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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    We are glad you reached out to us for help. We are not legal experts but we can provide some general guidance and some other options. While the age of majority (when you are considered an adult) in both CO and KS is 18, it would be up to the local police if they would enforce the runaway report if you are 17 and in a safe location and your home situation is unsafe and unstable. You could ask your Mom for a letter that you can take with you. It would say she gave you permission to live with your boyfriend’s parents and you are not a runaway. She needs to sign the letter and it has more credibility if it is notarized. There is still some risk to consider, but that is more about how you will get to your boyfriend’s house in CO, if his parents/guardians are really willing to take you in for the long term (or at all) and what you would do in Denver if things don’t work out. You probably already know, your Mom cannot legally throw you out of the house until you are 18. There are shelters and programs in your community to support you and take care of you until things can be worked out with your Mom. If you don’t want to work things out or you don’t feel safe in her home, you could consider a long-term transitional living program in your local community. You may want to investigate your local options and programs before you head off to Denver. The financial, logistical and school support you would get now at 16 in transitional living and that in some cases is available until after you are 18 when you are in a program would not be available to you once you turn 18.  We would like to talk with you in more detail about your specific situation. We are a non-directive agency, which means we won’t tell you what to do but we help you explore all your options and develop a plan that works best for you and is as safe as possible. We have access to local resources and programs for temporary or long term shelter and we will conference call them with you on the phone to find what one works best for you. You can reach out to us for a chat through our website or call our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7 and completely confidential. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

    Best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi im 16 but ill be 17 in november and my mom kicked me out and idk what to do but my mom said I could go live with my bf but he lives in Denver Co and I like in kansas and Im scared she'll call me in as a runaway even tho she said I could go.... what should i do?

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    Guest replied
    So im 16 turning 17 in november and my mom is kicking me out and idk what to do can you help me?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us, we hope to help as best we can. Since you would be 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It’s definitely good that you already have a place your thinking of staying, as long as your boyfriend’s parents are okay with you staying in the home you should be fine. Since they are the owners of the home, they are you would ultimately want to make sure are okay with you staying. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).


    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m turning 18 next month my question is can I move in with my bf and he’s parents at 18 but my bf is 17 but he lives with he’s parents and he’s parents are ok with me moving it’s because I’ve been having problems at home

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out, we hope to help as best we can. Since she would be 18 she is more than likely considered a legal adult which means that she can move out if she wants to and she wouldn’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, she has a right to make her own decisions about where she lives. So if she chooses to live with your parents, then no one would get into trouble since she would be an adult making a choice. We can help her make a plan for how to deal with her situation and help her find resources to land on her feet.
    It can be very helpful for her to have a plan for when she moves out. Moving can be a huge step, and its great to know she is not alone in this. Some steps she can take towards independence might be to find employment, or to save up money for moving expenses if needed. It can also be helpful to research rents in that area, find a roommate, or make a budget (planning for the future). Another thing she might want to consider is what kinds of things she depends on her parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after she leaves. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi there I'm 18 and once my girlfriend turns 18 and lives in ******** can I go pick her up all the way from Texas and let her stay with my parents while I'm out working because she lives in a rough neighborhood and I don't want nothing happened to her and I want to know if my parents will get into any legal problems
    Last edited by ccsmod5; 06-11-2021, 08:37 AM. Reason: Maintain confidentiality

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there -

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot at home with and you're thinking that the best way to deal with that would be to leave.

    Now we aren't legal experts here and you might have already read on this forum thread about what could happen if you were to leave home before the age of majority. So we won’t get into that since you can find it fairly easily. Your mother may give you permission to live with another family or relative, but without getting an official document from the court they would still be legally responsible for you. Which means that they can also take away that permission at any given moment and take you back home to live with them once again. So that can be an option for you if you feel like your mother might respond well to you living someplace else.

    Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. If you’d feel more comfortable with doing that, just know that it’s always available. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from or to maybe build on your relationship and make it better. So maybe that might be an option for you and your mother. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

    If you have a specific question that you can't find the answer to on any of these threads or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now, you can always call us. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. We also have a database that might be able to locate a youth agency that can provide you local support. Please reach out via phone or even our online chat for more help.

    Best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    My friend and her parents have asked me to move in with them sense I told them I didn't want to live and move with my mom and siblings. I'm 17. I'll be 18 in a few months. I've been wanting to talk to her about it but cant bring myself to do so. I'm afraid of how she might react.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. This is something to consider if you are living with your bf who is 18 and their parents. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    can i move out with my boyfriend or live with him and his parents while i'm 17 and he's 18?

    So i'm 17 years old and i'm in washington ever since a few years ago my parents have been super controlling. they constantly have me do everything around the house, my mom keeps grounding me for no reason and if there is a reason it's the smallest mistake that can be fixed. she tries to keep me locked up and keeps taking my phone away when i've done nothing wrong so i have no communication with anyone. i'm also not allowed to have a say in my house, every time i share how i feel it doesn't matter my mom doesn't care. she will raise her voice to make herself louder than me, she interrupts me or shuts me down, she doesnt care about my feelings. i've talked to her about it and it still continues, she plays the victim when i confront her about it and makes it seem like i'm the bad guy. i'm not allowed to cry or be depressed or down sometimes (no im not physically harming myself). she literally makes me stay silent so i dont have a voice in a place where im supposed to call "my home". the last time i told them i was down or depressed, they told me i was doing it for attention, they locked me up in the house and took my phone away. but i wasnt happy with myself or how i was getting treated, i had no voice to speak out. Now because i told someone was was going on, how i was feeling and getting treated via text, my mom took my phone and saw it and yelled at me for it, grounded me, took my phone once again and she wont let me talk so i was also silenced again, and she says i'm "lying". but in reality im not, im sick and tired of being treated this way and me having to shove everything down because they dont let me have a voice.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm actually in a similar situation. I'm a 17 year old girl turning 18 in December and my mom is abusive when she gets drunk and I'm finally done with it and want to move in with my girlfriend who lives like 2 hours away from me. Her parents are fine with it and want me to go live with them but my parents would never allow it, but last night she actually hit me so hard I couldn't breathe for a sec. I want to move out without having to call the police on her because she only treats me that way and I dont want my little sister to grow up being taking away from her or my mom being in jail.
    I also dont want to get my girlfriends parents in trouble even tho they said its okay.
    I would really like some advice.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out today and posting on our forum. We are here to help in any way we are able to, you’re not alone in this. It was brave of you to reach out for help.

    It sounds like you’re going through a lot of pain at home. You never deserve to be abused or neglected. It’s wrong and against the law for your mom to kick you out of the house. We’re glad that you have your older brother to look after you but technically if you go anywhere without your mom’s permission she could report you as a runaway. You can’t be arrested for running away. However, you can report your parents for abuse and neglect. We are here to make that report for you if you’re interested or you can contact Child Help at www.childhelp.org

    If you do decide to leave your uncles house we are more than happy to look to see if there’s a runaway shelter in your area, in case you can’t go to your brother’s house.

    We would love to talk to you more about your situation and your options. Please don’t hesitate to call us or chat with us on our website www.1800runaway.org . We are open 24/7.

    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 14 in the state of maryland, do i have to get parental consent to leave? my mom kicks me out a lot and right now im living with my uncle but he says if i leave and go live with my big brother, i cant come back and my abusive father will come get me. what can i do?

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