, in my forehead- you name it, I've dreamed it. When I wake up, I should be scared, but no- I feel... ecstatic. It's a bittersweet kind of feeling, it's release, and a bit of regret. I don't know... I shouldn't write this here. Ha, I'm so pathetic.

Basically what I'm saying is that I'm not mad at my parents, but they basically help me pull the trigger on myself- if you get what I'm saying. It's mostly all in my head but I'm kinda normal until she opens her mouth. After that, my mind goes dooown. Everything sucks.

If I can get away from my family though, all the tension will go away. I won't have to feel this way. If I kill myself, same thing. One option's just more convenient than the other.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

So my mom and my dad hits me sometimes she tells me to run away and then she will be happy, these are my parents who have adopted me, they always call me out my name. Its mentally exhausting i dont wanna be there anymore and im ready to run away, but i dont want the police to bring me back home because i will not go ! I cant stay here anymore, my sister and my friend said there houses are always open but my parents are so miserable they are not gonna let me just move, so my only option right now is to run away but i dont want the police bringing me back because i can not stay there ! Advice?

[ccsmod6]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a lot right now and it is understandable to be upset and feel inclined to run away. Several things to consider would be filing an abuse report and considering places to go.


While we are not legal experts we have a lot of experience working with runaways. It is our understanding that if you are a minor, your parents can file a runaway report with the police if you leave home without their permission. Running away is not illegal, but if your parents file that report the police can force you to return back home if they find or encounter you. Police can be more lenient with runaway situations the older you are. You have the right to tell them no and refuse to go back with them. Whether or not they respect that, is up to them. There is no surefire way for that to be the outcome. Typically police are not actively searching for a runaway. They will do a home visit if the parent gives them a location where the youth might be. Therefore, if you are looking to leave, your parents not knowing where you are can make it more difficult to enforce that runaway report.


Another option is filing an abuse report. It’s inappropriate for your parents to be treating you that way. Oftentimes, reports rely on evidence if there are any marks or bruises you have, it may be a good idea to take photos documenting this. Additionally, making a report does not ensure you will be moved to a different place. Family separation is a last resort for CPS or DCFS. If you’re interested in filing a report, you can either reach out to us for help filing the report or to Child Help in order to ask them more questions about the process. You may find their website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/ or call them at 1-800-422-4453.


If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. While we don’t give direct advice, we would be happy to help you figure out how you want to proceed.


We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 want to move out my mum always blames ******** on me for no reason and let’s my sisters bully me to my dad doesn’t really live with us anymore and I can’t live with him because of his work. I have a friend that will take me in there mum is like the mum I never had and is willing to take me in

[ccsmod0]

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

hello I'm 15 and I want to move out I can't stand living here anymore my brother left 4 years ago and my parents have been so hard on me. every time I try to stand up for myself I end up crying and use it against me. when I get depressed they say " you have no reason to be sad" and I just cant my mom uses my depression against me. she gets so easily mad at me and my dad takes her side half of the time and I'm so tired of it. they don't understand and they make me hate myself. I can't tell if it is my fault or theirs I just want to leave and I have nowhere to go. and I'm considering running away but I'm not sure.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents’ permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Hello, I'm 14 years old and I feel like I need to move out! My mum is practically psychotic with constant mood changes, over dramatic punishments, severe criticising and nastiness towards me. I feel like I am always punished even when I do nothing wrong. I get amazing grades (A/A+) I do all of my chores, try hard at school, never drink, have never done drugs or smoked and all I am is occasionally a little bit rude (which is prone to happen due to hormones), and I get the most sever punishments. She took away my phone for 3 weeks and deleted all of my social media accounts because I didn't want her to help me with my recorder assessment. She constantly yells at me and says things like 'your worthless, your filthy and disgusting, you are the biggest disappointment to this family, I hate you, go kill yourself' etc, etc. Sometimes she hits me too, so I (in retaliation, my first defence is fight) hit her back and then it turns into a physical fight. She has told me to move out before, and I would love to, but I have nowhere to go. My grandpa is going through chemo and my grandma looks after him, My pop goes away every 2 weeks, and my nan gets drunk every 2nd day. I want to run away/ move out but I don't know where to go and I am embarrassed of what my family/ friends would say. I don't know how to cope anymore, it is either move out or kill myself.

[ccsmod0]

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

Hi im 11 and ive been wanting to move out for about 2-3 years my mom died and growing up i never knew my dad its been hard time for me i have to live with my uncle and my uncle always yells at me for small tuff like not vacuming or having food in my room when he saysi can have food in there hes always talking about how i look and saying u need toput something else on and look at ur hair and look at those bruses on ur leg i hate him so much and theres no one else for me except for some friends and like 2 aunts but there not around alot anymore so ive been thinking baout running away .

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It's got to be frustrating to have your uncle go back and forth on house rules. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

It sounds like your uncle doesn't fully understand the weight of his words and how they are affecting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

I’m almost 14 and want to move out but I don’t have a job but I would have a place to live

[ccsmod15]

Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through some intense stuff and we want to support you. Whether or not you feel like you need to run away is up to you and whether or not you feel safe where you are. We would be happy to help you in whatever way we can. We can provide referrals to mental health resources, shelters, legal advocacy, among other things. We can also just talk you through whatever your situation is and help you figure out what your options are. We aim to empower youths and we prioritize their safety and their well-being. If you are interested in anything that we have to offer, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,

NRS