im 16 and u want to move out of my parents house

Hi im a parent of a 16 yr who has a child.she has become very unruly and disrespectful.she doesnt go to school and sits around arguing with her three younger siblings she has even gine as far a being violent and destructive.i work at night so im not at home to see what goes on .but do hear about her behavior from her siblings .im at my wits end with her.what can i do.we live in oklahoma.im bout to put her out.

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Hi there....Im gonna be 16 on the 22nd...

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case.

Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.
NRS is here to listen and here to help. We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already.

It is perfectly okay to move away from what family members or others in the common population believe to be “normal”. Your bravery and resilience is admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or explore options for additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service.
The GLBT National Hotline at 1-888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

Stay Strong,
NRS

Hi there....I’m gonna be 16 on the 22nd and I really am tired of living with my parents. I live in New Jersey and I was wondering if there is anyway I can possibly move in with my friend without or with parents’ consent. I’m dealing with depression and other emotional stuff and my dad doesn’t want to accept that I’m a part of the LGBTQ community. I really also am tired of dealing with 11 people in the house. Is there anything I can possibly do....? I tried looking for emancipation but that seems to have to be with parents’ consent.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

It sounds like your parents might not fully understand how all the fighting and yelling is making you feel. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.
Stay safe,
NRS

I'm 16 and I live in Oklahoma and I want to move out of my parents house bc I can't take all the yelling, fighting, fighting with my siblings and getting so depressed bc of my family.

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out. Sounds like you have really been through it in the past and have worked hard to get on your feet. Your resilience is admirable, and it sounds understandably frustrating that your dad is going back on his permission after you have done so much for yourself.

We are not legal experts but we can speak generally. Unfortunately, permission is not usually legally binding and your dad can go back on it. So it was really smart of you to document the consent if police do get involved, but we are not sure if that documentation would hold up legally.

Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We’re here to listen and to help and hope you can reach out soon.

Take care,

NRS

Im 16 and from iowa im a 3 time felon i got into drugs really baf whrn i lost my older brother. For the last year or so i have been sober and working amazing jobs. I have a jib lined up got mysekf enrolled in school and have paid rent my dad gave me consent to leave now he is telling me that he will get cops involved if i have his consent documented am i still entitled to go home?

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Thank you for reaching out to us, we are glad that you did. It sounds like life at home is very hard and stressful because of your mom telling you that she hates you and blaming you for the things that are wrong in her life. You don’t deserve to be treated this way; you don’t deserve to feel like a prisoner in your house. We are also glad that your step-sisters are emotionally close to you and supportive.

As far as leaving home without causing too much trouble, in most states running away is something you can’t do because of your status as a minor. Your mom would have the right to file a runaway report with the police, and if she knew where you were, she could have them bring you home. Maybe asking to spend some overnights or weekends with your sisters is a way to both give you a break and to ease her into the idea of eventually moving in with them.

We hope this helps and would really like to help you talk this all over. You can reach us either through our telephone hotline at 1-800-runaway (1-800-786-2929) or our live chat through the website 1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 to listen and to help.

Sincerely, NRS

Something went wrong with my first message but anyways: I am 15 almost 16 and live in Florida. I have been wanting to move out for a LONG time. My mom well tell me she hates me, she will blame me for every little thing wrong in her life, I feel like I prisoner in this house. My two older sisters offered their house and said I can live with them when I turn 16 but they aren’t blood they are my old step sisters but I still see them as sisters to this day. I just want to know if I can leave this house at 16 without causing too much trouble.. I just want to be happy..

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Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Realistically there is nothing stopping you from leaving the house but, if you were to leave the house without permission, considering you are still a minor, there is the possibility that your parents could file a runaway report with the local police. If a report was to be filed and you were found you would most likely get taken back to your parents’ house. If you would like to discuss your options further you’re always welcome to give us a call at 1800RUNAWAY (786.2929)where one of our trained staff can assist you through options.

All the best,
NRS

Im 17 and turn 18 in three months in utah my parents wont let me leave the house to hangout can i leave anyway?

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for sharing a little bit about what's going on. It might be a good idea to go over what’s going on in depth, or if explore other options that you may have available to you, by calling us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

I'm 16 and I live in Georgia and I want to Move out of my grandparents

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you are so resilient for having gone through so much and you don't deserve to be verbally abused and threatened. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. We aren't legal experts here at NRS but, your dad and stepmom can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your dad and stepmom.

You mentioned some things about previous abuse and threats of continued physical violence that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

It can be really hard to deal with this alone and sometimes it’s helpful to reach out to additional agencies for support. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support, and resources that you may find helpful.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

im 15 going to be 16 I live in Michigan with my biological dad and stepmom..at first things were great here they took me and my sister in when we lived with our mom and were being physically abused and raped. I thank them so much for this but at the same time they are verbally and emotionally abusing me. My dad used to beat me as a little kid and he threatens to beat me today and it scares me. He constantly screams at me and calls me names. Some days are great but I get accused of doing things every day and it seems like i'm just not wanted here anymore. I dont know what to do. Is it possible that when I turn 16 I can move in with my boyfriend and his parents? I know I will be safe and taken care of there. Will the police bring me back home? Will I become a runaway? I will have a job soon and already have some money together. Im scared they will hate or disown me for leaving but at the same time I feel like I need too. That im better off on my own. Im so tired of being abused. Please help!