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  • #31
    hello i recently turned 18, do my parents have to give me my social security card and birth certificate

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello there,
      Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. When you turn 18 you can ask your parents for your social security card and your birth certificate. Sometimes parents are unwilling to give the birth certificate and social security card for whatever reasons. When you are 18 you should be able to obtain those documentations without parental consent. To get your birth certificate you can go to your county clerk’s office with a photo ID or you can order one online through your county clerk’s office. A replacement birth certificate usually costs around 5 dollars. To obtain a replacement social security card you would go to your social security office with a valid ID.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to talk more about what is going on or explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • #32
    Hey im jordan and i want to start working before i turn 18 nxt month bc my girlfriend and i are trying to buy an apartment. I have my ssc but i dont have my birth certificate and i asked my mom but she is taking too long to get it so is there anything i can do so i can start work soon as possible

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    • ccsmod9
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      Thanks for reaching out to NRS Jordan. From what we gather about your story it sounds like your mom is in the process of getting you the birth certificate. This may be a good option to wait on since it might not take too much longer. If you know the hospital you were born in you could try that as well. Overall you could ask a lawyer see if they might help get you the birth certificate. Because you are a minor it might not be possible to have those things unless your guardian gives them to you. You can always have a conversation with your mom about goals and things you want to save up so that she can understand your need for the birth certificate.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #33
    Hi I’m a father who’s daughter ran away because my wife and myself refused to let her continue to date a boy who impregnated her at 16 . S

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out to us, we know that it takes a lot of courage to share what’s going on with others. It must be really stressful and overwhelming to be in a situation where you don’t know where your daughter is. If you haven’t done so already, you can contact your local police department to file a runaway report, this is like a missing person report but for minors. If a report has been filed and the authorities locate your daughter, she will most likely be returned home.

      It can be hard to be the parent of a runaway teen and you don’t have to face this alone. If you’d like additional support, you can try contacting the below agencies:
      National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC), a national missing child clearinghouse – 800-843-5678 or missingkids.com or their parent support group, Team HOPE (Help Offering Parents Empowerment) – 866-305-4673 or missingkids.com/teamhope. You can also check out the Polly Klaas Foundation for additional support and resources for locating your daughter – 800-587-4357 or pollyklaas.org.

      Best of luck,
      NRS

  • #34
    My mom want give me my SS and birth certificate so I can get a job n go back to school can she do that

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello,
      Thank you so much for reaching out to us. This sounds like a really difficult and frustrating situation to be in. It is really great that you are trying to get a job and go back to school.
      Some things you might be able to do are calling the school and asking about how to get enrolled and explain your situation with them. As for getting a job it might be hard to get one without a SS and birth certificate. To get another copy of your birth certificate go to the vital records office in the state you were born in with an ID. To get another social security card you need to go to the social security office in your state with a birth certificate and an ID.
      If you have any other questions feel free to call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (621-0394), it is open 24/7 and confidential. We are always here to listen and help.

  • #35
    Hi I'm 17 almost 18 and my parents kicked me out but they won't let me move to California is there anything I can do I work a full time job and I have my own place
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    • #36
      Reply: Hi I'm 17 almost 18


      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
      We are not legal experts but in general your parent’s kicking you out may be grounds to file an abuse report for neglect. In most states the age of adulthood and independence is 18. It sounds like you have a full time job and your own place. Good for you. Another option you might consider looking into is emancipation. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18. The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process.
      Lastly, (depending on how close you are) you might consider waiting until you become 18 then legally you can make your own decisions.


      Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat.

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      Take care,
      NRS


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      • #37
        I'm 17 years old, 18 in december, and currently attending college.

        I recently got a grant, but in order to access any extra money i have, i need to have a bank account with a specific bank. However, in order to fully activate my account, i need my legal documents ( birth certificate, passport, etc.). This wouldnt be a problem, but my step-mother, who is my legal guardian, wont give these to me. I live at a shelter for homeless youth, and it's been established that i will not be heading back to her house. I'm not sure what to do, because i'm trying to get my life in order, and she seems to want to stop every effort i make if it's not something she wants too.

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        • ccsmod9
          ccsmod9 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          We hope to hear from you soon.
          Be safe, NRS

      • #38
        I'm 17 and my mom kicked me out and now she won't give me my ss card birth certificate and she is cashing my ssi check when I don't live with her I need my documents so I will be able to enroll in school what can I do to get my documents

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a tough time. You have a legal right to be taken care of by your legal guardian, and that sounds so stressful to have that going on at home. We are here to support you and help you in any way we can.

          Since you have a legal right to be taken care of by your legal guardian, you could consider reporting that you’ve been kicked out of your home. If you want more information about reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or you could call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

          Here is a website you could check out to try to get your documents: https://www.nn4youth.org/wp-content/...FINAL-2019.pdf .

          If you haven’t already, you could consider reaching out to a trusted adult, relative, worker/teacher/counselor at your school for help and support. You could also consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling or having another trusted adult help you talk with them. Just so you’re aware, we have a conference calling service here where we could help mediate a conversation between you and your parents.

          There are also many resources that could help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

          Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

      • #39
        Hi, I am 19 and moved out of my dads house due to issues and am now living with my grandparents. My dad will not give me the information I need to do Financial Aid so I can pay for college, is there anything I can do?

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hello There,
          Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are in a stressful situation. First we want to congradualate you on attending college, that is a big step and you should be proud of yourself! If your father is not giving you information for financial aid you may have to take out loans. One option you could consider is to call your college’s financial aid office and ask them for assistance. Often times at colleges there are financial aid advisors that can help sort out these kinds of things. Another option could be to try and talk with your dad about how important going to college is for you and how you would like his help. At NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your father and help you have this conversation. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to provide support and mediate the conversation.
          We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you would like to call us for more questions or to help explore your options we are here for you. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support, We wish you the best of luck!
          NRS

      • #40
        Im 17 right now and my parents keep threatening to take all my money out of my account and use it for theirs just because they don't want me to leave when I turn 18. If they end up going through and taking money, when i turn 18 can i sue them and get my money back? Also is it not wrong to threaten your own daughter that if she leaves once shes 18 and legally can, that the parents will do everything in their power to try and hold me down, send me away, or take whatever money i have so i cant make a living on my own? Not to mention the fact that they wont let me get a job or my license despite me having driven with my permit for almost a year now. Im painfully stuck in a house where im unwanted but a the same time manipulated and used for my parents own will

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        • ccsmod1
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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds like there's a lot of tension at home right now - that must be really tough. Generally speaking, once you are 18 you are considered a legal adult and can live where you please. If you think that your parents will physically stop you or are a threat to you when leaving you can always contact your local police department for an escort. We are not legal experts here at NRS, so, unfortunately, we cannot tell you if your parents can or cannot withdraw money from an account. It may be a good idea to reach out to the banking institution associated with the account to verify their policy and procedures. You can also reach out to a local legal aid agency for further assistance.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          All the best,
          NRS

      • #41
        I’m 17 & I have a job but my mother is deny me working. Does she have the right to deny me ? When I provide for myself and she lives in a different house and takes care of her boyfriend

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        • #42
          A friend is 17, practically kicked out and their parents won’t give them their documents such as passport or birth cert

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          • ccsmod7
            ccsmod7 commented
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            Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are getting kicked out and need your vital documents. That sounds really unfair, and here at NRS we truly want to be a support for you.

            So generally speaking, at 17 your parents do have a right over your vital documents since they are your guardians still; however, it is illegal for a parent to kick a youth out of the house. You do have the right to call police or child protective services if your parents kick you out. Once you turn 18, that is when you could get a police escort to go into your parent's house and get your things if they are still refusing to give them to you.

            If you are interested in trying to replace your vital documents, you might use this state-by-state guide in how to obtain your ID, birth certificate, and social security card: https://www.nn4youth.org/wp-content/...FINAL-2019.pdf.

            Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like additional assistance: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

            Best,

            NRS

        • #43
          Im 17 almost 18 years old my b-day is 3 weeks away and my mom is refusing to give me my social security card and birth certificate to get a job because she kick me out and I also recently found out that she's been stealing from me i receive SSI check monthly and she would only give me $100 for my expenses and she been pocketing $700 a month for more the 10 years. She's making my life miserable what can I do to help myself and report her fraud to the social security administration?

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          • ccsmod6
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            Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It is enormously unfair for your mother to kick you out of the house and also refuse to give you your vital documents and you must be extremely frustrated. Additionally, it is not right for her to taking your SSI money without your knowledge.

            With regards to your birth certificate and social, there are two options that we are aware of. The first would be, once you are 18, contacting the hospital you were born at and asking them if they can help you secure another copy of your birth certificate. From there you can take the birth certificate to the social security office where you should be able to get another copy of your social security card. The second option would be, once you are 18, asking the police for a civil escort to retrieve your vital documents. Once you are legally an adult, your parents cannot withhold those pieces of identification.

            Unfortunately, we are not too familiar with how SSI checks function. We would suggest that you contact your county social security office in order to find precise information as to what your rights are with regards to your SSI money.

            If you have any questions about any of this or anything else, we would be happy to do our best to answer them. Please don’t hesitate to call us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat usat 1800runaway.org.

            Take care,
            NRS

        • #44
          I just turned 17 this June. I told my mother that I want my state ID and my social security because they are currently in her possession. Is there anything I can do or do I have to wait until I am 18?

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          • ccsmod7
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            Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

            That sounds frustrating that your mother will not get your ID and your social security card. Unfortunately, as your guardian she is within her rights holding on to your vital documents. Depending on your state laws, you might be able to replace your documents. You might look at this guide: https://www.nn4youth.org/wp-content/...FINAL-2019.pdf to see how to obtain documents in your state.

            Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk more about your situation: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org. We are 24/7.

            Best,

            NRS

        • #45
          hi, I am 17 years I turn 18 on September my mom kick me out a month ago and give me up to child protective services, its been over a month that she kick me out, the police officers that removed from my home let me stay in a friends,i called the police to reason with my mom to give me my passport and my birth certificate but she won't give them to me. I try talking to her but she won't even let me get near her house. I'm no longer under her care and somehow I still can't get those papers. please help me what should I do

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          • ccsmod9
            ccsmod9 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. To get that documentation it might be a good idea to call the cops and have them ask on your behalf. They would probably convince them to hand over those documents for you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe, NRS
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