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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time..

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    hi, I'm 16, almost 17, and I want to run away from minnesota to new york city. I have the beginnings of a plan: I'm going to get a job in minnesota this summer and save money all summer, then take a bus to NYC at the end of the summer. I would tell me parents I'm at a sleepover with my friend, who would drive me to the bus stop. then I would just leave. the sleepover story would buy me some time before my parents started getting worried. I know you're probably going to say that I shouldn't run away, that it'll just cause more problems, etc. while that might be the case for some, I feel that I have a pretty good reason for needing to run away. I'm transgender, and my parents don't know it, but they're bound to find out soon. and when they do find out, they'll send me to conversion therapy without a second thought. I won't be able to handle that. if that happens, there's a 90% chance I'll end up killing myself. my mental health is already really bad - it started getting bad this year and it's just gotten so much worse. ever since I realized I'm trans, it's worsened even more because I've been dressing and acting more masculine and my parents keep trying to control what clothes I wear and how I cut my hair. that might not seem like a big deal, but for trans people that's terrible. it causes a ton of gender dysphoria which just worsens my depression and anxiety a lot. my family is also very christian and very conservative, so they're just about the least accepting, most hateful people I know when it comes to lgbtq+ people. on top of that, I've tried to tell my parents about my struggles with depression and mental health in general, but they've brushed it off, implying that I'm overreacting or that it's not as bad as I think it is. they refuse to let me go on any sort of medication to help. ANYWAY. the point is, I really need to get out. and I want to go to NYC, because it's big and it's actual a pretty safe city and I won't be easy to find there. And it's also where I want to go to college. I have a lot of questions though:

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    Will I be able to finish high school there without any school documents or identification documents?
    Will I be able to get a job without showing identification?
    If I DO show identification, will I be reported and sent back to live with my parents?
    Will a youth homeless shelter house me and not report me if they know I'm a runaway from another state?
    Will I have to pretend I'm not from another state in order to not be reported and sent back?
    If I am reported, will they make me go back even though my life with my family is terrible for my mental health and literally makes me suicidal?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. Because you are speaking of international law, this is something we are not fully informed on.
    You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your parents.  Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise.  Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation.  That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share.  Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead.  The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

    We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Hi I’m 13 I’ve been planning to run away my parents are very abusive emotionaly and only care about my brother I want to leave and cut contact with anyone I live in Texas and I’m not sure how to do it I have my visa ship in India so if I do run out I will also be kicked out of the us and to India I don’t know what to do

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.
    NRS

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    hello, im 14 years old from Lithuania and I fully decided that I want to run away to Sweden because of some family problems. I chose Sweden because my bf lives there, but sadly I dont think theres an easy way out. I cant fly by plane without my parents allowance, I cant go by ship either or even go by bus/train/any other land transport because Im pretty sure I would need to get a checkup on Russia. is there another way out?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like you are considering moving in with your boyfriend, but you are concerned about possible consequences. Wanting to live away from home is certainly understandable if you are not able to feel safe with your parents. While we are not legal experts we can share some general information with you regarding runaway laws.

    18 is usually the age you are able to leave home without permission from your parents. If you leave home as a minor, your parents have the option to report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that while you will not get into legal trouble, your parents can ask police to return you home if you are found. In most cases, police do not actively search for a runaway, but they will follow up on any information provided by your parents. The police would check in on places where your parents suggest you might be staying and possibly contact anyone who you could be with. If you are found, anyone who you stay with could be charged with harboring a runaway. From what we know, harboring charges are not very common but they are always a risk.

    In the event that you leave and police attempt to return you home, you do have the right to inform them that home is not safe for you. Police are mandated reporters so they are supposed to contact child protective services before returning you to an unsafe household. CPS would do an investigation to decide on next steps. If you would like to learn more about the reporting process and how CPS might be able to help, you can speak with an advocate at Child Help. Child Help is an organization that supports youth who are in unsafe situations at home and during the reporting process, childhelp.org; 1-800-422-4453.

    We are here to support you during this challenging situation. If you would like to talk more or have additional questions, please do not hesitate to contact us directly by phone 1-800-RUNAWAY or live chat 1800runaway.org.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi,I'm Megan i'm 17 and i'll be 18 in 9 months.I wanna runaway to Utah my bf lives there and he's one of my biggest supporters.He wanted me to reach out to cps because my parents have been abusive most of my lives but it's gotten worse since i've been fighting back and being more independent and seperating myself from them.If I ran away would the police be able to find me? or would my Bf's parents get in trouble for me being in their home?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. We want to start out by letting you know that we aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

    Unfortunately, we cannot say whether or not being a runaway would impede you or not from getting a job. Some states do require youth under the age of 18 to have parental permission or get a work permit in order to work. It may be a good idea to contact a potential employer directly to verify their hiring practices.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    Guest replied
    hello my name is adri im 16 and i would like to move to another state with my boyfriend hes 19
    we basically want to move to oklahoma so we can be together we currently live in texas but if i live i know my parents will contact the cops but will i be able to work if im labeled a run away

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    We appreciate that you reached out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like this might be a very unsafe situation for you. Pregnancy can often be overwhelming and creating a prenatal care plan can be a confusing process. If you do not already have an obstetrician, you can contact Planned Parenthood by going to plannedparenthood.org or by calling 800-230-7526 for some assistance. Your local Planned Parenthood should be able to provide pregnancy planning services, prenatal services, childbirth classes, and postpartum exams for after the baby comes. They can also help you explore options to terminate the pregnancy if that is something you are considering.

    You also mentioned you are nearly 18, so as for whether or not any runaway laws would be enforced in your case, it’s going to depend on your state. If you’re comfortable with it, you can always call your local 311 line and ask anonymously what your local police policy would be in a case like yours. We’d be happy to discuss more options to help ensure your safety if you’d like. Please feel free to reach out to us at 1(800) RUNAWAY, or you can chat with one of our crisis counselors online at 1800runaway.org. Take care, and we hope to hear from you soon!

    -NRS

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    I am 17 years old and turn 18 in 7 months. I moved in with my dad after my mom and step dad passed away and every moment since has been a nightmare. He came for my moms money and when we realized he wasn't getting it he took the second thing he thought was best. He has taken care of me because he likes the control. He can make me do anything he wants. He can control my family now that he has me. I need out of there. This has taken up about a year and a half of my life and I cantstand by and take it anymore. I am now pregnant and scared of what he will do but the police and family services wouldn't help me get out of there. I am thinking about moving to a new state with my friends but I'm scared about the police finding me and what my dad would do if I was returned home. I was told that they wouldn't look hard for me since I'm 17 and almost 18 and I wanna make sure thats the case

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. If you can, please read through these past threads to make sure that someone else hasn't posted something similar that might be able to help.

    Of course we can’t speak for all police, but it is to our understanding that if law enforcement were to find a reported runaway it’s in their policy to return them home. When a parent files a runaway report, it usually is also entered into the NCIC (The National Crime Information Center) so if you were to leave the state and go somewhere else, the report will follow you until your 18. If you were caught outside of your state, we have heard of youth being placed in either youth shelters or juvenile detention center until they can be released to their parents and/or legal guardian.

    As far as school goes, we aren’t experts by any means but it is to our understanding that an 18 year olds can enroll themselves into a school of their choosing as long as the school accepts their application. You might want to reach out to the school that you have in mind, as well as your current school to figure out how the process of transferring school documents will work and what you have to do. That is the only way to know for sure if you can or cannot do it alone. Most minors can't enroll in school without a guardian as far as we know.

    Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. If you’d feel more comfortable with doing that, just know that it’s always available. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from or to maybe build on your relationship and make it better. So maybe that might be an option for you and your parents. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

    If you need more support, please reach out via our 24-hour hotline and/or online chat. We can try to answer your questions as best as we can.

    We encourage you to reach out to us here for more support and to talk further about your situation if you would like to. We are here 24-hours a day via phone or online chat. Best of luck to you.

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    I'm 13, I plan to runaway from MIchigan to California when I turn 14 in June, What would happen legally? Would police still track me down in Cali? If I were to stay with someone what would happen to them? What would happen if I successfully run and need to get into schooling or something? How long would they- look for me?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,
    Thanks for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that you are in such a frustrating situation with your parents. It sounds like you are considering leaving for a while as a result of everything that is going on at home. Although we cannot tell you what to do, we can share information that may help you figure out your next steps.

    It can be really tough when you feel like your parents are not considering your point of view of the situation. One option you have is to try to talk to them about your expectations and, if you have a plan to address your school work, letting them know what that is. As you mentioned in your message, you do have the option of leaving if you would like to. We are not legal experts, but from what we understand, if you are considered a minor in your state, you need the consent of a parent or legal guardian in order to live anywhere else. If you decide to leave without consent, your parent or legal guardian can file a runaway report with your local police department. What local police do with that report can vary from state to state, but generally, if the police locate a runaway youth, they either have the parents or legal guardians pick the youth up or drop the youth off at home. If this is something you are considering, it may help you to explore where you might stay for the time that you plan to be gone. Additionally, it may also help to think about how you plan on supporting yourself, ensuring you have enough food and keeping yourself safe.

    Whatever you decide, know that we are here for you. Feel free to reach out to us if you need to talk. Regardless of what you decide to do, we will do our best to help you stay as safe as possible. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    -NRS
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