im 16 and u want to move out of my parents house

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Hi there,
Thank so much for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It takes a lot of courage to share your story and we appreciate your bravery. It seems like there is a lot going on and you’re looking for a legal way out of your home.
We are not legal experts but we can certainly offer advice. The best way for us to do this would be for you to reach out to us in a private call or chat so we can learn more specifics about your situation. Local non-emergency police or legal aid are also ways to find answers to legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time, however the NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

Hi I’m 16 and I live in Arkansas. I receive emotional abuse from my mom all the time and she smokes weed and takes pills that aren’t hers. I don’t know what to do about my situation. The other night we fought because of a rumor and she called me every name in the book and wouldn’t let me stay somewhere else or call the cops. She says I have to get permission to get emancipated. Help?

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Hello!
Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. Your situation sounds like it might be frustrating for you. It is great that you are proactive in wanting to do well in school. It looks like this would be an issues of who has custody of you and it would be up to them if you could legally live with your grandparents. If you feel comfortable, you can ask your dad who is able to make that legal decision. You mention that your parents disagree about where you should live. You can always call us and utilize our conference call service. This is a three way call between you, one of our liners and your parents. This service is a ways you can talk to your parents with someone else present to help the call go smoother and to keep the conversation on track. We can also provide resources for legal aid if that is something you would be interested in.
You can reach us at 1800-786-2929 or message us via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and are confidential.
We’re here to listen, here to help.
National Runaway Safeline

Im a 16 year old boy. My mom and dad are divorced since 2009. Mom remarried. I have stayed most of my time with her. Dad get us on every other weekend. I have some learning problems and have fell behind in school, because of not getting the help i need. Im in 9th grade but very frustrated with not being able to keep up. Im wanting to move in with my grandmother and grandfather and be Homeschooled. Im not going anywhere at this rate. I know with homeschool i can get the education i need to go to college. I live in NC. MY dad says its ok with him to move in with my grandparents, my mom is going to try to make me come back. Can anyone on here help me.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

Im 16 and live in waahington i left my dads bc he is verbally and emonially abusive and my custodial placement is also verbally abusive and i want to leave and go live with my boyfriend who lives in a different state.. Is that possible i have nothing left anymore.. I csnt trust anyone else.

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. Ideally home is where you should feel safe and secure and we are sorry that is not the case.
We are unsure why you do not feel safe so here are some options. If there is abuse going on at home you can always make a report there are a few ways to make an abuse report. One way is to talk with your school counselor because they are mandated reporters they are required to make a report. Another option is to call The Child Help Hotline at 1800-422-4453. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we can help you make an abuse report. If you ever feel like you are in immediate danger please call 911.
Also we are not legal experts but generally if you leave home without permission as a minor your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home. Also whoever you were to stay with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway. Usually that would consist of a misdemeanor or a fine that they would need to pay. If you do decide to leave you can always give us a call and we can try and help you find shelters or a transitional living program.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore your options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

I am turn 16 in three years I can provide for my self me and my parents are going into fight all the time and putting me down and I don't feel safe living with my parents my dad had said a year old that he wanted to die and he also said that he wanted to put me and my siblings up for adoption when I told them that I am moving out when I am 16 they said I can't my dad told me I can't move out when I turn 16 my dad also said if I do move out he will call the cops and have them bring me back home I really don't fell safe at home.

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are frustrated by the behavior your grandmother demonstrates towards you. This behavior has caused you a lot of stress, depression and you mentioned self -harm. You don’t deserve to feel this way. The actions of your grandmother are not your fault. It sounds like you would like for her to take the time and just listen to you.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

I’m 16 and live in Arkansas I want to leave my grandmother house and live my my boyfriend and his family because I and always locked up in this house and can’t go anywhere and I can’t have friends over. She always threatens me because I am always on the computer but she won’t let me go out side. She favors my little sister over me and when I try to talk to her she won’t listen and just say that I’m a child that needs to learn her place. I get treated like a 3 year old. I am depressed and used to cut and I have tried to talk to her and she won’t listen to me. She says I’m just doing it for attention. She won’t let me do anything. She barely lets me go to any of my school events unless it’s for a grade. She makes me do things because she says that it makes her look good and that I can’t be myself because that will look bad for her. Please help me I’m to that point that I am going to runaway with my boyfriend as soon as I turn 18 or younger.

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Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you have really been giving this a lot of thought, since you thought of a safe place to go to. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are younger than 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
Maybe you can talk to a guidance counselor, friend or family member you trust about what you are going through. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone about what you are experiencing to go over options. You also could try and spend the night with a friend and get away from home for a weekend, with permission, so that you can process how you are feeling away from your parents. If you need more support and just want to talk with someone about what you are feeling you can always call us at 1800-Runaway or contact NAMI at 1800-950-NAMI. We are 24/7, confidential, and here to help! Best of Luck with everything.

I’m 16 and I want to leave my home I always get blamed and always made to feel like ******** I want to move out and live with my gf and her mom it’s a safe place do u think I will be told to come home or get them
in trouble

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It sounds like you are thinking about harming yourself or ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth. You can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

im 16 live in Washington and do not feel save at my house and I feel like if I stay there much longer I'm going to kill myself, I just want to move out I have a job and my permit and I'm working on getting my license, what can I do to get out of my house ASAP

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Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like your daughter has been adding a lot of unnecessary stress at home. It can definitely be frustrating to have a child who is acting out and being violent. Reaching out is a really good first step and there are options. As her parent, you know what will be best for your situation. Some possible interventions to try could include counseling or what is a called a Child in Need of Supervision program (CHINS). Depending on your state, there may be a program either through your local family court or the juvenile delinquent program. These programs can help families receive services and needed interventions for children with behavioral issues who do not want to cooperate with household/school rules. The Oklahoma CHINS program generally will ensure that parents have exhausted other options (counseling, a family contract, support groups, tough loves, residential and alternative schools) before entering the juvenile system. Behaviors that qualify include status offenses (running away or skipping school) as well as destructive and violent behaviors at home. From what you mentioned, it sounds like your daughter would qualify for these services. If you would more information about the CHINS program or you want to file for services, you can contact your county's Juvenile Services office.

We are here 24/7 if you would like additional support or information about navigating this difficult situation. Do not hesitate to reach out by phone (1-800-786-2929) or our online chat services (1800runaway.org) if you have any questions or you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation.

Good luck,
NRS