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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there!

    Thanks for contacting NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

    Leaving home with parental consent is one of the best ways to go about leaving and avoiding potential legal ramifications, thought it's tough to say what might happen if both parents don't agree on letting you go. Assuming both of your parents have custody, it's likely in your best interests to have them both on board with your plans--whether mom is an addict or not.

    If you're looking for a firm answer on what might happen, it might make sense for you to consult with a legal professional on this matter.

    If you'd like to chat in more detail about your situation, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    Hi i am *******, i am 17 and i live in *******. I have a good paying job, and a few hundered in the bank, and i want to move in with my boyfriend and his family who live only 15 mins from where i live now and also only live 5 mins from the school i go to. I would get the permission of my dad to allow me to live with them but i know my mom would never. I need to know if i still can with only one parents permission. My mom is an addict and i feel she might have a few mental illnesses. Im a junior and wanting to finish highschool as soon as i can.
    Last edited by ccsmod3; 05-04-2021, 02:18 AM. Reason: Edited to maintain confidentiality

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out, we understand how difficult it can be and appreciate you sharing a little bit of what’s going on. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home, this will likely be the police immediately in your area that you mentioned have tried sending you back home multiple times.
    However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth. You mentioned having already contacted them and asked about them sending you home, but it may be helpful to make sure you know if your parents would be able to charge your friend with harboring a runaway.

    Legally, you could be emancipated, although that process can be pricey and lengthy. If youth are close to 18 we don’t usually recommend it, youth could turn 18 before the legal process is even completed. Another option would be to arrange an ALA, which is having your parents give permission for you to live elsewhere. It sounds like that may not be something they agree with, but if it is you could have a legal aid resource write it up so it’s more formal.

    We hope this help, please contact us via chat or call if you have any other questions!

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I am a 17 year old in the ****** area. My parents don't trust me so they sent me to live with another family member, but the police department where I am now keeps bringing me back. I have a close friend who offered me to live with him as I get on my feet. I was wondering how do I go about legally leaving without my parents consent, I have already talked to my friends police department and they have said they don't actively pursue runaways who have shelter and food. I just need to get to my friends house but have no transportation and walking is too far plus really risky with the police around my area now.
    Last edited by ccsmod5; 03-28-2021, 03:51 AM. Reason: Confidentiality

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi Jade,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

    Although we are not legal experts, we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 years old and your legal guardian gives their permission, it is completely legal for you to live with someone else – a relative, a friend, a partner, etc. It’s always recommended to get your legal guardian’s permission in writing and to have reliable witnesses, although these are not legally required.

    Generally speaking, Child Protective Services follows the same procedure when they receive reports of abuse or neglect. If they do think the report is credible and meets their requirements, they’ll take the case. This means that they will send out a social worker to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement), and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services). Child Help USA (1-800-422-4453 & www.childhelp.org) is another organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation.

    You know your situation better than anyone else. Whatever decisions you make, we will do our best to support you and keep you safe.

    If you are ever at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Good luck & be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hi my name is jade im 17 and live in michigan i wanted to know if it was legal for me to move in with my boyfriend with parent permission. my grandma is the one that lives in my school district but my dads not usually home so living with him will just make transportation a lot easier. also could cps take me away for this?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm 17 and I want to move out but my parents won't let me. I'm just tired of all the mental and emotional abuse I am lucky that the physical abuse stopped but I still want to leave. I have a family who is willing to take me in they would make it legal to but the process is long I considered emancipation but that takes about 4-6 months to complete. I would runaway with the family but I don't want them to face criminal charges for taking me in. What should I do?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Please see our response to your similar post above:

    "Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like the relationship with your stepdad has been very challenging. It is commendable that you are taking steps like contacting us to seek additional support to cope with the major life changes you face since your birth dad passed. You mention a main issue for you is that your step father has taken away your control of what you can and want to do. Perhaps considering creating an action plan of what you want to do when you get your control back might be a way of reducing stress and regaining your power and self-confidence.
    1) Build a Support Team - Focusing of what positive options you have, it sounds like your relationship with you mom and the friends that would allow you to live with them hopefully offers you’re an outlet to vent your concerns.
    2) Set Your Priorities - Another positive is that when you turn 18 is a defined moment where you can take back control of your life. You mention several priorities like getting a job and a driver’s license and providing yourself some independence from your stepfather.
    3) Manage Your Health - Of particular concern is when you mention that you’re suffering from having chest pains. This is something that you should mention to your family or possibly seek out medical attention at school.
    4) Focus on Challenges You Can Control - You raised a flag that you’re having problems at school especially with math. Have you considered looking for tutoring options at school or seeking help from friends on these classes? Getting your high school diploma might be a priority in finding a job and gaining your independence.
    5) Understand Local Youth Resources Available – Obviously you can access resources at school but there might be other youth focused resources in your town or county. These might be able to help you with transitional housing options, building job skills and managing your health concerns. If you wish us to check our data base to see what is available locally if you want to call us at our 24 hour support line.

    Hopefully this has given you some pathways to consider on what your next steps might be as you take the steps to independent living. Thanks again for sharing your story on our Forum so others can learn from your process. Again if you want more focused support on your challenges, we are available 24 hours a day at our Safeline at 1-800-Runaway (1-800-786-2929). Best of luck!"

  • ccsmod7
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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like the relationship with your stepdad has been very challenging. It is commendable that you are taking steps like contacting us to seek additional support to cope with the major life changes you face since your birth dad passed. You mention a main issue for you is that your step father has taken away your control of what you can and want to do. Perhaps considering creating an action plan of what you want to do when you get your control back might be a way of reducing stress and regaining your power and self-confidence.

    1) Build a Support Team - Focusing of what positive options you have, it sounds like your relationship with you mom and the friends that would allow you to live with them hopefully offers you’re an outlet to vent your concerns.
    2) Set Your Priorities - Another positive is that when you turn 18 is a defined moment where you can take back control of your life. You mention several priorities like getting a job and a driver’s license and providing yourself some independence from your stepfather.
    3) Manage Your Health - Of particular concern is when you mention that you’re suffering from having chest pains. This is something that you should mention to your family or possibly seek out medical attention at school.
    4) Focus on Challenges You Can Control - You raised a flag that you’re having problems at school especially with math. Have you considered looking for tutoring options at school or seeking help from friends on these classes? Getting your high school diploma might be a priority in finding a job and gaining your independence.
    5) Understand Local Youth Resources Available – Obviously you can access resources at school but there might be other youth focused resources in your town or county. These might be able to help you with transitional housing options, building job skills and managing your health concerns. If you wish us to check our data base to see what is available locally if you want to call us at our 24 hour support line.

    Hopefully this has given you some pathways to consider on what your next steps might be as you take the steps to independent living. Thanks again for sharing your story on our Forum so others can learn from your process. Again if you want more focused support on your challenges, we are available 24 hours a day at our Safeline at 1-800-Runaway (1-800-786-2929). Best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    im 17 and im having issues at home and im wanting to move in with a friend,i cant handle the stress of living at home anymore,my stepdad keeps saying when i turn 18 im out of the house,i have no job,no car, i dont have my permit,i have no money what can i do

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    Guest replied
    hi i live in South Carolina and i'm 17 year old senior,i'm desperately wanting to move out,because i have no privacy,i can only watch tv,i cant have electronics in my room,i cant play video games,i cant do anything i want to do,and my stepdad keeps telling me that when i turn 18 im out of the house,and im fed up with it,im to the point where i have chest pains everytime something escaltes between me and him and i have no job,car,permit,or money,a friend offered me a place to stay if i move or get kicked out,and ive told my parents i want a job,but my mom said focus on school,heard it multiple times,i feel like im in a living hell,i cant take it anymore,its stressing me out to the point i dont give a damn anymore me and my stepdad sometimes get along,i cant deal with living with him anymore,me and my mom are close,and my mom thinks of him a a saving grace,i call bull********,my life was fine after my dad passed then everything went to ******** after my mom met my stepdad,me and him have our good and bad days, and ill admit there have been times ive wanted to beat the hell out of him,but now im to the point where i dont know what to do anymore,and ive tried to build that stepfather-son relationship but it never works,what can i do,and im failing 2 of my classes and my parents dont seem to understand that when i say how can i do the math if i dont know how to do it,and they say study,and i say what is the point of studying if you still dont know how to do it

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,
    It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot at home, and it’s great that you reached out.
    We are not legal experts, but we can discuss a little of how it typically works. Typically, running away is not a crime but a status offense. This means that if police were to pick you up, they would return you to your parents’ home.
    There are often other factors in play that could change how things work for you. For instance, in some states, police won’t bother re-homing a young person who is almost a legal adult. In most states, that is age 18. That can be up to local police departments or even individual police officers to determine when and how to enforce those laws.
    When you live with an adult, like your friend’s parents, they can sometimes be guilty of a crime called “harboring a runaway” if they let you stay with them. It’s pretty rare that this crime gets charged, especially when you’re closer to 18 like you are. But it could be a risk you want to consider.
    If you have other questions, you might want to call your local police department and ask them how they handle situations like yours. If you prefer, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can call them for you. If you have any other questions, feel free to call us or start an online chat with us. We’re here 24/7, and we’re ready to listen and help however we can.

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    Guest replied
    hi i'm 17 iv'e been going through some stuff with may parents for 6 years now and would like to leave and move in with my friends and her family without my parents permission would that legally be allowed?

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    Guest replied
    Hi I am 17 I got into some bad stuff but I was quitting and my mom found all of the stuff before I got the chance to throw it away and sent me to the hospital and ever since I've been home she has treated me like ******** and took my phone which I bought myself with the money I worked for and also my car which she is planning on giving to my sister even tho I bought it and I can't talk to or hang out with any of my friends unless I'm at school and I'm literally miserable and I feel like since I'm miserable I'm not gonna be determined to do anything including school work and I need to move out but I'm only 17 is it possible without my friend who offered to let me live with her get in trouble and can my mom bring me back home by calling the police? I need out

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