I'm 14 and I want to move out

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I am 14 and I need to move out. Staying at my house isn’t an option anymore my dads an alcoholic and hasn’t been in the picture for a while now, and my mom doesn’t allow me to contact him. I started doing drugs and going down a bad path just like my father I am now out of that and I’m a good kid now my mother doesn’t trust me and I’m not aloud to leave the house AT ALL I haven’t left the house In over 3 months I’m getting lonley trapped in the house 24/7 I’m only aloud out when I’m going to school even then she has a teacher check up on me to make sure I don’t leave school property she’s controlling my life and I don’t have any privacy we are constantly yelling and swearing at eachithet and when she gets angry she said a lot of rude things I wish I could call someone about this but she isn’t hurting me physically so no one can help me. Even though she doesn’t hurt me physically the screaming and hurtful language is emotional trauma. I cry myself to sleep at least once a week I have frequent panic attacks to the point where I pass out. I can live like this anymore and I need help.

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Reply: I am 14 and I need to move out.

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline! It sounds like you have been going through so much and it was very brave of you to reach out for help. No one ever has the right to hurt you, including emotionally. Have you been able to talk to anyone about how things have been going with your mom? In times of crisis, people often reach out to the people they trust for help such as close friends, family, teachers, coaches, and religious leaders. It sounds like you have already overcome so much and you absolutely have the right to feel safe, especially in your own home. Planning to leave home can be a big decision and it sounds like you are trying to find what will be best for you. While we are not legal experts here, we can talk in general about running away and runaway reporting. In the US, the legal age of majority when someone is considered an adult, is 18 years old. Before 18, a youth’s parents or legal guardians are legally responsible for them. So if a minor were to leave home without permission, their guardian would have the right to file a runaway report with the police Being reported as a runaway is not a criminal offense and does not go on your permanent record, it is a status offense. Unless the youth is already on probation or otherwise involved in an active court case, there are no legal consequences or punishments for running away. Most commonly, the police return youth who have runaway to their family. In some states, a minor can legally become their own guardian before the age of 18 through emancipation. This is a process through the court system where a minor can petition to become her own guardian if she can prove that she can take care of herself. However, emancipation can sometimes take a longer time and a local attorney would be able to provide you with the most accurate information about emancipation in your area. Thank you for messaging the National Runaway Safeline, we are glad that you reached out to us! If you ever wanted help to develop a plan, specific resources local to your area, or just need a safe and confidential place to talk we are available by phone 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or via live chat on our website at www.1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

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[Guest]

im 14 and my dad has a crazy girlfriend. i been wanting to move out for so long. My dad abuses me and he did horrible things to me i rather not say. Him and his girlfriend beats me up if i dont serve them food or clean their shoes or do their laundry etc... my boyfriend is in his early 20’s and he SAVED MY LIFE, numerous times. He gave me a place to live when my dad kicked me out. My boyfriend got me off of drugs. And my dad put a TRO on him because my dad saw that my boyfriend will do anything to get me help. is there anyway my boyfriend can get custody over me or if i can stay with my mom who just got out of prison.

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing about your story. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help as it sounds like you have been through some tough experiences. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.
Also another way you can seek help is reaching out to a friend, teacher, or counselor at school that can help you look for resources. Your mental health is important. You can also look at SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at samhsa.gov (call them directly at 1-877-726-4727) or NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness 1-800-950-NAMI to help you find the support that you need. If you do ever feel in direct danger, to yourself, or some else makes you feel that way, please call out to 911.

In regards to getting custody transferred, in most cases you would need to go to the local court and ask about the process and paperwork to do so or call your local police non-emergency line. If you would like us to look up local legal resources in your area, please feel free to call us at 1-800- RUNAWAY or chat with us through our website. We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this!

-NRS

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I'm 14 and I want to leave my house. My parents don't ever listen to me and they always favor my sister. I told my mom that I feel like no one in this house cares about me and how I want to leave and all she said was okay and leave then. I can't live in this house. I almost killed myself about a year ago because of my family and how much I don't feel safe here. I don't feel loved by anyone and I feel like my only support system is my boyfriend who I can't even talk to because my mom took my phone away. I wish I could drive so I could drive myself away from this place and never come back. I have all this money in a bank account that I have no access to because my mom has control over my account. I want to leave and never come back. I don't know what to do anymore because I've felt this way for years. I told my mom all this stuff and she just said that I know that that isn't true. She feels like she knows what I'm feeling but she doesn't. I hate her and I don't love her anymore. Both I and my sisters' rooms are a mess and my sister has a friend over right now. If I asked to have a friend over she would say no because of my room. I don't feel safe and I want out.

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your parents have been comparing you to your sister. That does not sound fair to you as you are your own person. We can talk about a few things and if you want to talk further about them or brainstorm other ideas we are here for you 24/7 over the phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or on our online chat system at 1800runaway.org

It sounds like you have been having a hard time at home with your mom and being compared to your sister. We are here for you if you want to talk further because it must be frustrating to be compared to your sister and feeling this way at home. It is very brave to reach out to us and we do want to say we truly care about you. It sounds like you’ve tried talking to your mom about how you feel and it did not go well. If you haven’t tried before, you can think about talking to your support systems like your boyfriend, friends, or a trusted teacher/guidance counselor if you feel comfortable and are able to. Having them try to talk to your mom may bring in an outside perspective to what she has been saying and its effects on you. We are also here to advocate you if you want to call us and we can talk to you about talking to your parents or conference calling with your parents. This would mean you would have to call us and we can call out to your mom with you on the line and facilitate a call that will try to bring compromise and understanding to both sides. It is always up to you and we can explore these further if you would like.

If you would like to reach out to them, the National Suicide Prevention Safeline (1-800-273-8255/suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is a great resource. You do not have to be suicidal to call and they can talk about how you are feeling and safety planning. We are also always here and you do not have to hesitate to reach out to us as well.

If you do feel like you need to leave home, we are always here to talk about staying safe. We can talk about planning to be safe if you do end up leaving home. Do not hesitate to reach out to us if you feel comfortable and we can talk further about what we mentioned or brainstorm other ideas.
Best, NRS

[Guest]

Hello I’m 14 and I want to run away. My father hits and screams at me for the simplest things. I don’t know what I have to do, and I’m scared of him hurting me to the point he kills me. He threatens he’ll send me to my mother’s, but he depraved me of interacting with her that I haven’t seen her in 5 years. I don’t know her. I don’t know anyone besides him. What do I do? In one incident, he tried to bash my head with a vacuum cleaner once, and then threw the contents on the floor where he forced me to clean up.

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Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We can understand your situation might be stressful and often times draining. So we commend your bravery to reach out. Our goal is to help give you some options and resources available to you at the current moment so that you can be aware of them all and can make an educated decision about what your next steps look like.
From what we gather about your story your father has been treating you fairly poor. In fact from what we can tell it sounds like assault and negligence. Know that you have the right to get out of that situation. You can feel free to call the police and explain what has been going on in your present situation. We are sorry you are being treated like that no one deserves to be treated that way. Other resources you can reach out to is the National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800-422-4453) or the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (1-800-843-5678 ) each of these hotlines offer help with next steps, they can call the cops on your behalf etc. Finally know that you should not have to endure more pain at the hands of someone who is hurting you. Know that NRS is also here 24/7 and available to talk whenever you may need it.
Again thank you for seeking us out at NRS. We hope that we have helped answer your questions pertaining to your situation. We know it can take a lot for you to reach out so we appreciate it. Know that if you have more questions or concerns please feel free to call us at (1-800-786-2929) or online through our chat option at (www.1800runaway.org). Best wishes to you and your situation.
NRS

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I'm 13 and I have been wanting to move out for about a year. My parents hurt me and they do drugs. I'm so tired of living in a life where I have to wonder if we are going to have food for the week and if they are going to money for me and my brothers games and stuff like that. My brothers don't care that they live at a house where they wonder or get hurt. They just think about living with our parents. My life been hard! My parents have spread apart so many times. There is more to my life and the reason why I want to leave but I have to go. Please contact me!!

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Hello there,
Thanks for reaching out during this difficult time. Nobody deserves to be abused or neglected in their own home. It sounds like you are worried about having enough food to eat and feeling safe and wanted in your own home. If you have not made an abuse report before, Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 can help contact the authorities and let them know what is going on at home. You can also contact us at any point in time and we can make the abuse report with you as well. If you are currently in school, a trusted teacher or counselor will be able to contact social services for you as well. We wish you the best of luck and please call us at any time.

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I'm 14 years old living at home and I feel safe here but I cannot stand it, I've told my parents I don't feel comfortable going to church because I believe in god but don't feel like worshipping him because what kind of "god" let's thousands of people kill themselves. She still forces me to go to church and is forcing the religion on me. I'm sure I could find a way to live with a friend. I also have tons of money saved due to the fact that I've been planning to run away for a year or so. I can't stand living in my house and feel like I'm counting down the days til I'm 18.

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Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re in a really difficult situation and we are here to help you as best we can. It takes a lot of strength to talk to us and your parents about how you feel. Reaching out is a good first step and we can certainly talk about some options. We are going to bring up a few things and please don’t hesitate to reach out again as we are here 24/7 over our phone lines (1-800-RUNAWAY) and we also have an online chat system at 1800runaway.org.
First we want to thank you for sharing with us what is going on. It must be hard to have your parents bring you to church when you do not want to go there and do not share the same beliefs. It is understandable to feel frustrated and your feelings are valid. If you haven’t tried previously, you can think about sitting down with your mom or family and talk to them about how you are uncomfortable. This may bring compromise and communication about the situation and you can think about bringing up other options of what you may want to do instead of going to church. This is always something you can brainstorm about and you do not need to do that alone. Bringing in a friend/relative/trusted adult may help your parents see your side from an outside perspective. If you can reach out to us, we can talk about this and help create a plan on what you want to say to your parents.
If you feel you need to leave home, we are always here to help you talk about safety planning. Your safety is always our priority and some things you can think about are: if you went to a friend’s house how long can you stay for? If you cannot stay at a friend’s house, where would you go? If you stay somewhere, will they provide food? These are just a few things to brainstorm about and we are always here to talk about these and other steps to plan about if you are comfortable. We aren’t legal experts but generally, the age of adulthood is 18 years old which means if you are under that age, your parents/guardians are legally responsible for you and where you live. This means if you do decide to leave home, your parent/guardian can reach out to the non-emergency police to file a runaway report. This means they would call the non-emergency police and file that report, which is a status offense meaning you wouldn’t get arrested but it is just something you are not allowed to do since you are under the general age of majority. If you are found, you will be returned to home, but if you do not feel safe, you can tell the police department and they would involve Child Protective Services to investigate. We can always talk about this as well if you can chat with us or give us a call.
We are very happy you reached out and we hope to hear from you soon. It is very brave to talk about what is going on and we are always here for you. Do not hesitate to reach out again!

Best, NRS

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Im 14 and came out to my mom as bi and told her i had a girlfriend. She said she was cool with me being bi but that I couldnt date. And I had never heard that before. Not even my older brother was told that. He just got a girlfriend at 16 and that was fine. But I was never told I couldnt date until I said I had a girlfriend. So I told her I broke up but I really didnt. And she didnt know that my gf was gay before I came out to her. She liked that I was friends with her before and hates her now. And everyone I hang out with is wrong and unacceptable. After I told my mom she made me go to a therapist(not conversion therapy) but I cant be hondest witg my therapist. My mom was the first person to talk to her so she dosent know the whole story. And im afraid to tell her because I dont know whatbshell be forced to report to my mom. I have two different personalities, one at home and one at school. And its so exhausting to pretend all the time at home. It causes me anxiety which leads to suicidal thoughts. And I want to go to a friends house or something but I dont think I legally can. My girlfriend says that my mom is mentally abusing me because I have to hid myself at home because I dont know what shell do itherwise. My mom wants me to be the same way I was in 3rd grade but thats just not me anymore. Im not sure what to do.

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that you have much to think about not to mention you must be going through a stressful. We appreciate you taking the time to stop by and ask for help. Our hope is that we would provide you with tips and resources to help you make a more informed decision in your situation.
We are sorry that your mom has not been more open to you. No one under any preference or identity should have to be “changed” for someone else. Know that you might options at school by talking with a school counselor who might be able to help you personally and much more quickly. They would be able to talk with you and discuss options for you. Another thing you could do is call the LGBT National Talkline (1-800-246-7743). They would help provide resources in legality and help you find support groups in the meanwhile so that you might not feel so alone or mistreated. Know that if you happen to feel unsafe please do not hesitate to call the police at any time. It is your right to feel safe.
Again we want to commend your bravery for contacting us we know it takes a lot to seek out help. If for any reason you would have more questions or concerns please do not hesitate to contact us either by phone at (1-800-786-2929) or online through the chat option at (www.1800runaway.org).
Best Wishes-NRS

[Guest]

Hi. I’m 14 and I can’t stay at home anymore. My mom is the main problem and I can sometimes get help with my dad but from Friday through to Saturday and sometimes more he is completely drunk. He is an alcoholic and of that I am aware. During that time my mom and I work as a team to keep my dog and little brother safe as we don’t know what he would and is able to do. However during the rest of the week I feel attacked. My mom can make very negative comment about me and treats me horribly. She has said many times that she wishes that I wasn’t her daughter and if I wasn’t related to her by blood she would get rid of me. Sometimes she has hit me but that’s gotten less as I showed the bruise to a friend. My mom constantly puts me down and this has made it hard for me to have friends as they don’t understand that I can’t just wear what I like. She control basically all aspects of my life and controls what I wear and eat as much as she can. To everyone else it seems like I have a great life as I live well and have nice stuff but my life at home is a wreck. Since my mom will never see my brother as doing anything wrong since he’s a sweet little angle he takes advantage of this. He doesn’t realise how bad it is as he’s quite young so to him he’s doing no harm. I want to leave and I just don’t know what to do anymore I used to self harm but I stopped cos people were noticing it. Ive gotten to the point of breaking and I don’t know how much longer I can stay here. If I left she would look for me and bring me back to this hellhole disguised as a nice suburban house. I live in the UK.

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Hello there, thanks for reaching out today!

Sounds like you are going through so much right now. Unfortunately we are based in the United States and do not know what international runaway laws look like. Your might reach out to the UK's Childline: https://www.childline.org.uk/get-support/.
-NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I am currently 18 and am a high school senior, I feel like leaving home and have left before but came back because I felt like me and my parents have come to an agreement. They are controlling and sometimes very stressful, my mother has me do chores to earn things which I don't mind but I can't do anything wrong without her **********ing at me. I don't have my license or a job and have asked for a job but they are "too busy" to take me. I have an 8-year-old brother who doesn't know how to do anything for himself and I'm always stuck doing everything for him. I am enlisted in the army and will go to basic this summer, I feel like if I was to leave I would be abandoning my brother and my parents, but I would really like to go be my own person. My parents will never stop be controlling and have told me if I don't want to follow the rules of the house I can go find someone else to support me, I have friends that will let me stay with them so that not too much of a problem. but I feel like it would be wrong for me to leave everybody at home behind. I need some advice

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Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like it's hard staying under strict rules when you’re so close to making the rules for yourself. It’s understandable getting frustrated when you don’t get the help you need to do something responsible for yourself, like getting a job. It must be difficult having to slow down your life to teach your little brother everything. It’s really unfortunate to not be able to keep the ground you’ve previously worked hard to build between you and your parents.

So there’s a few options to think over; you could wait it out and while you wait it out you could possibly try to build up that old set of terms you and your parents agreed to. We do have a conference call service were we can be a medium between parents and youth and help facilitate a calm and peaceful space for you two to find answers. You could teach your brother how to be responsible and teach himself the important things he needs to know. Another option could be to leave but if that is the case there is a lot to consider. For example; how long would you be able to stay at one friend’s house, how would you get to school or anywhere, how would you feed yourself, or get yourself the supplies you need to for school or the job you may get soon.

Again, were happy you reached out to us. It is brave of you to ask for help in uncertain times and its great that you take it upon yourself to figure out your options. If you would like to use our services and have a conference call we would be happy to help, or if you have any other questions or just want someone to listen to you we are here for that to. Please don’t hesitate to call.

[Guest]

im 14 almost 15 i have ben wanting to move out for 4 years now my mom beats me on a daily and cheats on my dad and my dad has no idea i self harm my self bc of this i have no friends near by i dont know what to do i want to leave but evvery time i try she shoves me to the groud just today she did and my foot is now cut open

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Hi, thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you're in a really tough situation right now but you are not alone and you have options. It's ok to not know what to do and we are always happy to talk through everything with you at 1800RUNAWAY.

We aren't legal experts, but if you leave home without your parent's permission, they would have the right to file a runaway report with the police. You aren't doing anything illegal, but it is a status offense and if you are found you will be returned to your parent's care. If you disclose to the police that there is abuse at home, they won't bring you back and have to investigate the claim. If they find your home is not safe to live in because of your mother's abuse, they will remove you from your parent's care. Another way to start this investigation process is to file an abuse report. You can do this over the phone at (1800)422-4453. This is the number for the national child abuse hotline.

It is very brave that you disclosed that you self-harm. You are not alone and there are resources to help support you. twloha.com is a website for those that self-harm and can connect you to other people that struggle with self-harm. And we are always here to listen and support you. Thank you again for reaching out and feel free to give us a call or chat us any time.

[Guest]

im 14 and i want to move out my moms abusive and my dad doesnt know what she does when he not home i dont know what to do i have tried to move out but my mother shoved me and made my foot bleed i dont want to stay here i have no phone because she took it and i have no familys or friends near by what should i do

[Guest]

I’m 14 & ever since last year I’ve really wanted to move out of the situation I’m in. My house is falling apart and my step dad is a hoarder so there is a lot of junk everywhere. When I do try and clean he will scream at me and tell me to stop moving his stuff. last year was the first year I got my own room, before that I slept on a couch for 5 years. My step dad verbally abuses me almost every conversation we have. If I do something wrong he will use it against me as much as he can. He likes when I get upset and calls it “parenting.” My mom is the only thing keeping me happy here and I love her to death and I don’t want to leave her but I can’t stand living in this house much longer, I hate being upset because of him I hate not being able to have friends over because of how embarrassing it is here. I’ve tried moving with relatives but they don’t have enough room for me and I’ve tried talking my mom into leaving him but she won’t.

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Hello There,

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline, we know it takes courage to reach out to us and we are so glad you took the first steps into reaching out. It seems like you are going through a really difficult time right now. You could consider talking to your step dad about your feelings. We are glad you have your mother for support, and that she is keeping you happy. Unfortunately in most states the legal age to leave home without permission is 18 years old. If you were to leave home without permission your parents have the right to file a runaway report. We are not legal experts but if a runaway report was filed and you are found the police would most likely bring you back home. If you would like our help in looking for a safe place you can call us and we would be more than happy in trying to help you. We hope this information was useful in your situation. We wish you the best of luck. If you have any other questions feel free to give us a call we are available 24/7. Stay strong!

[Guest]

Hi im 14 and i have been trying to move out since i was 9 i was so desperate for foaster care and still am. My mom is with a man with PTSD and is severaly mentally abusive and a massive control freak. I cant do anything. They trash my room all the time, in fact they trashed it just the other day and i had glass everywhere. And yesterday i forgot to make my bed so they took it away and i have no place to sleep. They threaten me to throw out all of my clothes and leaveme with none. Ive been to FCS soooo many times. But my mother allways knows what to say to convince them im"over dramatic" bc she worked in that "catagory" of work and did alot of reasearch b4 i was even born. And i would beg and beg FCS to take me away. Ive told old principles at schools, many, many counselers. And i even went to the pheonix center. And i am soooo tierd of trying and trying. Im anorexic as all hell ATM and i have no place to sleep, i have anxiety and depression and ivebeen faitning lately at shcool and my mother wont do amything about it she just says " go take a nap" even i have the wors trouble sleeping. AND NOW I DONT EVEN HAVE A BED! Im also super scared of going and getting help and it failing AGAIN bc they said that they will punishme so much ill never do it again. Or theyll send me to live with my father (who is in no state of mind to take care of me until im 16) i cant take it anymore and i dont beleive in stupid "suicide hotlines" bc its bull******** to me. Ive thought about killing myself so many times in the past bc of my moms old exes physically and sexually abusing me and she would never believe me bc he was sneaky about it. And now her current bf is just mentally abusive. And ive tried to kill myself by cutting myself many times. And he caught me omce withan old note and said "if you think your scaring me with this your not. And go down for results" i cant take it any longer. If i dont get out of here im going to kill myself. Bc imdone with "oh wewill keep an eye out" and "here some support calling b.s" and "oh how hout a consler or therapist?" IVE BEEN THREW IT ALL!!! IVE DONE EVERYHING I CAN. IM SO SICK OF THIS. I DONT CARE WHAT B.S SUPPORT IS OFFERED I JUST WANT TO GET OUR OF MY HOUSE!!! I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. THERES SO KUCH THAT THEYVE DONE TO ME I COULD LIST OFF BUT I DONT EVEN SEE THE POINT. BC NOTHING GETS DONE ANYWAYS.

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Thank you for reaching out to NRS.

Sharing your story takes a lot of strength and asking for help is a good step. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot and have been trying to leave the home so that you can be somewhere safer. You deserve to live somewhere you feel comfortable and it understandable you are feeling overwhelmed. Your mom’s threats and abuse is not okay and we’re sorry to hear that FCS has not been helpful. Doing everything that you have to try and make your situation better can definitely be tiring but you are also brave for doing so much. I know you mentioned that you do not like suicide hotlines and you do not have to call if you do not want to. Sometimes they can be helpful to call if you just need someone to talk to and they can also offer helpful resources to support you in your current situation. If you do ever need them, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available at 1-800-273-8255. You mentioned you were struggling with anorexia and the National Eating Disorder Alliance may be able to offer support and helpful resources. Their website is nationaleatingdisorders.org and their phone number is 1-800-931-2237. You can also always call us at 1-800-786-2929 if you want to talk more about what is going on need help exploring options. Trying to work through FCS can be really exhausting and difficult and it makes sense you would not trust them considering they have not been helpful before. The National Child Abuse Hotline may be helpful in supporting you through any future reporting. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org. If you did ever want to try reporting again. Sometimes having previous reports or contact can make a future case stronger and you could try documenting the abuse and neglect if possible. This could be taking pictures or voice recordings. You have been dealing with a lot of very stressful situations and you deserve to be supported and get any help that you need. Your situation may seem helpless right now, but there are people who care about you and resources that might help relieve some of your stress. You are strong and you are doing your best to try and make your situation better.

Please reach out to us through phone or chat if you want to talk more about what has been going on.

Best,

NRS

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im 14. i need to move out. i cant take it where i live anymore. its really driving me crazy. my mom constantly screams at me and hits me, calls me names, makes fun of me. i cant take living with my dad either. i have a friend close by and i can live with her, if i dont get help im gone by 12 tonight also

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Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. Seems like you’re going through a very difficult. It’s terrible that life at home has been so hard for you. It is not right to have anyone hit, yell at or tease you. That surely must be making you feel bad and it is understandable for you to want to leave home. Just so you know, at 14, you are under the legal guardianship of your parent(s) unless you have any other legal guardians. Due to this, they are responsible for some of the decisions you make, including where you live. There may be some risks if you choose to leave home without their permission. However, your safety and your feelings should be prioritized and taken into account here. There are options for you to report abuse if you feel abuse is what’s happening to you. If you would like to explore that information a bit more, please feel free to give us a call here at NRS. If you decide to leave tonight as you mentioned you may do, it would be best to have a plan for your safety. It would be beneficial to determine how you will be able to support yourself and your basic needs (foods, clothes getting to school, etc.) as well as a safe and promising way to get to your friends place. It would also be beneficial to communicate to your friend and their parents if they live with them, some of the reasons you feel comfortable with sharing why you are leaving the home and make sure to ask them how long you can stay if they are willing to allow you to stay. We hope everything works out the very best for you. We would love to talk to you more about the matter or anything else you would like to discuss. Feel free to give us a call at any time at our 34/7 hotline 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us live by visiting our website 1800runaway.org. Hope to hear from you soon.