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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that you are experiencing abuse at home and we recognize that it is a heavy situation to go through, especially if you are having to figure this out on your own. Your safety and well-being are the most important and we are glad to hear that you are wanting to prioritize them.

    Based off of the information you provided us with, it might be worth having a conversation with your grandparents about their statement that you can leave whenever you want to. Perhaps you could ask them if they would file a report if you were to leave.

    It sounds like your step mom is a safe person in your life and we are happy to hear that you have support that you can turn to. We can imagine it may feel like a relief to be turning 18 so soon. November may still be a while away, but you are almost there! Another option you may have is contacting legal aid in your area if you are wanting to know more in-depth questions about the laws surrounding the situation. Another option may be to contact the non-emergency dispatch line in your area and they could possibly answer some more specific questions for you as well.

    While we may not have a straight-forward answer regarding some things you can do to move out, we would be happy to explore ideas with you on how to navigate this situation. We welcome you to contact us via CHAT on our website at www.1800runaway.org or you may call us on the phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Please note that our services run on a 24/7 basis, so you may reach out at any time and speak with somebody who will be able to provide you with direct support.

    We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you strength, health, and safety ahead.

    Warmly,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I have been wanting to move out of my grandparents house ( the have guardianship of me - was in foster care). Things are not good here, and my mental health is getting worse because of the verbal abuse and sometimes physical abuse.
    I turn 18 in November but I want out of this home ASAP. I can’t take it any longer.
    they have told me that I can leave whenever I want to but I feel like they just say that, and I don’t want to get in any trouble (like reported as a runaway), I live in KANSAS. I’m not allowed to work while living here. But I will get a job as soon as I leave this house.
    I have somewhere to go, I will be safe and have a roof over my head. I will be living with my Step Mom.
    what are some things I can do to move out?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi, thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like your parents haven't made you feel emotionally safe and home, and like you're ready to get out as soon as possible. In Kansas, the age of majority (the age at which you can legally live on your own) is 18, which means once you turn 18 you can stay at your friends' houses and your parents cannot make you return. Technically until then, if you stay somewhere other than your parents' house, they could file a runaway report with law enforcement and try to make you return.

    Since it sounds like you've had a lot on your plate, please feel free to reach out to us again if you want to talk more. You can live chat us at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    17 years old and 18 in just a few months. A few years ago my parents went through the same thing over my brother he was probably about 16 when he ran away. They were physically and mentally abusing him, he left and fought for emancipation up until he turned 18. (He never won, my parents are very manipulative and toxic people and won the court over multiple times.) Now since I have been 16 my parents have been treating me the same way, but unlike my brother, I don't have the same luck and have a family I can run to. Since I'm bout to be 18 will I be able to leave and stay at friends' houses till august when I can leave for Job Corps?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for posting on our forum to share your story. It sounds like things between you and your parents have been rough for a while and you aren’t feeling like you are listened to or supported. It is understandable to want some real change to come about and to be frustrated that nothing has really worked so far. You deserve to feel secure at home and have a voice in what your day to day is like.
    The tough thing is that at 17 you are likely still considered a minor. As such your parents have legal control over many things you do, one of which is where is considered a safe place for you to stay even for a couple of days. They have a right and responsibility to make a runaway report if you attempt to leave home without permission with the intention to not return home that day. While we aren’t legal experts, running away is a status offence and not a criminal one. So police have authority to take you into custody and return you home or to a station until your parents come and pick you up, however you won’t be charged with a crime or face legal consequences beyond that in almost every state.
    You mentioned that you felt like you had tried everything but there might be options you haven’t considered or didn’t even know existed as an option. If you would like to explore some of those options, or just vent about the situation to someone, please reach out to our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us online at www.1800runaway.org
    Stay safe,
    NRS.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    17 year old that lives in kansas

    im 17 and me and my parents are always fighting can i legally leave the house for a day or two to show them that i’m done and maybe make them change their minds about all this, i’ve done everything else and it won’t work this is my last option.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to seek help when you are going through a difficult time. Taking the appropriate steps to find a better solution is not always easy and can be a difficult and stressful process. Your safety and well being is important to us and we want to help you have the best options to address your concerns.
    You stated that your girlfriend is 17. It must be a terrible feeling to not feel safe in your own home. Her feelings are completely valid and deserve to be addressed. Depending on the state in which you both live she is not able to leave home without consent from a parent or guardian and if her father is a legal guardian, it may not be possible without his knowledge. An option may be to simply wait until she has reached the legal age or have her live with another family member if possible. Reaching out to a friend, family member, or mental health professional to discuss your situation in depth can help you feel more supported. Additionally, our call and chat services can also provide you with more personal information to help you as we can talk through the possible options you could take to improve or find better living conditions. We will be able to offer you support and guidance as you consider what decisions you could make.
    Once again, thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. We appreciate you taking the step to find out more information regarding your concern. We are a 24 hour service that provides immediate guidance and support through phone, and live chat, feel free to contact us at 1-800-786-2929 and https://www.1800runaway.org/.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 17 and my girlfriend is also 17 and we sent her to her dads by calling cps on her and now she doesn’t want to live with her dad Bc they manipulative and controlling her mom knows she doesn’t want to be there so she wants her to live with me.what could I do to make that happen without getting her dad involved?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents’ permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern; If so we can help you through the process of making an abuse report and to understand how the process may work. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering. Otherwise, you are very close to turning 18, and we might be able to help find a Transitional Living Program near you that would help you become independent.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Stay strong,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hellow I’m 17 years old I want to move out but my Logan garden won’t let me and I can’t file for emancipation is there any way I can still leave and not get the cops called on me or get into trouble

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to that your depression has gotten worse while you’ve been living in a group home in foster care. It sounds like you have an adult that you would like to live with and have questions about how and whether this might be possible. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will share general information that might be able to help.

    If you are not finding support for your mental health in your group home, it may help to explore whether there are mental health resources in your area to support you. Organizations like NAMI, available at 1.800.950.6264 and via web at www.nami.org can help you identify an provider near you. Regarding your living situation, although we are not legal experts, from what we understand, if you are a minor in your state, you would need consent from your legal guardians to live outside of their care. If you chose to leave without consent, your legal guardian can report you as a runaway to the local police department. At that point, police typically return you home if the find you. If your friend’s grandma has expressed an interest in taking you in, it may help if she speaks to someone familiar with the laws in your state to explore whether she can petition for custody. If you think she needs help identifying legal resources, we can help explore whether there are free or low cost legal resources in her area. Either she or you would be welcome to call us if this is the case.

    Whatever you decide, please know that we are here to support you. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will do our best to help you stay safe as you explore your options. You can feel free to reach out to us 24/7 by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or via chat at www.1800runaway.org . We are here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

    -NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I need help and i live in a group home im in foster care and i want to go live with my girlfriends grandma and she has a clean record and my depression is really bad and all i want to do is go live with here can i plz get some help

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  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this. The age of majority in most states is 18 which is the age when you are legally able to choose where you live. If you leave home without permission from your parents or legal guardians, they can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents/guardians can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. In most cases police do not actively search for a runaway, but they will follow-up on any information your parents give them.

    We hope this information helps. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore your options, please do not hesitate to contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 4 months from turning 17 I have a job and a place to live can I move out without being amancipated

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Sorry to hear things are kind of rough at home now to the point you want to run away. To answer your questions very directly: We have no idea what the odds might be as to whether the police would find you or not. We aren't legal or law enforcement experts, but our understanding is that the police do not actively search for youth that run away at your age -- meaning, they probably aren't going to go out on patrol with the sole intention of trying to find you. However, your parents still have the right to file a runaway report and anyone you stay with could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a crime. If your parents have a specific address they believe you may be at, they could ask the police to try to find you there. And it is possible they would return you home.

    As for school: you have a right to go to school even if you are not living with your parents or are homeless. However, if the school knows you are a runaway they will likely ask you what is going on and may try to intervene. But again, we have absolutely know way of know what exactly might happen.

    If you'd like to talk about your situation more and perhaps think of other options you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our website: www.1800runaway.org.

    All the best,
    NRS
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