I'm 14 and I want to move out

[Guest]

My friend is 14 and he cant stand living with his father or mom what can he do to move out and/or live with a friend.

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Thank you for reaching out to us. It’s a good thing your friend has someone like you who cares enough to find some options for them. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. Since your friend is under 18 if he leaves home, his parent/guardian may file him as a runaway and he may be returned home. Also, those he stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

[Guest]

im 14 and i want to move out. my parents are putting me in homeschool after being in public school since i was 5. they think that that public school has a negative affect on me and that im bad . but honestly i dont want to even be near my family all the time. school is the oly place where i have friends and my mom is trying to take that away becase she wants to control my life .

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

hey there I am 14 and I want to move to USA for studies I know its illegal for a 14 year old to move to USA alone my parents are saying no because they say that I cant live alone in USA this is the only reason they are saying no they will agree if there is a way I can live alone or with someone in USA , so I am here to ask you if there is a way I can live alone or with someone in USA , I know there are hostels in USA for teenage students. I wish you can find a way for me I really want to move to USA for my studies

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us. Please keep in mind that we are not legal experts, so we can't really say for sure how you can do what you are proposing. However, you might want to check out the US Citizenship and Immigration Services Homepage for some answers to your questions: https://www.uscis.gov/.

We hope that is helpful. Another option might be to contact the school you are hoping to study at for guidance as to how this plan might be possible for you.

Good luck,
NRS

[Guest]

I want to move out

[ccsmod15]

Hello! Thank you for reaching out to NRS! Moving out at 14 can sometimes be a difficult situation. If you want to reach out we would be able to talk further with you. We have a data base with a large amount of resources that could potentially help you in your situation. You can reach out to us at 1800-786-2929. We also have a live chat that you can utilize on our website. You can find that at www.1800runaway.org. We are 24/7 and completely confidential.
We are here to listen, here to help.
National Runaway Safeline

[Guest]

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I'm 13 and have been wanting to move out for the past couple of years due to my step mom and dad arguing and fighting and my step mom physically hurting my dad. I've struggled with this for a long amount of time. Its 3am and I woke up at 2 because I heard my step mom screaming at my dad I don’t know what for do anymore whenever I try to get involved and stop it I break down crying. My dad isn’t proud of this relationship but is in love with her. He’s told me that he would break up with her but never does and goes back to her like everything's normal. My step mom is on drug abuse and has been her daughter is getting into it too it's hard because I can’t do anything to stop them from fighting. My sisters always chimed that I could move in with them but I'm too young to move out but I'm getting tired of them fighting and my dad getting more hurt. I've been through a divorce between parents but I have a little sister that is my step moms and dad’s kid I don’t want her going through the same thing I did. My brother is going to drug abuse too because he is struggling like I am. I don’t know what to do anymore I'm lacking sleep and have to get up in 3 hours.

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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what you have been going through at home.
You are very courageous for reaching out. We understand that being in the middle of someone else’s conflict can be stressful. You don’t deserve to carry this burden.
NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you during this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm a 14 year old n want to move out n live with my boyfriend

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out and sharing, we know it takes a lot of courage. It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind (like your boyfriend's house), it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents (or guardians) can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. Additionally, your boyfriend (or whoever the adult in the home is) could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 13 turning 14 in December and i was wondering if i could just have a place to go to becuase im tired of having to be at my home im grounded becuase i had 2 bad grades and they are better now and i have thought of comitting suicide 3 times and i just want to get away from my "family" they call me stupid and dumb and make me do push-ups ad run around my apartment and i hate it.

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Hey there,
Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are here to support and listen to you. It sounds like you have been called some very harsh names and are forced to do some things you don’t want to do. You don’t deserve to be treated this way. It sounds like you have been put in a difficult situation and that you have tried to fix the situation at home. Running away is a tough decision and it’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You would need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities such as food, clothing and travel.
You mentioned that your situation has caused you to want to commit suicide. Those feelings are important and you deserve to be supported. If you ever feel that this is an emergency you should call 911. We are here to support you and offer you available resources. If you are thinking about harming yourself the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a good resource. You could check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or call 1-800-273-8255. Those feelings are important and you should have a safe place to talk about them. We are here to listen and support you. It also sounded like you have thought about leaving home. We are here to help you and if you reached out to us via phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or live chat at www.1800runaway.org we would be able to talk to you about what you are going through and help you discover the best options for you. We would also be able to locate local resources for you. If you need a safe place to go immediately, you could text the National Safe Place at 44357 or go to https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/. This would help you find short term housing. You would still need to plan out your long term plan, and where you might be able to stay. If you called or chatted with us we would be able to find a more local resource for you. It sounds like your parents are not respecting or listening to you. It could be beneficial to speak to a local family counselor, school counselor, family or trusted friend to help change the situation. If you’d like, you could call us and we would be able to conference call with your parents to allow you to have a safe environment to express yourself.
If you would like to talk about what is going on more in depth, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or live chat at www.1800runaway.org. You do not deserve what is going on at home. We are here to listen and support you in whatever way we can. We are open 24/7. We wish you the best of luck and are here if you need anything else.

[Guest]

I’m 14 and want to move out my mum always blames her and my dad for falling out on me, I am hated by them, I can’t take it anymore they never make me feel wanted, they call me, my sister is made out to be the perfect one, if my mum gets really angry she starts throwing stuff, threatening to move out and starts slapping us.

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

It makes sense you might want leave home. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Your situation may be complicated with the present dangers in your home (discussed above), but generally speaking running away from home is not illegal, just a status offense. You can be reported, and police can bring you home. You might also consider finding family members or friends to stay with, and perhaps seeking parental consent to avoid police involvement.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) or call in at 1-800-RUN-AWAY. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 14 and im tired of where I live I want to run away but I don't know where to go my mom is always yelling at me for the stupidess things like if i forget to do laundry she always forgets things so she always makes thing up. Im tired of bieng treated like a four year old I can't even hang out with my friends Im actually thinking of going with my real mom once I could. But like I don't know how to do that I need help before I do something stupid like run away and get myself hurt.

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I can’t take my parents anymore I want to move out. I have people that are willing to take me in and take full custody of me. Every night my parents scream at me my mom sometimes smacks me and my dad drinks almost every night. My sister screams at me and smacks me too. I have too much stress on my shoulders for a 14 year old girl. I have to deal with bullying at school and out of school and add that to my parents and my sister and my grand parents don’t appreciate me. My parents don’t care for me and they don’t care about my health or anything I can’t deal with it I need to move out.

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Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you’ve been dealing with so much, and it’s understandable that you’d be looking for a way out of the situation. You are right that you are dealing with too much stress for a 14-year-old – or for anyone. No one deserves to be treated like that.

First of all, the behavior from your parents and sister that you describe is abuse, and it’s never ok. You deserve to feel safe and cared for at home, and you have the right to report this abuse to the authorities. You can tell a teacher or nurse at school, call the police, or call Child Help, a 24/7 anonymous hotline that can answer your questions about the abuse reporting process and take a report over the phone if you decide to. Their number is 1-800-422-4453.

We are so sorry to hear that on top of the abuse at home, you have had to deal with bullying at school. One option to think about is counseling or therapy. A therapist or counselor can help you explore ways to address the bullying and be there for you along the way. Sometimes just getting things off your chest can be a big relief, and you’ve already taken a brave first step by reaching out to us here for help. If you give us a call at 1-800-786-2929, we can help you find free or low-cost mental health resources in your area.

No matter what you decide to do next, it shows how strong you are that you have been dealing with this for so long and that you are reaching out for help. We are here for you 24/7 if you’d like to talk more about your situation.

[Guest]

I'm 14 and want to move out. Me and my boyfriend have been talking for awhile now and he really wants me to move in with him and I really want to move in with him as well but my mum won't allow it, what do I do?

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 14 and I hate it at home. For the past 6 years I have. I try to talk to my parents but I cant seem to get through to them. Its gotten so bad that i've became suicidal again and have started cutting myself. My dad treats me like he hates me and my mom is constantly drinking. I dread going home every single day because i hate seeing them. I know this sounds stupid but it seems like the only way out is to kill myself...

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to us at The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult situation. Killing your self is a permeant decision to a temporary situation. We want you to know that you are not alone and you are worth living and are a valuable person.
If you are ever feeling suicidal or just need some support you can also contact National Suicide Prevention Hotline. They can be reached at 1800-273-8255, and they are 24/7. Another option to consider is talking to a school counselor about how you are feeling. Sometimes having an outlet to vent and someone there can make a world of difference. Also you mentioned your mother constantly drinking, which can be super hard to watch and go through. A good resource to have is SAMHSA (substance abuse mental health services association). You can contact SAMHSA at: 1800-662-4357, and they may be able to talk about how your mother’s drinking is affecting you.
We hope this information is helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support for you, you are never alone. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 and I want to move out, my parent's attack me verbally every night and I want to live with my friend their mum loves me and wants me to stay but my parents don't want me to leave what should I do?

[ccsmod4]

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are trying to decide what to do about leaving home or staying but have some questions. Though we can understand being frustrated by a situation it’s good that you are taking your time in making a decision. One thing we can say is that running away probably will cause changes as to how you will survive. Basically the question you might ask of yourself is: Will running away make my situation better or worse?
One that might help during a difficult time is by making a check list to see if you have done all that you can to resolve whatever conflict you might be having about something or someone. Next is to examine how you have attempted to do this. Consider what the best form of communication is to get across your feelings about the situation.
It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care.

We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that it would be nice to have a listening ear.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 14 and my parents are divorced but live in the same house.They tend to always fight a lot and my mom leaves the house and my dad just stays home drinking and crying and I’m done with all of this! I want to move in with my aunt because I think it’s better for me to not be seeing all of this happening in front of me staying up untill 3 or 4 am untill everything stops having school the next day sleepy not focusing.

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Am 14 aye want to move out to my gran bc my mum and dad always shout at me

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS