18 year old runaway

[ccsmod16]

Re: 18 year old runaway

Hello there -

To start we want to thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are dealing with a very difficult situation. Your parents are asking a lot of you, but it says a lot about you as a person that despite their treatment you still take care of your sick grandmother. You mentioned that your parents have slapped you and beat you with a stick. You do not deserve to be mistreated physically or emotionally. It is completely understandable that you are upset and frustrated that your parents are not allowing you to socialize outside of school or allowing you to enjoy your free time as you wish. Feeling like they are holding you to high religious standards while not living up to those standards themselves also isn’t fair.

Your parents physically harming you by slapping or hitting you with a stick is not okay. Since you are 18, you are a legal adult and would no longer be considered a runaway if you left home. You do have the choice to leave and move out. Realizing that this is a major decision, we are certainly available to help talk you through that decision and find resources that will help you take care of yourself if you do choose to leave. You also mention not wanting to serve your mission and that your family identifies as Mormon. It can be uncomfortable and confusing to know that what we actually want to do is contrary to what our parents want us to do. Any conflicted or upset feelings you have about that are completely warranted.

We want to address your concerns and certainly urge you to call in to speak with us. What you’ve described is a really tough situation. We certainly want to help you get out of or maneuver such a difficult situation while avoiding homelessness.

You always have the option of contacting the police as your parents should not be physically abusive under any circumstance. If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you find resources in your area and could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you about what has been going on recently. We also have an online chat service available every night from 4:30-11:30 PM CST that is available through our website.

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Almost 18

To start off I am 17 and about to be 18 this summer. My dad is a typical control freak. I want to be a doctor and in order to I need to focus on school now but all he cares about is me playing football and following his "program". I told him I'm quitting football and he has basically come to the point of disowning all liability of my actions and will pay for me to finish school and feed me and shelter me but everything else I am responsible for and he tries to make my life a living hell by having total control over me. Plus he constantly fights with my mom and is possibly the most stubborn human being. I would have no hesitation with running away when I turn 18 other than I still have one year of high school to complete. I currently go to a private school but wouldn't mind going to a public school to finish out my year. I have a car but it is registered in his name and I doubt he would transfer it to my name once I turn 18. I have a job and have a savings account so I can add more money to that. I don't know what to do. Maybe finish high school then join the military to pay for college. I have no idea where to even start or how to transfer to a new school or if there would be any legal issues.

[ccsmod0]

Re: 18 year old runaway

Thank you for posting to our bulletin service.

It sounds like you’re having a tough time getting your dad to support your decision to become a doctor and give up football. We really appreciate you writing to us to explore options with you.

It is great that you have such a positive attitude towards school and your future. You deserve to be supported with whatever you decide to do. You mentioned that you wouldn’t mind running away when you turn 18 but as it turns out in most states 18 is the legal age to move out, with that being said if you do live within one of these states, you are legally free to move out even if you are finishing up high school. To find out what is the age of majority you could try contacting your local police department. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that you can give us a call here and we would be more than happy to call in your behalf.

If you need to talk with someone immediately you can always contact us at our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have an online live chat that is available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST daily. All of our services are completely confidential and anonymous. There is always someone to listen, discuss options, and even find helpful resources in your area if needed. Please do not hesitate to contact us. There is always someone here for you.

[Unregistered]

Re: 19 year old runaway

Hello Im a 19 year old college student (boy). Im not really having any major problems but Im ready to start a new life. My mom wants me to live with my father in Indiana, but I been planning to runaway to California in the next 2 years to save up money but it came sooner than expected. I live in New York also to mention. I plan on leaving with my girlfriend who is 19 also. I want to know if we ran away how would we be able to survive and how long would it take for us to get on our feet together. I have a music career I want to pursue and feel like i can't get to it the way i would like to be able to. Im also doing pretty bad in school also which I feel like is wasting my mothers money so to put a end to all of that I just want to get away from everything and start fresh.

[ccsmod15]

Re: 18 year old runaway

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’re feeling like it might be best to start fresh somewhere else, but you’re having concerns about how long it would take you to get on your feet. You’re asking some really great questions about getting on your feet. Unfortunately, we can’t say with certainty the best way to get on your feet. A few things you might want to consider if you and your girlfriend plan on moving might include:

1. How will you get to California?
2. How much will it cost for you to find somewhere to live?
3. What will you do for money?
4. How will you and your girlfriend keep yourselves safe?
5. What’s your back up plan if you can’t find somewhere safe to stay?

If you do find yourself in a tough situation while you and your girlfriend are in California, it might help for you to look up shelter services or transitional housing agencies in the area you plan on moving to. Knowing where these agencies are and how they might be able to support you could help you develop a backup plan in case you and your girlfriend have a tough time settling in. Whatever you decide to do, know that we are here to support you. If you want help finding out what types of agencies might be available to you, or even if you just need to talk, feel free to reach out to us by phone or chat.

[Unregistered]

18 year old runaway

So I'm 18 currently going to Syracuse university expensive college every time I go home my parents are really strict and unbearable I can't go out they yell and mentally abuse me sometimes physically they always throw how they pay for my school and I should kiss their asses and basically act like their slave I'm tired and fed up if going to school and accomplishing my dreams means being upset and miserable then it must not really be my dream it's gotten to the point I will be happy working at a minimum wage job with no contact with them at all and I'm not being dramatic my mom calls me a prostiture is against tampons against me seeing my friends against my bf my sister cut all ties with her cuz she way more terrible to her than with me I know I'm not imagining things or being a brat my plan will be to live on my own a little I have a job so I can save money then go live with my br who's a marine on base and get marry get all the benefits he knows what I go through and is 100% by my side I know I'm a legal adult I'm just scared of how leaving school will affect me I have loans scholarships payments reserved seating idk if I leave Ima be in a huge debt it's only my first year some loans are under my parents name some under their's I just don't want to get screwed and get a bill to my house of 30,000 and have no idea how to pay

[ccsmod0]

Re: 18 year old runaway

Hello,
Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It must be really difficult when you fight with your parents and it feels like they don’t understand you. It also sounds like you feel they often cross the line when they use your tuition against you, call you names and get physical. You don’t deserve that kind of treatment. Please know that we are here to listen and here to help. If you’d like to speak to someone please call 1-800-786-2929. We are available 24/7 and someone is always available.
It sounds like you have thought about leaving home to possibly live with/marry your boyfriend. It also sounds like you would be leaving school and you are not sure that is the best thing for you. Since you are 18, you are legally an adult and would not be considered a runaway and free to make those decisions. At NRS we are not legal experts but might be able to make a referral to services that can help you with questions about your student loans and debt.
Since leaving home is something you are considering, here are a few questions think about:
• Have you spoken to your parents about the situation? How do they feel about it?
• Have you spoken to your boyfriend about living with him and possibly getting married? How does he feel about that?
• What would you do about school?
• What would you do for money and a job?
• What is your plan B in case your first plan doesn’t work out?
We want to make sure you are safe during this time. We would love to hear from and talk to you further about your situation. By contacting us here at NRS, we can possibly connect you to resources that may be of value to you. Again, we can be reached at 1-800-786-2929.
Best,
NRS

[18 year old(guy)]

Running away to Disney

My parents are also just so very strict and won't let me do anything without like a lecture and 50 questions....I want to run away and go work at DIsney in Florida but don't think I be able to..do u think they would let me work there with all the paperwork and signing I would probably have to do.....??

[ccsmod0]

Re: 18 year old runaway

Thank you for using our bulletin service.
It sounds like your parents are really overbearing and you would like to leave and go to work at Disneyland. We want you to know that since you are 18 and the age of majority in most states. (Nebraska 19 and Mississippi 20) If you do not live within either of these two states then you are legally an adult so if you were to leave home it would not be considered running away it is considered moving out, with that being said your parents do not have to let you live there anymore.
We are not sure what the work requirements are for Disneyland. You might have more luck contacting them directly and asking them. Good luck
We hope you found this information helpful. If you want you can give us a call and we can talk about the situation further. 1-800-RUNAWAY

[Unregistered]

Running away

I am 18 year olds. I have to many issues with addiction family. I live in Florida. I am going to go to a pawn shop Tommorow to get money then leave to go Los Angeles the next day. If my mother puts in a missing person report I will then notify the authorities saying I am okay, I am just wondering if anyone has any information or experiences like this and how did it end up?

[Dylan_monroe]

18 running away

I am 18 year olds. I have to many issues with addiction family. I live in Florida. I am going to go to a pawn shop Tommorow to get money then leave to go Los Angeles the next day. If my mother puts in a missing person report I will then notify the authorities saying I am okay, I am just wondering if anyone has any information or experiences like this and how did it end up?

[ccsmod9]

RE: Running Away

Hello there,

Thanks for reaching out to the National Ruanway Safeline.

It sounds like you’ve made up your mind and have a plan. We’re so sorry that things happening at home were so bad you’ve decided to take matters into your own hands and head off on your own. While what you’re doing is very brave, we do want to make sure you’re safe. If you’d like, you could call in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and someone here would be happy to go over the plan and see if we can’t help in any way.

Best of luck to you,

NRS

[ccsmod9]

RE: 18 running away

Hello there,

Thanks for reaching out the National Runaway Safeline.
It looks like you’ve already posted this on another thread here on the forum. We hope we answered any lingering questions and address all the issues you’ve stated. If there is anything further you’d want to discuss, please feel free to call us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Thank you,

NRS

[Unregistered]

running away

I can't do this anymore. I'm 18 and I live in Michigan with my mom. She doesn't listen to anybody but herself and impossible to talk to or deal with at all. All she wants to do is control everything you do and degrade you every chance she gets. She makes me the most angriest person ever and it's getting to the point where I really want to hurt her or myself or leave. I've have been dealing with this all of my life and I can't take it anymore. I really can't. I don't know where to go from here.

[Unregistered]

running away

I can't do this anymore. I'm 18 and I live in Michigan with my mom. I have finished my first year of college and now I'm back home for the summer. I have been seriously stressed this whole year and it has taken a huge toll on me not counting my mom. She doesn't listen to anybody but herself and impossible to talk to or deal with at all. All she wants to do is assume, control everything you do and degrade you every chance she gets. She makes me the most angriest person ever and it's getting to the point where I really want to hurt her or myself or leave. I've have been dealing with this all of my life and I can't take it anymore. I really can't. I don't know where to go from here. i don't know if my dad would let me stay with him. We don't really talk. We haven't had contact since I was in 8th grade until I reached out to him and visited him to talk and hang out this past college year. Please help me. I really need some options. I don't know if I can go another day like this.