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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Some options you have are to be proactive about reporting the abuse to the police. You mentioned that the child has been abused, if there happens to be marks or bruises that would be essential to reporting abuse. Another thing you could do as well is to get their school counselors involved or someone who is an adult that can advocate for the youth involved. Usually the more adults you have in a situation like this the better the response from the police or DCFS will be. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).You can also call Child Help (1800-422-4453) which is an organization that helps with reporting and providing next steps for youth in danger.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

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    Hello. I'm 18, and a tutor for freshman in highschool. I have a kid with me now who sadly was kicked from home due to his parents homophobia. I don't want to be charged with harboring a "runaway" but the child is 15 and abused horribly. What do I do? I'm his tutor, and all of this seems so wrong; what do I do?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. That sounds really unsafe to be a mother in an abusive, neglectful environment. Here at NRS, we truly want to help. We can help you make a child abuse report if you are interested in having the abuse and neglect investigated. We can also look for local youth shelters in your area if you need a safe place to go.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Can someone please help me ? I’m a mother of a 4 month old baby boy I’m living in an abusive, neglectful situation

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    Hello I’m 16, and I have four month old baby, I’m the main caregiver to him, however I live in my grandparents house and we have child protective services in our life so when they come she plays that role. I believe that I’m very mature for my age, in my family addiction is very high my grandmas a crack feine, and my grandpa takes opiates all day. Theirs mold on our walls, the bathroom is disgusting house is never clean, dog and cat fecies everywhere. I have school while my son stays at day care, so when I come back here I don’t have anytime to clean, me and my son share a room it’s the only tidy place in this dump. My grandma just turned fourty ....she’s a lazy ********** she’s been taking my baby bonus check my whole life to support her and her bf’s addiction. She doesn’t do anything around here. All she does is complain that she’s tired , when she gets to stay home all day, sit in her room and watch tv. Her bf is a complete narcissist. I need help I live in Windsor, On. Who can I call for help, would a shelter take me and my son in
    Edit: just tonight I found leches in the bathroom and 2 cockroaches on the wall, not to mention this house is infested with fleas and ants

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like home is not a healthy living situation for you and you are thinking about leaving. Leaving can be a hard decision to make, but you know what is best for you. We are here 24/7 by phone (1-800-786-2929) and chat to talk through your options with you.

    From what you mentioned, it sounds like your home is not necessarily an adequate living situation. You deserve to live somewhere safe where you are being taken care. You do have the option to make a report to the child protective services. This means that a social worker would get involved to help you. Making a report is up to you and it is your choice. If you want to know more about this process or you need support in making the report, you can contact the national child abuse hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ .

    If you decide you want to leave, the easiest way is with your guardian's permission. If you leave without permission your parent/guardian can file a runaway report. You would not get into any legal trouble, but police might return you home if they know where you are. We can help you find a safe place to go in the event you want to leave. We can connect you with a youth shelter or a transitional living program. A transitional living program provides you the support you need to work toward living on your own.

    Because you mentioned that you are pregnant, we want to make sure you are getting the medical care that you need. Planned Parenthood can help you receive services for free or on a sliding scale. You can find a clinic nearby by going to plannedparenthood.org or calling 1-800-230-7526.

    We can best be of help by phone or chat. We look forward to hearing from you soon so that we can help.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 16 and pregnant, want to move out but got no money, there’s mold on the walls in my bedroom and second hand smoke in the house, what can and should I do

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  • ccsmod3
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    It must be hard to live in a such a toxic environment. If you don’t feel safe in your household you can contact Child Help at 1800-422-4453 and file an abuse report on your parents. Unfortunately just because you have a child at 15 or 16 it doesn’t make you legally considered an adult. This means if you were attempting to runaway you are still considered a minor. If you runaway to your boyfriends house your parents could file a runaway report and the police would return to back home if they find you. Your boyfriend could be charged with harboring a runaway.
    If you feel overwhelmed or like you need someone to talk to about what is going on at home text NAMI to 741741 for some emotional support. It can be frustrating to feel like you have no options. Getting pregnant or having a child is a big decision. It is not something you want to do as a means to leave a situation. If you decide to have a child you don’t want it to be a decision that you are making because you are out of options. A child is a permanent decision and can’t be taken back if you change your mind. Also having a child means that now it is two people that you have to think about providing for. If this is something you are considering weigh the pros and cons of what that would look like to have a child and also go to school, work and spend time with friends and family.
    We hope that you might consider reaching out to us to talk over your situation. We are here to listen and to help and to help keep you safe and off the streets. Whether by phone or live chat, we can help you discover the options that you have. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through the website at www.1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you!

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    i am 15 and i live in an extremely mentally and emotionally, sometimes physically abusive household. I want to get out of here but living with my siblings or grandparents would be even worse. i am seriously considering getting pregnant so that i can live with my boyfriend and not be trapped here any longer. if i were to get pregnant could i live with my boyfriend? he and his dad would support us and i would be safe there, i may sound crazy but i cannot see another way out of my situation right now, i do not have a job and cannot support myself, my parents will not even take me to get my temps. My parents make me go mental, and literally trap me in corners making me feel like they are going to attack me, i have called the police but they cannot do anything because they are not physically harming me. my birthday is in november so i am almost 16, could getting pregnant be a way out of my situation?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - your mother's current and past behaviors are completely unacceptable and you deserve to live in a secure environment where your safety and the safety of your baby is guaranteed.

    You mentioned some things about your mother drinking to excess, strangling you, and sexually abusing your brothers - this raises a lot of concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    It sounds like you love your baby a lot and care deeply about ensuring their safety. Pregnancy can often be overwhelming and creating a prenatal care plan can be a confusing process. If you do not already have an obstetrician, you can contact Planned Parenthood by going to plannedparenthood.org or by calling 800-230-7526 for some assistance. Your local Planned Parenthood should be able to provide pregnancy planning services, prenatal services, childbirth classes, and postpartum exams for after the baby comes.

    It can be really hard to live with someone who struggles with an addiction to alcohol. We want you to know that you are not alone. If you’d like to talk to other young people who are dealing with friends or family members who have drinking problems you can check out Alateen. You can find more information about this support group, or find a local meeting here: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Im currently 16 yers of age. And im currently pregnant of 7 weeks and my mom is constantly drinking every day with her anti-physoctics and she has chokes me out b4 she. Beat my brother when he was living here she has also has had sexual relations with my brothers. Not to mention she is verbially abusive. Mentally abusive and when she gets mad she talks crap on me. I dont think she is mentally stable to be a caregiver bc she. Constantly blames. Her kids for the way she is and the reason she wants to kill herself now she threating me to calm the cops on me for being voilent bc i say certain things. To certain people bc i have no filter. I just need to get out of here b4 i lose my baby due to the cause of extreme stress and anxiety. Not to mention i have multiple places i can go with family but my dad does not. Want anything to do with me. So i just need to find a way out before i meet my snapping point. She constantly drinks and has alot of people around me drinking. The only one able to calm me down is my boyfriend /the father of this baby. Im just really scared for my safetyand the safety of my baby . my brothers and sisters moved out at the age of 16. But she will not let me leave and i cant take it no more. I feel like something bad will happen if im not removed from this home soon! -
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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. The way your mother is treating you sounds unfair and unjust and it makes sense that you want out of that situation. A place to start might be reaching out to a teacher or a counselor at school. They may be able to help you with the graduation ordeal as well as advocate for you as a parent-to-be and as a youth. Additionally, it may be a good idea to start contacting legal resources in order to find out what your rights are and what your mom is legally allowed and not allowed to do. Additionally, we can look to see if there are any youth shelters that are near to you. We would be happy to help you locate these kinds of resources just give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Im currently 16 and pregnant and my mom said she will not let me gets jobs, won't let me graduate early (cause I can), won't take me to appointments. Says that when my baby is born, she will take me to court and deem me unfit. What can I do? How can I leave?

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your girlfriends only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If she is under 18 and leave home, her parents/guardians may file her as a runaway and she may be returned home. Also, those she stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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