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    Hi, I'm 16 and I live in Snellville, Georgia. My mom has always been emotionally abusive and called me names and I've tried killing myself several times and even attended therapy with and without her and nothing has changed. When I reach out to her and tell her how I feel, she lashes out (literally) and I'm at my end. I can't deal with wanting to die every time I'm around her because I don't know how she'll act. She can barely take care of all my siblings because she decided to have so many kids when she was already financially unstable. She takes almost all of my money from me and has terrible debt so there's no chance of her getting a loan or financial help. I feel like I'm lost and have no where to go and so I don't know if I should run away or die. I just want to leave but she won't let me, and she won't even consider letting me live with another family member. I don't know what to do, can you please help me get out of here?

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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been going through such a hard time, but we are here to help you at support you in any way we can. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that. We want you know that you are worth it and that there’s hope for you. That sounds really stressful and hurtful to be a home that you don’t feel is loving and where you don’t feel safe.

    If you ever feel that you’re ever in danger, you can always call 911 for immediate help. Also, if you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you’d like more information about abuse reporting or if you’d like help making a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 (childhelp.org) or you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online. We also have legal aid resource if you have questions about the laws related to leaving home.

    If you haven’t already, you could also consider reaching out to a trusted adult, family member, or worker at your school like a school counselor for help and support. You could consider asking someone to help you talk through things with your family.
    There are resources out there that could help you work through conflict at home, help you with any mental health struggles you’re experiencing, help you find a safe place if you’re in need of that, or help you with anything else you may need. If you would like more information about resources, or if you’d like to talk more about what’s been going on, you can call us or chat with us online.

    Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a lot, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.
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    I'm 15, turning 16 soon. I can't be at this home anymore, my stepdad left my siblings and me around March this year and now I'm living with my stepmom She abuses me verbally all of the time, blaming me for her marriage and always saying I'm the reason that our family has been "ruined", I'm always being called names, she's told me that she hates me multiple times, She is the reason I have cut and gotten very depressed, I don't feel right and safe in the house, I've ran away more than once, cops have gotten involved, and I have been moved out of my house for a month to live with another family, How can I make this permanent, how can I can just be moved out of there for good, into an actually loving home?

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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We appreciate you explaining a bit about what you’re going through.

    You said that you’re being emotionally abused at home, you don’t deserve to be abused in any way. That sort of treatment is not okay. If you ever want to make a child abuse report, we can always help you do that. There is an organization that helps youth find ways to get their custody transferred to safe adults or family members in their lives (like your grandmother). They’re called Child Help (800) 422-4453.

    We’re not legal experts, but we do have general knowledge about runaway laws. It’s not something that you can be arrested for, it’s called a status offense. What happened when you ran away the first time, how they forced you back home, is what commonly happens in those situations. We do offer to call out with youth to local police to find out exactly what their protocols are, if you call into our safeline, we can do the same for you. We can also ask them what happens if youth refuse to go back home. We can also see if there’s legal aid resources in your area that can see if there are any ways you would be able to move out early.

    We’re here to help in any way we can, you’re not alone in this. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website. However, the chatting service is not open 24/7. So the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our hotline and talk to one of our trained liners.

    Be safe, NRS
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    Hi, I live in Kentucky. I don't really want to go into detail about what's happening at home, I just would like to know Kentucky's laws and regulations on a minor leaving their home without parents consent. Will the police force me to go back to the house where my parents live? I can't move with my dad and I have nowhere else to go. I "ranway" to my grandmas when I was 14/15 and they forced me to go back home despite the verbal and emotional abuse. I am now 16 and if I am eligible to get a job and care for myself, can I leave home? I'm tired of living here and I don't know if I can wait these next two years out. Please help.

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    Hey there,

    It sound like you’re going through a difficult time at home and within your relationship. It makes sense why you would want to leave home, and we hope to give you some information about what leaving home might look like so you can make a more informed decision about running away.

    Firstly, we are not legal experts, so the information we provide is only general. We do not know how the laws are written and enforced where you live. However, running away is not a criminal offense in most areas, it is a status offense much like breaking curfew is. Because of this, it is unlikely that you would ever be arrested or detained by police as a runaway. However, whoever houses you could be held criminally responsible for harboring a runaway. As a result, you may want to inform whoever you choose to stay with of this possibility. If you want more information about the potential consequences of running away, you could call your local non-emergency police department and ask anonymous and hypothetical questions about running away.

    Hopefully this information helped you out. We invite you to call into us at any time if you need further assistance, and we wish you the best of luck.
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    Hey I'm 16 and I live in Virginia I'm depressed because my girlfriend moved away to west Virginia and I wanted to know if I'm allowed to leave home without getting in trouble

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    Hello there! Please see our response to your identical post above (post #11).

    Please call or chat us if you ever need!

    -NRS
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

    Sounds like you have been enduring emotional and physical abuse from your mom for a long time now. That sounds incredibly hard to deal with; you must be a very resilient person. You so deserve to be safe in your home, and it sounds like this all is taking a huge toll on you.

    You do have the right to report each instance of abuse in your home to child protective services. If they find the abuse highly dangerous, they would remove your from your home. To learn more about your reporting options you might contact the expert child advocates at Child Help 1-800-422-4453.

    You mentioned wanting to know if you can legally move out at 16. The easiest way you can leave home at 16 is with your guardian’s permission. We know this might be a really hard conversation and your mom sounds really difficult to talk to. You might include a supportive/trustworthy adult like your counselor or a family member in on the conversation with your mom about you moving out. That could help your needs be heard when your mom is not listening to you. The other possibly way you could legally leave home is through the emancipation court process. That is a timely and sometimes costly court process where you would have to prove to a judge that you are financially and generally better off living apart from your mom. Please call or chat us if you would like more local information on emancipation in New York. Finally, if you do decide to report the abuse and you are removed from your mom’s care, typically CPS would look for family members that could take you in.

    You mentioned that your depression and anxiety is getting worse due to your mom’s actions. That is so understandable, and we are really glad that you have gotten help with your depression. We encourage you to always reach out for help when you are feeling that way. We have a national database of individual and family counseling services if you ever needed another counselor. If you haven’t already, you might check out both of these great sites on self-harming: www.twloha.com & http://butterfly-project.tumblr.com. You so deserve to be supported through this. Here at NRS we truly want to help, so please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk about what you are going through. We are here to listen and help as best we can.

    -NRS
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    I am 16 and I live in The Bronx . I have been dealing with emotional abuse and sometimes physical but it's more frequent from my mother for forever. I want to move out with anyone I can and I want to finish high school without my mom trying send me away or calling the cops. I'm still going to school. I don't feel mentally safe here im afraid she's going to drink too much and send me to the hospital like she did to my sister. I don't want to get into any trouble I just simply don't feel safe, wanted, and don't want to live here.I've tried everything with my mother but nothing is working it's getting worse. Is there any way I can legally move out or in with someone else?. I've even tried family meetings and consoling but she always says she'll listen to their advice but she comes home and still lashes out at me and she says I have to stay quiet because she's my mother and my mother has had abusive relationships and parents and I just can't take it anymore it's everyday for the past 5 years and I'm struggling with depression and anxiety and she just makes it worse and I also self harm she doesn't let me do anything else and she makes me stay in my room all day and yes I've gotten help with my depression but it comes back because of her

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    I am 16 and I live in The Bronx . I have been dealing with emotional abuse and sometimes physical but it's more frequent from my mother for forever. I want to move out with anyone I can and I want to finish high school without my mom trying send me away or calling the cops. I'm still going to school. I don't feel mentally safe here im afraid she's going to drink too much and send me to the hospital like she did to my sister. I don't want to get into any trouble I just simply don't feel safe, wanted, and don't want to live here.I've tried everything with my mother but nothing is working it's getting worse. Is there any way I can legally move out or in with someone else?. I've even tried family meetings and consoling but she always says she'll listen to their advice but she comes home and still lashes out at me and she says I have to stay quiet because she's my mother and my mother has had abusive relationships and parents and I just can't take it anymore it's everyday for the past 5 years and I'm struggling with depression and anxiety and she just makes it worse and I also self harm she doesn't let me do anything else and she makes me stay in my room all day and yes I've gotten help with my depression but it comes back because of her

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    Reply: Hi I'm 16 soon to be 17

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    We appreciate you sharing what’s going on.
    We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It sounds like you are hoping to get some court information.
    You might consider searching online for the nearest county family court in your city and state.
    We are not legal experts but we can try to assist you with looking for legal aid options in your area including court houses.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

    Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Hi I'm 16 soon to be 17, I want to move out of my moms house where it's only her and my sisters + a brother living. I live in Illinois. Not just me want to move out one of my sisters is planing to go and live with our dad. My plans are to go and live at a friends house and still pay rent and buy food, her mom agrees I can stay. Also my mother has no objection. Because lately we been arguing way to much that we can't see each other face to face. In the same room. I been spending more time in my room and some this I eat 2 to 1 time a day. She told me I have to go to court but I don't have the minor idea how to do that.
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    Hello and thanks for posting on our forum. We are sorry to hear you are having to pick up your mom’s slack. It sounds like your primary focus right now is figuring out whether or not there is a way to move out at 17.
    We are not legal experts; however, we do have basic information on emancipation for your state.

    Under the statute, a 16- or 17-year-old living in Connecticut (or his parents or guardian) can file a petition asking a judge to declare him emancipated. Courts must give the child's parents or guardian legal notice and order them and the child to attend a hearing. The statutory grounds for emancipation are:

    • marriage (even if the child has since divorced)
    • active U.S. military service
    • the child is willingly living apart from his parents or guardians (with or without their consent) and is managing his own financial affairs, regardless of the lawful source of his income
    • a good cause showing that emancipation is in the best interests of the minor or his child or the minor's parents or guardian.

    Additional information can be found here: https://ctlawhelp.org/a-teenagers-guide-to-emancipation. We hope this helps and wish you the best of luck!
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    Hi Im 17 years old about 8months away from turning 18 i want to know if i can move out at my age of 17, i only live with my mom but ive been getting treated like a maid in my own house by her. I have to do everything on my own. She's all day in her room stuck to her bed. Im from Connecticut thank you.

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