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    I'm 17 turning 18 soon and my parents trying to keep me here, I want to move back home to my bf and my brothers

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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through some intense stuff and we want to support you. Whether or not you feel like you need to run away is up to you and whether or not you feel safe where you are. We would be happy to help you in whatever way we can. We can provide referrals to mental health resources, shelters, legal advocacy, among other things. We can also just talk you through whatever your situation is and help you figure out what your options are. We aim to empower youths and we prioritize your safety and your well-being. If you are interested in anything that we have to offer, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,

    NRS
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    So I’m 17, turning 18 in a month... and i keep having conversations with my mom about moving out getting my life together because I feel behind. And she got mad at me for saying that, she called me a selfish brat n said really your gone be selfish and move out? Who’s goin to help me clean and watch your brothers... then started crying and tryna guilt trip me. And she tried saying I’m not gone get anywhere in life. Because I told her I had a place I can stay. And I’m not sure what to do because I wanna get out and get my life in order. And I can’t because she don’t wanna let me

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    Thanks for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help. You don’t deserve to be in an abusive household and it is understandable you want to get out. We are available 24/7 for a confidential chat through our website or on our crisis hotline at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. We would like to help you explore your options to get to a safe place and out of the abusive environment. You may be able to do that now depending on your situation and resources in your area. Even if your guardians won’t give you your documents, we can help you walk through the process to get them for yourself. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

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    Im 16 and i live in a abusive household and i want to get out of here like im turning 17 on august 16, and they said when i turn 18 they not giving me my documents and nt like wth, i want to get out of here please help me

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. In some states, 17 can be a gray area for returning youth who have left home without their parents permission. The best way to find out how they would handle your situation or if they could help you retrieve your passport is by reaching out to them. If you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us through our website, we would be happy to support you by reaching out to your non-emergency police line with or for you. We hope to hear from you soon!

    Best of luck,
    NRS
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    Hi I’m 17 years old and I currently live w my dad in not the best condition and we are constantly arguing and I want to go live somewhere else that not in the same town as him but I can’t because my grandma (my dads mom had my passport and she won’t give it to me . What can I do to make her give me my passport back ?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS and for sharing a bit about your situation. It sounds like home has not been safe, so its totally understandable to consider leaving.

    Leaving can be a big decision to make, but we want you to know that we are here to help as a support for you as you take your next steps. Having a solid plan about what you are planning on doing might be a good idea so that you can think about what will and will not be possible and work for you. Considering certain factors and aspects for your plan might help you make your decisions about your next steps: where are you going to be living, what's your role in the house, are you going to be working/going to school, will you be paying your share of the bills/rent, a back up plan in case your living arrangement does not work out and you need to leave. Taking this step toward independence can be a huge step to take and we want you to be as safe as possible when making your decision.

    A helpful step is to start reaching out to friends and family members you might be able to stay with. Since you are still a minor you would not be able to rent your own space until you reach 18 (the age of majority in most states when you are considered a legal adult). If you are in need of any resources like shelters, transitional living programs, or counseling you can always reach out to our hotline or use our live chat services.

    In the event that you do leave, your dad can report you as a runaway to the police. It is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if you come into contact with law enforcement or if your dad knows where you are staying, he can ask that police return you home. Some police departments do not always pursue runaway reports for someone so close to turning 18 and might not force you to return home. You can call the local police department's non-emergency number to ask about their runaway protocol.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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    Hello I am 17 I turn 18 in December and I want to run away I can’t be here anymore I am failing English and my dad said he is going to whip me with his belt can I run away I have a job and I have 4000$ in my savings

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you're frustrated because your parents aren't giving you access to the documents you need to live independently.

    We are not legal experts, but as far as we know, it is not illegal for your parents to withhold those documents from you because you're a minor. Once you turn 18 all of your vital documents (birth certificate, social security card, state ID) are owned by you unequivocally.

    To get information on getting duplicate birth certificate and social security card you might consider searching online by typing birth certificate duplicate and then the same for Social Security administration. It should detail what is needed to replace those documents.

    Another option you may have is to ask a school administrator if they could make a copy of your birth certificate for you. You might be able to explain the situation to them and see if they'll give you access, since most schools require those documents for enrollment.

    There might be other options available to you depending on your situation. If you want to explore what those options, you can reach out to us on out chat line www.1800RUNAWAY.org or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We hope you hear from you!
    Best of luck,
    NRS
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    I’m 16 almost 17 and my mom refuses to give me my social security card and birth certificate what can I do ?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Each state has its own set of rules and fees for ordering certified birth certificates and other records. Rules, ordering instructions and fees for all 50 states, the District of Columbia and all other U.S states can be found here (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w.htm). Perhaps you can get in touch with your local county clerk’s office and they might be able to tell you a more solid answer on what documents are necessary to obtain your birth certificate. Other things that you can try is to contact the vital recorder office in your city and state to try to order a duplicate birth certificate or have another adult (usually family) help request one for you.
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    I’m 19 years old but my parents not gaving me my documents I need help to get

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you want to be a little more independent and take steps to open your own bank account. It is really unfair that your dad is preventing you from doing this by with holding your passport. While you are under the age of 18, your dad does get to make certain decisions for you and hold onto documents like a passport for you.

    Perhaps talking to your dad more about why opening an account is important to you to see if he is willing to compromise will help. Having these conversations can definitely be difficult and we are here to help. We can facilitate a conference call between you and your dad to make sure that your voice and needs are being heard. If you want to explore this option further you can call our hotline anytime at 800-786-2929.

    We want to be a support for you while you navigate these issues with your dad. You can reach out anytime, 24/7, by phone or chat if you would like tot talk more in detail about your situation.

    Take care,
    NRS
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    Hi. i am 16 and i need to make a bank account. my dad doesn't want to make one with me and so ill be making one by myself. i need my passport for that but he wont give it to me, is he legally allowed to do that?

    Thank you.

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