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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there, and thanks for contacting NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. In reading over your post, we don't have a super clear understanding of what's going on or how we can help, but we'd like to! If you're open to it, you can reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. This will allow us to develop a better understanding of your situation and help us decide on the best ways that we can support you. It also gives you the opportunity to vent, be heard, discuss some of your options, and be connected with resources/referrals in your community (if that's something you'd like).

    We hope to hear from you!

    NRS

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    Hi I’m a 17 year old female and I’ll be 18 in two or three months I would like to go in a shelter. I kinda forced my sister into the shelter when I called the cops on her boyfriend but I was scared and I wanted to get away so I ran away and she promised me it would be okay but now that we’re here everything is a problem and it’s my fault we’re here. She makes it seem like I’m the bad person when I haven’t done anything to her.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. If you need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need of a safe place to stay. You can also use their TXT 4 HELP free service offered to all youth in crisis. It’s quick, easy, safe, and confidential:

    · Text the word “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357).
    · Within seconds, you will receive a message with the closest Safe Place site and phone number for the local youth agency.
    · For immediate help, reply with “2chat” to text interactively with a trained counselor.

    You can also call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We would be happy to help look up places for you as well.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello I'm 16 and I'm from Oklahoma and I will be turning 17 in a couple days, my mom told me that I have till the end of the week to pack my stuff and get out. I tried getting my dad to let me stay with him but he said he doesn't want me and I have nowhere to go, will I be allowed to stay in a shelter and can I get a job and get an apartment to live in at my age

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod0; 01-05-2021, 02:56 AM.

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    Guest replied
    I am from Cali and want to run away. I am 17 and I can't live with my parents. They don't hit me or anything but I believe it is more mental or emotional abuse. I have become more depressed and anxious because they said they would kick me out at 18. I have a few months left and I don't know what to do. What can I do to prepare? what are the new rules with COVID-19? I don't understand why they don't want me, I do good in school, I have a job, and I never get in trouble at school. I have no idea what I am going to do. I love my family and I don't want to lose them, but at the same time I don't want to be where I am not wanted. PLEASE help if i stay here any longer I fear I will end up taking my life or doing something crazy. please help me

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  • ccsmod0
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    Once you are 18 you would more than likely considered a legal adult. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live.  We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

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    Guest replied
    I am 17 and from San Diego. My parents told me I have to be out of the house when I turn 18. I have 5 months left, what can I do to plan or something, can I apply for housing? I am very worried because the waiting list is 8 to 10 years long. I don't know what to do I need HELP!!

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there! Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. We know that it can take a lot to reach out for support, and we're glad you did. I believe we spoke by chat earlier this evening, so I'm guessing here that you're referring to shelters requiring parental notification and/or consent after a certain amount of time. That is correct, though this is not a requirement of all shelters. If that is a concern of yours, it can be helpful for you to call ahead of time and verify what their policies are.

    If you're experiencing abuse in your home, it's a good idea to share what's going on with a safe adult that you trust, like a teacher, doctor, or therapist. Each of these people are considered mandated reporters, which means they have an obligation to make a report with your local Child Protective Services agency to ensure your safety. You can also make a report for yourself, by calling your local CPS agency and letting them know what's going on. If neither of those are options for you, we can also help at NRS. You can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we'll learn more about what's going on, and then we can make a report for you or with you. If you find that you're in immediate danger at home and are unsafe, please call your local police department. No one deserves to be abused, and please know that we're here for you.

    If you want to chat through your specific situation in more detail, please feel free to give us a call or pop into our live chat.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi my name is ***** and im 12 planning to runaway and i know they require to call your parents after a certain amount of time but what do you do if your family is abusing you??
    Last edited by ccsmod3; 12-19-2020, 05:37 AM. Reason: Edited for confidentiality

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for contacting us. Sounds like it has been an uncertain couple of weeks. It is good that you have been able to find a safe place for yourself to stay, and that you continue to support yourself by reaching out for help. We are not legal experts at NRS, but in general, a parent has responsibility over their child while they are a minor, usually until age 18. That means that you need a parent’s permission to continue to stay with your friend. So, if your mother is your sole guardian, she can tell you to come back. The most important thing is your safety.

    If you decide you want to go back home and your mom will not pick you up, we offer a free bus service for youth returning home. If you are interested, you can call our hotline (1-800-RUNAWAY). You may feel that home is not a safe place right now. If that is the case, we also encourage you to call our hotline to discuss options to help you stay safe, or to continue to engage with 241 Kid.

    Again, the most important thing is your safety. You can be proud of yourself for looking out for your own well-being, including reaching out for help. Thank you for reaching out to us, we are here 24/7 on the phone and online chat if you need.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 16 and my mom is trying to send me to a “runaway” shelter but I didn’t run away and she knows where I am, she has refused to come pick me up. The reason I am here In the first place is because she left me somewhere I didn’t know where I was at so my friends mom came to pick me up. I have been at my friends for 2 weeks and she still hasn’t come to get me. Is she allowed to send me to the shelter? Also a 241 kid worker has gotten involved and basically just asked me questions about my mom and if we wanted “therapy” it’s been a week since I’ve talked to her and nothing has happened, what do I do? I live in Kentucky technically but my friend that I’m with lives in Ohio.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now and we want you to know you are not alone.
    First of all what your parents have described is considered neglect, which they can get in trouble for. It is understandable to be fearful because they threatened to murder you, which you did not deserve. We understand that you do not have a phone to contact police or CPS. Since you were able to post on this forum page we hope you are able to chat with us. If you chat with us online we can call the police on your behalf or/and file and abuse report.
    If you were to go to a homeless shelter, because of your age most shelters would get police or child protective services involved. You would be able to explain your situation and they would investigate it. Your safety is the top priority and whatever you decide we want you to be safe.
    Please reach out to us if you need help or would like to explore more options. We are here 24/7 for you by chat or by phone. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey, uh

    I am 10 years old and my parents said they would abandon me today because they "didn't have anymore money to raise me"

    They said that if I come home or get the police involved, they'd murder me

    I have been through a very abusive childhood with them and i don't know what to do and i don't have a phone to call the police or CPS, so do you know if i can get into a homeless shelter at my age?

    Its okay if you can't help, I just need advice to get away from them

    Thank you

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. You should definitely reach out to a shelter before you go to check availability and to see if you would qualify for their programs. Each shelter would be different on how long you can stay without parental permission. It might be 48 hours for example. You would have to reach out to them and ask them how they handle these types of situations to be sure!
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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