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    ccsmod2
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    It sounds like you have been going through a difficult time, so we are glad you are reaching out to us because we are here to help. Changing of family dynamics can be a stressful time, but contacting us is a good first step in figuring out your options.

    In your message you mentioned that you wanted to get a job. While we aren’t legal experts, we have heard that in order to work at the age of 16, you will need to get a worker permit approved by the local government. For most work permits, they may require a signature from a doctor and a parent. You mentioned that your mom is turning your life into a living hell, so if you are comfortable with it, you may want to reach out to your other parent for their signature. If you wanted to see an example of a work permit, you can visit the following site: https://www.mass.gov/files/documents...lication_0.pdf

    You also mentioned wanting to live with your boyfriend. As we said before we are not legal experts, but we can let you know that running away isn’t illegal, but is considered a status offence. That means that if your mom were to report you as a runaway with the police, she could also press charges against anyone that takes you in (including your boyfriend). A way to avoid runaway reporting is to have parental permission, do you think your mom would be willing to give that?

    Have you talked with anyone about how you’re feeling when you’re feeling depressed? Sometimes talking your situation our with someone (like a school counselor or even your mom) may be a good way for your to accomplish what you are looking for. If you aren’t comfortable speaking to your counselor or wanted help talking to mom, our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) is available 24/7. We could talk to you about how your feeling and could even use our conference call service to help you speak with your mom. If you were comfortable with using our conference call service, we would talk with you, talk to your mom, and then join the calls together. We would then stay on the phone to help keep conversation constructive. We have found that sometimes having someone else present can help both sides feel heard.

    As we said before we are here to help, but we are also here to listen. If you wanted to discuss the options we mentioned above or if you wanted to talk about other options, we are always available on the hotline we mentioned before.

    Best of Luck!
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    I'm 15 almost 16, I live in Massachusetts and I am planning to get a job at 16, because its hard to find one at 15, and move in with my boyfriend because I can't live in my house because I constantly get yelled, always am cleaning the house and my mom never gives me a break. I have divorced parents and my mom just got remarried and is turning my life into a living hell. I have gotten very depressed over the years and can no longer live in this situation.

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  • ccsmod2
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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws. Because you are a minor if you were to leave your home without permission your legal guardian would have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they would most likely bring you back home if they found it safe for you to go back home.
    One option you could consider is seeing if you would be able to stay with a family member or a friend. Also if there is abuse going on at home you could always report it by calling The Child Helpline at: 1800-422-4453, we know that sometimes making an abuse report can be scary if you would like our help with making a report please give us a call at any time. Another option you could consider is emancipation. Which would grant you permission to move out before 18. To find out more about emancipation you could go to your local court house and ask to file for emancipation.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS
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    Hello so I’m living with my cousin and she has sole custody of me but she treats me horrible and I’m 16 but I do not want to stay here anymore what should I do?

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  • ccsmod5
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  • ccsmod5
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    Hello there,

    Thanks for reaching out tonight and sharing your story with us. It sounds like you’re going through so much at home with you parents. You’ve gone through lately and it sounds like you’ve been incredibly brave and strong through it all. We would like to offer you a few resources that you may find helpful. First off, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 or https://www.thehotline.org/. Next, you have the right no file an abuse report or possible neglect at Child Help 1-800-422-4453 if that is something you are open to. Regarding the lack of food, and healthcare, we recommend reaching out to DCFS in Missouri and they can be reached at https://mn.gov/dhs/partners-and-prov...ram-overviews/ as well as local soup kitchens or food pantries. We are sorry to hear that you have been having such a tough time at home, what you are going through is not ok.

    It sounds like you are very capable of taking care of yourself and the people around you. You asked about being able to leave home at the age of 16 in Missouri to stay with your friend. One option that you have is to apply for emancipation. Being emancipated means that you are responsible for yourself under the law. In Missouri, in order to be emancipated your first step would be to contact a lawyer. You can find a free or very cheap legal services if you call the Youth Law Project at (612) 332-1441 to find out more. They are probably available Monday to Friday, 9am-5pm.

    Sometimes emancipation can take a little bit of time (it can take months) and it sounds like you really want to leave right now. Sometimes people that are facing the same things you are try and get permission from their guardian to move out. There are a few ways that you can try to talk to your parents about letting you move out. Another option you have is to have a third person in the room to help mediate the conversation between you. We offer a conference call option and can advocate for you on your behalf if that is something you are comfortable with.
    If you were to leave home without permission, so we want to let you know about what that could look like legally. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parents may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.
    We hope that this information is helpful to you. If you’d like to talk more please feel free to call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If you calling isn’t your thing, you can chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Time. We look forward to your call or chat.

    Best of luck to you,

    NRS
    ccsmod5
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    Last edited by ccsmod5; 04-18-2019, 07:20 PM.
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    I’m 16 and I live in Missouri, I can’t handle living at home anymore. My parents verbally abuse me on a daily basis, my parents also physically abuse each other on a daily basis where I am the only one in the house who can step up and stop them from hurting each other. On top of that we are a poor family with little money but the money that we do get usually gets spent towards weed for my parents. I have been dealing with different sicknesses and other stuff that I haven’t been able to go to the doctors for because we haven’t had the money to take me. This has this greatly affected my attendance at school. The few food we have in the house was paid for by food stamps, and we usually have free health insurance from the government because of us being so poor but for what ever reason lately we haven’t had the same coverage and when we call to discuss why with them we get put on hold for multiple hours and they don’t answer.

    Im simply trying to figure out what I would need to do to be able to leave, I have two really good friends of mine who have both said on multiple occasions I can come live with them, because they have seen what I have to deal with. So what would I need to do in order to be able to move out and move in with one of those friends who are in a much better situation than me.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home where you don't feel happy and fulfilled. It's great to hear that you're planning on getting a job - that shows a great deal of maturity and responsibility. It may be beneficial to you to reach out to a school counselor/social worker to share what's been going on and how you've been feeling. Talking about what's going on may be able to help alleviate some of the stress you've been feeling.

    Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you run away. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. This can all influence your decision to leave.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS
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    hi im 15 soon to be 16 in 3 weeks. i llive in arizona and lately i have just not been happy at my home. im too stressed to deal with school and my parents at the same time. im working on getting a job. i just want to live on my own and focus.

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  • ccsmod9
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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and so is your girlfriend and she leaves home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, you would be charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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    My girlfriend is 16 years old and we both live in the same home in Kentucky I’m 17, I’ve been living with her and her mom for about 7 months now and her mother is wanting to kick me out and I have till friday to leave, my girlfriend seems it’s unfair and it would be to depressing for both of us to leave each other, could my 16 year old girlfriend come to my dads house to live with me without parent consent, my fathers home and my girlfriends mothers home are about 13 miles apart so not that far away from each other.

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  • ccsmod8
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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there -

    If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.
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    Hi I just turned 16 and I need to move out from my parents. I'm already looking at a job but they won't let me and I've gone so much emotional abuse since I was 13 and I have resorted to cutting but my parents don't care. I've been told from them that I have been a problem ever since I was a baby. I need help to get away. I live in Florida.

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  • ccsmod9
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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. If you been experiencing abuse please do not hesitate to call us, the police, or CPS for help.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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    I’m from Texas and my mom makes me a slave at home I’m 16 and I can support my self and everything is it ok for me to move out?

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  • ccsmod9
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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS
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