I'm 14 and I want to move out

[Guest]

My mother is a **********. Every wrong thing she does she yells at me for. She refuses to get me help for my mental health and also refuses to take me to the hospital when I am obviously injured or ill. My parents have shut off my phone and blocked all my devices except my school computer from the wifi. I have no way of contacting anyone. I can't take it anymore. I don't want to be alive but I also just want to run away.

[ccsmod7]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

Sounds like you are feeling like you're not getting your general heath or mental health needs met. That has to be really hard to deal with. If you haven't already you might try to let a supportive adult like a teacher, counselor, grandparent, or family friend know how you are feeling. They might be able to help talk to your parents for you about your health needs. You do have the right to report any neglect to child protective services if you are not getting your basic needs met. Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to explore reporting.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe and stay strong,

NRS

[Guest]

i live with my grandma and grandpa and my grandma is always hurting me and my brother is always her fav one and my grandpa is always yelling at me and i dont have a phone to call anyone and i need to get out of this house but i have no money and i will get hurt when i come back home i dont wanna stay here anymore

[ccsmod7]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed by your grandma. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You mentioned not having a phone right now though, so please do not hesitate to chat us at 1800runaway.org for help online.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can look for resources for you and help you brainstorm your options.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

im 14 and i dont want to be home my mom is really mean emotionly and physicly abusive and cps got involded and said they cant do anything bc its borderline abuse not consitred abuse and they cant take me and my siblings out of it there doing nothing to help i want to leave but i dont want to leave my siblings i dont know what to do we would be better off in foster care then with my mother and step dad

[ccsmod7]

Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are in a stressful situation with your mom being abuse but CPS unable to help. It's understandable you are needing something to change, here at NRS we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

It has to be frustrating to hear from CPS that they cannot help. If your mom continues to be abusive, especially physically, you do have the right to report each instance of abuse to CPS. It can help to gather proof of the abuse like pictures and records of the abuse to make a strong case for why you need removed. If they gave you a case worker, you might try to let them know how you are feeling and what has gone on sense you reported. Unfortunately, to get into foster care you would have to be removed by CPS or your mom would have to voluntarily give up custody of you and your siblings. Here at NRS, we are primarily concerned about your safety. If you do decide you need to leave, we can always look to see where the nearest runaway and homeless youth shelter is near you. Please call or chat us for those resources 1-800-RUNAWAY or www.1800runaway.org. Please call 911 if you are feeling like you are in immediate danger of being harmed by your mom.

If you call or chat us we can talk through your situation more to try to better understand it and brainstorm different options with you. Please know that we are here for you.

Best,

NRS

[Guest]

i hate where i live and i just want to move back to where i used to live. it was so much better for me there, i had friends and family nearby, i enjoyed school, i just loved the place overall. but then my parents decided they wanted to move, for basically no reason, i thought it was a good idea at first but now i’ve been here for about 6-8 months and i’m not a big fan. i live in a good town near the beach and my family life is perfectly fine i just want to go back. i’be tried to ask them multiple times before, giving them logic explanations. but nothings working, at this point i just wanna hop on a plane and go live with my friends in my old town and go back to my old school.

[ccsmod15]

We're sorry you are having a hard time adjusting to your new home. That definitely can cause some stress. It sounds like you want to move back to your old, familiar
surroundings. We honor your feelings here and we are glad you are expressing yourself. You have a right to be seen and heard.

Of course, moving away at 14 would be extremely complicated without your parent's permission and having a safe, nourishing place to stay. You would have to think about how you would survive on your own, where you would live, how this would affect your schooling, among many other important factors. If you left home without permission, your parents would be able to file a runaway report on you, which probably would end up with you being brought back home by police.

Perhaps there are other things you can do besides run away. One idea would be to talk to your parents or any other adults that might be able to help you improve your situation. Expressing how you feel is very important. Maybe you can journal about what you are going through, or make some art that expresses how you feel. There are lots of possibilities. We'd like to help further if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Or you can chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon!

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

Recently me and my mom have been fighting a lot. For the past two days it’s been better. But my siblings keep picking on me. This morning I made some pancakes and began to eat them my siblings then said “if you eat all those pancakes you will get fat”, or “ wow you must hate looking in the mirror.” I have very poor mental health and when people comment on my weight and on my appearance I feel so down. I know I’m not fat, I’m actually very slim but I’m starting to let the words get to me. They have been saying stuff like this science I quit soccer. I don’t know what to do.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. We understand how hard it can be sometimes to fully love and accept your body. We want you to know that you are beautiful no matter what.

It seems like your mom and your siblings aren’t fully understanding you when you are trying to relay your thoughts and feelings about how their comments are affecting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

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Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey, I’m 15... me and my mom have had a bad relationship for a long time, we fight every day over stupid stuff, I’ve been in contact with my dad and both of my parents have 50/50 custody of me but for some reason my mom won’t let me see my dad I’ve texted my dad and told him what’s been going on and told him I’m ready to move out and he said he’s needs to look at the laws first.... my mom has threatened me so many times... one time me and my sister forgot to let the dog in and she said where’s the dog, and I came to let it back in and she looked at me and said maybe I should throw u outside and u keep u out there.... I hate living with my mom... me and my dad have spoken about this over the phone and in person multiple times and in person I mean I had to get my grandma to bring me over to his house without my mom knowing... I just wanna live with my dad... since They both still have 50/50 custody can I leave and stay with him?

[ccsmod5]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to us today and explaining a bit about your situation. We are always here to help in any way we are able to. Don’t hesitate to reach out and call or chat with us more.

We’re so sorry that your mom is being so terrible towards you. You don’t deserve to be threatened and it makes sense that you’re wanting to live with your dad. You should feel safe and loved at home. It’s good that your parents have 50/50 custody because that means your dad has some rights to you. We’re not legal experts so we don’t know how to go about being able to live with your dad full time. However, we do have legal aid resources in our database and would love to give them to you. Give us a call or chat with us and we can look for some in your area. Our guess is that your dad would have to talk to one and figure out what sort of rights he has for you.

Again, thanks for reaching out to us today. If you would like us to look for those resources or want to talk more about what you’re going through, we’re here. Our safeline is open 24/7.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

I'm 13 years old female to,I been wanting to move for 4 to 5 years now because of my mom. She yells at me calling me names making fun of me telling me that I'm not good for her and she treats me so different from my sister I get no loves no one to talk to ,all I get is to sleep on my mom's floor ,because she does not want me even near my sister because she think that I will tell on her to her,and all I have is a councler and a behavior thing in place that is it and she thinks that this is a behavior problem and it is not. She tells like to my family and act completely different. I just need help and I want to move

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, and sharing with us about what is going on. It takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you decided to reach out to us!
Wow it sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone. You do not deserve to be called names and be made fun of. If you believe this could be emotional abuse you do have the right to make a report. One option to consider would be to tell your counselor and because they are mandated reporters they would be required by law to make a report. Another option would be to call Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. You can also give us a call at any time or chat with us and we would be more than happy to help you with making a report.
We know you mentioned wanting to move out which it is understandable that you feel that way. We are not legal experts but because you are a minor if you were to leave your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. You could consider asking your mother if you could stay with a friend or family member.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and my parents make me want to die. I get yelled at all the time even if I’m doing what they asked. My mom has said she wants to kick me out if she had the chance and I hate it here. I think my friends parents would be okay with me living with them and I really want to leave but I don’t know if I can or if I need permission. Please help me I hate it here

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,

Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.
We are sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time right now and we hope we can help. We want you to know that you are important and that you are worth living. If you are feeling suicidal or just need someone to talk to please contact The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: 1800-273-8255. There is always someone willing to help and willing to listen.
We know you mentioned wanting to leave, we are not legal experts but we do have some information for you. Because you are a minor if you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home. You could consider asking your parents for permission to stay with a friend.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

i cant live with my mom anymore its too much for me she hit me in my eye when i was younger and im cant see out of it but she always dens it but she knows she did it all she does is smoke and drink margaritas and i cant, im in nj so is there a way i can get emancipated or something because i want out! she makes me look like the problem she tells her friends everything, if i dont take a shower im dirty yet i take all my showers at nighttime and she always brings up my hygiene from the past and its so annoying i got over with find something new then she always talks about my weight but go mad because i would eat what i cooked not what she cooked and she hits me with cans, extension cords, shoes it hurts and my arms and legs looks o ugly from that and picking and i get that from her and we arent how we are supposed to be. she took me to the hospital and made me stay in the pest part of it for hours because i needed to learn a lesson, then she called a harbor house at told them i tried to hit her meanwhile im blocking her punches. and my dad is around he is the first person i go to with EVERYTHING but he doesn't have a place right now so please is there a way i can leave but when m dad gets his place i can go with him? no i dont want to run away i just wanna leave her

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to share a bit about your situation with us. Reaching out for help was a great first step to getting the support you may need. From what you described it sounds like you mom is making home dangerous and unwelcoming for you. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel supported.

You mentioned emancipation which is one option for leaving home. Most states require that you are at least 16 to file for emancipation and require you to be living independently and able to financially support yourself. If you would like to learn more about the emancipation process, a helpful next step would be to speak with a lawyer or a youth advocate. We can connect you to legal aide in your area if you call our hotline or use our live chat services.

The other option for leaving would be to go through child protective services. You can make a report to your state's CPS hotline. After making a report, a social worker would start an investigation to learn more about what is going on at home and what steps need to be taken to ensure your safety. If CPS deems living with your mom to be a dangerous environment, you would be removed from her custody. CPS generally looks to place young people with other family members whenever possible. If you would like to pursue this option, we can make a report on your behalf or you can speak with an advocate at Child Help, childhelp.org.

We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

Stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello. I'm 14 and want to move out... me and my friend have discussed me moving in with her but she hasn't told her parents yet. My parents are divorced. At my father's house, he's very overprotective and strict. Every like ten minutes he comes into my room really sudden, like he quickly throws open the door, it's as if he thinks I'm hiding something. Him and my mother both get very angry at me about my grades. My mother recently yelled at me for making a "B" on two tests. My mother also drinks sometimes and it kind of bothers me. They both basically think I hate them, they'll even just say I hate them sometimes. It hurts me because I actually love them a lot... It's very stressful at my mother's house. I have many siblings. I can't really explain how I feel about all this... I just hate it at both of my parent's houses. Any advice..?

[ccsmod15]

Hey there,
Thanks for reaching out to NRS it seems like you have been through a lot with a divorce, and your parents have been making things harder. It sucks that they are yelling at you for grades instead of trying to help you with them.
If you were to leave home to go live with your friend right now then your parents could file a runaway report and have the police come and take you home. Your friends’ parents could also be at risk of a harboring a runaway charge on top of that. Although you could stay with them long term if you got parent permission to stay there.
It seems like maybe having a mediator or counselor there to help you be able to talk with your parents about how their actions make you feel may help. We do offer conference calling in that kind of situation to help you talk with them over the phone if you wanted. Or we can help look for counseling resources in your area.
Hopefully this information is helpful for you. We are here to listen and support you however we can. If you need someone to talk to or want more information about our conference calling please reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

[Guest]

I’m 14 years old.I don’t live with my mom because she. Abused me but I live with my grandma and dad and I hate it here I fight with everyone all the time and I take meds that effect me in a negative way and they say it is my fault nobody cares about me.i don’t want to runaway I just want to move out with my aunt.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about what's going on. It was very brave of you to ask for help. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel cared for. It sounds like you are looking for options to live with your aunt instead since you would feel much safer with her.

One option to leave home is if your legal guardian gave you permission to live somewhere else. Sometimes having an adult on your side to advocate for you can make having a difficult conversation like this easier. Perhaps you can talk with your aunt about wanting to live with her and she can speak with your dad and grandma about how you have been feeling at home.

You do also have the option to go through CPS if you are experiencing any abuse or neglect at home. After making a report social worker may start an investigation which would include speaking to you and other household members. Now, the social worker may pursue a few different interventions, but if CPS decides that you are not safe at home they may place you in the custody of another family member. If you would like to learn more about the reporting process or get some help with making the report, you can speak with an advocate at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org.

We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

Stay safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 from Ohio and I need to move out. My parents have threatened to send me to foster care, yelled at me screamed and made me feel like crap. My only source of friends are the ones I have online. And they are taking that away tomorrow. I had tried to commit suicide last night and instead they yelled at me for my room being messy. Idk what to do anymore. One of my online friends is an adult, who I could certainly move in with need be if that's possible. But he lives all the way in Washington. My other option is probably my aunt. Though she is transphobic (I am trans) it's at least be better then this. Pleade help

[ccsmod15]

Thank you for reaching out to us. We are very sorry your parents are treating you so poorly. You absolutely do not deserve that. You have the right to be safe, seen, heard, respected, and cared for. Even though you may not be getting that right now, things can get better. Please hang in there!

We are pretty concerned when you talk about killing yourself. That's pretty serious. If you ever feel suicidal, please reach out for the help you deserve. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is staffed by people trained to talk about suicide, so they are a great resource. You can reach them at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or call 1-800-273-8255. You can also reach out to us anytime to talk about suicide or anything else on your mind. We are confidential and open 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chat at www.1800runaway.org. We want you to be safe. Things can get better and you have many options besides suicide. Since you mention being trans, you might also note the following resources: The Trevor Project, 1-866-488-7386 and the Trans Lifeline (www.translifeline.org), 1-877-565-8860. Both are hotlines you can call anytime.

While it's great that you do have some friends that are supportive of you, you might want to be very cautious about adults -- especially one's you don't know in person -- that are willing to take you in. Unfortunately there are a lot of people that like to prey on the young and we would hate for that to happen to you. Again, we don't know the person you are talking about, but just exercise great caution when sharing personal details with others or if they tell you things like you being able to move in with them. Actually, if you leave home without permission, anyone that takes you in could be accused of harboring a runaway, so it's really best to get your parents permission if you do end up living elsewhere, perhaps with family. We want to you to be safe and avoid getting into an even worse situation than the one you are in now.

You may have other options, you know. Perhaps this aunt can assist, though it would be better if she were accepting of you. If you believe that you are being abused you can also file an abuse report, which could be the first step toward you being separated from a toxic environment. You can do that through us or by dialing 855 O-H-CHILD. We can't go through all of your potential options here so the best thing to do going forward would be to contact us by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through chat via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. We have a large database with resources like counseling, shelters, legal aid and the like that could be helpful to you. We hope to hear from you soon!

Stay safe and take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm so ********ing done with my mom she yells at me a lot take my ******** for no reason and she dating this guy and he does nothing but steal from me and my sister

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on at home. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

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[Guest]

Look I love my family but it's hard with a sister who acts so dramatic that you get in trouble and feel like u don't belong so u cut your arms and wear long sleeves I got sent to my room today when she yelled at me and blamed me for her headache some nights I want to kill myself but I'm too afraid all my friends left me and my other sis knows what I'm going through but she won't let me live with her I have no escape I just wish somebody would take me in cause I can't stand this no more.

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your sister. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

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[Guest]

hey i am 14 and i live in a very toxic household where everyone`s anger is taken out on me. i get yelled at, punched, slapped, scratched, threatened, and emotionally abused. my mindset is constantly horrible and my parents take my only source of happiness away so i`m forced to sit alone in my room and listen to my thoughts. i have to listen to all of the hateful things i hear 24/7 my parents drink and smoke and i cant take it anymore i`m ready to leave and i`ve packed up my items plenty of times but im too scared to leave because i dont want to get hurt anymore im scared to speak up ive had too much. im constantly tired even though i sleep all of the time. i dont eat because there is no food at my house and they make me want to end my life. i try and please them also, i try in school but most of the time my mind is thnking about how scared i am of going home. i seriously dont know what i did wrong and what i did to deserve this. i jut cant handleit for another day

[ccsmod15]

Hey there,
Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it seems like home life is hard right now and that you feel suppressed and in crisis there. You don’t deserve that kind of living situation that you are being threatened, yelled at or physically hit. Home should be a place you feel safe and have support from your family, not a place that brings you difficulty.
It seems like what you are going through could be categorized as abuse. For more information on that and ways you might get help you can look at childhelp.org for more information. We can also help you if you decide you want to file an abuse report to file one. Being physically hit, and verbally threatened all without adequate food at home is not an OK place for a child and you deserve better.
Based on your description of feeling tired all the time it may be a sign of depression. We are by no means mental health experts but do encourage you to reach out for a therapist’s help if you feel down all the time or just want someone to talk to about what’s happening. If you want more information about mental health you can go to nami.org for more information about depression and possibly find ways to cope.
Just to say again, you haven’t done anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way. Parents should be supportive of you and look out for you and your feelings, not trample all over them. If you have more questions or just need someone to talk with you can always reach out hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our online chat at 1800runaway.org.