im 16 and u want to move out of my parents house

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Hello and thanks for posting on our forum. We’re sorry to hear things are stressful at home. It sounds like the arguing between you and your mom is bringing you down and making you depressed. At the same time, you mentioned you want to really succeed at your highest level and continue school.

We are not legal experts; however, we do have basic information on emancipation for your state.

In the state of California, there are three ways to become emancipated.
1) get married
2) join the military
3) go to court and have the judge declare you emancipated.

For a judge to declare a minor emancipated, the minor….
o Must be at least fourteen years old.
o Must be living apart from parents with their consent or acquiescence.
o Must be managing finances and have a legal source of income.
o The judge must find that emancipation is in best interest.
o The judge also wants to see that minor is in school or has a GED.

Please know we are not here to judge you and we do care about your safety. If you are feeling like you might be at risk of harming yourself please feel free to reach out to us directly either by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or trying out our Live Chat. There is also the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-8255, https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/. We hope this helps and wish you the best of luck!

Hi im 15 soon to be 16 live in california and want to move out of my moms house the rules shes giving is stressful were strating to argue more more shes no long hearing me out im always wrong and its bring me down its makin me depressed i just need to get away from here i want to countinue school and really successed at my highest level hang out with friends even if she dosnt think there good because i know how far i will go and im not tring to put myself in harms way

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Re: can i move out at 17?

Hey there,

Thank you so much for reaching out NRS. We recognize that asking for help can be a hard thing to do, but rest assured that you are taking the right steps. From what you’ve shared with us there seems to be some neglect issues at home. It also sounds like you are a very level headed and brave person. We admire the courage you have as you are looking to liberate yourself.

A main concern you had was about leaving home at 17. We’re not legal experts, but generally speaking if you leave home without consent of your parents before 18, it is considered running away which is a status offense. Consequences of this could involve a guardian filling a runaway report and if you are found by the police, returning back home. However, if you do have permission form you guardian it is a much different story. Another option to consider is emancipation. Although this process can be time consuming and not always guaranteed, if home life is unstable or regularly endangering your safety, reports can be filed against your parents and possibly help towards the process. We are not legal experts but if you were interested in this process we may be able to connect you with legal aid in your area.

You did mention some neglect that goes on at home. We are sorry to hear that this has been affecting you. If you would ever like to report neglect or possible abuse, reaching out to us or even school personal can be beneficial when doing so. If you do decide to leave home staying as safe as possible is important. It’s not clear if you have a plan as to where you would go, but generally one who plans to become independent needs to consider factors of sustainability such as getting a job, health insurance, shelter, food supply, and basic needs. Please know that if you need a shelter or safe place in your area, we can help you find this for you. Reaching out to friends or family can also be something you might want to consider. If you feel like you are in immediate danger at home at any point, contacting the police is always an option.

We hope this has helped you in some way. Again thank you so much for using our services, we are always her to listen. Feel free to give us a call at 1800RUNAWAY if you had any more questions or concerns. Stay strong and positive!

Best of luck!
-NRS

Can I move out at 17?

I live in Missouri. I am currently a fifteen year old girl, and I want to move out at seventeen because my parents often neglect the emotional and physical needs of myself and my siblings. I do have a job at a restaurant here in my town, and in the summer I work in the fields for the farmers. I can provide for myself, as I have done countless times before. I just want to know if I can legally move out at 17, because my sister did it but she was in the foster system for a little bit. Thank you for your help.

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RE: emotionally depressed and

Hello there –

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From reading your post here on our public forum, it sounds like have certainly gone through a lot in your life. You seem to be a very strong individual to have had gone through something like rape and still fight and stand up for yourself to be happy. You deserve to be happy and not treated like the way that we have been treated in the past. If you ever feel the need to talk to someone about what happened, you can always reach out to us here at NRS or you can call “RAINN” (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) at 800.656.4673.

The only way that you will be removed from your adoptive parents’ custody legally is if you report any abuse that was happening at home and there was an investigation or if you filed for emancipation (every state is different, but you have to be 16 years or older). Those are the only two ways that you can legally leave your home. Just know that you always have the right to report any abuse (physical, mental, sexual, harassment, and neglect) to your local police department or child protective service in your state. But if you were looking into emancipation we can give you some general knowledge of that process. Those laws regarding emancipation are different in every state, so we can’t tell you exactly how it works. What we know is that getting emancipated by the court is a process that does take a while. There also needs to be proof that the youth is able to support him or herself on their own and in some cases they will need to have their parents’ permission to get emancipated. Another resource that we have for you here that will be able to give you some answers to your questions is a number to a general legal aid agency.

So if you were to just go to live with someone else, whomever has legal custody has to the right to tell you where you are to live. Your legal guardian may give you permission to live with another family and/or friend, but without getting an official document from the court they would still be legally responsible for you since you are still under the age of 18. Which means that she can also take away that permission at any given moment and make you come back home to live home once again. Or file a runaway report with the local police to have you come back home. That is why sometimes it is suggested that when a parent gives permission for a youth to leave that they also get something notarized to so proof that you had permission to leave.

emotionally depressed and

Hi I'm going about to turn 16 and I been feeling depressed for about 5 years since I been raped by my older brother . I live in Georgia with my dad now my mom sent because I ran away last year but I came back . So now I'm talk to my boyfriend and he didn't want me to leave so I got a job and I'm able to provide for my self I just wanna go somewhere where I'll be happy and I'm attending school everyday haven't missed one day at this school. I just really want to ask if there's anyway I can leave my house without my mom and dad trying to keep me from leaving and being happy by myself

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Re: im 16 and u want to move out of my parents house

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to NRS and sharing your situation. It sounds like things are difficult at home and we want to congratulate you on looking for safe alternative options.

We're not legal experts here, but unfortunately it looks like the age of majority in Oregon is 18 years old, so your guardians are legally responsible for you until then. Of course, it is important that you feel that you live in a safe environment with the emotional and physical resources you need to succeed. In Oregon it looks like you are able to petition for emancipation (which would make you legally able to move out and live on your own as an adult) if you are at least 16 years old and able to financially support yourself and manage your own affairs. If interested in emancipation we have a referral to the Cascade Youth & Family Center (540-382-0934) who may be able to find resources and assist you with this process.

We know that emancipation can be a lengthy and sometime fruitless process, so if this is not a route that is best for you perhaps there are other options for finding a safe place within your own home to go when things are rough with your stepdad or perhaps an alternative way of discussing the situation with your parents to attempt to change their minds with regard to you moving out?

NRS is here 24/7 and entirely anonymous and confidential if you would like to discuss your options as well as receive any additional referrals and resources. We can be reached at 1-800-786-2929 or via our online chat services at www.1800runaway.org between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST.

Best of luck,
National Runaway Safeline

I am 16 and I live in Oregon. I have been dealing with emotional abuse from my stepdad for forever. I want to move out and live with a friend until I finish high school without my parents trying send me away or calling the cops. Im in the process of looking for a job and I still going to school. I don't feel mentally safe here and I especially don't want to be sent to my dads. I don't want to get into any trouble I just simply don't feel safe, wanted, and don't want to live here. Is there any way I can legally move out or in with someone else? I have tried asking, they wouldn't hear of it. There is a safe house just out of town that im thinking about going to but if I do and then come back they will send me away and disown me for sure.